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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depends what your definition of a time waster is? "
I guess he means someone who leads you on, chats, exchanges messages and agrees to meet then never turns up or blocks you
Its the same either sex
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Why are there so many timewasters/fake profiles on here?!? "
Because it's free to join and some people have too much time on their hands.
Equally some people think with their dicks rather than their brains so it's easy for people who want to dupe others to do so. It only takes a smidge of common sense, realistic expectations and a few sensible precautions to ensure you don't get caught out regularly.
Half the problem with 'timewasters and fakes' is the ease that some people allow themselves to be suckered in.
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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Depends on your definition of a time waster. I've been called it because I won't chat to someone,or meet someone even tho I have never even exchanged more than 2 messages with them.The only time wasted their was their own sending that message.
People who lead others on and arrange meets and don't show yes they are time wasters but then quite often people ignore red flags beforehand because they want it to happen and honestly if you ignore red flags then you only have yourself to blame if your time is wasted especially if it is a regular occurrence.
Once you have been on here any length of time you get to spot the ones who are just on for thrills or wank material.Simple things like not giving it to them helps sort out the ones who are just leading others on for their own thrill. |
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"Depends what your definition of a time waster is?
I guess he means someone who leads you on, chats, exchanges messages and agrees to meet then never turns up or blocks you
Its the same either sex
Exactly this! Does my head in! I’m sure men are the same
J xx "
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"Depends what your definition of a time waster is?
I guess he means someone who leads you on, chats, exchanges messages and agrees to meet then never turns up or blocks you
Its the same either sex
J xx "
Well said . Most tinewasters for into one of not most of these categories |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I first joined fab years ago it was so easy to get a meet. Whether it was a last minute thing or in advance. People back in the day just seemed easier to suss out If that makes sense.
Now it takes forever to get a bit of good convo and figure out if there's chemistry.
That ontop of checking a profiles even real is just becoming even more hard work.
I might try some of the socials because I think it would be a lot easier and quicker to see who you want to spend further time with.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depends what your definition of a time waster is?
I guess he means someone who leads you on, chats, exchanges messages and agrees to meet then never turns up or blocks you
Its the same either sex
J xx
Well said . Most tinewasters for into one of not most of these categories "
Being realy crule, some people are ignorant and as it was said above, have far to much time on their hands.
For us men and women who are genuinely looking sensible people, it is really frustrating
"life is for living, because we are a long time dead" as been my mantra for a many years, so I am thick skinned enough to know I am not to everyone liking
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Someone who you invest a lot of time in exchanging messages and agreeing to meet and then all of a sudden you’re blocked for no reason "
maybe they were fake (another man pretending) or maybe you said something that made them think erm not for me ...
as someone has already said spotting timewasters / fakes / trolls is pretty easy and normally takes no messages at all (profiles) but when they message its normally a few messages to realize that the person has no intentions of meeting so easy to spot...
if people are constantly being led to believe or constantly being let down then its them themselves who need looking at as your attracting these timewaster's by giving them what they want ..... we play alot and we cannot remember the last time we got let down |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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"Someone who you invest a lot of time in exchanging messages and agreeing to meet and then all of a sudden you’re blocked for no reason "
But there is usually a reason people block.
I know twice I've chatted to men on here we got on well and started to arrange a meet and the minute I agreed to meet them all they could do was talk about sex and what they were going to do to me when we met. Even tho we were just meeting for a coffee and to see if there was any chemistry between us. Even though I was quite clear about this they still presumed they were going to get sex once we met and they were so pushy that they ended up on my block list. I'm sure they think I wasted their time as well but quite simply there were too many red flags and they ignored what I said so I blocked them and I will do so again if it happens in the future.
And while yes there are some who just do it for the thrill of the chase and then block I think quite often someone has said or done something that is enough of a red flag they get blocked. |
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How many have failed to honour their appointments with you OP? It would help if you quantify it. A lot of fake pics can be spotted with reverse image searching. Plus, selective interaction and filtering. |
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I'd call a time waster someone who arranges a meet & doesn't turn up & doesn't let you know.Or who flakes last min more than once.
People who chat & then decide not to take it further are not time wasters ,they changed their minds.
You have to chat to people to decide if you want to meet them,well I do & sometimes they put me off .
