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By *D678 OP Man
over a year ago
dudley |
Hi all
Call me whatever but the double standards on this site are foul!
It appears single males are demonised on here!
I’m not oblivious to the poor behaviour of some and I Understand that some people have gone through some terrible experiences 
But the amount of female profiles and couple profiles that are blank, have no information yet still have verifications baffles me !
Yet they have the audacity to have prerequisites to just even get a message back !
I think this site needs to improve or have a separate site for males I’m not sure what the answer is
Any ideas |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
Fabville |
1. You do know that you can change your profile blurb, don't you? I also choose not to display my verifications. It's my profile so I can suit myself.
2. Male-only site is called fab guys..
You're welcome. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It works for me so no need to change in my view.
People can ask/demand what they like, you don’t have to engage with them. They’re easy enough to ignore.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You know there are a lot of reasons why a profile might be blank…
I’ll name you one - They might only use it for finding out events and club meets
Also how would an all male site improve this site? Which there already is “FabGuys” |
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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago
Leicestershire |
Fab is like any other social media. It is what you make it. You will bump into many people that are not your type. But along the way you will encounter some lovely sexy folk. We have made great fab friends.
It's only harder for single guys because single guys outnumber couples and women by such a big ratio.
Therefor women have the pick of the bunch. It just means single guys have to make their profile stand out with good quality photos and an interesting bio x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do you really think by posting on here that you will get any sympathy or answers that are not full of sarcasm?
I'm sure if you could put zero effort in and get attention you would it?
Suck it up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am a single male and I don’t feel demonised on here. I do think some males just think because it’s a swinging site that sex is a given without any effort needed and also struggle with rejection as it damages their egos. I certainly don’t think threads like this will have any positive outcome other than prove the point you are trying to overcome, I’m certainly no expert and can only speak about my take on things that is to just don’t put to much pressure on trying to force the issue, chat and get to know people things should progress naturally if you don’t meet then at least you could possibly gain some friendships.
Good luck OP |
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But the amount of female profiles and couple profiles that are blank, have no information yet still have verifications baffles me !
Yet they have the audacity to have prerequisites to just even get a message back !
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If they are blank, how do they have pre requisites.
Shocking i know but people manage their own profiles as they please. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm sorry I have but one question how do these profiles remain blank yet as you say have "prerequisites"?.
Why are they a hive mind all of a sudden as well? |
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"I am a single male and I don’t feel demonised on here. I do think some males just think because it’s a swinging site that sex is a given without any effort needed and also struggle with rejection as it damages their egos. I certainly don’t think threads like this will have any positive outcome other than prove the point you are trying to overcome, I’m certainly no expert and can only speak about my take on things that is to just don’t put to much pressure on trying to force the issue, chat and get to know people things should progress naturally if you don’t meet then at least you could possibly gain some friendships.
Good luck OP "
This is good advice.
Fab isnt dial a shag. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi all
Call me whatever but the double standards on this site are foul!
It appears single males are demonised on here!
I’m not oblivious to the poor behaviour of some and I Understand that some people have gone through some terrible experiences
But the amount of female profiles and couple profiles that are blank, have no information yet still have verifications baffles me !
Yet they have the audacity to have prerequisites to just even get a message back !
I think this site needs to improve or have a separate site for males I’m not sure what the answer is
Any ideas "
You need to go to fab guys set up just for males |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You have those on here with profiles that say “Quality over Quantity” etc that’s just sheer arrogance and they are grandiose narcissists, who tend to have inflated self-views of their intelligence, power, status, and other characteristics by being vain, and think they are better than everyone else. Why be on here in the first place if that’s the case?.
Also since CVD19 started all respect for one another, being polite and manners are all forgotten these days. I notice that not only on here, but outside as well and its very sad to be honest with you.
Sorry only other advice I can give you my friend is stick with it or try another site.
Good Luck. |
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"You have those on here with profiles that say “Quality over Quantity” etc that’s just sheer arrogance and they are grandiose narcissists, who tend to have inflated self-views of their intelligence, power, status, and other characteristics by being vain, and think they are better than everyone else. Why be on here in the first place if that’s the case?.
Also since CVD19 started all respect for one another, being polite and manners are all forgotten these days. I notice that not only on here, but outside as well and its very sad to be honest with you.
Sorry only other advice I can give you my friend is stick with it or try another site.
Good Luck."
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How is having a desire for 'quality over quantity' in any way arrogant or narcissistic?
Making such a statement says a lot about you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You have those on here with profiles that say “Quality over Quantity” etc that’s just sheer arrogance and they are grandiose narcissists, who tend to have inflated self-views of their intelligence, power, status, and other characteristics by being vain, and think they are better than everyone else. Why be on here in the first place if that’s the case?.
Also since CVD19 started all respect for one another, being polite and manners are all forgotten these days. I notice that not only on here, but outside as well and its very sad to be honest with you.
Sorry only other advice I can give you my friend is stick with it or try another site.
Good Luck.
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How is having a desire for 'quality over quantity' in any way arrogant or narcissistic?
Making such a statement says a lot about you.
