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I have to assume a lot of guys don't go on the forums much or read profiles fully.
We've had a recent spate of 3/4 word messages, no introduction, no pics on profile, none in messages. Yet they think it's appropriate to approach a couple by sending a message which only says 'I'll lick both your ass's'.
We're not asking for much but single guys, in our opinion, haven't a chance of getting their 'Nat king Cole' from couples, by this type of approach. You wouldn't use this type of initial contact in a club (as in disco), so why on here? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have to assume a lot of guys don't go on the forums much or read profiles fully.
We've had a recent spate of 3/4 word messages, no introduction, no pics on profile, none in messages. Yet they think it's appropriate to approach a couple by sending a message which only says 'I'll lick both your ass's'.
We're not asking for much but single guys, in our opinion, haven't a chance of getting their 'Nat king Cole' from couples, by this type of approach. You wouldn't use this type of initial contact in a club (as in disco), so why on here?"
We get this quite a lot too. |
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Jesus H Christ, finished the above and opened messages.
No intro, how are you, my name is, your profile is etc etc. Just and wait for it, drum role, 'does he do anal'.
Members of the jury, I rest my case.
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It's gotta be difficult for women and couples. Despite the availability of men, sorting the wheat from the chat must take ages.
It also doesn't do us genuine guys (with a horny outlook on life) any favours as our messages get lost in the dozens of absolutely crap ones you must get. At least I hope that's why I never get a reply!  |
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By *entDomMan
over a year ago
Paddock Wood, Kent |
The examples you have given are atrocious and can't be excused. However it really frustrates me when I do take notice af a profile and send a personal message and the recipient cannot be bothered just to reply "No thanks" not much to ask is it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think this has been an issue ever since Internet and swinging came together.
But it must work for some else why would they send them?
Or its just wank material when they do get a reply.
I challenged a couple this morning for not being photo verified, it was clearly a guy on his own. It's just a pipe dream for some. |
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We get the same 1 line ( 3 or 4 words) messages, and they get hump if we don.t respond/reply or if we politely decline their offer they ask why....
I wonder if they think we are "up ourselves" etc.... which we,re not.
Single guys don.t help themselves sometimes   |
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"It's gotta be difficult for women and couples. Despite the availability of men, sorting the wheat from the chat must take ages.
It also doesn't do us genuine guys (with a horny outlook on life) any favours as our messages get lost in the dozens of absolutely crap ones you must get. At least I hope that's why I never get a reply! "
We have met people that we might not have necessarily engaged with, purely because they wrote a polite, courteous well written message. Nuff said!  |
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"The examples you have given are atrocious and can't be excused. However it really frustrates me when I do take notice af a profile and send a personal message and the recipient cannot be bothered just to reply "No thanks" not much to ask is it?"
See the site FAQs, no reply = no thanks. |
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I agree it is rude and annoying, however as a single guy on here you would realistically need to send 100+ messages to get one reply, so when people say read our (very long) profile and send a thoughtful personal message (which then doesn't get read) if you spent just 5 minutes reading a profile and sending a message that would take over 8 hours.
That doesn't excuse rudeness but just filter out the crap to find the gems. |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
Seriously.....couples are far, far worse. Of the messages from single guys, half are just one, two or three words. Most of the other half we just don't fancy.
Of the messages from couples, nine out of ten are just "hi" or "want to meet".
(Bry) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Single males have problems.
Single females have problems.
Couples have problems.
TVs have problems.
Lead by example, block everyone, and you send some messages and reach out to those you’d like to talk to.  think positive.
Problem solved. |
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Wow, some guys seriously think they will get a reply by saying things like that?
I guess you have to look on the positives they literally take themselves out the game. A bit like the Darwin awards… |
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"I have to assume a lot of guys don't go on the forums much or read profiles fully.
We've had a recent spate of 3/4 word messages, no introduction, no pics on profile, none in messages. Yet they think it's appropriate to approach a couple by sending a message which only says 'I'll lick both your ass's'.
We're not asking for much but single guys, in our opinion, haven't a chance of getting their 'Nat king Cole' from couples, by this type of approach. You wouldn't use this type of initial contact in a club (as in disco), so why on here?"
I think the people that do it have no intention of actually meeting or attempting to establish a meaningful connection with you. My guess is it is something of a wind up.
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"Jesus H Christ, finished the above and opened messages.
No intro, how are you, my name is, your profile is etc etc. Just and wait for it, drum role, 'does he do anal'.
