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By *.D.I.D.A.S OP Man
over a year ago
London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact |
As nice as blowjobs can be, most blowjobs received aren't all that. If us men were all more honest, there'd probably be a lot of complaints raised. But in the end, this constructive criticism would lead to an increase in standards.
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over a year ago
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Personally speaking I’ve often found that girls who give amazing BJ’s don’t like doing it and those that aren’t so good love doing it. Although I hasten to add I’ve never had a bad one. However, although Elfie doesn’t do it that often, she does do it perfectly which is one of the many reasons I’m marrying her |
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"Personally speaking I’ve often found that girls who give amazing BJ’s don’t like doing it and those that aren’t so good love doing it. Although I hasten to add I’ve never had a bad one. However, although Elfie doesn’t do it that often, she does do it perfectly which is one of the many reasons I’m marrying her"
Probably because, to do it well its bloody exhausting and takes too much effort  |
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I love giving BJs and for me a bit of constructive criticism/ guiding hands are always useful.... what one guy likes isn't necessarily what another guy likes and so it's always good to have some honest, but kindly put  pointers as to what you boys like and then everyone's a winner
Vix x
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I'd be happy for a guy to guide, advise etc.. but rarely happens.. so I watch his responses and when I find those little ways to mix it up but make it work. I throughly enjoy doing it. Only thing I wont do is if a guy asks me to bite and be rough...it does nothing for me,so I will stop |
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By *.D.I.D.A.S OP Man
over a year ago
London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact |
Totally. I suspect there is room for improvement with myself when it comes to giving oral.
I propose to start an oral sex workshop for females. I will offer bespoke one to one feedback on your oral sex technique in exchange for the same critique of my techniques. Entirely free of charge.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My cock is in her warm mouth. Of course that’s nice. I’ve never had a bad experience this way, except when- she’s freshly brushed her teeth(menthol). And when we tried ice.
But there are times when it’s amazing and better than the other times, which have never been disappointing.
But to complain? Sometimes a woman will do a better job when she’s got the right tools in her hand maybe? 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most women don’t make me cum from a blow job and varied a lot in quality from the ‘teeth scraper’ through to the ‘lick only’. One girl made me cum with hardly any effort and I complimented her, she said she’d studied videos of how to do it so fair play to her! |
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"I’ve asked for feed back before, I think giving unasked for advice might be a bit tricky."
I think if doing it during the act isn’t that tricky if you do it right. “Faster””slower””deeper”,right there” and “just like that” can be extremely sexy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve asked for feed back before, I think giving unasked for advice might be a bit tricky.
I think if doing it during the act isn’t that tricky if you do it right. “Faster””slower””deeper”,right there” and “just like that” can be extremely sexy "
Yes, if you put it like that, it would work |
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"I’ve asked for feed back before, I think giving unasked for advice might be a bit tricky.
I think if doing it during the act isn’t that tricky if you do it right. “Faster””slower””deeper”,right there” and “just like that” can be extremely sexy
Yes, if you put it like that, it would work "
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I've asked before after because I'm curious but I tend not to - if I listen to my partner's responses and read those you can pick up on what works for them. There's not a blanket fantastic blowjob technique. |
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After 10 years of listening to feedback I can confirm Lily gives an excellent blowjob and I have no complaints.
However what is excellent for me might not be excellent for someone else. Everyone’s cock is shaped differently and is sensitive in different areas.
That being said a number of our verifications mention Lily’s oral skills |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personally speaking I’ve often found that girls who give amazing BJ’s don’t like doing it and those that aren’t so good love doing it. Although I hasten to add I’ve never had a bad one. However, although Elfie doesn’t do it that often, she does do it perfectly which is one of the many reasons I’m marrying her"
Its the other way round for me... The ones who likes to give go the extra mile |
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Funnily enough I told a fwb of mine that her blowjobs weren’t that great
“Your the only one, everyone always says I give the best blowjobs!”
Yeah, that’s because any blowjob is worse than no blowjob and they don’t wanna lose their chance of getting another
Her mind was blown
Don’t ask don’t get. If you keep cheering for sub par oral sex, and that’s men or women, you deserve what you get |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Funnily enough I told a fwb of mine that her blowjobs weren’t that great
“Your the only one, everyone always says I give the best blowjobs!”
Yeah, that’s because any blowjob is worse than no blowjob and they don’t wanna lose their chance of getting another
Her mind was blown
Don’t ask don’t get. If you keep cheering for sub par oral sex, and that’s men or women, you deserve what you get "
I bet that did wonders for her confidence. Brilliant  |
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"Funnily enough I told a fwb of mine that her blowjobs weren’t that great
“Your the only one, everyone always says I give the best blowjobs!”
