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I enjoy swinging but would much prefer to enjoy it with a female friend
Someone not just to go to clubs/meets with but to go out for meals, drinks etc but I don’t want them 24/7 if that makes sense without sounding selfish
Iv tried dating sites but no joy, am I been unrealistic? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I enjoy swinging but would much prefer to enjoy it with a female friend
Someone not just to go to clubs/meets with but to go out for meals, drinks etc but I don’t want them 24/7 if that makes sense without sounding selfish
Iv tried dating sites but no joy, am I been unrealistic?"
I know exactly what you mean m8.don't give up . There's plenty of girls on here who are looking for the same as you m8.  |
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I think it's more than a FWB when you do that. I use the term playmate as I think it's kinder than FWB. If you have no romantic connection and it is purely platonic with sex and company, FWB/playmate fits the bill. When assumptions are made on either side about what you might be, that causes hurt sometimes.
A platonic playmate is possible to have but then you get people who are solo poly. This is where you can have multiple connections on a romantic level but you never mix them into your daily life. Everything is kept separate.
I assume what you are looking for is companionship,lighthearted fun and sex. It's a relationship of a sort but the label depends on any feelings involved.
Keep it simple if you do get a lady who wants what you do 
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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago
Wombwell, Barnsley |
Good luck Op. This is what I want too, but I've been on here many years and it hasn't happened yet. Just enjoy your time on fab and keep an open mind. You never know what the future might bring. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I don't think you're being unrealistic, you can definitely find it. A poster above used the term solo poly - using that might help you to find those who are more compatible with what you're looking for. Not wanting someone in your pockets 24/7 is understandable, as is wanting a connection with someone, a friendship with which you feel comfortable enough to explore things. |
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I think mr B and I have that kind of relationship/friendship. We don’t want to be together 24/7 or live together, we both like our own space we have a great sex life, love each other’s company and equally love our own space.
It’s taken us a while to get the right balance, we can be vulnerable and open with each other, we are very close but it’s more companionship really and to be honest I don’t think it needs a label, some people don’t understand it but like I’ve said before to someone it’s actually nobody else’s business and we like it how it is, no expectations and mutual respect
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im looking for the exact same thing.. it can happen on hear but unfortunately it seems like this site is becoming less and less a swingingers site and more fake profiles or time wasting pricks.. but good luck to you OP |
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"I think mr B and I have that kind of relationship/friendship. We don’t want to be together 24/7 or live together, we both like our own space we have a great sex life, love each other’s company and equally love our own space.
It’s taken us a while to get the right balance, we can be vulnerable and open with each other, we are very close but it’s more companionship really and to be honest I don’t think it needs a label, some people don’t understand it but like I’ve said before to someone it’s actually nobody else’s business and we like it how it is, no expectations and mutual respect
Ms "
Sounds like a good relationship |
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"Im looking for the exact same thing.. it can happen on hear but unfortunately it seems like this site is becoming less and less a swingingers site and more fake profiles or time wasting pricks.. but good luck to you OP"
Totally agree with you mate |
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"I think it's more than a FWB when you do that. I use the term playmate as I think it's kinder than FWB. If you have no romantic connection and it is purely platonic with sex and company, FWB/playmate fits the bill. When assumptions are made on either side about what you might be, that causes hurt sometimes.
A platonic playmate is possible to have but then you get people who are solo poly. This is where you can have multiple connections on a romantic level but you never mix them into your daily life. Everything is kept separate.
I assume what you are looking for is companionship,lighthearted fun and sex. It's a relationship of a sort but the label depends on any feelings involved.
Keep it simple if you do get a lady who wants what you do
A "
Thanks for the advice kinkyduo I like the Phrase platonic playmate…. Much nicer |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is exactly what we look for in a playmate, be it male or female. We are a polyamourous couple and we look for people who want to form a friendship with us... do social things with us as well as the sex.
Most people don't get this idea but those that do we can form lasting friendships with and everything is so much better!. |
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This is exactly what I've found
I have a wonderful relationship with my FWB we have meals chats and laughs ...great sex but we're both free spirited and go off and do our own thing when we want to with no ties or commitment  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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This is what I have with my Fwb. We talk every day on messages when we are not together. We can watch a movie or go get food but also happy with the swinging world and we are completely natural. He's my best friend with the added benefits. But I told him I will never wash his socks and family aren't sticking their noses in and making things difficult. We are happy how we are and actually the poster above described it as platonic playmates and I agree. I like that description. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is what I have with my Fwb. We talk every day on messages when we are not together. We can watch a movie or go get food but also happy with the swinging world and we are completely natural. He's my best friend with the added benefits. But I told him I will never wash his socks and family aren't sticking their noses in and making things difficult. We are happy how we are and actually the poster above described it as platonic playmates and I agree. I like that description. "
Perfect |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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there are plenty looking but for every one woman looking there will be a 100 men so its very very onesided ..
also with these types of friendships do you expect exclustivity or not ?