I don't know what your defining as a time waster op . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m not dismissing your post OP, I do get it can be frustrating if it keeps happening. But I do feel the term “time wasters and fakes” is so over used when really all it is someone changing their mind… You are pretty much always blocked for a reason. So maybe it’s something you said, who knows…
A fake to me is someone pretending to be something they’re not ie; a man behind a female profile… quite easy to spot and quickly work out
A time waster; you arrange to meet at place, date & time and they don’t show up.
Chatting to someone for however long it is and investing as much time as you think regardless, it wouldn’t make anyone a time waster if they suddenly decided to stop talking.
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Someone who you invest a lot of time in exchanging messages and agreeing to meet and then all of a sudden you’re blocked for no reason "
Investing time? How much time are you talking about?
Are you taking time off work to swap messages. or using time you'd normally set aside for really important activities.....or is it just the case that you're logging into fab during your free time and that after a few messages things get cut off? Because that happens with genuine, real, 100% verified people too. It's called 'changing your mind', 'being put off' or just case that something is said or hinted at that causes someone to reconsider and decide you're not for them any more. Of course it would be great if they'd let you down gently but that doesn't always happen.
Even when a meet is agreed it's perfectly acceptable for someone to back out. You're never obliged to meet and there's no legally binding contract in place.
If you're finding yourself being blocked frequently then there's a common theme there somewhere.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Someone who you invest a lot of time in exchanging messages and agreeing to meet and then all of a sudden you’re blocked for no reason
But there is usually a reason people block.
I know twice I've chatted to men on here we got on well and started to arrange a meet and the minute I agreed to meet them all they could do was talk about sex and what they were going to do to me when we met. Even tho we were just meeting for a coffee and to see if there was any chemistry between us. Even though I was quite clear about this they still presumed they were going to get sex once we met and they were so pushy that they ended up on my block list. I'm sure they think I wasted their time as well but quite simply there were too many red flags and they ignored what I said so I blocked them and I will do so again if it happens in the future.
And while yes there are some who just do it for the thrill of the chase and then block I think quite often someone has said or done something that is enough of a red flag they get blocked."
If they do any sex chat at all before the first meet I won't meet them. I really don't care if they think I'm a timewaster. They can have a lonely wank instead. |
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Probably chatted directly to 100 people in 5 years. Some conversations are one message long and others involve dozens if not more but at no stage have I ever thought it was time wasted.
Some of those I've chatted to may well have thought that because I've met less than 10% of those I've chatted to.
That doesn't worry me either because I've never had a no show or been one and apart from my very first fab meet that system has worked perfectly for me.
I read threads every day where people talk about fake profiles either here or on chat apps or scams with profiles asking for some form of payment. I must be doing something differently to all those people because I have never encountered any of that in 5 years here and I have to assume that is also down to how I choose who I chat to and including due diligence to very obvious red flags. |
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"Why are there so many timewasters/fake profiles on here?!?
Because it's free to join and some people have too much time on their hands.
Equally some people think with their dicks rather than their brains so it's easy for people who want to dupe others to do so. It only takes a smidge of common sense, realistic expectations and a few sensible precautions to ensure you don't get caught out regularly.
Half the problem with 'timewasters and fakes' is the ease that some people allow themselves to be suckered in.
A"
Tend to agree there. |
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"Because it's a free site
Lots of photos to wank over, the possibility of a chat and the fantasy of a meet "
Which are the best chargeable sites and in your experience is there a massive difference in terms of reliability and integrity of the people on there ? |
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"Depends what your definition of a time waster is?
I guess he means someone who leads you on, chats, exchanges messages and agrees to meet then never turns up or blocks you
Its the same either sex
J xx "
We've had about 12 in the last 5 or 6 weeks. Blocked & move on. |
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"How many have failed to honour their appointments with you OP? It would help if you quantify it. A lot of fake pics can be spotted with reverse image searching. Plus, selective interaction and filtering. "
Well over 15 I would say in the time I’ve been here |
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"Someone who you invest a lot of time in exchanging messages and agreeing to meet and then all of a sudden you’re blocked for no reason
I wouldnt class that as a time waster. "
What would you call it? As soon as the convo turned to meeting they get all funny then you’re blocked |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I first joined fab years ago it was so easy to get a meet. Whether it was a last minute thing or in advance. People back in the day just seemed easier to suss out If that makes sense.
