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"Do you show your verifications or verifications summary or both?
Would you meet people who dont show the actual verifications?
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I would prefer to see the veri but the summary has to be authentic so I would have no issue in accepting them. If you are thinking about meeting just ask for the summary to be sent to you before you do if you are not sure  |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I show some of my veris not all. Some who veried me have left also do their veris are gone but the number is still there.
I've met a few people who I haven't seen their veris and I've never felt the need to ask to see theirs. Just like I wouldn't expect anyone to ask to see mine. I display the ones I want to show,the ones I don't I have my own reasons not to and it's not anyone's business why I don't display them. |
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I enjoy reading people's verifications, and it does have an impact on who I chat to and meet.
I tend to assume if people don't show them, there's some drama about them, which puts me off a little. Reading the comments here, I'll reasses that though. |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"I enjoy reading people's verifications, and it does have an impact on who I chat to and meet.
I tend to assume if people don't show them, there's some drama about them, which puts me off a little. Reading the comments here, I'll reasses that though. "
Drama? I should be so lucky! I think about 2/3rds of mine are lost due to users leaving, the others are all just old.
People have in the past asked to see some as part of their due diligence, and I have. I would consider doing so again, depending on the situation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't have mines showing currently. Then again mines are all old from friends I previously met from fab over the years. If there's ever a local organised social again I'd maybe show them. But 1-1 meets I would'nt show. |
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"I enjoy reading people's verifications, and it does have an impact on who I chat to and meet.
I tend to assume if people don't show them, there's some drama about them, which puts me off a little. Reading the comments here, I'll reasses that though. "
I had someone contact some of the guys I've met to try and get information. That's another reason why I don't show them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s a personal choice but we like to see what is written. Especially if someone has a dozen veris and only displays 2 for example ( understand the ones that left the site don’t show) but the whole purpose of veris is to tell something about that person. We display all our veris and hope that tells people a little bit about us from others perspective |
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I will show my veris if asked but I don't show them as standard as we've had people go down our veris and message people asking them to put in a good word for them etc or saying we've suggested they contact them as we think they'd be a good fit
Plus if I'm honest I don't enjoy reading veris some are horribly and necesarily graphic (including some we've received) what goes on in a meet should be private, it's not trip advisor knowing the person is as claimed is all I need to know and a summary if verified by more than 2/3 people is good enough to show me that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I will show my veris if asked but I don't show them as standard as we've had people go down our veris and message people asking them to put in a good word for them etc or saying we've suggested they contact them as we think they'd be a good fit
Plus if I'm honest I don't enjoy reading veris some are horribly and necesarily graphic (including some we've received) what goes on in a meet should be private, it's not trip advisor knowing the person is as claimed is all I need to know and a summary if verified by more than 2/3 people is good enough to show me that"
to be fair that’s a different perspective we hadn’t thought of. Would like to know what you’d think to our veris,purely out of interest if you wouldn’t mind but no issue if not. |
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By *onnyadtMan
over a year ago
Uttoxeter |
Mine and who I meet's personal business plus showing them in the past has cost me a few meets from some judgemental types so I choose not to. No doubt I'll attract some scepticism but I'm happy to live with that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I display my summary and then pick a few to show. Not hiding anything, they're just all fairly similar. If anyone wants to see the ones I have hidden then I'll happily show them on request! |
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I feel that a verification should simply show you are who you say you are. No one is ever going to display a negative veri, and I don't like to see those which overshare.
For me it's important to see that the profile is genuine and has been meeting recently - gives some reassurance they're not a time waster.
Would rather see a couple of recent nicely worded verifications than hundreds of explicit ones. |
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"I will show my veris if asked but I don't show them as standard as we've had people go down our veris and message people asking them to put in a good word for them etc or saying we've suggested they contact them as we think they'd be a good fit
Plus if I'm honest I don't enjoy reading veris some are horribly and necesarily graphic (including some we've received) what goes on in a meet should be private, it's not trip advisor knowing the person is as claimed is all I need to know and a summary if verified by more than 2/3 people is good enough to show me thatto be fair that’s a different perspective we hadn’t thought of. Would like to know what you’d think to our veris,purely out of interest if you wouldn’t mind but no issue if not. "
I only read the first few they are very tasteful
Ultimately I don't think anyones right or wrong showing or not showing their veri's, some people are out off by lots of veris some are put off by too few
There's so many reasons why someone may or may not choose to show them FAB is a funny old world |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"It’s a personal choice but we like to see what is written. Especially if someone has a dozen veris and only displays 2 for example ( understand the ones that left the site don’t show) but the whole purpose of veris is to tell something about that person. We display all our veris and hope that tells people a little bit about us from others perspective "
How do you know whether the 2 out of 12 are carefully selected and not all that is available?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s a personal choice but we like to see what is written. Especially if someone has a dozen veris and only displays 2 for example ( understand the ones that left the site don’t show) but the whole purpose of veris is to tell something about that person. We display all our veris and hope that tells people a little bit about us from others perspective
How do you know whether the 2 out of 12 are carefully selected and not all that is available?
