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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago
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Our profile is pretty clear we feel.. We come as a pair, a little bit tired of being approached by those evidently wanting a unicorn, but too bloody lazy. Mr is ignored/surplus to requirements! We've tried the warning that it won't be entertained.. Same with the wink, and then fab every photo of her, D's said don't worry about it, guy's are ignored unless you have the body of Thor, but he has feelings too. Overthinking or too sensitive?  |
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over a year ago
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"Our profile is pretty clear we feel.. We come as a pair, a little bit tired of being approached by those evidently wanting a unicorn, but too bloody lazy. Mr is ignored/surplus to requirements! We've tried the warning that it won't be entertained.. Same with the wink, and then fab every photo of her, D's said don't worry about it, guy's are ignored unless you have the body of Thor, but he has feelings too. Overthinking or too sensitive? "
We have been lucky so far, everyone has been considerate of us both, but i can imagine they are the exception to the rule |
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You're not overthinking or too sensitive. Couples do this all the time. We've actually got as far as meeting to discover that they only want me to perform like a seal with the woman...and I'm straight  |
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"You're not overthinking or too sensitive. Couples do this all the time. We've actually got as far as meeting to discover that they only want me to perform like a seal with the woman...and I'm straight "
Agreed, some people like to try their luck 
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You're probably overthinking but you definitely need a thick skin for this site
Everyone thinks the single men are bad but as you've said couples are just as bad for not reading profiles (& im sure some women too)
Don't take it personally people type through blinkers when they are horny and are only concerned for their own needs not yours
Block everyone from messaging you for a while & do your own searching until you feel ready to deal with the nonsense as you'll never stop it |
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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
"You're not overthinking or too sensitive. Couples do this all the time. We've actually got as far as meeting to discover that they only want me to perform like a seal with the woman...and I'm straight "
Thank you! Thought it might be just us.. lol.
Ouch, we'd be livid!!
Just our block list seems to be growing..  |
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over a year ago
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As others have said people message with the horn lenses on. Many dont read profiles or acknowledge a couple is actually 2 people who want to swing together. Just block/ignore folk who arent respectful of you as a couple. |
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"You're not overthinking or too sensitive. Couples do this all the time. We've actually got as far as meeting to discover that they only want me to perform like a seal with the woman...and I'm straight
Thank you! Thought it might be just us.. lol.
Ouch, we'd be livid!!
Just our block list seems to be growing.. "
I don't have an answer for you because we are very careful and have at least one social but people lie. One woman even told me to stop telling her I was straight because she knew already, then tried to full on kiss me |
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"Our profile is pretty clear we feel.. We come as a pair, a little bit tired of being approached by those evidently wanting a unicorn, but too bloody lazy. Mr is ignored/surplus to requirements! We've tried the warning that it won't be entertained.. Same with the wink, and then fab every photo of her, D's said don't worry about it, guy's are ignored unless you have the body of Thor, but he has feelings too. Overthinking or too sensitive? "
Doesn't happen very often to us, thankfully.
They're just not your kind of people, I would block and move on.
What does happen to us and is hugely frustrating is couples with only female half in photos wanting to engage with us - I (missus) am straight and have very little interest in the female half of any couple, yet they still expect me to be interested in a can in a bag scenario which is frankly demeaning.
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"Our profile is pretty clear we feel.. We come as a pair, a little bit tired of being approached by those evidently wanting a unicorn, but too bloody lazy. Mr is ignored/surplus to requirements! We've tried the warning that it won't be entertained.. Same with the wink, and then fab every photo of her, D's said don't worry about it, guy's are ignored unless you have the body of Thor, but he has feelings too. Overthinking or too sensitive?
Doesn't happen very often to us, thankfully.
They're just not your kind of people, I would block and move on.
What does happen to us and is hugely frustrating is couples with only female half in photos wanting to engage with us - I (missus) am straight and have very little interest in the female half of any couple, yet they still expect me to be interested in a can in a bag scenario which is frankly demeaning.