Now it takes forever to get a bit of good convo and figure out if there's chemistry.
That ontop of checking a profiles even real is just becoming even more hard work.
I might try some of the socials because I think it would be a lot easier and quicker to see who you want to spend further time with.
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that's why I go to clubs. It's a social in a club |
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"Someone who you invest a lot of time in exchanging messages and agreeing to meet and then all of a sudden you’re blocked for no reason
I wouldnt class that as a time waster.
What would you call it? As soon as the convo turned to meeting they get all funny then you’re blocked "
Just because people chat doesn’t allways they want to meet so I wouldn’t call it time wasting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why are there so many timewasters/fake profiles on here?!?
Because it's free to join and some people have too much time on their hands.
Equally some people think with their dicks rather than their brains so it's easy for people who want to dupe others to do so. It only takes a smidge of common sense, realistic expectations and a few sensible precautions to ensure you don't get caught out regularly.
Half the problem with 'timewasters and fakes' is the ease that some people allow themselves to be suckered in.
This??
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"Someone who you invest a lot of time in exchanging messages and agreeing to meet and then all of a sudden you’re blocked for no reason
Investing time? How much time are you talking about?
Are you taking time off work to swap messages. or using time you'd normally set aside for really important activities.....or is it just the case that you're logging into fab during your free time and that after a few messages things get cut off? Because that happens with genuine, real, 100% verified people too. It's called 'changing your mind', 'being put off' or just case that something is said or hinted at that causes someone to reconsider and decide you're not for them any more. Of course it would be great if they'd let you down gently but that doesn't always happen.
Even when a meet is agreed it's perfectly acceptable for someone to back out. You're never obliged to meet and there's no legally binding contract in place.
If you're finding yourself being blocked frequently then there's a common theme there somewhere.
A"
So when someone says you’re really hot and they can’t wait to meet me and looking forward to it etc and then all of a sudden I’m blocked!
But yea ok it’s my fault |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People literally sitting next to their other half on the settee watching love island bored and miserable living out a sad fantasy that they haven’t the guts to fulfil. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Someone who you invest a lot of time in exchanging messages and agreeing to meet and then all of a sudden you’re blocked for no reason
Investing time? How much time are you talking about?
Are you taking time off work to swap messages. or using time you'd normally set aside for really important activities.....or is it just the case that you're logging into fab during your free time and that after a few messages things get cut off? Because that happens with genuine, real, 100% verified people too. It's called 'changing your mind', 'being put off' or just case that something is said or hinted at that causes someone to reconsider and decide you're not for them any more. Of course it would be great if they'd let you down gently but that doesn't always happen.
Even when a meet is agreed it's perfectly acceptable for someone to back out. You're never obliged to meet and there's no legally binding contract in place.
If you're finding yourself being blocked frequently then there's a common theme there somewhere.
A
So when someone says you’re really hot and they can’t wait to meet me and looking forward to it etc and then all of a sudden I’m blocked!
But yea ok it’s my fault "
Did you speak to them on the phone? Video chat? Meet for a social?
Because if all you were going by to decide if someone was who they claimed to be were the written words in a message and maybe some photos that you may or may not have done a quick reverse image search on to see if they showed up elsewhere.....then I hate to break it to you - but you can't tell someone's age, gender or location just from a message.
And if that 'you're hot' message came quite early then I'd guess you were conversing with a guy in his 50's who may well still live at home with his mum, several cats and a stash of kleenex on his bedside table.
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"Because it's a free site
Lots of photos to wank over, the possibility of a chat and the fantasy of a meet
Which are the best chargeable sites and in your experience is there a massive difference in terms of reliability and integrity of the people on there ? "
We aren't allowed to name other sites unfortunately & obviously I can't comment from a man's perspective but from mine on the paid sites I only get a handful of messages & there's a lot less single guys on there when you search etc so I guess guys chances of getting a meet is higher
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"Someone who you invest a lot of time in exchanging messages and agreeing to meet and then all of a sudden you’re blocked for no reason
I wouldnt class that as a time waster.
What would you call it? As soon as the convo turned to meeting they get all funny then you’re blocked "
Someone who changed their mind.
