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It certainly doesn’t get any easier as you get to 50 as a lot of people have that as an age limit. But hang on in there, as you need patience as a guy on fab, at any age, due to the sheer number compared to the women or couples on here. |
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"Seems to be an awful lot of gay men on here to be honest and men pretending to be a couple - defiantly not a lot of women. It’s not as good as I remembered years ago "
Why is it a problem to have gay men on here? They not allowed to swing?
There is plenty of women.
How do you mean not as good as years ago? Is it as like op due to the 50, or Is not as good as years ago in general? Or is it not as good as years ago because you struggle as your 50 but years ago were 35/40 and found more people who's age filter you fitted? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes it is more difficult but just go with the flow and don’t over worry. Quality is always better than quantity. Your still in good shape and that is the secret. J |
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"Seems to be an awful lot of gay men on here to be honest and men pretending to be a couple - defiantly not a lot of women. It’s not as good as I remembered years ago "
I’d worry more about the timewasters and fantasists. At least with those that are openly gay or bi, you know exactly where you stand.  |
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By *hrobinhood OP Man
over a year ago
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"Seems to be an awful lot of gay men on here to be honest and men pretending to be a couple - defiantly not a lot of women. It’s not as good as I remembered years ago
Why is it a problem to have gay men on here? They not allowed to swing?
There is plenty of women.
How do you mean not as good as years ago? Is it as like op due to the 50, or Is not as good as years ago in general? Or is it not as good as years ago because you struggle as your 50 but years ago were 35/40 and found more people who's age filter you fitted? "
I don’t have a problem with gay men, I’m just saying that’s the only ones I get fabbing my photos etc |
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"Seems to be an awful lot of gay men on here to be honest and men pretending to be a couple - defiantly not a lot of women. It’s not as good as I remembered years ago
Why is it a problem to have gay men on here? They not allowed to swing?
There is plenty of women.
How do you mean not as good as years ago? Is it as like op due to the 50, or Is not as good as years ago in general? Or is it not as good as years ago because you struggle as your 50 but years ago were 35/40 and found more people who's age filter you fitted? "
Its a problem if you are NOT gay - state on your profile you are not into men but get approached anyway.
Being gay doesnt give you the right to ignore anothers preferances especially if its made clear that one isnt into MALE/MALE entertaining or any other qualification like 5cat or baby play etc.
Its a lack of respect basically.
As I am bi curious - this is not a dig at the outright gay community.
I potentially like the idea of sucking a mans cock with my female partner or fucklicking etc. But I am not interested in receiving anal or kissing a man. Its very specific. So if you state no then why approach? I dont get it. |
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"Seems to be an awful lot of gay men on here to be honest and men pretending to be a couple - defiantly not a lot of women. It’s not as good as I remembered years ago
Why is it a problem to have gay men on here? They not allowed to swing?
There is plenty of women.
How do you mean not as good as years ago? Is it as like op due to the 50, or Is not as good as years ago in general? Or is it not as good as years ago because you struggle as your 50 but years ago were 35/40 and found more people who's age filter you fitted?
Its a problem if you are NOT gay - state on your profile you are not into men but get approached anyway.
Being gay doesnt give you the right to ignore anothers preferances especially if its made clear that one isnt into MALE/MALE entertaining or any other qualification like 5cat or baby play etc.
Its a lack of respect basically.
As I am bi curious - this is not a dig at the outright gay community.
I potentially like the idea of sucking a mans cock with my female partner or fucklicking etc. But I am not interested in receiving anal or kissing a man. Its very specific. So if you state no then why approach? I dont get it. "
He was complaining about having gay men fab his pics. Not about them messaging. I state exactly what I want in my profile but don't stop who I don't want to meet from messaging. You can just bloke men and look for them yourself. |
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"Seems to get much harder once I hit 50 to get any sort of social meet up these days?