Really well you must be one then that thinks that way
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You have those on here with profiles that say “Quality over Quantity” etc that’s just sheer arrogance and they are grandiose narcissists, who tend to have inflated self-views of their intelligence, power, status, and other characteristics by being vain, and think they are better than everyone else. Why be on here in the first place if that’s the case?.
Also since CVD19 started all respect for one another, being polite and manners are all forgotten these days. I notice that not only on here, but outside as well and its very sad to be honest with you.
Sorry only other advice I can give you my friend is stick with it or try another site.
Good Luck.
So your struggling to get sex too"
No I am not and never will do. I am making a valid point about how people treat others on this site.
Also if you look at the fab photos. How many are of males?. Also the majority are the same people posting pics on a daily basis which is sad really. |
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"You have those on here with profiles that say “Quality over Quantity” etc that’s just sheer arrogance and they are grandiose narcissists, who tend to have inflated self-views of their intelligence, power, status, and other characteristics by being vain, and think they are better than everyone else. Why be on here in the first place if that’s the case?.
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If you're arguing quality over quantity what your saying is we should meet you and satisfy your needs and be content, even if it does nothing for us; so long as you gets what you want out of it. And you have the gall to say arrogance. Unreal. |
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By *ak4uMan
over a year ago
chelmsford |
"You have those on here with profiles that say “Quality over Quantity” etc that’s just sheer arrogance and they are grandiose narcissists, who tend to have inflated self-views of their intelligence, power, status, and other characteristics by being vain, and think they are better than everyone else. Why be on here in the first place if that’s the case?.
Also since CVD19 started all respect for one another, being polite and manners are all forgotten these days. I notice that not only on here, but outside as well and its very sad to be honest with you.
Sorry only other advice I can give you my friend is stick with it or try another site.
Good Luck.
So your struggling to get sex too"
This is precisely the attitude that people don't like...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You have those on here with profiles that say “Quality over Quantity” etc that’s just sheer arrogance and they are grandiose narcissists, who tend to have inflated self-views of their intelligence, power, status, and other characteristics by being vain, and think they are better than everyone else. Why be on here in the first place if that’s the case?.
If you're arguing quality over quantity what your saying is we should meet you and satisfy your needs and be content, even if it does nothing for us; so long as you gets what you want out of it. And you have the gall to say arrogance. Unreal. "
I don’t tell you who too meet etc that’s your decision and will always be.
No the point I am making is some are so far up there own arse own here it’s unbelievable. We are all one all the same those who think they are better than everyone else need a reality check. |
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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago
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"You have those on here with profiles that say “Quality over Quantity” etc that’s just sheer arrogance and they are grandiose narcissists, who tend to have inflated self-views of their intelligence, power, status, and other characteristics by being vain, and think they are better than everyone else. Why be on here in the first place if that’s the case?.
Also since CVD19 started all respect for one another, being polite and manners are all forgotten these days. I notice that not only on here, but outside as well and its very sad to be honest with you.
Sorry only other advice I can give you my friend is stick with it or try another site.
Good Luck."
Wow so us women can’t be choosy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You have those on here with profiles that say “Quality over Quantity” etc that’s just sheer arrogance and they are grandiose narcissists, who tend to have inflated self-views of their intelligence, power, status, and other characteristics by being vain, and think they are better than everyone else. Why be on here in the first place if that’s the case?.
Also since CVD19 started all respect for one another, being polite and manners are all forgotten these days. I notice that not only on here, but outside as well and its very sad to be honest with you.
Sorry only other advice I can give you my friend is stick with it or try another site.
Good Luck.
Wow so us women can’t be choosy"
Everyone can make choices in life there is a difference between making a choice and being arrogant thinking you are better than everyone else by saying Quality over Quantity etc.
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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago
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"You have those on here with profiles that say “Quality over Quantity” etc that’s just sheer arrogance and they are grandiose narcissists, who tend to have inflated self-views of their intelligence, power, status, and other characteristics by being vain, and think they are better than everyone else. Why be on here in the first place if that’s the case?.
Also since CVD19 started all respect for one another, being polite and manners are all forgotten these days. I notice that not only on here, but outside as well and its very sad to be honest with you.
Sorry only other advice I can give you my friend is stick with it or try another site.
Good Luck.
Wow so us women can’t be choosy
Everyone can make choices in life there is a difference between making a choice and being arrogant thinking you are better than everyone else by saying Quality over Quantity etc.
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I think we can put what we like on our own profiles |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You have those on here with profiles that say “Quality over Quantity” etc that’s just sheer arrogance and they are grandiose narcissists, who tend to have inflated self-views of their intelligence, power, status, and other characteristics by being vain, and think they are better than everyone else. Why be on here in the first place if that’s the case?.
Also since CVD19 started all respect for one another, being polite and manners are all forgotten these days. I notice that not only on here, but outside as well and its very sad to be honest with you.
Sorry only other advice I can give you my friend is stick with it or try another site.
Good Luck.