Missus "
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"Our profile is pretty clear we feel.. We come as a pair, a little bit tired of being approached by those evidently wanting a unicorn, but too bloody lazy. Mr is ignored/surplus to requirements! We've tried the warning that it won't be entertained.. Same with the wink, and then fab every photo of her, D's said don't worry about it, guy's are ignored unless you have the body of Thor, but he has feelings too. Overthinking or too sensitive?
Doesn't happen very often to us, thankfully.
They're just not your kind of people, I would block and move on.
What does happen to us and is hugely frustrating is couples with only female half in photos wanting to engage with us - I (missus) am straight and have very little interest in the female half of any couple, yet they still expect me to be interested in a can in a bag scenario which is frankly demeaning.
Missus "
Your profile says Mrs is bicurious, which would explain why you may be having trouble  |
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"Our profile is pretty clear we feel.. We come as a pair, a little bit tired of being approached by those evidently wanting a unicorn, but too bloody lazy. Mr is ignored/surplus to requirements! We've tried the warning that it won't be entertained.. Same with the wink, and then fab every photo of her, D's said don't worry about it, guy's are ignored unless you have the body of Thor, but he has feelings too. Overthinking or too sensitive?
Doesn't happen very often to us, thankfully.
They're just not your kind of people, I would block and move on.
What does happen to us and is hugely frustrating is couples with only female half in photos wanting to engage with us - I (missus) am straight and have very little interest in the female half of any couple, yet they still expect me to be interested in a can in a bag scenario which is frankly demeaning.
Missus
Your profile says Mrs is bicurious, which would explain why you may be having trouble "
I'm experienced with women and things happen with the right people in the right situations, hence the bi curious thing.
My sexuality status should have zero things to do with couples assuming that I would want to have sex with an Internet ghost that hides behind his wife's photos.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s very common and it’s hard for couples to find single women, hence approaching couples for the female only.
We have learnt that we are only ever likely to find single girls at clubs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You're not overthinking or too sensitive. Couples do this all the time. We've actually got as far as meeting to discover that they only want me to perform like a seal with the woman...and I'm straight "
Made me chuckle, many do try their luck heh. Chancers at large. |
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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago
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"You're not overthinking or too sensitive. Couples do this all the time. We've actually got as far as meeting to discover that they only want me to perform like a seal with the woman...and I'm straight "
This has happened to us on every meet with a couple, its why I gave up trying to meet couples on here, we just meet couples in clubs now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Our profile is pretty clear we feel.. We come as a pair, a little bit tired of being approached by those evidently wanting a unicorn, but too bloody lazy. Mr is ignored/surplus to requirements! We've tried the warning that it won't be entertained.. Same with the wink, and then fab every photo of her, D's said don't worry about it, guy's are ignored unless you have the body of Thor, but he has feelings too. Overthinking or too sensitive? "
Some couples meet separately. Some people think people on a site like this are there for their pleasure and fantasies only. It doesn't occur to them that the person may have their own fantasies and desires.
Easily ignored/ blocked. And no you're not being too sensitive at all.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You're not overthinking or too sensitive. Couples do this all the time. We've actually got as far as meeting to discover that they only want me to perform like a seal with the woman...and I'm straight
Thank you! Thought it might be just us.. lol.
Ouch, we'd be livid!!
Just our block list seems to be growing..
I don't have an answer for you because we are very careful and have at least one social but people lie. One woman even told me to stop telling her I was straight because she knew already, then tried to full on kiss me "
!!!! That's vile.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You’re not being too sensitive OP. My experience so far is that the majority (but not all) of people who approach me are after their own gratification only, and I’m happy to uncompromisingly wait for the right opportunities, so keep your chin up xx
Incidentally, since opening up to the idea of fun with couples, and saying yes I would meet for a social, every single couple that has previously expressed an interest has vanished |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You're not overthinking or too sensitive. Couples do this all the time. We've actually got as far as meeting to discover that they only want me to perform like a seal with the woman...and I'm straight
Thank you! Thought it might be just us.. lol.