Don’t even get fabs on my photos from females just seems to be lots of men  "
Maybe it will be easier if you approach people closer to your own age bracket instead on someone in their twenties? Just my 2 cents worth, but there are lots of women with age limits set over 50. |
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"Seems to get much harder once I hit 50 to get any sort of social meet up these days?
Don’t even get fabs on my photos from females just seems to be lots of men
Maybe it will be easier if you approach people closer to your own age bracket instead on someone in their twenties? Just my 2 cents worth, but there are lots of women with age limits set over 50."
Just saw his age range is 21 to 60.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer late 40’s/early 50’s for a variety of reasons. Your photos are great so personally I don’t see why you would struggle. Maybe clubs or large socials are the way forward |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seems to get much harder once I hit 50 to get any sort of social meet up these days?
Don’t even get fabs on my photos from females just seems to be lots of men "
We're only just over the 50 mark, but haven't noticed any less people interested in us. |
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Hi,
I am late fifties, nudging sixty. I have met several really interesting people through Fab, who I would otherwise never come in to contact with.
The key is what you put in. I would strongly recommend attending one of the organised socials.
Contributing to the fora is another way to make Fab work. But remember the adage: 'It is better to write nothing and be thought a twat, than to write something and prove you are a twat'
Happy fabbing |
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Just saw his age range is 21 to 60.
Age is just a number 
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...but you express a preference 
Well you can’t switch it off so had to put something "
But you can change it. |
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By *ak4uMan
over a year ago
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"Seems to get much harder once I hit 50 to get any sort of social meet up these days?
Don’t even get fabs on my photos from females just seems to be lots of men "
Wait till you get to 65…..
It just gets better…..lol |
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Just saw his age range is 21 to 60.
Age is just a number
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...but you express a preference
Well you can’t switch it off so had to put something
But you can change it. "
Hi and love you out vids Dolly x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seems to get much harder once I hit 50 to get any sort of social meet up these days?
Don’t even get fabs on my photos from females just seems to be lots of men "
Think of it more as choosing a bottle of wine.
An aged full bodied Chilean merlot is an acquired palette appreciated by those who have gone beyond the box of Piat Dor from booze busters.
Fresh fruity and boasting an interesting vintage. Served with a nice lean steak...........the perfect combination? |
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There have been so many threads on here about getting to 50 and feeling left out, but there are lots of over-50's in all categories. I think a well written and clear profile, well-chosen pictures, searching for people who really match your needs and appropriate messaging - and a lot of patience - will get you there in the end. It has done for me and I'm well ahead of OP in the age range. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe all of the over 50’s who are moaning about no interest could all get together?
Lol. I tried on an over fifties thread to get people chatting to each other. Tumble!  ."
That’s a shame, could have solved the issue |
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By *hrobinhood OP Man
over a year ago
arnold, Nottingham |
"Maybe all of the over 50’s who are moaning about no interest could all get together?
Lol. I tried on an over fifties thread to get people chatting to each other. Tumble! ."
I missed that thread then |
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By *exfordMan
over a year ago
discombobulated land |
"It's a common complaint from men over 50 and under 30. One say they're too old the other they're too young.
What do you suggest?"
You're not allowed to put your age on the profile.. similar to your CV ... Only kidding 
It's very true but all you can do is try to approach people correctly and sell yourself. If they ain't interested there's no point pushing it.. Just move on... |
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"Maybe all of the over 50’s who are moaning about no interest could all get together?
Lol. I tried on an over fifties thread to get people chatting to each other. Tumble! .
I missed that thread then "
I can't find it now but I asked open ended questions, three days in a row. Admittedly they were inane weather related, what are you doing today type questions but all interaction has to start somewhere. I think the thing is that we have to put the groundwork in, network, chat to people regardless of whether we're interested in meeting them. It might lead to chatting to people we are interested in meeting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think maybe peoples mindsets have changed over the last few years with lockdowns different ways of working etc
I was on here a while back and made some lovely friends and select meets . I became ill pre Covid not related .