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"Someone who you invest a lot of time in exchanging messages and agreeing to meet and then all of a sudden you’re blocked for no reason
Investing time? How much time are you talking about?
Are you taking time off work to swap messages. or using time you'd normally set aside for really important activities.....or is it just the case that you're logging into fab during your free time and that after a few messages things get cut off? Because that happens with genuine, real, 100% verified people too. It's called 'changing your mind', 'being put off' or just case that something is said or hinted at that causes someone to reconsider and decide you're not for them any more. Of course it would be great if they'd let you down gently but that doesn't always happen.
Even when a meet is agreed it's perfectly acceptable for someone to back out. You're never obliged to meet and there's no legally binding contract in place.
If you're finding yourself being blocked frequently then there's a common theme there somewhere.
A
So when someone says you’re really hot and they can’t wait to meet me and looking forward to it etc and then all of a sudden I’m blocked!
But yea ok it’s my fault "
No one is blaming anyone. But just because things dont go the way you wanted them to dosnt mean they wasted your time. Lots of rerasons why. Someone could say something stupid that puts someone off, realises little in common, too busy in the real wrold, realised they dont like you as much as they thought, someone got to keen or needy or pushy are just a few.. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Because it's a free site
Lots of photos to wank over, the possibility of a chat and the fantasy of a meet
Which are the best chargeable sites and in your experience is there a massive difference in terms of reliability and integrity of the people on there ?
We aren't allowed to name other sites unfortunately & obviously I can't comment from a man's perspective but from mine on the paid sites I only get a handful of messages & there's a lot less single guys on there when you search etc so I guess guys chances of getting a meet is higher
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If a guy can't articulate himself, present himself and communicate with others in a way that attracts interest on here then switching to a site that charges will have one definite result.
He'll be poorer.
There's no reason he'd be any more successful just because it's a paid site with less men. Just because there's fewer options doesn't mean that people will lower their standards or change their preferences and meet someone who would otherwise not interest them.
Would be great if people didn't consider themselves more entitled to something or more likely to get 'results' just because they paid for something, be it site membership or club entry.
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"Because it's a free site
Lots of photos to wank over, the possibility of a chat and the fantasy of a meet
Which are the best chargeable sites and in your experience is there a massive difference in terms of reliability and integrity of the people on there ?
We aren't allowed to name other sites unfortunately & obviously I can't comment from a man's perspective but from mine on the paid sites I only get a handful of messages & there's a lot less single guys on there when you search etc so I guess guys chances of getting a meet is higher
If a guy can't articulate himself, present himself and communicate with others in a way that attracts interest on here then switching to a site that charges will have one definite result.
He'll be poorer.
There's no reason he'd be any more successful just because it's a paid site with less men. Just because there's fewer options doesn't mean that people will lower their standards or change their preferences and meet someone who would otherwise not interest them.
Would be great if people didn't consider themselves more entitled to something or more likely to get 'results' just because they paid for something, be it site membership or club entry.
A"
What I meant by that is you don't get as many sillohette 'will fill in later' profiles, I only get a handful of hi how are you messages a month whereas here they are daily, there, there is more effort
My guess is because they've paid they make more effort because they do want that investment to achieve results whereas because it's free here many are lazy & think all they need is a very basic profile women will hand themselves to them in a plate legs spread open and waiting |
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By *ev257Man
over a year ago
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just had another time waster, Was gonna meet up with him in person to show him pictures n videos of me n the wife on the phone, arranged it all, place, time then went dead.
Maybe this is what some get off on, fucking other around. |
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"just had another time waster, Was gonna meet up with him in person to show him pictures n videos of me n the wife on the phone, arranged it all, place, time then went dead.
Maybe this is what some get off on, fucking other around. "
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Been stood up for socials and meets, very frustrating when you have to make time from a very busy schedule and pay babysitters. We got stood up for a social this week, just come to expect it now, but we still had a good time together. |
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"Because it's a free site
Lots of photos to wank over, the possibility of a chat and the fantasy of a meet
Which are the best chargeable sites and in your experience is there a massive difference in terms of reliability and integrity of the people on there ?
