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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Seriously, What’s the deal with men who don’t actively want to wrap it up?
Does it happen often to you girls? I’d say 9/10 men tried to push for bareback (the ones who actively wrapped it are the small minority and I’d still say it was mostly cos they had a mrs) which is kind of insane.
I do unwrapped but only with the ones I trust and that can be transparent and honest
How does this work? Is the cock overruling the freaking brain type situation? Help a girl understand  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seriously, What’s the deal with men who don’t actively want to wrap it up?
Does it happen often to you girls? I’d say 9/10 men tried to push for bareback (the ones who actively wrapped it are the small minority and I’d still say it was mostly cos they had a mrs) which is kind of insane.
I do unwrapped but only with the ones I trust and that can be transparent and honest
How does this work? Is the cock overruling the freaking brain type situation? Help a girl understand "
How do you categorise the trusted transparent and honest ones? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don’t blame men again!
On my old profile I reckon easily 75% of women insisted on bareback even though they were going back to their husband afterwards and the others were pretty 50/50 about it, like “oh I guess we should” attitude. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Seriously, What’s the deal with men who don’t actively want to wrap it up?
Does it happen often to you girls? I’d say 9/10 men tried to push for bareback (the ones who actively wrapped it are the small minority and I’d still say it was mostly cos they had a mrs) which is kind of insane.
I do unwrapped but only with the ones I trust and that can be transparent and honest
How does this work? Is the cock overruling the freaking brain type situation? Help a girl understand
How do you categorise the trusted transparent and honest ones?"
Because I’ve built some trust over time and we do test regularly
Also I have a very strong attraction to them
Obviously going without feels nicer, but how some push it is quite… mind boggling
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Really? Maybe I am an outlier but I struggle to think of anyone (couples or single ladies) I have met who has not asked for safe sex as a prerequisite - which is something I wholeheartedly support. They invariably tell me that some blokes ask for bareback but that is rare.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Most guys I have met have tried to go bareback straightaway and begrudgingly wrap it up when I say no to it. "
Isn’t it kind of shocking tho? Like !!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hope any of you doing it bare use PREP.
There is a cum dump type cross dresser on this site who has literally had hundreds of verifications on different profiles, multiple different men in videos and pictures nearly all bareback. I feel sorry for their girlfriends and wives at home.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s a shared responsibility. I always have them available, and almost every guy I’ve ever met with has brought them too. I prefer bareback, but can’t say I’ve ever had a guy try and ‘push for it’ ever. Most have been responsible enough to ask in advance x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I hope any of you doing it bare use PREP.
There is a cum dump type cross dresser on this site who has literally had hundreds of verifications on different profiles, multiple different men in videos and pictures nearly all bareback. I feel sorry for their girlfriends and wives at home.
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That is scary! |
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By *rKinksMan
over a year ago
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"I hope any of you doing it bare use PREP.
There is a cum dump type cross dresser on this site who has literally had hundreds of verifications on different profiles, multiple different men in videos and pictures nearly all bareback. I feel sorry for their girlfriends and wives at home.
That is scary! "
Scary and sad |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never been pushed for bb.
I've been asked if I want to and they've always obliged no issues or they have automatically put a condom on.
Most have their own too although I am also prepared. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seriously, What’s the deal with men who don’t actively want to wrap it up?
Does it happen often to you girls? I’d say 9/10 men tried to push for bareback (the ones who actively wrapped it are the small minority and I’d still say it was mostly cos they had a mrs) which is kind of insane.
I do unwrapped but only with the ones I trust and that can be transparent and honest
How does this work? Is the cock overruling the freaking brain type situation? Help a girl understand
How do you categorise the trusted transparent and honest ones?"
Exactly this |
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"Another blaming men post  "
No. A post complaining about a certain type of man who wants to push his own agenda. And lots of men supporting the OP.