Wow so us women can’t be choosy
Everyone can make choices in life there is a difference between making a choice and being arrogant thinking you are better than everyone else by saying Quality over Quantity etc.
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Saying quality over quantity doesn’t make you arrogant or make someone think they are better than anyone else.
All it really means is we’re not just going to shag anyone, we have preferences and we meet those that match them. And not interested in entitled people that think because you are on here you must be up for it… |
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It really is each to their own,our profile isn't full of pics and Verdi's,we dont need or want to advertise.We get so many guys and couples asking for naked pics its unreal,what you see is all you're definitely getting Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What I am getting at is certain profiles saying Quality over Quantity.
They are almost saying No ugly people or No people over a certain size or weight etc that’s how arrogant, cutting and wrong that really is by having that wording on a profile.
Why not just ask for a face pic and make a decision from there and reply by saying thanks sorry not for me or us?
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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago
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"You have those on here with profiles that say “Quality over Quantity” etc that’s just sheer arrogance and they are grandiose narcissists, who tend to have inflated self-views of their intelligence, power, status, and other characteristics by being vain, and think they are better than everyone else. Why be on here in the first place if that’s the case?.
Also since CVD19 started all respect for one another, being polite and manners are all forgotten these days. I notice that not only on here, but outside as well and its very sad to be honest with you.
Sorry only other advice I can give you my friend is stick with it or try another site.
Good Luck.
Wow so us women can’t be choosy
Everyone can make choices in life there is a difference between making a choice and being arrogant thinking you are better than everyone else by saying Quality over Quantity etc.
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Saying quality over quantity doesn’t make you arrogant or make someone think they are better than anyone else.
All it really means is we’re not just going to shag anyone, we have preferences and we meet those that match them. And not interested in entitled people that think because you are on here you must be up for it…"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You have those on here with profiles that say “Quality over Quantity” etc that’s just sheer arrogance and they are grandiose narcissists, who tend to have inflated self-views of their intelligence, power, status, and other characteristics by being vain, and think they are better than everyone else. Why be on here in the first place if that’s the case?.
Also since CVD19 started all respect for one another, being polite and manners are all forgotten these days. I notice that not only on here, but outside as well and its very sad to be honest with you.
Sorry only other advice I can give you my friend is stick with it or try another site.
Good Luck.
Wow so us women can’t be choosy
Everyone can make choices in life there is a difference between making a choice and being arrogant thinking you are better than everyone else by saying Quality over Quantity etc.
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Saying quality over quantity doesn’t make you arrogant or make someone think they are better than anyone else.
All it really means is we’re not just going to shag anyone, we have preferences and we meet those that match them. And not interested in entitled people that think because you are on here you must be up for it…"
Yes it does |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else |
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But the amount of female profiles and couple profiles that are blank, have no information yet still have verifications baffles me !
Yet they have the audacity to have prerequisites to just even get a message back !
Any ideas "
Refuse to meet them... exert your right to protest.
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"What I am getting at is certain profiles saying Quality over Quantity.
They are almost saying No ugly people or No people over a certain size or weight etc that’s how arrogant, cutting and wrong that really is by having that wording on a profile.
Why not just ask for a face pic and make a decision from there and reply by saying thanks sorry not for me or us?
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Quality over quantity does not mean "No ugly people or No people over a certain size or weight etc" it means what it says |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi all
Call me whatever but the double standards on this site are foul!
It appears single males are demonised on here!
I’m not oblivious to the poor behaviour of some and I Understand that some people have gone through some terrible experiences
But the amount of female profiles and couple profiles that are blank, have no information yet still have verifications baffles me !
Yet they have the audacity to have prerequisites to just even get a message back !
I think this site needs to improve or have a separate site for males I’m not sure what the answer is
Any ideas "
So your issue is you're not getting meets and are butt hurt about it and you think that will improve your desirability lol |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"What I am getting at is certain profiles saying Quality over Quantity.
They are almost saying ....
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Here's the nub of the issue, in my view. You are reacting to your INTERPRETATION of what people write.
And then you're extrapolating it a bit further so that it can be something that fits into your overall viewpoint, which appears to be it's other people's fault that men don't get replies (other men, obv - not you, you do fine thanks) |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Do you really think by posting on here that you will get any sympathy or answers that are not full of sarcasm?
I'm sure if you could put zero effort in and get attention you would it?
Suck it up. "
He shouldn't have to suck it up.People should be respectful when answering no matter what the gender is of the OP. |
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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago
Wombwell, Barnsley |
" Quality over quantity does not mean "No ugly people or No people over a certain size or weight etc" it means what it says"
I agree. How does saying quality over quantity automatically means ugly, big or overweight? That logic or illogic baffles me. |
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By *ildrocketCouple
over a year ago
North Warwickshire |
Yes it always will be what you make it, but for those that do make an effort (we have single profiles as well) those profiles can get lost very quickly within so many that make zero effort.
_ildrocketwoman has given up with her solo profile having chatted to too many guys who simply wanted the thrill of the initial chase but never follow through.
