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By *ebwiz OP Man
over a year ago
Clevedon |
Guess its not just me, messaging and maybe photos either end for over an hour, but cant get the other party to commit to a time or place, eventually you just give up messaging as you can only say, well shall we do this, a couple of times. Dont get why people do this. Its not like we can sit here all day sending stuff with no progression to anything fun. Guess this is why most use clubs or parties. |
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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago
Wombwell, Barnsley |
"I don't think an hour is overly long. I have messaged some people for weeks before arranging a meet"
I agree. I don't think an hour's long. Sometimes I've chatted to people for weeks/months on and off before arranging a meet. |
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By *eeJMan
over a year ago
Warrington |
Call me harsh, but there should be a flagging system to publicly flag time wasters on their profiles.
A moderator then looks into your message history to confirm the flag on the persons profile.
I did a near hour round trip last week to meet someone who went offline after saying he was 10 mins away. He’s not been online since, yeh he might have died but most likely he was a timewaste4  |
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By *9alMan
over a year ago
Bridgend |
"Guess its not just me, messaging and maybe photos either end for over an hour, but cant get the other party to commit to a time or place, eventually you just give up messaging as you can only say, well shall we do this, a couple of times. Dont get why people do this. Its not like we can sit here all day sending stuff with no progression to anything fun. Guess this is why most use clubs or parties. "
it is annoying it seams the more messages you exchange the less lightly you are going to meet. if you have got to 4 messages & not decided when & where they are wasting your time & will never meet . |
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"I had the same for a couple of weeks arranged to meet this friday and now silence no contact !
If you just wanna have naughty chat its fine just make it known !"
Exactly this
If its a chat great, no problems with that.
Its not asking and trying to arrange a meet and endless ping pong |
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"Guess its not just me, messaging and maybe photos either end for over an hour, but cant get the other party to commit to a time or place, eventually you just give up messaging as you can only say, well shall we do this, a couple of times. Dont get why people do this. Its not like we can sit here all day sending stuff with no progression to anything fun. Guess this is why most use clubs or parties. "
An hour? Jeez |
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"I don't think an hour is overly long. I have messaged some people for weeks before arranging a meet"
Absolutely agree with this, I’m the same. Not only does it build anticipation you get to see if you connect sexually, if you are into the same things. Definitely important if you have kinks. I would never decide to seriously meet someone after an hour. I need to know the sex is what we are both looking for, it makes the experience so Much better. I have not had one bad experience from doing it that way and they have all been repeaters |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Call me harsh, but there should be a flagging system to publicly flag time wasters on their profiles.
A moderator then looks into your message history to confirm the flag on the persons profile.
I did a near hour round trip last week to meet someone who went offline after saying he was 10 mins away. He’s not been online since, yeh he might have died but most likely he was a timewaste4 "
Not agreeing to meet after an hour of chatting is not being a time waster, sounds like the OP was being pushy which resulted in them losing interest |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Guess its not just me, messaging and maybe photos either end for over an hour, but cant get the other party to commit to a time or place, eventually you just give up messaging as you can only say, well shall we do this, a couple of times. Dont get why people do this. Its not like we can sit here all day sending stuff with no progression to anything fun. Guess this is why most use clubs or parties.
it is annoying it seams the more messages you exchange the less lightly you are going to meet. if you have got to 4 messages & not decided when & where they are wasting your time & will never meet ."
What a load of rubbish |
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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago
Wombwell, Barnsley |
" Guess this is why most use clubs or parties. "
Do most people go to clubs or parties? Not sure of membership numbers on fab, but must be in 10s of 1000s. I've met plenty of people without doing either. |
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"Guess its not just me, messaging and maybe photos either end for over an hour, but cant get the other party to commit to a time or place, eventually you just give up messaging as you can only say, well shall we do this, a couple of times. Dont get why people do this. Its not like we can sit here all day sending stuff with no progression to anything fun. Guess this is why most use clubs or parties.
it is annoying it seams the more messages you exchange the less lightly you are going to meet. if you have got to 4 messages & not decided when & where they are wasting your time & will never meet ."