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carefully selected wpuld make us wary. Prefer to show them all,warts and all. But,as previously stated,respect personal choice |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"It’s a personal choice but we like to see what is written. Especially if someone has a dozen veris and only displays 2 for example ( understand the ones that left the site don’t show) but the whole purpose of veris is to tell something about that person. We display all our veris and hope that tells people a little bit about us from others perspective
How do you know whether the 2 out of 12 are carefully selected and not all that is available?
carefully selected wpuld make us wary. Prefer to show them all,warts and all. But,as previously stated,respect personal choice"
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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago
west midlands |
I don't show my summary only because I do display all my veris but I have had a couple of social meets with people who have left so my veris and summary don't tally, which I don't like I just feel it looks like I am trying to hide something. |
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When I’m looking for couples, either solo or on my couple profile with the other half, I like to see a few recent-ish verifications - just to see that the couple actually have couple veris, and not just 6 years ago couple veris then everything for the last 4.5 years is just one of them.
After recent experience with single guys I’ll be doing the same to see that they have had verifications since lockdown as people seem to have become super flaky since then. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I prefer to see actual veris. Doesn’t have to be all of them - I won’t show anything that I’m not proud of. "
Verifications should be shown cum what may! |
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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago
Wirral |
I like any veri we receive to be a reflection of a meeting that centres around the actual fucking.
We had a social on Saturday and the guy had very kindly sent us a veri which i am currently sitting on.
I have contacted him to thank him and explained my reason for not showing it on our profile. He totally understood and we have both agreed to leave our verification of each other until he has sex with my wife - which is gonna hopefully be next week (due to work/family) commitments.
Personal feeling here - the account holder should always be in control of what appears on their profile. |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"I prefer to see actual veris. Doesn’t have to be all of them - I won’t show anything that I’m not proud of.
Verifications should be shown cum what may!"
1. Did you not see that's not actually possible if someone has left?
2. Why do you feel they should all be visible? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just show the summary, I'm not meeting privately at the moment so don't think it's relevant. I tend not to take much notice of verifications, our experiences with people are different. |
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We share ours although it has back fires, one couple messaged us basically they liked our profile but because we had been to a certain club they didn’t like they won’t meet us… then blocked us.. that was a little confusing but hey… |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont list my verifications - people tend to be over-flattering and that means a lot of them describe me in a way that I dont feel is true!
Even if it is true, I dont want people to assume that I am going to act in the same way that my verifications describe - Im very different with different people and in different situations.
When I read other peoples profiles, sometimes visible verifications can make the difference between me messaging or not, but only if I am really on the fence after reading their profile. If their profile catches my eye, I might not look at their veris at all. If their profile is empty or doesnt match what Im looking for, then the veris dont count for anything.
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I don't have any explicit veries and wouldn't display then even if I did. I don't show them all for various reasons mainly due to people directly contacting others I've been verified by either to ask about me or to befriend them and keep an eye on who they deem to be competition.
I've no time for childish, idiotic antics like that so it's easier to keep most of them hidden.
I don't base my decision to meet someone or not on their verifications. I make those decisions based on my own conversations with them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Veri's are to show someone is real and then turned up when arranged, that's it. I don't understand the weight people put behind them on here, it's like trip advisor. So many other sites don't use anything like them and get by just fine. I'm not in a habit of writing or displaying them. We've got one on show, that's enough.
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I just show the number of them. If I only had one or two I’d probably show the contents but when you’ve got a large number no one is going to read all that. If 30 or more people have been willing to verify you mostly by meeting then you are pretty likely to be for real I think. |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
I don't show my summary. I've hosted a number of newbie events and socials and consequently have a really large number of verifications. I usually display a selection including recent ones, some social and some more intimate ones, but nothing too graphic. What people display should be their individual choice. |
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I don’t share mine because it’s not information I necessarily want out there - if I’ve said I’m not meeting then get on particularly well with somebody and decide to meet them, I don’t want to have to deal with people coming and questioning that, because it’s nobody else’s business!
I’ll offer to show my veris to somebody if we get to the stage of wanting to arrange a meet though. |
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