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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So, this will probably be controversial enough to get me banned, but I can’t actually believe how unnecessarily rude some people are on here.
Anyone else found some people to be judgemental, unfriendly and disrespectful on here?
Guys, a simple hello doesn’t warrant judgement. Believe it or not, I don’t want to fuck everyone I speak to.
Manners and decency go a long way.
People I’ve actually had conversations with generally seem nice, but there are some proper bellends who think randomly being rude or blocking you is a suitable way of communication.
I’m thick skinned enough to brush it off, but I imagine it could really affect others.
Why can’t we all just be cool, realise that some are at different stages of their journey and be open to at least being nice to others.
Seriously, I’ve said it many times before, but it costs nothing to be polite.
Wow. And there’s me thinking I’d never rant on here. I just find sone people on here to be a bit OTT.
It’s not bitterness. I do just fine with women away from this app. I just expected this to be more inclusive. I’m feeling the opposite.
Please prove me wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Unfortunately that's the nature of the beast.
You just have to block and move on. "
That’s kind of my point. Why should people be ok with others being rude? I don’t expect that in real life and I don’t expect it online.
For the sake of clarity, I can handle people being wankers, but I imagine some others get really hurt/offended by it.
Just be nice. It’s not that difficult. It’s way easier than being a clown.
Thanks. |
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By *onnyadtMan
over a year ago
Uttoxeter |
It's the annonymity factor. People act differently online compared to face to face, I'm guesing 90% wouldn't do as they do here. The protection of the screen allows you for fab purposes to behave how you want within fab rules without fear of any comeback in the real world, hurting peoples feelings as a result is like water off a ducks back for many but not all. Hang in there there's some decent people on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We think a genuine single guy who has read our profile will usually get a fair and decent response,
Unfortunatly as tonight has proven there are soooo many single guys who don't read profiles and are completely disrespectful or plain weird, which does lead to couple becoming rather short in their responses.
Another day may be different  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A concise ‘no thanks’ or block to avoid appearing in searches, either way is perfectly acceptable and polite enough for us. Rudeness/abuse is different and should be reported. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most people aren't okay with rudeness and have manners. We can't judge others based on our expectations of what a person should be, we just have to accept that everyone is different. If someone isn't your kind of person just move along, their personality traits are not your concern. Just focus on you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So this morning a shadow avatar with no public pictures and a one line bio sent a message out of the blue saying he was free for the next 2 hours could he come to our house for a threesome?
He’d obviously attached the obligatory cock pic but no face.
What respect does this fuckwit deserve? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t see how blocking someone is considered rude?
They probably don’t want any comebacks off someone that can’t take the hint. It’s much easier and hassle free. I’m not saying you can’t, but a lot of people can’t take a not interested/rejection.
“Hello”
Sorry we’re not interested or looking
“But, but I’m….”
No we’ve told you
*potential reply
“Fuck you, wouldn’t have met you anyway”
Why would anyway waste their time on that.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I couldn't say what messages we received recently as it's against the rules, what I will say is there's alot of chancers as my other half calls them, who need to learn manners and not be so self entitled.
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I agree with this post. While realising someone has blocked you may sting momentarily, don't dwell and move on.
My motives for blocking are usually because the sender has sent several, repetitive messages. Having spoken to some of them, I understand that unless people pay to be a site supporter, they can't see previous messages, but as I pay, I do. A genuine error on their part to send multiple messages, sure. A swift and silent block from me ends that.
And occasionally people (including me) get "block happy", for whatever reason. Maybe you were the unlucky 10th person to ask what my plans are for the weekend.
But it's usually not personal.
"I don’t see how blocking someone is considered rude?
They probably don’t want any comebacks off someone that can’t take the hint. It’s much easier and hassle free. I’m not saying you can’t, but a lot of people can’t take a not interested/rejection.
“Hello”
Sorry we’re not interested or looking
“But, but I’m….”
No we’ve told you
*potential reply
“Fuck you, wouldn’t have met you anyway”
Why would anyway waste their time on that.
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"Unfortunately that's the nature of the beast.
You just have to block and move on.
That’s kind of my point. Why should people be ok with others being rude? I don’t expect that in real life and I don’t expect it online.
For the sake of clarity, I can handle people being wankers, but I imagine some others get really hurt/offended by it.
Just be nice. It’s not that difficult. It’s way easier than being a clown.
Thanks. "
Blocking is not rude, it's an effective way filtering who you potentially want to engage with.
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
If I reply to a message with a no thanks ,I always now block
It saves the why not ,well I'm local etc or any abuse.
It's just a tool that helps make the site better for you to use.
No need for anyone to be abusive though & that needs reporting . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So this morning a shadow avatar with no public pictures and a one line bio sent a message out of the blue saying he was free for the next 2 hours could he come to our house for a threesome?
He’d obviously attached the obligatory cock pic but no face.
What respect does this fuckwit deserve? "
Waaaaay too much of this on here. And they get the response they deserve |
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By *tooveMan
over a year ago
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"So, this will probably be controversial enough to get me banned, but I can’t actually believe how unnecessarily rude some people are on here.
Anyone else found some people to be judgemental, unfriendly and disrespectful on here?
Guys, a simple hello doesn’t warrant judgement. Believe it or not, I don’t want to fuck everyone I speak to.