I have returned and finding it very difficult to engage etc
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have had some quite rude personal comments etc uncalled for I’m always polite old fashioned type person
Perhaps people like the opposite but can’t change how you are |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seems to be an awful lot of gay men on here to be honest and men pretending to be a couple - defiantly not a lot of women. It’s not as good as I remembered years ago "
There are not actually that many fully gay men on here, mainly bisexual |
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FABs age limits and setting them does mean some couples setting limits will miss out.
We met a young couple in a club and we're 10 years over their limit but we had such fun, she in particular expressed her surprise and we are friends so can message when otherwise we'd not be able to.
Age limits don't change automatically. And people don't know or too lazy to update.
On our humble opinion... |
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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago
Coventry |
"Seems to get much harder once I hit 50 to get any sort of social meet up these days?
Don’t even get fabs on my photos from females just seems to be lots of men "
Forget age. We find club night are the beat way to meet folk. |
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"I agree
Not sure anyone here enjoys meeting guys 50 plus?
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Things may be tough for the over 50's and even more so for us over 60's but there's still fun to be had, a quick review of verifications show that. The problem however is that many folks rate physical beauty over experience and if given the choice will opt for the younger model. |
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I didn't join here until I was 52 and my age has never been an issue or a topic of conversation.
I haven't sent a first contact message since the beginning of 2020 and every conversation since has been initiated by women who contact me.
It only becomes an issue if you make it one or highlight it as a possible deterrent. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find that now I'm 50+ it doesn't seem to matter, of course they are always going to people, woman and couples that are looking for younger, that is their progative, for me age is just a number, if I'm attracted to them that's all that matters |
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"I didn't join here until I was 52 and my age has never been an issue or a topic of conversation.
I haven't sent a first contact message since the beginning of 2020 and every conversation since has been initiated by women who contact me.
It only becomes an issue if you make it one or highlight it as a possible deterrent. "
Well done. You have a great profile and veris to back it up which helps but you are definitely an outlier as I doubt if many 30 or 40 year old men nevermind 50+ guys could have the same experience and rely totally on ladies contacting them.
Five years ago I did get the ocassional unsolicited message from ladies or couples but now even when I put it on my status there's no interest. |
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"I didn't join here until I was 52 and my age has never been an issue or a topic of conversation.
I haven't sent a first contact message since the beginning of 2020 and every conversation since has been initiated by women who contact me.
It only becomes an issue if you make it one or highlight it as a possible deterrent.
Well done. You have a great profile and veris to back it up which helps but you are definitely an outlier as I doubt if many 30 or 40 year old men nevermind 50+ guys could have the same experience and rely totally on ladies contacting them.
Five years ago I did get the ocassional unsolicited message from ladies or couples but now even when I put it on my status there's no interest. "
I've never asked on a status. I just let the work I put into my profile and my forum engagement encourage people to get in touch. They've already made their own decision by that stage. |
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"Seems to get much harder once I hit 50 to get any sort of social meet up these days?
Don’t even get fabs on my photos from females just seems to be lots of men "
Being over 50 doesn’t make men less attractive, it just means we fall outside the Fab golden barrier of 45. The Fab ‘Holy Trinity’ for profile skin reads is;
Under 45;
6ft or over;
Can accommodate.
After that, it boils down to how convenient you are to match when they can meet 
Women rarely Fab pics it’s true, but it’s because they worry you will see that as a ‘come on’, and start messaging. If they like you, and want you to message, they’ll wink.
Yes, there’s lots of men who Fab men’s pics, and men desperate for a release anywhere they can find it, so meeting other men desperate for a release for ‘cock fun’, can’t be bad can it?  Just keep your message filters up and enjoy some appreciation from wherever it comes
Just be you. Chat shit in the forums. Keep running your local searches for potential matches. Block anyone you don’t match, that way you filter down to a handful you may match with. Fab is good at any age. Good luck  |
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Good morning over 50s people.
How's everyone doing?
Any plans?
