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"If only I were closer"
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Probably one for the ladies, but how often are you sent a message saying "shame you're so far away" or "if only I were closer" (or similar) from guys who seem to think that the only barrier to meeting is the distance? As if I don't have a choice, and if they happened to be geographically closer we would meet?
The cherry on the top is being asked if I'd meet them halfway, or put them up for the weekend if they generously travelled to me.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Probably one for the ladies, but how often are you sent a message saying "shame you're so far away" or "if only I were closer" (or similar) from guys who seem to think that the only barrier to meeting is the distance? As if I don't have a choice, and if they happened to be geographically closer we would meet?
The cherry on the top is being asked if I'd meet them halfway, or put them up for the weekend if they generously travelled to me.
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Yep, get this too. Feels very much like a waste of both our time. I do also mention on my profile if they're not local it's pointless. The couple of times I've queried it, I've normally been met with the offer to watch them wank on cam instead. Which is also on my profile that it's not an interest of mine  |
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over a year ago
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(Pussy cat) When I use my single account it isn't that common then again I am in the midlands which is closer to everywhere than other places seem to be from each other. Think my brain just melted. x |
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OP I have had the same type of message from women and couples on here over the years. Don’t take it literally is what I would say it’s probably offered as compliment in reality.
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"Probably one for the ladies, but how often are you sent a message saying "shame you're so far away" or "if only I were closer" (or similar) from guys who seem to think that the only barrier to meeting is the distance? As if I don't have a choice, and if they happened to be geographically closer we would meet?
The cherry on the top is being asked if I'd meet them halfway, or put them up for the weekend if they generously travelled to me.
Yep, get this too. Feels very much like a waste of both our time. I do also mention on my profile if they're not local it's pointless. The couple of times I've queried it, I've normally been met with the offer to watch them wank on cam instead. Which is also on my profile that it's not an interest of mine "
I did get a request to meet in a motel on the M1. I felt blessed at such a kind offer, he even offered to pay for my petrol.
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By *ase4122Man
over a year ago
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"Probably one for the ladies, but how often are you sent a message saying "shame you're so far away" or "if only I were closer" (or similar) from guys who seem to think that the only barrier to meeting is the distance? As if I don't have a choice, and if they happened to be geographically closer we would meet?
The cherry on the top is being asked if I'd meet them halfway, or put them up for the weekend if they generously travelled to me.
Damn it, if only I was closer lol
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over a year ago
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"I get it regularly. I'm really tempted to amend my rejection message "Wish you were closer, but no thanks".  "
That opens the floodgates to "I have a car,we can make this work"
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I do get it.
It makes me uncomfortable too if someone wants to travel a great distance. Almost like I'd feel obligated to have sex with them. Which I know is ridiculous but I'd feel like it none the less |
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"I get it regularly. I'm really tempted to amend my rejection message "Wish you were closer, but no thanks".
That opens the floodgates to "I have a car,we can make this work"
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This is true. I did used to reply saying "you're too far away but thanks"
But then they would argue with me.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get those types of messages everyday, sometimes several messages. Most are 100+ miles away, had a few 300 - 400 miles away, but did get one from 600+ miles away in France and because I pointed out the distance he threw a tantrum and called me all sorts and said I shouldn't be on the site if I won't meet people. |
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over a year ago
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"I got this a few day's ago. Followed by them wondering when i would be visiting their area. Erm, never"
A guy who lives in Spain asked if I would be visiting this summer. Sorry, what?! |
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"I got this a few day's ago. Followed by them wondering when i would be visiting their area. Erm, never
A guy who lives in Spain asked if I would be visiting this summer. Sorry, what?!"
Better than my offer of Ireland. If im travelling, I want sunshine |
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"Probably one for the ladies, but how often are you sent a message saying "shame you're so far away" or "if only I were closer" (or similar) from guys who seem to think that the only barrier to meeting is the distance? As if I don't have a choice, and if they happened to be geographically closer we would meet?
The cherry on the top is being asked if I'd meet them halfway, or put them up for the weekend if they generously travelled to me.
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Oh dam i so wish I was closer. Then you could make me feel even worse when you said you were not interested |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I get those types of messages everyday, sometimes several messages. Most are 100+ miles away, had a few 300 - 400 miles away, but did get one from 600+ miles away in France and because I pointed out the distance he threw a tantrum and called me all sorts and said I shouldn't be on the site if I won't meet people."