Ouch, we'd be livid!!
Just our block list seems to be growing..
I don't have an answer for you because we are very careful and have at least one social but people lie. One woman even told me to stop telling her I was straight because she knew already, then tried to full on kiss me
!!!! That's vile. "
That’s terrible |
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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago
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"You're not overthinking or too sensitive. Couples do this all the time. We've actually got as far as meeting to discover that they only want me to perform like a seal with the woman...and I'm straight "
We had a similar experience, oh well. Frustrating as it wasn't til a week before we had arranged to meet that they said so. |
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We get different requests we are stag & vixen, Mr doesn’t play but his kink is that he likes to watch me play with guys. He doesn’t want photos or videos sending and it states very clearly on our profile i dont play alone and Mr will be present at meets. Still get so many messages from guys wanting to just meet me. Also get couples messaging for full swap which if they’d read our profile they’d know that’s not what we do!
People will always try their luck and we just tend to ignore these messages now. |
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"Our profile is pretty clear we feel.. We come as a pair, a little bit tired of being approached by those evidently wanting a unicorn, but too bloody lazy. Mr is ignored/surplus to requirements! We've tried the warning that it won't be entertained.. Same with the wink, and then fab every photo of her, D's said don't worry about it, guy's are ignored unless you have the body of Thor, but he has feelings too. Overthinking or too sensitive? "
Not over thinking it at all, we experience similar and as already mentioned develop thick skin and a jedi filtering game. In fairness we have single males who from the outset have expressed a desire for both. But there are the others..... |
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"You're not overthinking or too sensitive. Couples do this all the time. We've actually got as far as meeting to discover that they only want me to perform like a seal with the woman...and I'm straight "
I have that happen with couples, where I end up in the meet and they try change the play to just me with the guy .. I am on my toes and out of there |
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"You're not overthinking or too sensitive. Couples do this all the time. We've actually got as far as meeting to discover that they only want me to perform like a seal with the woman...and I'm straight
We had a similar experience, oh well. Frustrating as it wasn't til a week before we had arranged to meet that they said so."
We've actually been at their house about to get started |
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You have to be considerate to the male I see it says he is straight so to me you both there to please the woman but if hes not involved it doesn’t happen as the women can probably testifie to that think I got that right short end the bloke comes as part of the couple |
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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
Hey all!!
Please don't misunderstand us.. We're having a blast on here meeting many wonderful people and have many more wanting to.. (life) #firstworldproblem
From some of you wonderful peoples responses it seems quite prevalent!
The common issue of some not actually bothering to read profiles, ours is succinct and not long..
Some of the experiences mentioned are truly awful!!
The absolute arrogance!!
We've had a little crossing of expressed boundaries, but dealt with at the time with a no. Anything other we'd not hesitate to say fuck off!
Happy fabbing!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Our profile is pretty clear we feel.. We come as a pair, a little bit tired of being approached by those evidently wanting a unicorn, but too bloody lazy. Mr is ignored/surplus to requirements! We've tried the warning that it won't be entertained.. Same with the wink, and then fab every photo of her, D's said don't worry about it, guy's are ignored unless you have the body of Thor, but he has feelings too. Overthinking or too sensitive? "
We had the same this afternoon, in fact I used those very words “I assume I’m surplus to requirements “, my wife was not pleased and deleted the thread |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Our profile is pretty clear we feel.. We come as a pair, a little bit tired of being approached by those evidently wanting a unicorn, but too bloody lazy. Mr is ignored/surplus to requirements! We've tried the warning that it won't be entertained.. Same with the wink, and then fab every photo of her, D's said don't worry about it, guy's are ignored unless you have the body of Thor, but he has feelings too. Overthinking or too sensitive?
