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Do you do something to make someone happy?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You put yourself first, don’t ever do anything to please someone else you aren’t comfortable with. If someone calls you a prude for saying no to something then it tells you everything you need to know to walk away… |
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This is one of the reasons my wife and I have an ENM relationship, if either of us want to try something that the other has no interest in we can find someone to try it with and no one feels pressured or guilt ridden if they say no. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm concerned that the reason you don't want to just say no is because you think you'll look like a prude. Seriously? You need to grow up. Harsh but true. |
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"It’s with 3 guys one is my bf but feeling blah about it  "
If you aren't 100% comfortable and happy with the idea then say no. Says a lot about your BF if he calls you a prude etc....I'd be showing the disrespectful sod the door x |
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"It’s with 3 guys one is my bf but feeling blah about it "
Oh wow, surely there has to be discussion about respect? Only ever do something you’re entirely happy to do, and it’s okay it’s nice to occasionally plays others but Definitely not like that |
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By *zanyCouple
over a year ago
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If you are on this site you are not a prude. Also it would be possible for him to find someone who would do what he wants. If my partner said she was not happy doing something I ask then I would not enjoy doing it knowing she was uncomfortable with it. Just tell him no and explain your not happy with it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Dunno if he wants to actually do it 
In your opening post you said "you've been asked to do something"
I'm confused now.... "
He asked me to do it but now I’m not sure he meant it |
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"I’ve been asked to do something I’m not happy with. How do I say no without looking like a prude? "
If you don't want to to it. Don't do it.
If this is part of some sub play then... well you're on your own with this.
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"Dunno if he wants to actually do it
In your opening post you said "you've been asked to do something"
I'm confused now....
He asked me to do it but now I’m not sure he meant it "
Talk to him. Say you don't want to do it. If you want to discuss bit further ask if he's changed his mind. If he wants to discuss bit further he'll ask questions.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve been asked to do something I’m not happy with. How do I say no without looking like a prude? "
Just say no.
If they call you a prude they are a controlling pos. |
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"Dunno if he wants to actually do it
In your opening post you said "you've been asked to do something"
I'm confused now....
He asked me to do it but now I’m not sure he meant it "
Then the only answer is to sit him down and ask him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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if you dont let him know now that you dont want to then your relationship has no future not in swinging anyway this scene with couples is built on trust and openness ... just say no ... open and honest |
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that made me laugh.
To be fair she hasn't said he's pressured her or he won't like her saying no 