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"Probably one for the ladies, but how often are you sent a message saying "shame you're so far away" or "if only I were closer" (or similar) from guys who seem to think that the only barrier to meeting is the distance? As if I don't have a choice, and if they happened to be geographically closer we would meet?
The cherry on the top is being asked if I'd meet them halfway, or put them up for the weekend if they generously travelled to me.
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Yep. One handed typing. ((( ))) |
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It's not just one for the ladies - I get quite a few "if only you were closer" type messages, usually in response to forum posts...
....I received one just yesterday, in fact - they're simultaneously flattering and frustrating...  |
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"I got this a few day's ago. Followed by them wondering when i would be visiting their area. Erm, never
A guy who lives in Spain asked if I would be visiting this summer. Sorry, what?!
Better than my offer of Ireland. If im travelling, I want sunshine "
I will send him to you - I fancy Ireland though so we could swap? |
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"Followed by, well next time you come here… like sure I drive around the country stalking fab men! "
I hate this type of message. If we had a meet planned. We advertised it well in advance. Then get this message the next day. If you wanted to meet, you should of made the effort. We travel quite a bit around the uk. We're not gonna remember and make the effort to hunt you down. On the off chance you may make it next time.
The other bug bare is, we advertise a club meet. It's 1 hour 20 mins drive. They message and ask for a lift. = No!
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The other bug bare is, we advertise a club meet. It's 1 hour 20 mins drive. They message and ask for a lift. = No!
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This would creep me out. Although perhaps I’m just over-sensitive and it’s just them being environmentally responsible |
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I had a woman from Scotland message me once. She was over 250 miles away. So I said "oh, what a shame, if only you were closer". I don't want them 250 miles away, I want them like....2 miles away lol. |
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I don't think it's assuming you would shag them if they lived down the road. Most people throw it out their to gage your reaction of interest or just to initiate conversation. |
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"I don't think it's assuming you would shag them if they lived down the road. Most people throw it out their to gage your reaction of interest or just to initiate conversation."
What a good comment |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Distance is less of an issue, time is. I've travelled hundreds of miles to meet regular friends, but I've known it would be worth it.
I won't travel more than 2 hours for a social. |
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I love to perv on the photos on this site but if I no a women is outside a certain rang I don't msg as what's the point. There is already enough time wasters on here haha I don't need to drive 2 hours to be stood up  |
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It's annoying. It's why I have cannot travel on my profile, even though I drive and would travel up to 30 minutes to meet someone. Otherwise you get people from like Manchester wanting you to come meet them. Then there's people that say they'll travel to me, which is a no because they might come all this way then I don't fancy them when I meet them in person. Unless someone's actually going to be visiting the area for other reasons I don't want to hear from them. |
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"Followed by, well next time you come here… like sure I drive around the country stalking fab men! "
Aye like you're just going to happen to visit some random UK village you'd never head of before and if I'm away I'm away with my mates or my family I'm not just going to nash off from them from our break we've probably had planned for a while to meet some random stranger for a few hours. |
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By *onnyadtMan
over a year ago
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For some people distance really isn't an issue. Those that only want to meet locals I get but some do and can travel. I could be anywhere in the country at weekends, Ripon in the North East last weekend, Gloucester this weekend by choice of where I feel I need to go. But yes, op, we should never assume because we are closeby from outer town we should expect a meet, that's plain wrong. |
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"It's annoying. It's why I have cannot travel on my profile, even though I drive and would travel up to 30 minutes to meet someone. Otherwise you get people from like Manchester wanting you to come meet them. Then there's people that say they'll travel to me, which is a no because they might come all this way then I don't fancy them when I meet them in person. Unless someone's actually going to be visiting the area for other reasons I don't want to hear from them."
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"I do get it.
It makes me uncomfortable too if someone wants to travel a great distance. Almost like I'd feel obligated to have sex with them. Which I know is ridiculous but I'd feel like it none the less "
Yeah, they would definitely feel like you owe them sex, that’s for sure. Otherwise, they wouldn’t even bother to travel to you.
So your feeling about this is spot on
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I had that recently, and I responded that distance wasn’t a problem if both sides really wanted to make it work, just to see what they would respond with.
Following response - would you come to mine?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Probably one for the ladies, but how often are you sent a message saying "shame you're so far away" or "if only I were closer" (or similar) from guys who seem to think that the only barrier to meeting is the distance? As if I don't have a choice, and if they happened to be geographically closer we would meet?
The cherry on the top is being asked if I'd meet them halfway, or put them up for the weekend if they generously travelled to me.
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Far worse things to moan about! |
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