The level of effort required to sort through the hundreds of 'fancy a fuck' or ' you free now' or ' hi how's you' messages from non verified, non paid up members simply devalues what was once a great site. Those decent guys that actually reply, can hold a conversation, turn up when agreed get lost in the melay. |
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"What I am getting at is certain profiles saying Quality over Quantity.
They are almost saying No ugly people or No people over a certain size or weight etc that’s how arrogant, cutting and wrong that really is by having that wording on a profile.
Why not just ask for a face pic and make a decision from there and reply by saying thanks sorry not for me or us?
Quality over quantity does not mean "No ugly people or No people over a certain size or weight etc" it means what it says"
Exactly as it was said before it’s their preference that’s what it means. But apparently now it’s bad to have a preference, I’ve never had a problem with the on mine and mrs profile yeah we’ve had the issue of people not reading profiles predominantly single males but not just them though. |
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Just remember that you can vote with your feet, OP. If you don't think what somebody is asking for is reasonable then move on to another one. Life's too short.
By the way, a swingers site with only men on it would have limited appeal in that there won't be any women on it. Go to Fab Guys for confirmation. If that's your thing go there or to Grindr. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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So your struggling to get sex too
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This is the lack of respect I am talking about. A man makes a comment or starts a thread about something and they get this answer a lot on here
Dismissing peoples concerns/ comments because they are a single male is why some men complain about couples and females. You can understand why  |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
Shangri-la |
"Hi all
Call me whatever but the double standards on this site are foul!
It appears single males are demonised on here!
I’m not oblivious to the poor behaviour of some and I Understand that some people have gone through some terrible experiences
But the amount of female profiles and couple profiles that are blank, have no information yet still have verifications baffles me !
Yet they have the audacity to have prerequisites to just even get a message back !
I think this site needs to improve or have a separate site for males I’m not sure what the answer is
Any ideas "
There is already a separate site for males but, as your profile says you are straight, I'm not exactly sure how you think a male only site would benefit you.
As for people having prerequisites, surely everyone does?
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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Welcome to the forum OP.
If a profile is empty would they have demands on it?
There is a site just for men if that's what you are after.
You are right though, you will find some people who do expect others to jump through hoops while not expecting themselves to but the best thing to do is click off their profile and find one that matches what you are after. We can't change what others want to put on their profile, but we change how we react to it.
Good luck.
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Can I remind people, dissecting a persons profile / bitching and asking why people have blocked you are all against forum rules
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For anyone who had a ban, my mailbox is not the place to send your "feedback" If you use this link you can ask Admin to review for you.
https://www.fabswingers.com/contact/owners |
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"What I am getting at is certain profiles saying Quality over Quantity.
They are almost saying No ugly people or No people over a certain size or weight etc that’s how arrogant, cutting and wrong that really is by having that wording on a profile.
Why not just ask for a face pic and make a decision from there and reply by saying thanks sorry not for me or us?
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I always look for quality over quantity but that refers to the type of person they are rather than how they look.
I don't message people or make first contact so I therefore don't scroll through profiles. When a woman contacts me I'll look at her profile to determine if she has read mine and if I think we have anything in common.
As it says clearly on my profile I'm not interested in anyone who isn't willing to chat for a while and make an effort. That's how I determine a persons quality.
I agree to a point that some do like to demonise men on here and I often wonder why they are even here looking for men if they have so many issues with them but each to their own.
There are a lot of threads offering advice or blueprints for men and very often it has been said that women and couples don't need to make an effort and yet so many women and couples complain about the type of guys who get in touch.
Part of the reason is often that those women and couples haven't made any effort because they know they will get lots of offers regardless but they are then going to be trawling through a lot of unwelcome offers simply because the men contacting them have no clear idea of what those lazy profiles are looking for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So your struggling to get sex too
This is the lack of respect I am talking about. A man makes a comment or starts a thread about something and they get this answer a lot on here
Dismissing peoples concerns/ comments because they are a single male is why some men complain about couples and females. You can understand why "
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By *D678 OP Man
over a year ago
dudley |
Hi all
I feel maybe I have not explained clearly what I mean!
1) I understand people have preferences/likes and dislikes that is perfectly acceptable
2) what I mean by blank profiles( hi / after fun / and this is it ,some of them just have …
And to address the prerequisites/double standards I mean that some of them will have the above mentioned but have added to the bottom (need verifications, when they don’t display their own.
I’ve not been on the site but fab guys surely that’s for gay/bisexual men I am neither.
So for me saying to somebody go on there doesn’t address the topic. If I was saying to a trans person go on a site just for trans people that would be discrimination! So why is it acceptable to direct a male there ?
I do understand some profiles have minimal information due to potentially their job role/ profession and this is understandable also.
Thanks for the private messages of people who are actually willing to discuss this rather than jump on a bandwagon (not all have been males may I add) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You have those on here with profiles that say “Quality over Quantity” etc that’s just sheer arrogance and they are grandiose narcissists, who tend to have inflated self-views of their intelligence, power, status, and other characteristics by being vain, and think they are better than everyone else. Why be on here in the first place if that’s the case?.