Well I’m looking for more than a quick vanilla fumble so if I chat for more than 4 messages and don’t say I want to meet I’m a time waster? |
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"Guess its not just me, messaging and maybe photos either end for over an hour, but cant get the other party to commit to a time or place, eventually you just give up messaging as you can only say, well shall we do this, a couple of times. Dont get why people do this. Its not like we can sit here all day sending stuff with no progression to anything fun. Guess this is why most use clubs or parties. "
What a load of rubbish!
Would you be comfortable with your daughter/sister to meet a stranger off the Internet to have sex with them after exchanging messages with them for less than an hour?
If the answer is "no" why would you expect any woman do meet you in exact same scenario?
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"Guess its not just me, messaging and maybe photos either end for over an hour, but cant get the other party to commit to a time or place, eventually you just give up messaging as you can only say, well shall we do this, a couple of times. Dont get why people do this. Its not like we can sit here all day sending stuff with no progression to anything fun. Guess this is why most use clubs or parties.
it is annoying it seams the more messages you exchange the less lightly you are going to meet. if you have got to 4 messages & not decided when & where they are wasting your time & will never meet .
Well I’m looking for more than a quick vanilla fumble so if I chat for more than 4 messages and don’t say I want to meet I’m a time waster? "
Entitled men thinking women should just be tripping over themselves for a two pump wonder with an Internet stranger springs to mind  |
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"Guess its not just me, messaging and maybe photos either end for over an hour, but cant get the other party to commit to a time or place, eventually you just give up messaging as you can only say, well shall we do this, a couple of times. Dont get why people do this. Its not like we can sit here all day sending stuff with no progression to anything fun. Guess this is why most use clubs or parties.
it is annoying it seams the more messages you exchange the less lightly you are going to meet. if you have got to 4 messages & not decided when & where they are wasting your time & will never meet .
Well I’m looking for more than a quick vanilla fumble so if I chat for more than 4 messages and don’t say I want to meet I’m a time waster?
Entitled men thinking women should just be tripping over themselves for a two pump wonder with an Internet stranger springs to mind "
Exactly this. I feel just because they don’t mind having sex with anything with a pulse we should all be the same. Well I know what I want and they can call me a time waster all they want, I know at least I’m having quality sex with great people |
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By *9alMan
over a year ago
Bridgend |
"Guess its not just me, messaging and maybe photos either end for over an hour, but cant get the other party to commit to a time or place, eventually you just give up messaging as you can only say, well shall we do this, a couple of times. Dont get why people do this. Its not like we can sit here all day sending stuff with no progression to anything fun. Guess this is why most use clubs or parties.
it is annoying it seams the more messages you exchange the less lightly you are going to meet. if you have got to 4 messages & not decided when & where they are wasting your time & will never meet .
Well I’m looking for more than a quick vanilla fumble so if I chat for more than 4 messages and don’t say I want to meet I’m a time waster? "
it is possible to convey a lot of information in 4 messages particularly if they are not: hi, lol ,MMM , etc |
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"Guess its not just me, messaging and maybe photos either end for over an hour, but cant get the other party to commit to a time or place, eventually you just give up messaging as you can only say, well shall we do this, a couple of times. Dont get why people do this. Its not like we can sit here all day sending stuff with no progression to anything fun. Guess this is why most use clubs or parties.
it is annoying it seams the more messages you exchange the less lightly you are going to meet. if you have got to 4 messages & not decided when & where they are wasting your time & will never meet .
Well I’m looking for more than a quick vanilla fumble so if I chat for more than 4 messages and don’t say I want to meet I’m a time waster?