I'm a man and I don't feel I'm being blamed for anything. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have said it before on bareback posts:
- take PREP to reduce risk of HIV
- take PEP if you risked HIV without PREP or condoms
- get vaccinated against HPV
- get vaccinated against Hepatitis A & B
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By *rKinksMan
over a year ago
Alton |
"I have said it before on bareback posts:
- take PREP to reduce risk of HIV
- take PEP if you risked HIV without PREP or condoms
- get vaccinated against HPV
- get vaccinated against Hepatitis A & B
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Pretty sound safe advise. Especially if playing bare back but probably anyways. You can get HPV in the throat |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Seriously, What’s the deal with men who don’t actively want to wrap it up?
Does it happen often to you girls? I’d say 9/10 men tried to push for bareback (the ones who actively wrapped it are the small minority and I’d still say it was mostly cos they had a mrs) which is kind of insane.
I do unwrapped but only with the ones I trust and that can be transparent and honest
How does this work? Is the cock overruling the freaking brain type situation? Help a girl understand
How do you categorise the trusted transparent and honest ones?
Exactly this"
Sometimes u establish some connections. And some people u end up trusting and yes there’s a risk to anything
But if we think this way, then none should have sex unprotected regardless if they are married or in relationships … because… I mean.. there’s still a chance they might be cheating condomless.
So at some point u got to trust somebody and talk.
I’m just saying how some have a bit of a reckless behaviour and would not even consider about using it.
As said, 9/10 guys would have happily gone bareback if I let them decide how to fuck me. |
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"I have said it before on bareback posts:
- take PREP to reduce risk of HIV
- take PEP if you risked HIV without PREP or condoms
- get vaccinated against HPV
- get vaccinated against Hepatitis A & B
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No protection against syphilis or gonorrhoea or Chlamydia. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have said it before on bareback posts:
- take PREP to reduce risk of HIV
- take PEP if you risked HIV without PREP or condoms
- get vaccinated against HPV
- get vaccinated against Hepatitis A & B
No protection against syphilis or gonorrhoea or Chlamydia."
That is correct, but people of all backgrounds will not stop barebacking so if at least some of the dangers can stop being spread that is something  |
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By *rKinksMan
over a year ago
Alton |
"I have said it before on bareback posts:
- take PREP to reduce risk of HIV
- take PEP if you risked HIV without PREP or condoms
- get vaccinated against HPV
- get vaccinated against Hepatitis A & B
No protection against syphilis or gonorrhoea or Chlamydia.
That is correct, but people of all backgrounds will not stop barebacking so if at least some of the dangers can stop being spread that is something "
I would expect a health check prior to play BB for them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Another blaming men post
No. A post complaining about a certain type of man who wants to push his own agenda. And lots of men supporting the OP.
I'm a man and I don't feel I'm being blamed for anything."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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wow .... its a choice if people want to bareback thats there choice if people want safer sex that also there choice so lets not shame people for that everyone knows the risk or should do ....
however the problem here is not men its all if people cant be bothered to say to others how they stand before meeting ie i play safer or bare then minds can be made up quicker ....
whos wrong the person who assumes its bare or the person who assumes it safer well you're both wrong for assuming ... make sure they know via the chats/text make sure they answer you so that they understand it will go no further if you do get what you want ...
as someone who volunteers for a safe sex charity there is no such thing as safe sex ..have seen plenty who claim to use condoms catch sti ...its only safer sex |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"wow .... its a choice if people want to bareback thats there choice if people want safer sex that also there choice so lets not shame people for that everyone knows the risk or should do ....
however the problem here is not men its all if people cant be bothered to say to others how they stand before meeting ie i play safer or bare then minds can be made up quicker ....
whos wrong the person who assumes its bare or the person who assumes it safer well you're both wrong for assuming ... make sure they know via the chats/text make sure they answer you so that they understand it will go no further if you do get what you want ...
as someone who volunteers for a safe sex charity there is no such thing as safe sex ..have seen plenty who claim to use condoms catch sti ...its only safer sex "
It wasn’t meant to be a shame post but more a… do you guys get a similar approach?