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There's a huge spectrum ranging across freindship, sex and love. Anything, anywhere on that is mutually rewarding is perfectly good and valid.
However we're all humans and sometimes the scope of that desire may deviate in one but not the other. If so that's where you need to both be grown adults and able to find a way forward or be prepared to split. So whatever the nature of your arrangement pick someone who is not a dick and is good at communication. Good communication is valuable in all arrangements, not just serious long terms romantic ones. Likewise don't be a dick yourself, be open and not selfish. |
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This is what I would love to find/achieve a non cohabiting, open, fun situation where we can also do social things…
But it doesn’t have a label and it’s hard to describe to others even in the swinging world let alone vanilla world!
I don’t want to live with someone else or be exclusive and I’m perfectly happy sharing either separately or as a “couple” but it seems a fairly elusive thing to find |
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Not unrealistic but there are so many more men who want this than women so the odds are against you. I'm very much the odd one out being a woman who also likes this. But they do have to become friends. |
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By *4DY-FWoman
over a year ago
Newcastle |
This is what I’ve been looking for but, it’s not easy to find.
The last guy I met and spoke with about it, 100% wanted the same…and then dropped in that we can do bare back sex first time then now that we’re going to be regulars…
I’m now taking a break  |
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My fwb experience was that we laughed a lot while still just having a meet every now and again this made us look forward to meeting ?
Then our timings seemed to come together and we could have a fwb situation which was great until our work timings differed and we couldn’t make time for each other |
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My mrs said when she agreed to cuckold me that she would only be interested in a FWB and would want to do all the other things the OP was after.
So, no I don't think what OP is after is unrealistic at all. |
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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago
Up North |
"I enjoy swinging but would much prefer to enjoy it with a female friend
Someone not just to go to clubs/meets with but to go out for meals, drinks etc but I don’t want them 24/7 if that makes sense without sounding selfish
Iv tried dating sites but no joy, am I been unrealistic?"
This is what I would like. Hang out sometimes go to clubs but I’m not looking for a relationship |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
We're very open to the idea of a FWB/FB/boyfriend type for Char. It's obviously got to be someone that she genuinely likes and has shared interests with, but ideally looking for a regular, once a week date night or overnight, sometimes going out, other times at home, sometimes with me at home and other times not.
We wouldn't look for exclusivity and wouldn't offer it, but we like the thought that she's "his" for the day/evening/night.
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
Maidstone |
"This it what I want too and stuck how to label it also. Best I could manage was relationship without you moving your stuff in  "
Mmm to me "not moving in" feels like a full fledged relationship already!
There is that "first refusal" thing where on a Friday or Saturday evening, they get "first refusal" to be with you but otherwise you're both free to get on without each other...
1. Shags
2. FwB
3. First Refusal
4. Relationship but not move in
5. Formally an item |
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Haven’t looked in this thread for a while but there’s some very sexy people all looking for the same
I’m still on the look out, how you dress it up is up to you. Friend with benefits, friend that doesn’t move in etc
Thank you for your comments and private messages unfortunately most people are too far away |
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"I think mr B and I have that kind of relationship/friendship. We don’t want to be together 24/7 or live together, we both like our own space we have a great sex life, love each other’s company and equally love our own space.
It’s taken us a while to get the right balance, we can be vulnerable and open with each other, we are very close but it’s more companionship really and to be honest I don’t think it needs a label, some people don’t understand it but like I’ve said before to someone it’s actually nobody else’s business and we like it how it is, no expectations and mutual respect
Ms "
We have something similar and as you say if it works it doesn't need a label or anyone else's approval. |
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By *r laidbackMan
over a year ago
London & New Brighton |
Your looking for an open relationship, your be surprised in just how many women are cool with that too, its the not calling it for what it is and lying, not giving them that choice is what they cant take, personally if you can go clubs with her and your both cool with each other, thats worth trying a relationship, just take it slow, wish u the best |
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