Also since CVD19 started all respect for one another, being polite and manners are all forgotten these days. I notice that not only on here, but outside as well and its very sad to be honest with you.
Sorry only other advice I can give you my friend is stick with it or try another site.
Good Luck.
So your struggling to get sex too
No I am not and never will do. I am making a valid point about how people treat others on this site.
Also if you look at the fab photos. How many are of males?. Also the majority are the same people posting pics on a daily basis which is sad really. "
I post pics every day, because I want to, and I can. I don’t generally get complaints about that.
I disagree with your comments about quality over quantity, I’m super fussy about who I meet, and I don’t meet very often, this is what quality over quantity means to me
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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago
Wombwell, Barnsley |
"Hi all
I feel maybe I have not explained clearly what I mean!
1) I understand people have preferences/likes and dislikes that is perfectly acceptable
2) what I mean by blank profiles( hi / after fun / and this is it ,some of them just have …
And to address the prerequisites/double standards I mean that some of them will have the above mentioned but have added to the bottom (need verifications, when they don’t display their own.
I’ve not been on the site but fab guys surely that’s for gay/bisexual men I am neither.
So for me saying to somebody go on there doesn’t address the topic. If I was saying to a trans person go on a site just for trans people that would be discrimination! So why is it acceptable to direct a male there ?
I do understand some profiles have minimal information due to potentially their job role/ profession and this is understandable also.
Thanks for the private messages of people who are actually willing to discuss this rather than jump on a bandwagon (not all have been males may I add)"
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over a year ago
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"Hi all
Call me whatever but the double standards on this site are foul!
It appears single males are demonised on here!
I’m not oblivious to the poor behaviour of some and I Understand that some people have gone through some terrible experiences
But the amount of female profiles and couple profiles that are blank, have no information yet still have verifications baffles me !
Yet they have the audacity to have prerequisites to just even get a message back !
I think this site needs to improve or have a separate site for males I’m not sure what the answer is
Any ideas "
When I see a post like yours OP, I usually go get some popcorn, as when similar threads have been posted the OP gets slated, I soon put my popcorn down and wondered why, just take your time and think why this could be so. |
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But the amount of female profiles and couple profiles that are blank, have no information yet still have verifications baffles me !
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Why do you care? If someone wants a blank profile, they can have one. It's got literally nothing to do with you.
Fabs is a lot more fun if you stop stressing about what other people do or don't do, and just enjoy yourself.
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By (user no longer on site)
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The double standards do make me laugh when it comes to having well written profiles and decent photos but I don’t let the small minority takeout the fun of this lifestyle. The majority are awesome people. Have your rant, then keep browsing  |
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"Hi all
Call me whatever but the double standards on this site are foul!
It appears single males are demonised on here!
I’m not oblivious to the poor behaviour of some and I Understand that some people have gone through some terrible experiences
But the amount of female profiles and couple profiles that are blank, have no information yet still have verifications baffles me !
Yet they have the audacity to have prerequisites to just even get a message back !
I think this site needs to improve or have a separate site for males I’m not sure what the answer is
Any ideas "
Blame the desperate men who message the blank profiles.
I can have just a dot as text and still get winks, friend invites and messages. |
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"You have those on here with profiles that say “Quality over Quantity” etc that’s just sheer arrogance and they are grandiose narcissists, who tend to have inflated self-views of their intelligence, power, status, and other characteristics by being vain, and think they are better than everyone else. Why be on here in the first place if that’s the case?.
Also since CVD19 started all respect for one another, being polite and manners are all forgotten these days. I notice that not only on here, but outside as well and its very sad to be honest with you.
Sorry only other advice I can give you my friend is stick with it or try another site.
Good Luck.
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How is having a desire for 'quality over quantity' in any way arrogant or narcissistic?
Making such a statement says a lot about you.
Really well you must be one then that thinks that way
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Yes, I absolutely do think that way, I meet when, who and where I want to, if i dont find someone who meets my requirements I won't bother, this lifestyle isnt that important to me. I would never meet someone just to placate their insecurities or sense of entitlement. |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
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"But the amount of female profiles and couple profiles that are blank, have no information yet still have verifications baffles me!"
We don't demonize single guys - without them our sex life would be much duller. We demonize idiots and there's plenty of them in all the demographics here.
In fact, as a percentage of the mail we receive from each demographic, those from couples are by far and away the worst - single word/line, nothing to build a reply on, almost never read our profile and rarely have one of their own*
The percentage of rubbish we get from single guys is probably about 75% of their messages. Probably 95% of messages from couples are worse.
But....each to their own. They do their thing, we do ours, you do yours. Your "success" on here is only down to you, not what the other do
(Bry)
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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Women can have blank profiles because some men still message them.Where as many women look at a crap profile and don't engage .
I'm not demonizing single men ,but some do themselves no favours.They don't read profiles and send messages when they're horny even if they're the other end of the country/don't fit what I'm after etc.For example I had a message sat night at 11pm asking me to meet now ,get real.
Some couples are also bad & probably some single women too.,but again many men will favour a shag over calling them out on it all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It works for me so no need to change in my view.