Members of the jury, I rest my case.
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Well does he? Dont leave us in suspense.. |
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"The examples you have given are atrocious and can't be excused. However it really frustrates me when I do take notice af a profile and send a personal message and the recipient cannot be bothered just to reply "No thanks" not much to ask is it?"
I can understand what that must feel like from your side, but one the other side, females and couples can end up with so many messages that responding to everyone just isn't possible. When I'm active, I can end up with anywhere between 70 and 150 messages a day. And when you say no thanks, you get snarky mean messages back which puts us off replying all together. |
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"The examples you have given are atrocious and can't be excused. However it really frustrates me when I do take notice af a profile and send a personal message and the recipient cannot be bothered just to reply "No thanks" not much to ask is it?
I can understand what that must feel like from your side, but one the other side, females and couples can end up with so many messages that responding to everyone just isn't possible. When I'm active, I can end up with anywhere between 70 and 150 messages a day. And when you say no thanks, you get snarky mean messages back which puts us off replying all together. "
We have the same as above, we try to be polite and reply but then get nasty questions back, which makes it difficult for the nice guys to get a polite " sorry but no thankyou" response from us, we know there are some nice guys out there, the not so nice ones make it difficult for others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's gotta be difficult for women and couples. Despite the availability of men, sorting the wheat from the chat must take ages.
It also doesn't do us genuine guys (with a horny outlook on life) any favours as our messages get lost in the dozens of absolutely crap ones you must get. At least I hope that's why I never get a reply! "
the problem is its is guys who have genuine on there profile just because you think your genuine dont mean you are i also find these genuine guys dont realised that they still need to attract a meet ...but no they think being genuine is all it takes ... |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
Lincolnshire |
"Single males have problems.
Single females have problems.
Couples have problems.
TVs have problems.
Lead by example, block everyone, and you send some messages and reach out to those you’d like to talk to. think positive.
Problem solved. "
It solves one problem, but creates another - they would then have nothing to moan about  |
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By *l1pp3ryCouple
over a year ago
Bradford |
"Seriously.....couples are far, far worse. Of the messages from single guys, half are just one, two or three words. Most of the other half we just don't fancy.
Of the messages from couples, nine out of ten are just "hi" or "want to meet".
(Bry)"
We often find that too. Couples are such hard work |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are totally cheesed off with single guys who just do not read our profile.
Most messages get instantly deleted due to this. And we are actually looking for single guys amongst other things.
Guys, do yourselves a favour. Read profiles and put some effort into your messages! |
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By *ubcup2Couple
over a year ago
London |
"I have to assume a lot of guys don't go on the forums much or read profiles fully.
We've had a recent spate of 3/4 word messages, no introduction, no pics on profile, none in messages. Yet they think it's appropriate to approach a couple by sending a message which only says 'I'll lick both your ass's'.
We're not asking for much but single guys, in our opinion, haven't a chance of getting their 'Nat king Cole' from couples, by this type of approach. You wouldn't use this type of initial contact in a club (as in disco), so why on here?"
Totally agree x |
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"The examples you have given are atrocious and can't be excused. However it really frustrates me when I do take notice af a profile and send a personal message and the recipient cannot be bothered just to reply "No thanks" not much to ask is it?"
Do you reply to all the unsolicited post your postperson puts through your letterbox?
If women and couples replied to every email they receive they would need to employ a secretary to deal with it.
No reply = no thanks. |
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"The examples you have given are atrocious and can't be excused. However it really frustrates me when I do take notice af a profile and send a personal message and the recipient cannot be bothered just to reply "No thanks" not much to ask is it?"
To be fair Thats different |
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"I have to assume a lot of guys don't go on the forums much or read profiles fully.
We've had a recent spate of 3/4 word messages, no introduction, no pics on profile, none in messages. Yet they think it's appropriate to approach a couple by sending a message which only says 'I'll lick both your ass's'.
We're not asking for much but single guys, in our opinion, haven't a chance of getting their 'Nat king Cole' from couples, by this type of approach. You wouldn't use this type of initial contact in a club (as in disco), so why on here?"
Some men are obviously people of few words |
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By *lex D.Man
over a year ago
London |
"The examples you have given are atrocious and can't be excused. However it really frustrates me when I do take notice af a profile and send a personal message and the recipient cannot be bothered just to reply "No thanks" not much to ask is it?"