Entitled men thinking women should just be tripping over themselves for a two pump wonder with an Internet stranger springs to mind
Exactly this. I feel just because they don’t mind having sex with anything with a pulse we should all be the same. Well I know what I want and they can call me a time waster all they want, I know at least I’m having quality sex with great people"
The amount of time it takes for a woman to prepare to have sex (everything from a bath, shave, hair, make up, lingerie, tan/nails (for some) ) should never ever be longer than the foreplay and sex itself.
I mean if I wanted a meaningless two minute pump I'd use a dildo - at least there would be no awkwardness after and that dildo has zero potential of turning out to be a serial killer or giving me herpes  |
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"Guess its not just me, messaging and maybe photos either end for over an hour, but cant get the other party to commit to a time or place, eventually you just give up messaging as you can only say, well shall we do this, a couple of times. Dont get why people do this. Its not like we can sit here all day sending stuff with no progression to anything fun. Guess this is why most use clubs or parties.
it is annoying it seams the more messages you exchange the less lightly you are going to meet. if you have got to 4 messages & not decided when & where they are wasting your time & will never meet .
Well I’m looking for more than a quick vanilla fumble so if I chat for more than 4 messages and don’t say I want to meet I’m a time waster?
Entitled men thinking women should just be tripping over themselves for a two pump wonder with an Internet stranger springs to mind
Exactly this. I feel just because they don’t mind having sex with anything with a pulse we should all be the same. Well I know what I want and they can call me a time waster all they want, I know at least I’m having quality sex with great people
The amount of time it takes for a woman to prepare to have sex (everything from a bath, shave, hair, make up, lingerie, tan/nails (for some) ) should never ever be longer than the foreplay and sex itself.
I mean if I wanted a meaningless two minute pump I'd use a dildo - at least there would be no awkwardness after and that dildo has zero potential of turning out to be a serial killer or giving me herpes "
Hallelujah preach to the already converted. Speaking my language  |
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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago
west midlands |
I would never arrange a meet after only chatting for an hour, if a man can't be bothered to put the time and effort in to chat to get to know each other then I have no interest in meeting. I am meeting someone tonight who I have been chatting to on and off for a while now, way more than 4 msgs exchanged, I am feeling comfortable about meeting him and looking forward to it. |
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By *ebwiz OP Man
over a year ago
Clevedon |
"Guess its not just me, messaging and maybe photos either end for over an hour, but cant get the other party to commit to a time or place, eventually you just give up messaging as you can only say, well shall we do this, a couple of times. Dont get why people do this. Its not like we can sit here all day sending stuff with no progression to anything fun. Guess this is why most use clubs or parties.
What a load of rubbish!
Would you be comfortable with your daughter/sister to meet a stranger off the Internet to have sex with them after exchanging messages with them for less than an hour?
If the answer is "no" why would you expect any woman do meet you in exact same scenario?
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it was a couple and i asked if they would prefer to meet publicly rather than a person unknown arrive on there doorstep. This got no response. |
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over a year ago
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"Guess its not just me, messaging and maybe photos either end for over an hour, but cant get the other party to commit to a time or place, eventually you just give up messaging as you can only say, well shall we do this, a couple of times. Dont get why people do this. Its not like we can sit here all day sending stuff with no progression to anything fun. Guess this is why most use clubs or parties.
What a load of rubbish!
Would you be comfortable with your daughter/sister to meet a stranger off the Internet to have sex with them after exchanging messages with them for less than an hour?
If the answer is "no" why would you expect any woman do meet you in exact same scenario?
it was a couple and i asked if they would prefer to meet publicly rather than a person unknown arrive on there doorstep. This got no response. "
All the women's comments are sailing right over your head aren't they |
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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago
Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds |
"Guess its not just me, messaging and maybe photos either end for over an hour, but cant get the other party to commit to a time or place, eventually you just give up messaging as you can only say, well shall we do this, a couple of times. Dont get why people do this. Its not like we can sit here all day sending stuff with no progression to anything fun. Guess this is why most use clubs or parties.
it is annoying it seams the more messages you exchange the less lightly you are going to meet. if you have got to 4 messages & not decided when & where they are wasting your time & will never meet ."