We had the same this afternoon, in fact I used those very words “I assume I’m surplus to requirements “, my wife was not pleased and deleted the thread"
To be fair its all pics of ur Mrs on your profile, how would a female know if she liked the look of you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Our profile is pretty clear we feel.. We come as a pair, a little bit tired of being approached by those evidently wanting a unicorn, but too bloody lazy. Mr is ignored/surplus to requirements! We've tried the warning that it won't be entertained.. Same with the wink, and then fab every photo of her, D's said don't worry about it, guy's are ignored unless you have the body of Thor, but he has feelings too. Overthinking or too sensitive?
We had the same this afternoon, in fact I used those very words “I assume I’m surplus to requirements “, my wife was not pleased and deleted the thread
To be fair its all pics of ur Mrs on your profile, how would a female know if she liked the look of you?"
True, only pics of me in private but I’m too body conscious to display. Having said that, our profile describes what we are about. The enquiry this afternoon was polite but my wife resented the way I was being pushed to the side |
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"Our profile is pretty clear we feel.. We come as a pair, a little bit tired of being approached by those evidently wanting a unicorn, but too bloody lazy. Mr is ignored/surplus to requirements! We've tried the warning that it won't be entertained.. Same with the wink, and then fab every photo of her, D's said don't worry about it, guy's are ignored unless you have the body of Thor, but he has feelings too. Overthinking or too sensitive?
We had the same this afternoon, in fact I used those very words “I assume I’m surplus to requirements “, my wife was not pleased and deleted the thread
To be fair its all pics of ur Mrs on your profile, how would a female know if she liked the look of you?
True, only pics of me in private but I’m too body conscious to display. Having said that, our profile describes what we are about. The enquiry this afternoon was polite but my wife resented the way I was being pushed to the side"
Am just going on when i was a couple on here, was a nightmare finding the right couple we both were attracted to when alls it was is pics of the female |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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You're not oversensitive op .I'm half a couple and straight and we've had it where they've wanted to meet me ie does the lady meet one,is she bi (no read the profile).
It's rude when you're clear you meet together and ate both involved,plus you have good photos of the Mr too (most don't ).
I'd just delete and block any messages that imply they only want to meet the woman.They can't be arsed reading it or thought it wouldn't apply to them. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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"Our profile is pretty clear we feel.. We come as a pair, a little bit tired of being approached by those evidently wanting a unicorn, but too bloody lazy. Mr is ignored/surplus to requirements! We've tried the warning that it won't be entertained.. Same with the wink, and then fab every photo of her, D's said don't worry about it, guy's are ignored unless you have the body of Thor, but he has feelings too. Overthinking or too sensitive?
We had the same this afternoon, in fact I used those very words “I assume I’m surplus to requirements “, my wife was not pleased and deleted the thread
To be fair its all pics of ur Mrs on your profile, how would a female know if she liked the look of you?
True, only pics of me in private but I’m too body conscious to display. Having said that, our profile describes what we are about. The enquiry this afternoon was polite but my wife resented the way I was being pushed to the side
Am just going on when i was a couple on here, was a nightmare finding the right couple we both were attracted to when alls it was is pics of the female "
I 100% feel this too. |
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We had a proposal from a couple that thankfully isn't on here anymore.
It was as follows
1st meet Mrs Raccoon meets male half
2nd meet Mrs Raccoon meets the couple
3rd meet Mr can then finally join in....how nice of them!
We obviously didn't take up their offer!
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"We had a proposal from a couple that thankfully isn't on here anymore.
It was as follows
1st meet Mrs Raccoon meets male half
2nd meet Mrs Raccoon meets the couple
3rd meet Mr can then finally join in....how nice of them!
We obviously didn't take up their offer!
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We’ve had a few of those, always from unverified! |
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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago
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"We had a proposal from a couple that thankfully isn't on here anymore.
It was as follows
1st meet Mrs Raccoon meets male half
2nd meet Mrs Raccoon meets the couple
3rd meet Mr can then finally join in....how nice of them!
We obviously didn't take up their offer!
