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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Have you ever spoke to someone for ages like months or years build up sexual tension talk dirty say what you going to do to each other then finally meet then have sex and it was terrible only to find out they was all talk, then you think to yourself I waited for this lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yeah with a guy on here years ago. And he was the most lifeless fucker I’ve ever felt in me in my life lol"
I fucked some girls and they have been like dead dogs but they talk the talk just don’t walk the walk |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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some over the years but in general no ..we alway stay well clear of those who bragg /big themselve up as they never live up to it ... guess over all the years we've been swing we've neen lucky most have been great fun and to be honest any one can flop or have a bad time ... we met one guy years ago who cum before he took his pants off ..over xcited ...met him again in a club a couple years after he was super stud so proof anyone including women can have a bad time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes! I'd lusted after him for about 20 odd years and we were finally in a position to do something about it. It was terrible. I literally got on top, he kneaded my boobs, wouldn't look at me the whole time he was doing it, came, got out of the bed without saying anything and left the room. I got myself dressed and disappeared sharpish and ignore his message next time he sent one! |
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"Have you ever spoke to someone for ages like months or years build up sexual tension talk dirty say what you going to do to each other then finally meet then have sex and it was terrible only to find out they was all talk, then you think to yourself I waited for this lol"
Only requires practise one time sex is nothing can go either way could be great but then goes crap could be crap and then goes great. |
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"Have you ever spoke to someone for ages like months or years build up sexual tension talk dirty say what you going to do to each other then finally meet then have sex and it was terrible only to find out they was all talk, then you think to yourself I waited for this lol"
Yep, she lay there. As if she didn’t need to bother, like her being there was enough. We slept together another 30 or 40 times and that was the end of that  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I ve met some girls who have fucked loads of guys and been terrible and I have met girls who have been virgins or slept with 1 or 2 guys and have been mind blowing |
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I think the higher the expectation the lower the realism
When an occasion is blown up to be the the ultimate experience then there is often the opportunity for more of a failure
If you just try to expect the ordinary then if it happens then it is not unexpected but if it turns out to be that 'mind blowing experience' then the occasion lives longer in the mind
I have learnt, with experience, to believe an occasion will be 'fine' it generally is 'fine or better'
Being a realist is far more easy to accept highs or lows
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah with a guy on here years ago. And he was the most lifeless fucker I’ve ever felt in me in my life lol
I fucked some girls and they have been like dead dogs but they talk the talk just don’t walk the walk"
You old romantic you! |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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I bet they still say to themselves " I've had complaints”, who actually complains directly.
I don't invest the time, there may not even be a connection or vibe when we meet never mind getting as far as the sex. I see them, vibe check and then see how things go once we have met in person. |
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By *ogNMuseCouple
over a year ago
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"Have you ever spoke to someone for ages like months or years build up sexual tension talk dirty say what you going to do to each other then finally meet then have sex and it was terrible only to find out they was all talk, then you think to yourself I waited for this lol"
Remember there are 2 (or more!) people involved in the act, so is it fair to blame one person for a bad experience? What did she think of your performance? |
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"Have you ever spoke to someone for ages like months or years build up sexual tension talk dirty say what you going to do to each other then finally meet then have sex and it was terrible only to find out they was all talk, then you think to yourself I waited for this lol"
Yep. That's how I knew I was a fool to wait till marriage. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Have you ever spoke to someone for ages like months or years build up sexual tension talk dirty say what you going to do to each other then finally meet then have sex and it was terrible only to find out they was all talk, then you think to yourself I waited for this lol
Remember there are 2 (or more!) people involved in the act, so is it fair to blame one person for a bad experience? What did she think of your performance?"
I didn’t lie there like a dead dog and do nothing I fucked her hard slow passionate made her squirt 3 times she loved it goes I want to fuck me every week |
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It happens when there’s no chemistry
Sometimes on chat seems amazing but the when you get to skin on skin it’s not there
And I don’t get the obsession with squirting, that does not equal an orgasm |
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By *itzimadCouple
over a year ago
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no one is good at sex as it takes two to tango
ive met women who only like anonymous sex dark room from behind and never know who it was whilst straddling their partner
takes all sorts
this woman ran a very successful swingers club that is still going |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah with a guy on here years ago. And he was the most lifeless fucker I’ve ever felt in me in my life lol
I fucked some girls and they have been like dead dogs but they talk the talk just don’t walk the walk"
Have you even thought it was you who was bad and these poor lassies just had to lay there and endure it? |
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Yes. All except 2 of my solo meets from here have been a massive disappointment. Not had a huge number of meets as that's not what I'm about, but the ones I have had, I was enticed into with the talk and promises, but was left extremely underwhelmed.