We aren't allowed to name other sites unfortunately & obviously I can't comment from a man's perspective but from mine on the paid sites I only get a handful of messages & there's a lot less single guys on there when you search etc so I guess guys chances of getting a meet is higher
If a guy can't articulate himself, present himself and communicate with others in a way that attracts interest on here then switching to a site that charges will have one definite result.
He'll be poorer.
There's no reason he'd be any more successful just because it's a paid site with less men. Just because there's fewer options doesn't mean that people will lower their standards or change their preferences and meet someone who would otherwise not interest them.
Would be great if people didn't consider themselves more entitled to something or more likely to get 'results' just because they paid for something, be it site membership or club entry.
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What I meant by that is you don't get as many sillohette 'will fill in later' profiles, I only get a handful of hi how are you messages a month whereas here they are daily, there, there is more effort
My guess is because they've paid they make more effort because they do want that investment to achieve results whereas because it's free here many are lazy & think all they need is a very basic profile women will hand themselves to them in a plate legs spread open and waiting "
I get what shes saying. I started on a site years ago, and prob getting on for £15 if monthly then. If not paid members could only send a max of 3 messages a day in total. So where as its easeir/cheaper/free here more blokes join ,but there as it cost that much fewer join as so little they can do only 3 mess a day, lots more message filters, from a single girls view there were far less single men on there and those who were, dont wanna say took it more seriously but..it was a more serious swing world community" in general sort of way though. I think I know what I mean by that  |
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"Depends what your definition of a time waster is?
I guess he means someone who leads you on, chats, exchanges messages and agrees to meet then never turns up or blocks you
Its the same either sex
J xx "
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"Someone who you invest a lot of time in exchanging messages and agreeing to meet and then all of a sudden you’re blocked for no reason "
Don't invest so much time/energy into strangers on the internet |
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"Someone who you invest a lot of time in exchanging messages and agreeing to meet and then all of a sudden you’re blocked for no reason
Don't invest so much time/energy into strangers on the internet "
That’s true! I’ll take your advice lol |
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"Because it's a free site
Lots of photos to wank over, the possibility of a chat and the fantasy of a meet
Which are the best chargeable sites and in your experience is there a massive difference in terms of reliability and integrity of the people on there ?
We aren't allowed to name other sites unfortunately & obviously I can't comment from a man's perspective but from mine on the paid sites I only get a handful of messages & there's a lot less single guys on there when you search etc so I guess guys chances of getting a meet is higher
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You are right Booby |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because it's a free site
Lots of photos to wank over, the possibility of a chat and the fantasy of a meet "
I think the outcome would be the same if users had to pay to exchange messages. I shit you not theres people wasting money and ruining pizza by adding pineapple |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why are there so many timewasters/fake profiles on here?!? "
Had this very situation this week. Been chatting with a single guy for months and we’d arrange a meet. No indication of any issues, then just didn’t show. Luckily for us. We have been messaging a guy earlier on who filled the void fantastically and will hopefully become a regular play mate. |
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"How many have failed to honour their appointments with you OP? It would help if you quantify it. A lot of fake pics can be spotted with reverse image searching. Plus, selective interaction and filtering.
Well over 15 I would say in the time I’ve been here "
You mean to say that in the 3 months you have been here you have had over 15 meets arranged that didn't turn up?
An average of over 1 a week? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Or the constantlty unread or ignored messages. Just say no? "
So would you rather “constantly” read messages of rejection then? Because no reply means - no that’s what you shouldn’t take it is… It’s in the FAQs |
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"How many have failed to honour their appointments with you OP? It would help if you quantify it. A lot of fake pics can be spotted with reverse image searching. Plus, selective interaction and filtering.
Well over 15 I would say in the time I’ve been here
You mean to say that in the 3 months you have been here you have had over 15 meets arranged that didn't turn up?
An average of over 1 a week? "
15 conversations, not meets. Don't think it got that far. |
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"Someone who you invest a lot of time in exchanging messages and agreeing to meet and then all of a sudden you’re blocked for no reason "
Oh maybe something you said they didn't like or they got a better offer? Happens to lots of people. That's why i think fucking in clubs are less complicated |
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Unfortunately we have had to mess people about and have also been messed about.
With our business and family we often have to cancel meets (some that have been organised for months)
You also find out which ones are actually "friends" as well |
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