Manners and decency go a long way.
People I’ve actually had conversations with generally seem nice, but there are some proper bellends who think randomly being rude or blocking you is a suitable way of communication.
I’m thick skinned enough to brush it off, but I imagine it could really affect others.
Why can’t we all just be cool, realise that some are at different stages of their journey and be open to at least being nice to others.
Seriously, I’ve said it many times before, but it costs nothing to be polite.
Wow. And there’s me thinking I’d never rant on here. I just find sone people on here to be a bit OTT.
It’s not bitterness. I do just fine with women away from this app. I just expected this to be more inclusive. I’m feeling the opposite.
Please prove me wrong. "
Yawn. Another whinger. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just to clarify, I’m not against blocking. It’s just a bit weird when they’ve made first contact and the conversation has gone well. Nothing that could put someone off anyway.
Not an issue for me. Just seems a bit odd. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So, this will probably be controversial enough to get me banned, but I can’t actually believe how unnecessarily rude some people are on here.
Anyone else found some people to be judgemental, unfriendly and disrespectful on here?
Guys, a simple hello doesn’t warrant judgement. Believe it or not, I don’t want to fuck everyone I speak to.
Manners and decency go a long way.
People I’ve actually had conversations with generally seem nice, but there are some proper bellends who think randomly being rude or blocking you is a suitable way of communication.
I’m thick skinned enough to brush it off, but I imagine it could really affect others.
Why can’t we all just be cool, realise that some are at different stages of their journey and be open to at least being nice to others.
Seriously, I’ve said it many times before, but it costs nothing to be polite.
Wow. And there’s me thinking I’d never rant on here. I just find sone people on here to be a bit OTT.
It’s not bitterness. I do just fine with women away from this app. I just expected this to be more inclusive. I’m feeling the opposite.
Please prove me wrong.
Yawn. Another whinger."
Yawn. Another troll. |
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The problem is we will never know someone else's story how busy their inbox is, what other things they may have going on in their lives
When we first joined fab our couples profile had 300 messages in an afternoon, by the following day we were over 400 and within 48hrs over 600
We get nothing like that now but some do & it's daunting and it's impossible to manage/acknowledge everyone & why should you, especially when it's obvious they've only checked out your pictures and not looked at your profile
We put a polite message up asking people not to messsge more than once yet still we'd get repeat messages people being rude saying I can see you're online but you've not looked at my messages making our job of getting through the kesssges even harder (yes it really began to feel like a job rather than a bit of fun)
The site rules clearly state no reply means no thank you & as to the blocking don't take them personally it's likely they just don't think you're a great match so it's a great way from you appearing in each other's feeds in the future & wasting each other's time, yes a polite no thanks would be nicer but unfortunately just because you'd accept that most wouldn't, most people would send another message either trying to change your mind or being abusive saying things like I was lowering my standards messaging you in the first place
I think the site rules like no reply means no thanks, blocking isn't personal needs to be made clearer in the sign up process so to stop the disappointment guys like you feel on a daily basis |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The problem is we will never know someone else's story how busy their inbox is, what other things they may have going on in their lives
When we first joined fab our couples profile had 300 messages in an afternoon, by the following day we were over 400 and within 48hrs over 600
We get nothing like that now but some do & it's daunting and it's impossible to manage/acknowledge everyone & why should you, especially when it's obvious they've only checked out your pictures and not looked at your profile
We put a polite message up asking people not to messsge more than once yet still we'd get repeat messages people being rude saying I can see you're online but you've not looked at my messages making our job of getting through the kesssges even harder (yes it really began to feel like a job rather than a bit of fun)
The site rules clearly state no reply means no thank you & as to the blocking don't take them personally it's likely they just don't think you're a great match so it's a great way from you appearing in each other's feeds in the future & wasting each other's time, yes a polite no thanks would be nicer but unfortunately just because you'd accept that most wouldn't, most people would send another message either trying to change your mind or being abusive saying things like I was lowering my standards messaging you in the first place
I think the site rules like no reply means no thanks, blocking isn't personal needs to be made clearer in the sign up process so to stop the disappointment guys like you feel on a daily basis "
All very good points. I totally get that.
It’s less about whinging and more about the principle. Of course people can do whatever they like. I just think it’s a bit of a shame that it’s not quite the inclusive community I’d expected. All good either way.
I actually do ok on here so I’m not complaining. I just wanted to raise the issue. Guessing it may have raised many times before though.  |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"Just to clarify, I’m not against blocking. It’s just a bit weird when they’ve made first contact and the conversation has gone well. Nothing that could put someone off anyway.
Not an issue for me. Just seems a bit odd."
Your message was "nothing that could put anyone off", and yet....
Maybe not for you to say how people should feel?
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"So this morning a shadow avatar with no public pictures and a one line bio sent a message out of the blue saying he was free for the next 2 hours could he come to our house for a threesome?
He’d obviously attached the obligatory cock pic but no face.
What respect does this fuckwit deserve? "
Absolutely none. |
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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago
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I had mail from a female . She made a comment, once I realised what the message was about.One of my profile photo’s. I read, deleted mail. Then got a very sarcastic new message . She had taken offence because I did not reply. Deleted second message and blocked.  |
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