Cos if 9/10 guys would go bare with me, it makes me think… Jesus, is everyone also getting the same cos then almost everyone would have bareback sex
If we all had that mentality |
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By (user no longer on site)
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and those saying oh take prep ...just a couple of things taking prep does not stop you getting a sti and its not 100% stopping hiv ..... also people saying get prep its not that easy its not being thrown at everyone like candy its not free as such the tax payer pays for it and with cuts coming it will be these things that suffer first hence why there are so many charities |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Safety I best but some people also enjoy the feeling of bareback too.
Can I humbly ask how many safe women have ever bought and used a dental dam.
I’ve never been with a woman so concerned about her health and safety that she’s pulled out a dental dam. I’m just wondering how many super safe women keep a spare dental dam on them???
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"wow .... its a choice if people want to bareback thats there choice if people want safer sex that also there choice so lets not shame people for that everyone knows the risk or should do ....
however the problem here is not men its all if people cant be bothered to say to others how they stand before meeting ie i play safer or bare then minds can be made up quicker ....
whos wrong the person who assumes its bare or the person who assumes it safer well you're both wrong for assuming ... make sure they know via the chats/text make sure they answer you so that they understand it will go no further if you do get what you want ...
as someone who volunteers for a safe sex charity there is no such thing as safe sex ..have seen plenty who claim to use condoms catch sti ...its only safer sex
It wasn’t meant to be a shame post but more a… do you guys get a similar approach?
Cos if 9/10 guys would go bare with me, it makes me think… Jesus, is everyone also getting the same cos then almost everyone would have bareback sex
If we all had that mentality "
its because its a fact bareback sex it more popular in swinging than safe sex so that feeds into some guys thinking its normal to assume ... some couples are the same when a guy pulls out a condom with the ''hey dont need that'' hence why communication is vital in the lead up to meets ...
there always been false impressions on the scene and one is ''safe sex'' you hear alot talking about it but less doing it .. same with people on the forums they mostly bang the safe sex drum just to stay in with the online crowd .... ive seen plenty on here say safe sex only to see them playing bare ate parties / clubs / meets
so yes most swingers are having bareback sex even if some say different |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"wow .... its a choice if people want to bareback thats there choice if people want safer sex that also there choice so lets not shame people for that everyone knows the risk or should do ....
however the problem here is not men its all if people cant be bothered to say to others how they stand before meeting ie i play safer or bare then minds can be made up quicker ....
whos wrong the person who assumes its bare or the person who assumes it safer well you're both wrong for assuming ... make sure they know via the chats/text make sure they answer you so that they understand it will go no further if you do get what you want ...
as someone who volunteers for a safe sex charity there is no such thing as safe sex ..have seen plenty who claim to use condoms catch sti ...its only safer sex
It wasn’t meant to be a shame post but more a… do you guys get a similar approach?
Cos if 9/10 guys would go bare with me, it makes me think… Jesus, is everyone also getting the same cos then almost everyone would have bareback sex
If we all had that mentality
its because its a fact bareback sex it more popular in swinging than safe sex so that feeds into some guys thinking its normal to assume ... some couples are the same when a guy pulls out a condom with the ''hey dont need that'' hence why communication is vital in the lead up to meets ...
there always been false impressions on the scene and one is ''safe sex'' you hear alot talking about it but less doing it .. same with people on the forums they mostly bang the safe sex drum just to stay in with the online crowd .... ive seen plenty on here say safe sex only to see them playing bare ate parties / clubs / meets
so yes most swingers are having bareback sex even if some say different"
By the way, not everyone on fabswingers is an actual swinger.