Yeah, that’s because any blowjob is worse than no blowjob and they don’t wanna lose their chance of getting another
Her mind was blown
Don’t ask don’t get. If you keep cheering for sub par oral sex, and that’s men or women, you deserve what you get
I bet that did wonders for her confidence. Brilliant "
Her blowjobs got better for sure. Sometimes the truth hurts, but not everyone’s so fragile they can’t take it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Funnily enough I told a fwb of mine that her blowjobs weren’t that great
“Your the only one, everyone always says I give the best blowjobs!”
Yeah, that’s because any blowjob is worse than no blowjob and they don’t wanna lose their chance of getting another
Her mind was blown
Don’t ask don’t get. If you keep cheering for sub par oral sex, and that’s men or women, you deserve what you get
I bet that did wonders for her confidence. Brilliant
Her blowjobs got better for sure. Sometimes the truth hurts, but not everyone’s so fragile they can’t take it "
Fragility doesn’t come into it.
You’re in a very vulnerable position when intimate with someone and criticism can cut deep and leave lasting effects.
Unless it was painful and I had to speak up or someone I was marrying for life - I wouldn’t damage their confidence in that way but I’m just a nice person I guess.
You’ve obviously found a good one as in her shoes I’d have told you to get fucked and moved on to the next guy
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"Funnily enough I told a fwb of mine that her blowjobs weren’t that great
“Your the only one, everyone always says I give the best blowjobs!”
Yeah, that’s because any blowjob is worse than no blowjob and they don’t wanna lose their chance of getting another
Her mind was blown
Don’t ask don’t get. If you keep cheering for sub par oral sex, and that’s men or women, you deserve what you get
I bet that did wonders for her confidence. Brilliant
Her blowjobs got better for sure. Sometimes the truth hurts, but not everyone’s so fragile they can’t take it
Fragility doesn’t come into it.
You’re in a very vulnerable position when intimate with someone and criticism can cut deep and leave lasting effects.
Unless it was painful and I had to speak up or someone I was marrying for life - I wouldn’t damage their confidence in that way but I’m just a nice person I guess.
You’ve obviously found a good one as in her shoes I’d have told you to get fucked and moved on to the next guy
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Guess it’s just difference of opinion. She was willing to take the truth and worked towards getting better to please her partner, same as I took advice from her to better please her. You’d rather just leave than work on it. Everyone’s different  |
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I reckon about 60% of blowjobs I’ve received are ok.
I think really good blowjobs are the exception not the rule. I am fine with that if it’s a casual partner it’s rubbish if it’s a long term partner.
I assume the same is true for men licking pussy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm happy to take instruction and suggestions. Not criticism.
Criticism during intimacy is a shitty move in my opinion"
I wouldn't do it to a man. There are ways to approach the subject which aren't critical. I mean, I usually ask if there's something different or extra I can do. Every guy is different. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm happy to take instruction and suggestions. Not criticism.
Criticism during intimacy is a shitty move in my opinion
I wouldn't do it to a man. There are ways to approach the subject which aren't critical. I mean, I usually ask if there's something different or extra I can do. Every guy is different. "
I wouldn’t do it to anyone. You are so vulnerable and comments sit with you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm happy to take instruction and suggestions. Not criticism.
Criticism during intimacy is a shitty move in my opinion
I wouldn't do it to a man. There are ways to approach the subject which aren't critical. I mean, I usually ask if there's something different or extra I can do. Every guy is different.
I wouldn’t do it to anyone. You are so vulnerable and comments sit with you. "
I'd be pretty upset if a guy outright criticised me about my ability in bed. I don't think I'd trust him again. My ex criticised me non-stop and it still effects me. But I think talking about what we like can lead to open, healthy discussion. |
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"Personally speaking I’ve often found that girls who give amazing BJ’s don’t like doing it and those that aren’t so good love doing it. Although I hasten to add I’ve never had a bad one. However, although Elfie doesn’t do it that often, she does do it perfectly which is one of the many reasons I’m marrying her
Its the other way round for me... The ones who likes to give go the extra mile "
Extra mile?
Most people will be lucky if all the strokes total an extra yard! |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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"As nice as blowjobs can be, most blowjobs received aren't all that. If us men were all more honest, there'd probably be a lot of complaints raised. But in the end, this constructive criticism would lead to an increase in standards.
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So what are your top tips for a good bj? Unless you’ve actually given one then I’m not sure how well qualified you are to comment.
Whereas I have given and received oral on a woman. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm happy to take instruction and suggestions. Not criticism.
Criticism during intimacy is a shitty move in my opinion
I wouldn't do it to a man. There are ways to approach the subject which aren't critical. I mean, I usually ask if there's something different or extra I can do. Every guy is different.