I don't mind too much; it's just how it is. On the otherhand these fellas at least get a response by playing the numbers game.
Copy paste Copy paste Copy paste Copy paste Copy paste ..... |
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"Believe me, single heterosexual males also receive such nessages from males"
You don’t if you set your message filters to block single guys. Receiving “Wank/suck fun?” from a guy was the final straw for me |
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By *ediraMan
over a year ago
Reigate |
Lets not tarnish all with the same brush though.
I've had 1 line messages from couples on here, so does that mean all couples are the same?
I get it, a box full of 1 liners for cpls and fems is pretty shitty, but how do we (collective we of all on fab) stop it?
I think a stricter verification process would help a little. EVERY profile must be photo verified before they can message. That would get rid of some wasters.
Not sure what else would work.
Suggestions? |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else |
"Lets not tarnish all with the same brush though.
I've had 1 line messages from couples on here, so does that mean all couples are the same?
I get it, a box full of 1 liners for cpls and fems is pretty shitty, but how do we (collective we of all on fab) stop it?
I think a stricter verification process would help a little. EVERY profile must be photo verified before they can message. That would get rid of some wasters.
Not sure what else would work.
Suggestions? "
You seriously think only the non-photo verified do infantile one liners???? |
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By *ediraMan
over a year ago
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"Lets not tarnish all with the same brush though.
I've had 1 line messages from couples on here, so does that mean all couples are the same?
I get it, a box full of 1 liners for cpls and fems is pretty shitty, but how do we (collective we of all on fab) stop it?
I think a stricter verification process would help a little. EVERY profile must be photo verified before they can message. That would get rid of some wasters.
Not sure what else would work.
Suggestions?
You seriously think only the non-photo verified do infantile one liners????"
No, and I didn't say they did. I said "That would get rid of SOME"
If you are going to jump on someone for messaging, then at least ready the whole message and compute first. |
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"‘Hi’ is our regular shortest message despite our profile making it quite clear it will result in them being blocked.
We have a long block list and little patience left for this site."
Yes i get this around 80% of the time in messages |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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No, and I didn't say they did. I said "That would get rid of SOME"
If you are going to jump on someone for messaging, then at least ready the whole message and compute first."
I didn't say ALL... and we have another term for what I did.
Replying.
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By *ediraMan
over a year ago
Reigate |
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No, and I didn't say they did. I said "That would get rid of SOME"
If you are going to jump on someone for messaging, then at least ready the whole message and compute first.
I didn't say ALL... and we have another term for what I did.
Replying.
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"I get lazy crass messages from couples but I don’t feel the need to start threads whining about it tbh. But then if you didn’t the “white knighters “ on here wouldn’t have anything to do ! "
Ha ha, you're whining about me whining, touché! |
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By *eano78Man
over a year ago
Worthing |
Tbh I think there is another side too. If you consider that females or couples are getting literally hundreds of messages all the time and understandably, can't reply to them all, the same applies in reverse. There are guys who are not getting any responses at all. They are less likely to write war and peace if they then have to do it over and over again a thousand times unfortunately. Upshot is too many single guys are on here I'm afraid. But the genuine ones will persist and not cry about it lol |
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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago
Welling |
After few months here and relatively low response level despite the effort put on the message and reading all the profiles I decided to change the approach:
1. Clubs are the best place to meet people
2. I am not sending messages to single ladies and couples as don’t want to be another 254th message that day.
3. I put disclaimer in my profile of the same. I’ll reply to wink or message.
That saves a lot of time and efforts for me and ladies/couples. Works well so far |
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"I have to assume a lot of guys don't go on the forums much or read profiles fully.
We've had a recent spate of 3/4 word messages, no introduction, no pics on profile, none in messages. Yet they think it's appropriate to approach a couple by sending a message which only says 'I'll lick both your ass's'.
We're not asking for much but single guys, in our opinion, haven't a chance of getting their 'Nat king Cole' from couples, by this type of approach. You wouldn't use this type of initial contact in a club (as in disco), so why on here?"
We get a lot of this too. And then these same guys go on the forum to complain that fab is sh!t and everyone is fake and no-one wants to f*ck them (apart from their wife). Sigh. |
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By *eano78Man
over a year ago
Worthing |
"We get a lot of this too. And then these same guys go on the forum to complain that fab is sh!t and everyone is fake and no-one wants to f*ck them (apart from their wife). Sigh."
If my wife wanted to f*CK me, I wouldn't be here lol! |
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