People can ask/demand what they like, you don’t have to engage with them. They’re easy enough to ignore. "
'it works for me' Kelly. Brook. lol.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My profile is terrible, I have zero interests listed, with lots of lovely social verifications, and thats exactly how I wish it to be.
And thats completely my choice, the same choice as anyone else has over their own profile.
Perhaps it would be wise to pass by the profiles you mention, and not allow yourself to become baffled by them.
Use your baffled time elsewhere on the site.
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"You have those on here with profiles that say “Quality over Quantity” etc that’s just sheer arrogance and they are grandiose narcissists, who tend to have inflated self-views of their intelligence, power, status, and other characteristics by being vain, and think they are better than everyone else.
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We are one of those couples who’s profile states “Quality over quantity “
Your sweeping summarisation of us as people couldn’t be further from the truth.
We choose to meet infrequently, Fab is a small part of our lives. Therefore when we do, it’s with people we’ve built up a connection with rather than than a lot of meaningless meets.
Does that make us think we are better than anyone else, or make us grandiose narcissists?
Of course not.
Your judgemental views say more about you than those of us who want some control over who we invite into our beds. |
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Surely, everyone has the ability to make a profile however they want.
Most fellas can spend months making, what they think is, the perfect profile, but get no contacts. Ufortunately, that's life. There are lots of hungry guys to choose from.
The girls will get hundreds of messages, from 100's of those hungry guys as soon as they pop up, even before they've had the chance to post a picture, or fill out their description. Unless they are looking for something specific, why should they spend hours on a profile that won't actually make a difference.
I get it totally and it must be a pain being inundated, to a point when you can't keep up.
It's tough on the fellas, but patience is a virtue, desperation will not get anyone anywhere. |
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I’ve not been on the site but fab guys surely that’s for gay/bisexual men I am neither.
So for me saying to somebody go on there doesn’t address the topic. If I was saying to a trans person go on a site just for trans people that would be discrimination! So why is it acceptable to direct a male there ?
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It's because you said this in your original post, remember? Surely a separate site for males excludes women?
"I think this site needs to improve or have a separate site for males I’m not sure what the answer is" |
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Thanks for the private messages of people who are actually willing to discuss this rather than jump on a bandwagon (not all have been males may I add)"
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Did they have profiles you approve of? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Op, don’t sweat it! You found a preference that you never knew you had. You like interesting profiles, so just use it as a filter and just look out for those type of people. #ThinkPositive.
*My hashtag filters out those people that don’t like hashtags  |
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"You have those on here with profiles that say “Quality over Quantity” etc that’s just sheer arrogance and they are grandiose narcissists, who tend to have inflated self-views of their intelligence, power, status, and other characteristics by being vain, and think they are better than everyone else. Why be on here in the first place if that’s the case?.
Also since CVD19 started all respect for one another, being polite and manners are all forgotten these days. I notice that not only on here, but outside as well and its very sad to be honest with you.
Sorry only other advice I can give you my friend is stick with it or try another site.
Good Luck.
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How is having a desire for 'quality over quantity' in any way arrogant or narcissistic?
Making such a statement says a lot about you.
Really well you must be one then that thinks that way
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Yes, I absolutely do think that way, I meet when, who and where I want to, if i dont find someone who meets my requirements I won't bother, this lifestyle isnt that important to me. I would never meet someone just to placate their insecurities or sense of entitlement."
You missed out being selfish as well in your profile |
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I get lot of people contact me saying if you dont have a physical meet at least every 6 months which doesnt include social meets etc then your fab profile should be automatically deleted . What do people think about that is that bit harsh ?? |
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"I get lot of people contact me saying if you dont have a physical meet at least every 6 months which doesnt include social meets etc then your fab profile should be automatically deleted . What do people think about that is that bit harsh ??"
But it doesn’t. So I don’t think about it.
*it would be harsh
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over a year ago
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"I get lot of people contact me saying if you dont have a physical meet at least every 6 months which doesnt include social meets etc then your fab profile should be automatically deleted . What do people think about that is that bit harsh ??"
Sounds good to me. People should be fucking around not wanking around.
Photographic proof of cock in wet hole should be provided, with that day's newspaper in the background to catch drips and show the date. |
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"Hi all
Call me whatever but the double standards on this site are foul!
It appears single males are demonised on here!
I’m not oblivious to the poor behaviour of some and I Understand that some people have gone through some terrible experiences
But the amount of female profiles and couple profiles that are blank, have no information yet still have verifications baffles me !
Yet they have the audacity to have prerequisites to just even get a message back !
I think this site needs to improve or have a separate site for males I’m not sure what the answer is
Any ideas "
A work of art takes time, i have used fab for many years, but havnt had that many meets from it, i choose to not show my face to the general public, unless we've meet or if I'm friends with them, i also had far more no thanks replies, not always polite ones too lol, but I will always be respectful, I enjoy plenty of banter and flirty message exchanges, who doesn't?
Quality over quantity every day for me.
Maybe try clubbing, as most clubs cater or all tastes and a great way to get verified as a genuine person.