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What the actual fuck!?!?! Wow!!! Makes ours look tame.. lol
So generous an offer, cannot understand why you turned it down
Go hire a escort maybe.. Actually going to use that one  |
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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Our profile is pretty clear we feel.. We come as a pair, a little bit tired of being approached by those evidently wanting a unicorn, but too bloody lazy. Mr is ignored/surplus to requirements! We've tried the warning that it won't be entertained.. Same with the wink, and then fab every photo of her, D's said don't worry about it, guy's are ignored unless you have the body of Thor, but he has feelings too. Overthinking or too sensitive?
We had the same this afternoon, in fact I used those very words “I assume I’m surplus to requirements “, my wife was not pleased and deleted the thread"
Glad to have inspired your 'fuck off, kindly' response |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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another reason we stopped meeting couples via fab ... im not a toy that other couple expect ... not only that i find with couples that the male half of many wants to meet without his wife knowing too .... in some ways couples are much worse than men only the %'s mess it up
best way to meet other couples is face to face ie clubs or socials where its easy to find out if and what they are looking for ... |
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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago
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Another thought.. Someone mentioned a lack of pictures of Mr earlier.
We know it's not an excuse and most are trying their luck!
But, could it be those who don't actually know how to read, may be believing with a prominent female gallery she's the only one who plays?? Just spitballing..
We have tried to get a reasonable balance... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have had this a few times, I (Mr) get ignored, even in group chats when we are all involved I get pushed to one side, my questions or comments get answered but somehow switched back round to get a response from Mrs friendly. |
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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago
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"We have had this a few times, I (Mr) get ignored, even in group chats when we are all involved I get pushed to one side, my questions or comments get answered but somehow switched back round to get a response from Mrs friendly. "
Utterly this!! A group chat after we'd met and had a fucking great time.. Discussing second meet and felt marginalized. I actually said "Just wanted to check if I'm invited as well?!" |
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"We have had this a few times, I (Mr) get ignored, even in group chats when we are all involved I get pushed to one side, my questions or comments get answered but somehow switched back round to get a response from Mrs friendly
Utterly this!! A group chat after we'd met and had a fucking great time.. Discussing second meet and felt marginalized. I actually said "Just wanted to check if I'm invited as well?!""
We hadn't even met, just a few messages in, we are still relatively new and our goal posts are widening gradually of what we are looking for, we were chatting to one couple and we had said exactly what we were after and that we would take things slow, however chat kept taking a turn to what I could only describe as a 3some scenario between the couple and Mrs friendly, in the end we had to just block and move on. |
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"Another thought.. Someone mentioned a lack of pictures of Mr earlier.
We know it's not an excuse and most are trying their luck!
But, could it be those who don't actually know how to read, may be believing with a prominent female gallery she's the only one who plays?? Just spitballing..
We have tried to get a reasonable balance..."
That’s a fair point, will consider this when reviewing our profile |
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Flipping hell, there was me thinking being a single guy on here was complicated.
Reading all the different situations it’s shows how much clear communication and understanding is needed. For me personally I’d 100% more enjoy a meet where me and the other guy have a bit of banter and everyone is all relaxed. I guess the couple to couple adds just an extra dimension of personalities, attraction and sex appeal that all need to fit together. Full respect to you all ! |
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"Flipping hell, there was me thinking being a single guy on here was complicated.
Reading all the different situations it’s shows how much clear communication and understanding is needed. For me personally I’d 100% more enjoy a meet where me and the other guy have a bit of banter and everyone is all relaxed. I guess the couple to couple adds just an extra dimension of personalities, attraction and sex appeal that all need to fit together. Full respect to you all !"
Affairs of the genitalia are seldom simple? |
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"Another thought.. Someone mentioned a lack of pictures of Mr earlier.
We know it's not an excuse and most are trying their luck!
But, could it be those who don't actually know how to read, may be believing with a prominent female gallery she's the only one who plays?? Just spitballing..
We have tried to get a reasonable balance...
That’s a fair point, will consider this when reviewing our profile "
We have a fair balance of pics and still get the same so don't think its that. |
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