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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just wanted advice, do the ladies on here take notice of guys that are genuine nice people or are we more likely to be noticed if we are more forceful and in reality a bit arrogant ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m not a lady but I do get loads of messages from men on here, most of them are from men to be honest. A lot of the messages are very forceful and rude and I tend to ignore them, I always reply to polite messages of men who seem to be nice and genuine. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yes this is true. And I think the advice is right, be yourself rather than what you think they might want you to be. Just seems hard to get across in a profile your personality. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes this is true. And I think the advice is right, be yourself rather than what you think they might want you to be. Just seems hard to get across in a profile your personality. "
You seem like a genuinely nice guy and I’m sure that comes across once you get chatting with someone. With regards to getting your personality across in your profile….we’re not allowed to comment on your profile as you haven’t asked us to, but I would say that generally people who write a bit about themselves outside of swinging or have a bio that shows they’ve put some effort into writing it get their personality across well. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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Forceful and arrogance are never attractive to me and are in fact the complete opposite. The same as someone who changes their personality to suit who ever they are chatting to .
Being yourself is the most attractive thing anyone can do on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m not a lady but I do get loads of messages from men on here, most of them are from men to be honest. A lot of the messages are very forceful and rude and I tend to ignore them, I always reply to polite messages of men who seem to be nice and genuine. "
I don’t. It specifically says I’m straight on my page. I still get mess gears from guys and 99% are polite. I suppose it’s a mixed bag between all our experiences. |
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It depends what you mean by nice. Most women are not stupid and can spot an arrogant idiot a mile off, they can also spot a guy who thinks being nice entitles them to sex. A decent all round, nice man on the other hand always stands out from the others. |
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'Being nice' is not something that is special or is a stand out attribute. It's literally the bare minimum of a decent human being. You can't really have your selling point as 'I'm nice', as there are a million other people who are also nice.
You need to be more than just 'nice'. You need to be confident, attractive, charming, funny, flirty, etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's nothing wrong with being nice and respectful, it's essential. But confidence is sexy, humour is sexy and a man who knows what he wants is sexy.
A mixture of all these make a great playmate, no one wants a knobhead.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"'Being nice' is not something that is special or is a stand out attribute. It's literally the bare minimum of a decent human being. You can't really have your selling point as 'I'm nice', as there are a million other people who are also nice.
You need to be more than just 'nice'. You need to be confident, attractive, charming, funny, flirty, etc. "
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"Yes this is true. And I think the advice is right, be yourself rather than what you think they might want you to be. Just seems hard to get across in a profile your personality. "
They say pictures say a thousand words, if they don’t show your personality we are unlikely to look at the profile bio. |
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