I wouldn’t do it to anyone. You are so vulnerable and comments sit with you.
I'd be pretty upset if a guy outright criticised me about my ability in bed. I don't think I'd trust him again. My ex criticised me non-stop and it still effects me. But I think talking about what we like can lead to open, healthy discussion. "
Open discussion like “shall we try this?” Or “I love it when you do this” is perfect.
Criticism or telling someone their technique is bad and probably always has been is a proper shit head move.
Open discussion and criticism are two different things.
That would be the last he’d see of me, I’d move on to someone more sensitive to a females needs during times of intimacy, especially if he was no stud at oral himself!!!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm happy to take instruction and suggestions. Not criticism.
Criticism during intimacy is a shitty move in my opinion
I wouldn't do it to a man. There are ways to approach the subject which aren't critical. I mean, I usually ask if there's something different or extra I can do. Every guy is different.
I wouldn’t do it to anyone. You are so vulnerable and comments sit with you.
I'd be pretty upset if a guy outright criticised me about my ability in bed. I don't think I'd trust him again. My ex criticised me non-stop and it still effects me. But I think talking about what we like can lead to open, healthy discussion.
Open discussion like “shall we try this?” Or “I love it when you do this” is perfect.
Criticism or telling someone their technique is bad and probably always has been is a proper shit head move.
Open discussion and criticism are two different things.
That would be the last he’d see of me, I’d move on to someone more sensitive to a females needs during times of intimacy, especially if he was no stud at oral himself!!!
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Yes! I had someone constantly criticise me for nearly 2 decades, I'm not having it anymore! But I want to please someone. I assume they'd want to please me, so it makes sense we'd talk about how best to please each other. No criticism required. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm happy to take instruction and suggestions. Not criticism.
Criticism during intimacy is a shitty move in my opinion
I wouldn't do it to a man. There are ways to approach the subject which aren't critical. I mean, I usually ask if there's something different or extra I can do. Every guy is different.
I wouldn’t do it to anyone. You are so vulnerable and comments sit with you.
I'd be pretty upset if a guy outright criticised me about my ability in bed. I don't think I'd trust him again. My ex criticised me non-stop and it still effects me. But I think talking about what we like can lead to open, healthy discussion.
Open discussion like “shall we try this?” Or “I love it when you do this” is perfect.
Criticism or telling someone their technique is bad and probably always has been is a proper shit head move.
Open discussion and criticism are two different things.
That would be the last he’d see of me, I’d move on to someone more sensitive to a females needs during times of intimacy, especially if he was no stud at oral himself!!!
Yes! I had someone constantly criticise me for nearly 2 decades, I'm not having it anymore! But I want to please someone. I assume they'd want to please me, so it makes sense we'd talk about how best to please each other. No criticism required. "
Exactly! It’s quite damaging and some people just don’t have the brain power to comprehend how it can have long lasting damaging effects. |
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I've never had complaints (even had a few compliments) but I still always worry if it's good enough. I try to listen for moans and read body language to guide me but then after I sometimes ask how I can do better.
If a man isn't licking me well I will gently guide with "left a bit" and moans when he hits the right spot in the right way.
No one should put up with sub par oral |
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"I'm happy to take instruction and suggestions. Not criticism.
Criticism during intimacy is a shitty move in my opinion"
People have different sensitivities, so it would only be reasonable to give feedback in ways that aren't potentially going to hurt someone. I'd stop what I was doing, if some cutting comments came my way. |
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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago
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OMG. This thread and the opposing one make me cringe. Sub par. It's not an escort agency.
I've been there, getting severely criticised for minor supposed misdemeanors, sexual and otherwise. Nothing so certain as to put people off blowjobs for life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OMG. This thread and the opposing one make me cringe. Sub par. It's not an escort agency.
I've been there, getting severely criticised for minor supposed misdemeanors, sexual and otherwise. Nothing so certain as to put people off blowjobs for life."
The opposing thread was an ironic dig at this one. Meant to prove a point at the grimness of this one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not having complaints is not the same as being complimented, same goes for guys going down on women though, if you're good at it I'll definitely tell you so, if I'm quiet and pull your head away then you're shit at it, but I probably wouldn't verbalise the fact |
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"Not having complaints is not the same as being complimented, same goes for guys going down on women though, if you're good at it I'll definitely tell you so, if I'm quiet and pull your head away then you're shit at it, but I probably wouldn't verbalise the fact"
I'm similar when receiving a bj which isn't going anywhere; I'll say "I really need to fuck you now" and get my cock inside her before I lose my erection completely.