This is not a sex site. If you want that then bugger off to some other skanky corner of the internet.
We are all primarily kinksters and/or swingers and typically that involves building a bond before meeting in private.
All this talk of "4 messages" or "an hour" is absolutely laughable. Didn't you get your ickle pickle wet? Boohoo. Talking about wanting to publicly name and shame people for not bowing to you? We need fewer people like this in the lifestyle. Some of us have been in it for decades while you have been eyeing up as soon as you saw the term "swinging" on Pornhub.
Shut up, sit down and be patient.
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By *ebwiz OP Man
over a year ago
Clevedon |
"Guess its not just me, messaging and maybe photos either end for over an hour, but cant get the other party to commit to a time or place, eventually you just give up messaging as you can only say, well shall we do this, a couple of times. Dont get why people do this. Its not like we can sit here all day sending stuff with no progression to anything fun. Guess this is why most use clubs or parties.
What a load of rubbish!
Would you be comfortable with your daughter/sister to meet a stranger off the Internet to have sex with them after exchanging messages with them for less than an hour?
If the answer is "no" why would you expect any woman do meet you in exact same scenario?
it was a couple and i asked if they would prefer to meet publicly rather than a person unknown arrive on there doorstep. This got no response.
All the women's comments are sailing right over your head aren't they "
not at all, ive messaged some directly and get there point, but timing life commitment and plenty of other things i need to do means i dont get much spare time. This is why club nights or parties work better for me and i guess some others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Guess its not just me, messaging and maybe photos either end for over an hour, but cant get the other party to commit to a time or place, eventually you just give up messaging as you can only say, well shall we do this, a couple of times. Dont get why people do this. Its not like we can sit here all day sending stuff with no progression to anything fun. Guess this is why most use clubs or parties.
it is annoying it seams the more messages you exchange the less lightly you are going to meet. if you have got to 4 messages & not decided when & where they are wasting your time & will never meet .
Well I’m looking for more than a quick vanilla fumble so if I chat for more than 4 messages and don’t say I want to meet I’m a time waster?
Entitled men thinking women should just be tripping over themselves for a two pump wonder with an Internet stranger springs to mind
Exactly this. I feel just because they don’t mind having sex with anything with a pulse we should all be the same. Well I know what I want and they can call me a time waster all they want, I know at least I’m having quality sex with great people
The amount of time it takes for a woman to prepare to have sex (everything from a bath, shave, hair, make up, lingerie, tan/nails (for some) ) should never ever be longer than the foreplay and sex itself.
I mean if I wanted a meaningless two minute pump I'd use a dildo - at least there would be no awkwardness after and that dildo has zero potential of turning out to be a serial killer or giving me herpes "
Absolutely this! Not forgetting to tidy the house it’s not worth it most the time haha |
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Personelly it is not a set number of messages. I chat with them, we have a laugh, things progress or dont quite often. We either take it to whatsapp or kik or keep it here. Sometimes it is quicker than others. I enjoy the conversation, the titilation, flirty induendos and generally having a laugh with the lady.
For me it builds the anticipation and the excitment. Makes the actual meet more fun when you know a bit more about them too.
Good things come to those who wait |
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"Guess its not just me, messaging and maybe photos either end for over an hour, but cant get the other party to commit to a time or place, eventually you just give up messaging as you can only say, well shall we do this, a couple of times. Dont get why people do this. Its not like we can sit here all day sending stuff with no progression to anything fun. Guess this is why most use clubs or parties.
it is annoying it seams the more messages you exchange the less lightly you are going to meet. if you have got to 4 messages & not decided when & where they are wasting your time & will never meet .
This is not a sex site. If you want that then bugger off to some other skanky corner of the internet.
We are all primarily kinksters and/or swingers and typically that involves building a bond before meeting in private.
