Hi Guys,
A bit of advice.
My partner I and her friend are thinking of going to one of these clubs in a few weeks.
We've never been swinging, and may not play. We are curious and just want to see what goes on but who knows.
We are all around 40.
Can you give us some advice.
1/ Which one of these clubs would be best for 40 somethings...we are fit people, no disrespect but the ladies would not want to play with guys over 45+
2/ Do we have to take all our clothes off?
3/ Is it normal to wear a mask to protect identities.
4. I am coming with 2 attractive ladies, will they get pestered by horny creepy single guys or is it a bit more like a nightclub vibe.
Be interested to hear your experiences and replies |
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Clubs are very welcoming to people who have a genuine interest in getting into the lifestyle, but to be honest you just sound like tourists, and a big group of those is the last thing a club wants.
It's not enough to talk about showing respect, you actually have to do it as well.
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1, how long is a bit of string? There is no way to tell who what sex and what ages will be there on the nights. 2, depends on dress code of club. 3, masks? I presume you mean isdenity masks? No, full faces are shown. Unless you goto a masked event - rare. 4, they may get pesstared, depends on the men. Although it's discouridged. The lady's always have the final say say and can say no to anyone and at any time. Men who persist on pestering get evicted, as it gives other single men a bad name.
Sounds like your beginners? Why not arrange to meet your prefered play partners there? Message before hand and find a locked room to go into when there. |
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"Hi Guys,
A bit of advice.
My partner I and her friend are thinking of going to one of these clubs in a few weeks.
We've never been swinging, and may not play. We are curious and just want to see what goes on but who knows.
We are all around 40.
Can you give us some advice.
1/ Which one of these clubs would be best for 40 somethings...we are fit people, no disrespect but the ladies would not want to play with guys over 45+
2/ Do we have to take all our clothes off?
3/ Is it normal to wear a mask to protect identities.
4. I am coming with 2 attractive ladies, will they get pestered by horny creepy single guys or is it a bit more like a nightclub vibe.
Be interested to hear your experiences and replies"
Hi OP,
Either of the clubs you have mentioned are going to be welcoming, although I personally found Chams to be very welcoming indeed.
1. At clubs you will have a mixture of ages, and that's a good thing as it caters for everyone's preferences.
However, you may want to consider whether you attend on a themed night or a couples evening. Themed events will manage the volume of attendees such as greedy girls will give ladies much more of a selection of men. Therefore you may have more choice in the preferred age range you want simply due to volume of attendees, not because these events are attended by only people within your preferred age range.
Couples only nights will permit single men until a certain time then they must leave and it's couples and single ladies for the rest of the evening. Now this could also be a good first time at a club type of thing for you all. Will give you a sense of a club environment, can watch and socialise.
Either way, every time you attend a club you are under no obligation to play.
2. Depending on the club, each has its own dress code. My advice is to always check the club dress code for the night you plan to attend just in case you have chosen a themed night to attend.
3. The wearing of masks for identification purposes is not required unless it's a themed masked event. If you mean covid masks then these are not required.
4. When I have attended one of these venues I found you don't get pestered by single men but you can and do get followed around the club sometimes. Just tell them to leave you be or if they are no respecting you then inform staff.
Good luck to all 3 of you and I hope you all enjoy
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