And all 4 of our meets on our couples profile were not what we'd hoped for. |
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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago
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"Yes. All except 2 of my solo meets from here have been a massive disappointment. Not had a huge number of meets as that's not what I'm about, but the ones I have had, I was enticed into with the talk and promises, but was left extremely underwhelmed.
And all 4 of our meets on our couples profile were not what we'd hoped for. "
Aww, I’m sorry  |
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"I ve met some girls who have fucked loads of guys and been terrible and I have met girls who have been virgins or slept with 1 or 2 guys and have been mind blowing "
Consider the other aspect. They just weren’t into you at the time and felt compelled to finish it through This happens alot |
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Sometimes physical chemistry isn’t there be social chemistry . I had a meet like this in April. I got up mid sex after 15 min and said I am leaving as this was pointless .
This is why I don’t play message / text ping pong with people as inevitably you burn it out or create expectations that are unattainable in person
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Honestly iv never had terrible sex iv made sure iv enjoyed it every time if that means it may have potentially started to turn a bit boring I’ll flip them over get on top and take things in to my own hands  |
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"Have you ever spoke to someone for ages like months or years build up sexual tension talk dirty say what you going to do to each other then finally meet then have sex and it was terrible only to find out they was all talk, then you think to yourself I waited for this lol
Remember there are 2 (or more!) people involved in the act, so is it fair to blame one person for a bad experience? What did she think of your performance?
I didn’t lie there like a dead dog and do nothing I fucked her hard slow passionate made her squirt 3 times she loved it goes I want to fuck me every week "
Wait how was she both squirting/in the throws of passion AND like a dead dog?
What I am reading here OP is a deep disconnect, you did everything you thought was right but did not get the reactions you hoped for or needed. But how can you keep fucking for so long with someone who is not responding to you?
I have to say, from my personal perspective, I find the kind of scripts we have for hetero sex UTTERLY USELESS, if not harmful. I know that with casual partners I have to negotiate to ensure my pleasure (I don't always do it because it's hard work), perhaps you need to do similar.
The hot chat before a meet is neither here nor there IMO. I think some people when chatting others up don't care to distinguish between what is pure fantasy and fantasy only and what is the kind of fantasy they'd want to enact (can be some very simple stuff that are off the table!). Also building things up too much can lead to anticlimax as previous posters have said. |
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"Honestly iv never had terrible sex iv made sure iv enjoyed it every time if that means it may have potentially started to turn a bit boring I’ll flip them over get on top and take things in to my own hands "
Sometimes even that doesn’t work alas |
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"Honestly iv never had terrible sex iv made sure iv enjoyed it every time if that means it may have potentially started to turn a bit boring I’ll flip them over get on top and take things in to my own hands
Sometimes even that doesn’t work alas "
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"I had terrible sex on a meet once, but ironically got my best meet pics out of it! "
Can we see? 
I was with someone once, I do think his real desire was to take specific shots of me/us much more than he wanted to have sex. Which is no problem in itself, just wish there was more clarity! |
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"I had terrible sex on a meet once, but ironically got my best meet pics out of it!
Can we see?
I was with someone once, I do think his real desire was to take specific shots of me/us much more than he wanted to have sex. Which is no problem in itself, just wish there was more clarity!"
There’s nothing artistic about them, they’re even a bit blurry! Just me on my knees post-facial with his cock in my mouth! |
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"Yes. All except 2 of my solo meets from here have been a massive disappointment. Not had a huge number of meets as that's not what I'm about, but the ones I have had, I was enticed into with the talk and promises, but was left extremely underwhelmed.
And all 4 of our meets on our couples profile were not what we'd hoped for. "
Maybe you need to adjust your expectations |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Good sex is a two way street.
I wonder if she was as disappointed in you as you seem to be in her OP."
She prob was because she asked to meet regularly while I was fucking her the first time and she said she’s never cum and squirted so much in her life. |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"Good sex is a two way street.
I wonder if she was as disappointed in you as you seem to be in her OP.
She prob was because she asked to meet regularly while I was fucking her the first time and she said she’s never cum and squirted so much in her life."
And all while lying there like a dead dog?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Good sex is a two way street.
I wonder if she was as disappointed in you as you seem to be in her OP.