What's the weather like your way? It's blowy here and a bit cooler. Still got my trusty cut down Levi's on though.
Did anyone watch Glastonbury or better still go? |
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"Seems to get much harder once I hit 50 to get any sort of social meet up these days?
Don’t even get fabs on my photos from females just seems to be lots of men
Think of it more as choosing a bottle of wine.
An aged full bodied Chilean merlot is an acquired palette appreciated by those who have gone beyond the box of Piat Dor from booze busters.
Fresh fruity and boasting an interesting vintage. Served with a nice lean steak...........the perfect combination? "
Tell me where this booze busters is  |
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"Seems to get much harder once I hit 50 to get any sort of social meet up these days?
Don’t even get fabs on my photos from females just seems to be lots of men
Being over 50 doesn’t make men less attractive, it just means we fall outside the Fab golden barrier of 45. The Fab ‘Holy Trinity’ for profile skin reads is;
Under 45;
6ft or over;
Can accommodate.
After that, it boils down to how convenient you are to match when they can meet
Women rarely Fab pics it’s true, but it’s because they worry you will see that as a ‘come on’, and start messaging. If they like you, and want you to message, they’ll wink.
Yes, there’s lots of men who Fab men’s pics, and men desperate for a release anywhere they can find it, so meeting other men desperate for a release for ‘cock fun’, can’t be bad can it? Just keep your message filters up and enjoy some appreciation from wherever it comes
Just be you. Chat shit in the forums. Keep running your local searches for potential matches. Block anyone you don’t match, that way you filter down to a handful you may match with. Fab is good at any age. Good luck "
I love a nosey and a fab of pics. Your right though, as its often mistaken for alot more than just i like your pic. |
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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago
Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands |
"Good morning over 50s people.
How's everyone doing?
Any plans?
What's the weather like your way? It's blowy here and a bit cooler. Still got my trusty cut down Levi's on though.
Did anyone watch Glastonbury or better still go?"
Wet and windy this morning but blue skies now, too late to hang out the washing though.
Taken aback this morning at the price increases at Morrisons in the last 7 days.
Sadly lost interest in Glastonbury years ago. goes with the age . When it comes to music I am definately living in the past. |
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By *hrobinhood OP Man
over a year ago
arnold, Nottingham |
"Seems to get much harder once I hit 50 to get any sort of social meet up these days?
Don’t even get fabs on my photos from females just seems to be lots of men
Being over 50 doesn’t make men less attractive, it just means we fall outside the Fab golden barrier of 45. The Fab ‘Holy Trinity’ for profile skin reads is;
Under 45;
6ft or over;
Can accommodate.
After that, it boils down to how convenient you are to match when they can meet
Women rarely Fab pics it’s true, but it’s because they worry you will see that as a ‘come on’, and start messaging. If they like you, and want you to message, they’ll wink.
Yes, there’s lots of men who Fab men’s pics, and men desperate for a release anywhere they can find it, so meeting other men desperate for a release for ‘cock fun’, can’t be bad can it? Just keep your message filters up and enjoy some appreciation from wherever it comes
Just be you. Chat shit in the forums. Keep running your local searches for potential matches. Block anyone you don’t match, that way you filter down to a handful you may match with. Fab is good at any age. Good luck
I love a nosey and a fab of pics. Your right though, as its often mistaken for alot more than just i like your pic. "
Nothing wrong with having a peek |
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"Good morning over 50s people.
How's everyone doing?
Any plans?
What's the weather like your way? It's blowy here and a bit cooler. Still got my trusty cut down Levi's on though.
Did anyone watch Glastonbury or better still go?
Wet and windy this morning but blue skies now, too late to hang out the washing though.
Taken aback this morning at the price increases at Morrisons in the last 7 days.
Sadly lost interest in Glastonbury years ago. goes with the age . When it comes to music I am definately living in the past."
Hello Tarkus, price increases are shocking aren't they!
Hope you can get your washing out tomorrow |
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