But bottom line, blank profiles or not, you can see easily the real and genuine peeps on here without photos.  |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"I get lot of people contact me saying if you dont have a physical meet at least every 6 months which doesnt include social meets etc then your fab profile should be automatically deleted . What do people think about that is that bit harsh ??"
Firstly, yes it's massively harsh. People can use this site to chat to people and keep an eye on club reviews, then go to clubs, play happily and never get verified.
Secondly, all that would happen is a never ending stream of "not new account, just rejoining" accounts, with the addition of people desperately begging for veris because "it's been 5 months..." |
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"You have those on here with profiles that say “Quality over Quantity” etc that’s just sheer arrogance and they are grandiose narcissists, who tend to have inflated self-views of their intelligence, power, status, and other characteristics by being vain, and think they are better than everyone else. Why be on here in the first place if that’s the case?.
Also since CVD19 started all respect for one another, being polite and manners are all forgotten these days. I notice that not only on here, but outside as well and its very sad to be honest with you.
Sorry only other advice I can give you my friend is stick with it or try another site.
Good Luck.
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How is having a desire for 'quality over quantity' in any way arrogant or narcissistic?
Making such a statement says a lot about you.
Really well you must be one then that thinks that way
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Yes, I absolutely do think that way, I meet when, who and where I want to, if i dont find someone who meets my requirements I won't bother, this lifestyle isnt that important to me. I would never meet someone just to placate their insecurities or sense of entitlement.
You missed out being selfish as well in your profile "
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You've hit the nail on the head again, I'm here for purely selfish reasons not to offer personal services to unhappy men. |
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over a year ago
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"You have those on here with profiles that say “Quality over Quantity” etc that’s just sheer arrogance and they are grandiose narcissists, who tend to have inflated self-views of their intelligence, power, status, and other characteristics by being vain, and think they are better than everyone else. Why be on here in the first place if that’s the case?.
Also since CVD19 started all respect for one another, being polite and manners are all forgotten these days. I notice that not only on here, but outside as well and its very sad to be honest with you.
Sorry only other advice I can give you my friend is stick with it or try another site.
Good Luck.
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How is having a desire for 'quality over quantity' in any way arrogant or narcissistic?
Making such a statement says a lot about you.
Really well you must be one then that thinks that way
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Yes, I absolutely do think that way, I meet when, who and where I want to, if i dont find someone who meets my requirements I won't bother, this lifestyle isnt that important to me. I would never meet someone just to placate their insecurities or sense of entitlement.
You missed out being selfish as well in your profile "
Wtf?!? Her preferences for having sex with who SHE wants to, and wanting to talk to/meet people that meet her requirements is selfish??? I think you just won the internet award for sheer entitlement! |
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"You have those on here with profiles that say “Quality over Quantity” etc that’s just sheer arrogance and they are grandiose narcissists, who tend to have inflated self-views of their intelligence, power, status, and other characteristics by being vain, and think they are better than everyone else. Why be on here in the first place if that’s the case?.
Also since CVD19 started all respect for one another, being polite and manners are all forgotten these days. I notice that not only on here, but outside as well and its very sad to be honest with you.
Sorry only other advice I can give you my friend is stick with it or try another site.
Good Luck.
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How is having a desire for 'quality over quantity' in any way arrogant or narcissistic?
Making such a statement says a lot about you.
Really well you must be one then that thinks that way
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Yes, I absolutely do think that way, I meet when, who and where I want to, if i dont find someone who meets my requirements I won't bother, this lifestyle isnt that important to me. I would never meet someone just to placate their insecurities or sense of entitlement.
You missed out being selfish as well in your profile
Wtf?!? Her preferences for having sex with who SHE wants to, and wanting to talk to/meet people that meet her requirements is selfish??? I think you just won the internet award for sheer entitlement!"
I’d like to meet you in my room of requirements…. 
I just don’t entertain baiting comments anymore. Don’t do it, think hippy, hippy.
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If I make my profile blank, or just saying “Hi” I’ll still have my verifications…
However, when I rejoined Fab I had 40+ messages in my inbox when I could start replying after waiting for pic verification so you can’t blame some people for not feeling the need to put in a tonne of effort to their profile when, for solo women, it’s not always needed to have some fun. |
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"You have those on here with profiles that say “Quality over Quantity” etc that’s just sheer arrogance and they are grandiose narcissists, who tend to have inflated self-views of their intelligence, power, status, and other characteristics by being vain, and think they are better than everyone else. Why be on here in the first place if that’s the case?.
Also since CVD19 started all respect for one another, being polite and manners are all forgotten these days. I notice that not only on here, but outside as well and its very sad to be honest with you.
Sorry only other advice I can give you my friend is stick with it or try another site.
Good Luck.
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How is having a desire for 'quality over quantity' in any way arrogant or narcissistic?
Making such a statement says a lot about you.
Really well you must be one then that thinks that way
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Yes, I absolutely do think that way, I meet when, who and where I want to, if i dont find someone who meets my requirements I won't bother, this lifestyle isnt that important to me. I would never meet someone just to placate their insecurities or sense of entitlement.