I rarely cum from a bj, even though I do enjoy having my cock sucked. I just don't think I'm 'wired' to cum that way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Best blow job I've ever had was from a guy! Felt amazing and he's the first and only person to ever make me cum from a blowjob. I didn't think I would ever cum from getting one but he's managed to do it many times. It's so true what they say: a guy knows what a guy wants! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Best blow job I've ever had was from a guy! Felt amazing and he's the first and only person to ever make me cum from a blowjob. I didn't think I would ever cum from getting one but he's managed to do it many times. It's so true what they say: a guy knows what a guy wants!"
I’d be more than happy for all the guys to get their blow job needs met by men for the rest of time |
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"Feedback and direction are key especially with a new partner, the way someone likes it may not be the same as someone else. I’d be gutted if someone didn’t give feedback on my oral skills "
Now imagining completing a full written report that is handed over at the end of the meet |
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Had to test this so I gave a FWB a blow job this afternoon and afterwards asked him for constructive criticism he looked at me like it was a trap so I explained and he said that if he isn't enjoying a bj he just pulls the woman up and tells her he needs to f**k her but did agree most men don't want to upset someone and/or risk not getting a bj again lol
BTW I told him to feel free to give me direction if he needs to |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to meet a very well known FAB character when I was a single . Let me tell you “ sucks like a Dyson” is not a badge of honour.
How do you tell someone with a big ego that they aren’t as talented as they think they are!?  |
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"Feedback and direction are key especially with a new partner, the way someone likes it may not be the same as someone else. I’d be gutted if someone didn’t give feedback on my oral skills
Now imagining completing a full written report that is handed over at the end of the meet "
That would be hilarious. I was more thinking a running comment/encouragement to make sure what I’m doing is working for them rather then them being left disappointed. So far so good the feedback I have had is that I’m good at what I do |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One man’s great blow job is another man’s ‘meh’.
I like snogging, (stick with me here)
Recently kissing a girl and between us we quickly discovered how each other kissed without giving direction or instruction. It led to a damn nice smooch.
I like oral too.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mr told me I was shite at it when we first met.
26yrs later and I'm "decidedly average and still needing more practice" apparently.
Who thinks I'm being stitched up.....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Mr told me I was shite at it when we first met.
26yrs later and I'm "decidedly average and still needing more practice" apparently.
Who thinks I'm being stitched up..... "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had to tell several women to just stop and that I didn't want it,its become a bit of a problematic assumption.
My worst time would by far have to be when I was meeting someone who lets just say was very new to the whole thing,we waited for a while and of course I made the mistake of assuming every woman knows what a blowjob is,this one didn't when I asked her to blow,she blew.
It was incredibly painful for about 3 days |
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"Totally. I suspect there is room for improvement with myself when it comes to giving oral.
I propose to start an oral sex workshop for females. I will offer bespoke one to one feedback on your oral sex technique in exchange for the same critique of my techniques. Entirely free of charge.
Spaces are limited to 5 bookings each day. "
You are cute, I would take you up on your kind offer, but darn you are just too far away  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As nice as blowjobs can be, most blowjobs received aren't all that. If us men were all more honest, there'd probably be a lot of complaints raised. But in the end, this constructive criticism would lead to an increase in standards.
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I dont get why this is even a thing. Everyone should be communicating about what they like and how their partner can better please them. Of course you should be giving feedback to your partner, but it really doesnt have to be framed as a failure of the giver requiring a "complaint" from the reciever. Thats just gonna make people feel reluctant about giving in the future.
Sex with others is a messy activity where we figure out each others bodies together. Sometimes you find someone who is very similar to you sexually and thus you dont need to stop and figure stuff out, but most of the time, people like to do sex differently and you need to slow down and communicate to make sure everyones needs are being met. Otherwise, one or both of you leaves feeling unsatisfied.
Fay x
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Depends on how much effort is put in, a chore BJ I expect isn't good but one that turns both you on, time taken,more than a up and down some good licking and sucking. I've performed both and it depends how turned on I am, if I'm not it's a chore if I am I'll put an extreme amount of effort in,it turns me on to see him enjoying it,legs shaking and moaning, I'm sure I could cum from sucking the Mr's cock sometimes.
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By *enatton2Couple
over a year ago
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I’ve had good and bad, I can never decide if it’s because they are only doing it because they feel they should or that they just aren’t very good at it.
As for Tani, the amount of guys who I’ve heard ask her to stop because they’re worried they’ll cum too soon makes me confident she is very good at it. From a personal point of view I’ll never get tired of her sucking my dick |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
Paisley |
"I've never had complaints (even had a few compliments) but I still always worry if it's good enough. I try to listen for moans and read body language to guide me but then after I sometimes ask how I can do better.
If a man isn't licking me well I will gently guide with "left a bit" and moans when he hits the right spot in the right way.
No one should put up with sub par oral"
Totally agree. Some guys haven’t got a clue while others are OMG! |
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