All this talk of "4 messages" or "an hour" is absolutely laughable. Didn't you get your ickle pickle wet? Boohoo. Talking about wanting to publicly name and shame people for not bowing to you? We need fewer people like this in the lifestyle. Some of us have been in it for decades while you have been eyeing up as soon as you saw the term "swinging" on Pornhub.
Shut up, sit down and be patient.
C"
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I'm looking for inexperienced and shy couples so I'm more than happy to take my time and build up a relationship first and see where it leads. I'm also happy to chat with anyone. Don't see what the problem is. |
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over a year ago
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I like to chat see if connect can take weeks or months with timing etc, we all have a life away from here thou have agreed say hello in club if visiting so can be a message with face so can recognise |
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"I had the same for a couple of weeks arranged to meet this friday and now silence no contact !
If you just wanna have naughty chat its fine just make it known !"
I would necessarily see that as a blow out
I rarely arrange meets that far in advance but if I do once it's arranged you'd probably only hear from me once or twice leading up to the meet, once a day or two beforehand to confirm it's going ahead and another on the day to reconfirm
Anything more and I'd find it suffocating, although I appreciate some enjoy the flirt during the build up, but we are all different so there's still hope for your meet, I've got my fingers crossed for you |
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"Guess its not just me, messaging and maybe photos either end for over an hour, but cant get the other party to commit to a time or place, eventually you just give up messaging as you can only say, well shall we do this, a couple of times. Dont get why people do this. Its not like we can sit here all day sending stuff with no progression to anything fun. Guess this is why most use clubs or parties.
it is annoying it seams the more messages you exchange the less lightly you are going to meet. if you have got to 4 messages & not decided when & where they are wasting your time & will never meet ."
Oh god, I'm doing this wrong. For all those I'm chatting to - if we've exceeded 4 messages, please get in touch to arrange the time to get down and dirty  |
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"Guess its not just me, messaging and maybe photos either end for over an hour, but cant get the other party to commit to a time or place, eventually you just give up messaging as you can only say, well shall we do this, a couple of times. Dont get why people do this. Its not like we can sit here all day sending stuff with no progression to anything fun. Guess this is why most use clubs or parties.
it is annoying it seams the more messages you exchange the less lightly you are going to meet. if you have got to 4 messages & not decided when & where they are wasting your time & will never meet .
This is not a sex site. If you want that then bugger off to some other skanky corner of the internet.
We are all primarily kinksters and/or swingers and typically that involves building a bond before meeting in private.
All this talk of "4 messages" or "an hour" is absolutely laughable. Didn't you get your ickle pickle wet? Boohoo. Talking about wanting to publicly name and shame people for not bowing to you? We need fewer people like this in the lifestyle. Some of us have been in it for decades while you have been eyeing up as soon as you saw the term "swinging" on Pornhub.
Shut up, sit down and be patient.
C"
Have to agree. Of course everybody is after something different. May be a few messages and then "wham bam thank you ma'am" might work for some; for others it needs to be more than that; just hoping someone is going to spread their legs or assume the position because you sent a few messages; it ain't going to happen and if ever it does it should be on their terms. Like many have said whilst sex will happen this is not a sex site. Otherwise all those complaining wouldn't as any lady would just have sex with the whole site and there wouldn't' be the need for threads like this. |
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"Guess its not just me, messaging and maybe photos either end for over an hour, but cant get the other party to commit to a time or place, eventually you just give up messaging as you can only say, well shall we do this, a couple of times. Dont get why people do this. Its not like we can sit here all day sending stuff with no progression to anything fun. Guess this is why most use clubs or parties.
it is annoying it seams the more messages you exchange the less lightly you are going to meet. if you have got to 4 messages & not decided when & where they are wasting your time & will never meet ."
Oops, looks like I just got caught up as a time waster. I apologise to all of you whom I have exchanged over 100 messages on here  |
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