You missed out being selfish as well in your profile "
How on Earth is only meeting/fucking if they want to selfish?
I mean what else is there?
Unless you’re suggesting folks have some sort of obligation to allow their bodies to be used by people they’re not interested in? |
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over a year ago
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We have had criticism for your profile, even people saying we are fake, even with veri’s from in person meets. It’s the nature of social media platforms I guess. For us we are ok as we just engage with people that interest us and we try to just be polite to anyone else. |
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There are so many threads of a similar nature on here it almost gets boring - As guys here you just have to accept everything that happens - Yes it can be extremely frustrating when you have identified a profile where you believe you tick ALL the boxs and write a nice detailed intro and Nothing- But then again there are probably 00’s of guys thinking and doing the same - Just take a look at the chat rooms and you will get an idea of the ratios of guys to females and couples it’s always staggering and then occasionally when you do get to chat to someone I never cease to be amazed by the number of messages they say they receive - Yes for guys it’s extremely frustrating but then think of the challengers of ladies and couples when their inbox is so jammed it’s often impossible for them to spot the one well written possible connection - Yes I think it’s even more difficult now than five or so years ago and that’s possibly due to an even higher percentage of guys and fake profiles but that’s just part of life and not much the site can do about it - At least I believe this site is certainly genuine unlike experiences you may find elsewhere- You can get meets but you just have to be very very patient and just try and ignore the frustration - Also if you have what you believe to be a good profile then you never know occasionally you will even get approached - I’ve gone on too much now and will probably get shouted down but hey guess that’s all part of Fab |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"We have had criticism for your profile, even people saying we are fake, even with veri’s from in person meets. It’s the nature of social media platforms I guess. For us we are ok as we just engage with people that interest us and we try to just be polite to anyone else. "
Who's "we", maaaannn? |
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"You know there are a lot of reasons why a profile might be blank…
I’ll name you one - They might only use it for finding out events and club meets
Also how would an all male site improve this site? Which there already is “FabGuys”"
I thought fab guys was for gay guys to meet other guys or am I wrong ? |
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"Fab is like any other social media. It is what you make it. You will bump into many people that are not your type. But along the way you will encounter some lovely sexy folk. We have made great fab friends.
It's only harder for single guys because single guys outnumber couples and women by such a big ratio.
Therefor women have the pick of the bunch. It just means single guys have to make their profile stand out with good quality photos and an interesting bio x
Mrs N"
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Totally agree and hereby lays the issue a lot of single guys don’t see why they should go that extra mile and expecting sex on tap just cause they’re a guy x |
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"You have those on here with profiles that say “Quality over Quantity” etc that’s just sheer arrogance and they are grandiose narcissists, who tend to have inflated self-views of their intelligence, power, status, and other characteristics by being vain, and think they are better than everyone else. Why be on here in the first place if that’s the case?.
Also since CVD19 started all respect for one another, being polite and manners are all forgotten these days. I notice that not only on here, but outside as well and its very sad to be honest with you.
Sorry only other advice I can give you my friend is stick with it or try another site.
Good Luck."
We really need a facepalm emoji.
Do you really believe that somebody seeking just a few people they click with rather than many people they don't, that's narcissistic?
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"Hi all
Call me whatever but the double standards on this site are foul!
It appears single males are demonised on here!
I’m not oblivious to the poor behaviour of some and I Understand that some people have gone through some terrible experiences
But the amount of female profiles and couple profiles that are blank, have no information yet still have verifications baffles me !
Yet they have the audacity to have prerequisites to just even get a message back !
I think this site needs to improve or have a separate site for males I’m not sure what the answer is
Any ideas "
I think you're correct that it can seem single Men are demonised.
There is a reason though.
For an example .........
We get far far more messages from single men than couples and single women combined.
The percentage of good and bad profiles/messages I would say is pretty much equal, but the men stand out because of the volume of messages.
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"You have those on here with profiles that say “Quality over Quantity” etc that’s just sheer arrogance and they are grandiose narcissists, who tend to have inflated self-views of their intelligence, power, status, and other characteristics by being vain, and think they are better than everyone else. Why be on here in the first place if that’s the case?.
Also since CVD19 started all respect for one another, being polite and manners are all forgotten these days. I notice that not only on here, but outside as well and its very sad to be honest with you.
Sorry only other advice I can give you my friend is stick with it or try another site.
Good Luck.
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How is having a desire for 'quality over quantity' in any way arrogant or narcissistic?
Making such a statement says a lot about you.
Really well you must be one then that thinks that way
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Yes, I absolutely do think that way, I meet when, who and where I want to, if i dont find someone who meets my requirements I won't bother, this lifestyle isnt that important to me. I would never meet someone just to placate their insecurities or sense of entitlement.
You missed out being selfish as well in your profile
Wtf?!? Her preferences for having sex with who SHE wants to, and wanting to talk to/meet people that meet her requirements is selfish??? I think you just won the internet award for sheer entitlement!"
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Thanks hippy, I was a skip away from getting my knickers in a twist before your timely intervention!  |
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