She prob was because she asked to meet regularly while I was fucking her the first time and she said she’s never cum and squirted so much in her life.
And all while lying there like a dead dog?
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Exactly I did all the work pleased her didn’t even cum had to wank myself to finish but at least she let me cum on her face |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've got to admit, I've never had terrible or bad sex either. Probably because I don't do the whole sex chat beforehand x"
Even without the chat before meeting, the performance can be terrible it depends on the person if they like to please others or just get what they want |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I realised I’ve had terrible (boring) sex in the past compared to the amazing sex I have now.
Was that due to you or the people you used to fuck?"
Yes boring + no walls = terrible |
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"I've got to admit, I've never had terrible or bad sex either. Probably because I don't do the whole sex chat beforehand x
Even without the chat before meeting, the performance can be terrible it depends on the person if they like to please others or just get what they want "
I am usually a good judge of character and would know during a first social only meet whether we would be compatible in the bedroom department x |
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"Yes. All except 2 of my solo meets from here have been a massive disappointment. Not had a huge number of meets as that's not what I'm about, but the ones I have had, I was enticed into with the talk and promises, but was left extremely underwhelmed.
And all 4 of our meets on our couples profile were not what we'd hoped for.
Maybe you need to adjust your expectations "
If I'm meeting for sex I expect foreplay, oral sex (both giving and receiving), touching, caressing, kissing and generally turning each other on. What I don't expect is:
For me to suck his cock for 30 seconds and he cums, apologises and scuttles off.
For the guy to receive awesome oral from me and not give any in return (despite being 1 of a million guys who say they can lick pussy for hours)
For the guy to cum within 2 minutes of penetrative sex. To not even bother to try and delay it to ensure I'm pleasured as well, just fuck and cum leaving me frustrated.
For the guy to finger blast my fanny so hard I'm left bruised because he seems to think a squirt or a gush is an orgasm and that its actually pleasuresble for woman to gush.
No, I don't think I have high expectations, I believe sex should be a time that both parties should enjoy and where both parties make an effort, and that any "promises" are not in fact, utter bullshit. |
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By *ltra72Man
over a year ago
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"Have you ever spoke to someone for ages like months or years build up sexual tension talk dirty say what you going to do to each other then finally meet then have sex and it was terrible only to find out they was all talk, then you think to yourself I waited for this lol
Yep, she lay there. As if she didn’t need to bother, like her being there was enough. We slept together another 30 or 40 times and that was the end of that "
Sounds like my missus |
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"Have you ever spoke to someone for ages like months or years build up sexual tension talk dirty say what you going to do to each other then finally meet then have sex and it was terrible only to find out they was all talk, then you think to yourself I waited for this lol
Remember there are 2 (or more!) people involved in the act, so is it fair to blame one person for a bad experience? What did she think of your performance?
I didn’t lie there like a dead dog and do nothing I fucked her hard slow passionate made her squirt 3 times she loved it goes I want to fuck me every week "
Sure she did  |
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"Yes. All except 2 of my solo meets from here have been a massive disappointment. Not had a huge number of meets as that's not what I'm about, but the ones I have had, I was enticed into with the talk and promises, but was left extremely underwhelmed.
And all 4 of our meets on our couples profile were not what we'd hoped for.
Maybe you need to adjust your expectations
If I'm meeting for sex I expect foreplay, oral sex (both giving and receiving), touching, caressing, kissing and generally turning each other on. What I don't expect is:
For me to suck his cock for 30 seconds and he cums, apologises and scuttles off.
For the guy to receive awesome oral from me and not give any in return (despite being 1 of a million guys who say they can lick pussy for hours)
For the guy to cum within 2 minutes of penetrative sex. To not even bother to try and delay it to ensure I'm pleasured as well, just fuck and cum leaving me frustrated.
For the guy to finger blast my fanny so hard I'm left bruised because he seems to think a squirt or a gush is an orgasm and that its actually pleasuresble for woman to gush.