Yes there might be more sexually liberated people but there’s a lot do singles who use it as a tinder but more direct
I hope it’s something that people discuss tho, to ask for status and to know if someone gets tested |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes there might be more sexually liberated people but there’s a lot do singles who use it as a tinder but more direct
I hope it’s something that people discuss tho, to ask for status and to know if someone gets tested"
yes totally agree alot are not swingers
as for testing alot of safer sex people dont get tested because they dont feel the need ...wrongful thinking there..
i wish everybody tested its a easy thing to do via post or clinic they are very discrete and nothing to be embarrassed about trust me they've seen it all ...we both have always been tested every 6 weeks and have done pretty much all our swinging life ...all should test safe or bare its free so no excuse |
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"wow .... its a choice if people want to bareback thats there choice if people want safer sex that also there choice so lets not shame people for that everyone knows the risk or should do ....
however the problem here is not men its all if people cant be bothered to say to others how they stand before meeting ie i play safer or bare then minds can be made up quicker ....
whos wrong the person who assumes its bare or the person who assumes it safer well you're both wrong for assuming ... make sure they know via the chats/text make sure they answer you so that they understand it will go no further if you do get what you want ...
as someone who volunteers for a safe sex charity there is no such thing as safe sex ..have seen plenty who claim to use condoms catch sti ...its only safer sex
It wasn’t meant to be a shame post but more a… do you guys get a similar approach?
Cos if 9/10 guys would go bare with me, it makes me think… Jesus, is everyone also getting the same cos then almost everyone would have bareback sex
If we all had that mentality
its because its a fact bareback sex it more popular in swinging than safe sex so that feeds into some guys thinking its normal to assume ... some couples are the same when a guy pulls out a condom with the ''hey dont need that'' hence why communication is vital in the lead up to meets ...
there always been false impressions on the scene and one is ''safe sex'' you hear alot talking about it but less doing it .. same with people on the forums they mostly bang the safe sex drum just to stay in with the online crowd .... ive seen plenty on here say safe sex only to see them playing bare ate parties / clubs / meets
so yes most swingers are having bareback sex even if some say different
By the way, not everyone on fabswingers is an actual swinger.
Yes there might be more sexually liberated people but there’s a lot do singles who use it as a tinder but more direct
I hope it’s something that people discuss tho, to ask for status and to know if someone gets tested"
Yes and unfortunately it dose make it harder for the genuine swingers on here |
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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago
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as someone who volunteers for a safe sex charity there is no such thing as safe sex ..have seen plenty who claim to use condoms catch sti ...its only safer sex "
That is absolutely true. The safe sex is NO sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only girls I unwrapped with are the long relationship with any others even night out 1 night stands I always wrapped up think I'm the only one of my mates who never caught anything |
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Actually I can say I’ve always wrapped up - but at least two ladies have begged me not to… one wanted me to make her preggers and the other refused to answer when I asked her why I wouldn’t get her preggers! I’m afraid on both those occassions I deliberately failed to give the ladies what they wanted! Not worth screwing up my marriage for! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Actually I can say I’ve always wrapped up - but at least two ladies have begged me not to… one wanted me to make her preggers and the other refused to answer when I asked her why I wouldn’t get her preggers! I’m afraid on both those occassions I deliberately failed to give the ladies what they wanted! Not worth screwing up my marriage for! "
do you test as well ? |
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Test regularly, wrap and also try as much as poss to avoid those who play bare although many are quite good at hiding this - all the more reason to be insistent
Always have condoms available too
As pp said it’s not safe sex it’s safer sex and also as pp said a long term relationship is no guarantee either - my ex went bare with the other woman which led to a very worrying time for me and a baby for them
I’ve been fortunate to have never had any of this type of health issue |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I would have thought that safe sex would be the presumption unless both parties had consented otherwise… little did I know. "
I’m kinda with this mentality, like safe sex is the way.
And if we go bare , it’s because we discussed it etc and we have our reasons x
Btw I agree about there’s only safer sex and condoms, vax etc don’t make it 100% bullet proof
Testing regularly is the way, I’ve heard from friends who have slept with guys who NEVER tested in their lives |
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