No, I don't think I have high expectations, I believe sex should be a time that both parties should enjoy and where both parties make an effort, and that any "promises" are not in fact, utter bullshit. "
You're meeting the wrong folk
Maybe look at how you do that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Have you ever spoke to someone for ages like months or years build up sexual tension talk dirty say what you going to do to each other then finally meet then have sex and it was terrible only to find out they was all talk, then you think to yourself I waited for this lol
Yep, she lay there. As if she didn’t need to bother, like her being there was enough. We slept together another 30 or 40 times and that was the end of that
Sounds like my missus "
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Yeah one of my first times with a stranger, we were both quite shy & nervous but when it came to sex he was so slow & no passion. He had me on my back, bent over & just tapping away  i had to push him off, lay him down & ride him in the end. He didnt last long once i stated thrusting though 
Hopefully he gathered some confidence & is enjoying his experiences more. |
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"Yes. All except 2 of my solo meets from here have been a massive disappointment. Not had a huge number of meets as that's not what I'm about, but the ones I have had, I was enticed into with the talk and promises, but was left extremely underwhelmed.
And all 4 of our meets on our couples profile were not what we'd hoped for.
Maybe you need to adjust your expectations
If I'm meeting for sex I expect foreplay, oral sex (both giving and receiving), touching, caressing, kissing and generally turning each other on. What I don't expect is:
For me to suck his cock for 30 seconds and he cums, apologises and scuttles off.
For the guy to receive awesome oral from me and not give any in return (despite being 1 of a million guys who say they can lick pussy for hours)
For the guy to cum within 2 minutes of penetrative sex. To not even bother to try and delay it to ensure I'm pleasured as well, just fuck and cum leaving me frustrated.
For the guy to finger blast my fanny so hard I'm left bruised because he seems to think a squirt or a gush is an orgasm and that its actually pleasuresble for woman to gush.
No, I don't think I have high expectations, I believe sex should be a time that both parties should enjoy and where both parties make an effort, and that any "promises" are not in fact, utter bullshit.
You're meeting the wrong folk
Maybe look at how you do that "
You're absolutely right. I can't figure out how I chose so badly though. I don't meet loads of guys, I never do spontaneous meets, I always chat, talk about likes and dislikes, what I want, what he wants etc so I go in with certain expectations based on that, but the reality was very very different.
Oh well, every day is an opportunity to learn and fine tune the selection process  |
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I'm totally aware that first time sex with me is liable to be rubbish. For a combination of reasons, pandemic plus other life stuff, it's now going on for three years since I was last with someone, so utterly out of practice. In any case I've always felt that sex is never the best first time, there is a learning process in getting to know each others bodies, finding out what works and what doesn't. Everyone is different, there is no single magic technique for a good experience.
So yes, first time it would be surprising if it wasn't rubbish. But with good communication and a willingness to learn from each other, I hope that there would be every chance for rapid improvement. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Good sex is a two way street.
I wonder if she was as disappointed in you as you seem to be in her OP.
She prob was because she asked to meet regularly while I was fucking her the first time and she said she’s never cum and squirted so much in her life."
Did she, aye. |
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By *aui.Man
over a year ago
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Yes I have. Spoke/texted with a girl on and off for years. She was always incredibly keen, constantly banging on about how filthy she was. Some of the shit she said she had done or wanted to do was really out there, I can't even mention what some of it was on here.
When we eventually met she was like a different person. I don't know if it was nerves or something but she was so meek and awkward. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes. All except 2 of my solo meets from here have been a massive disappointment. Not had a huge number of meets as that's not what I'm about, but the ones I have had, I was enticed into with the talk and promises, but was left extremely underwhelmed.
And all 4 of our meets on our couples profile were not what we'd hoped for.
Maybe you need to adjust your expectations
If I'm meeting for sex I expect foreplay, oral sex (both giving and receiving), touching, caressing, kissing and generally turning each other on. What I don't expect is:
For me to suck his cock for 30 seconds and he cums, apologises and scuttles off.
For the guy to receive awesome oral from me and not give any in return (despite being 1 of a million guys who say they can lick pussy for hours)
For the guy to cum within 2 minutes of penetrative sex. To not even bother to try and delay it to ensure I'm pleasured as well, just fuck and cum leaving me frustrated.
For the guy to finger blast my fanny so hard I'm left bruised because he seems to think a squirt or a gush is an orgasm and that its actually pleasuresble for woman to gush.
No, I don't think I have high expectations, I believe sex should be a time that both parties should enjoy and where both parties make an effort, and that any "promises" are not in fact, utter bullshit. "
Gushing is very very pleasurable for me |
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"I had terrible sex many times. Maybe not to do with their technique as such, more to do with lack of chemistry which you can't make up"
This is it mostly. False expectations built up in head from to many chats with the person I find is a culprit of this as well.
Why I try meet people within two weeks of chatting ideally and limit the chats to a few messages / video call for 10 min natter to make sure happy with each other / vibe
Ping pong messages just become pointless imo
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