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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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There seems an awful lot of profiles which have been active for over a year , yet are still not verified or there are no indications they have met anyone ?
I know there are fake profiles etc ... But do folk really set up a genuine profile and actively not meet ?
The reason for this post is we had two friend invites today from couples where this is the case , and although we accepted them to perv the pics it is just plain odd that you can be on here over a year without a meet !
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are finding a lot of pretenders in the scene these days...like the idea or think its cool to be a swinger,but don't actually do anything"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just because someone has not been verified does not mean they have not had any meets. Perhaps they just like to keep things private.
Never understand why this rattles people so much. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It could be a case of they have met but met other none veritied people so they cant verify each other
It could be a case of they just havnt found anyone they like enough to meet yet, or have arranged a meet and been stood up so they are more weary now
if they are single guys i think its perfectly acceptable to be on here any ,lenth of time and not be verifed yet still genuine. all because they havnmt found anyone to meet them yet that does not mean they wouldnt if they had the right offer
they could be fake but theres also a few good reasons why genuine people arn not verified |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just because someone has not been verified does not mean they have not had any meets. Perhaps they just like to keep things private.
Never understand why this rattles people so much. "
I think it is probably because it is good way of making a judgement of wether someone is genuine.
We don't show all our veris but we show a couple and have the tick just to show we do meet. I agree it is ok to keep it private but you can have the tick without showing any. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just because someone has not been verified does not mean they have not had any meets. Perhaps they just like to keep things private.
Never understand why this rattles people so much. "
Simple really - when you are genuine and actively seeking a meet it is somewhat frustrating to get messages from folk who are clearly not up for playing !
And let's face it - you can still be private and verified can't you ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just because someone has not been verified does not mean they have not had any meets. Perhaps they just like to keep things private.
Never understand why this rattles people so much. "
Maybe it's because they don't like taking newbies on... in case of the dreaded drama moment.
It is a catch-22 though. People need to be met to be verified and the other people need to meet them in order to do so.
If it wasn't such a catch-22, there wouldn't be posts bemoaning peoples lack of verifications, or others stating that despite their best efforts they have yet to get a meet to be verified.
Someone has to make the first move somewhere.
So... we meet newbies obviously :o)
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We also meet newbies - infact we love meeting them !
Agree with some of the points made , especially single guys finding it hard , but couples ?
Privacy issues ? No way - just don't show friends or verifications |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just because someone has not been verified does not mean they have not had any meets. Perhaps they just like to keep things private.
Never understand why this rattles people so much.
Simple really - when you are genuine and actively seeking a meet it is somewhat frustrating to get messages from folk who are clearly not up for playing !
And let's face it - you can still be private and verified can't you ?"
Why let it frustrate you flip it's suppose to be fun and if you think they not up for playing just move on as I'm sure they will get their fun their way.
As for being verified and private yep you can as I am, I decided that I don't need or want verifying from anyone I meet and I don't give them out normally as I prefer to find things out myself and not rely on what someone else thinks to make my mind up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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And let's face it - you can still be private and verified can't you ?"
depends on your definition of verified
if you have all your verifications private it shows as a verified user but in reality they could just be web cam verifications
so if your only looking for people to meet who meet i wouldnt say a verified profile with none on show isnt any beter than a unverifed profile
People seem to forget we all have to start somewhere
all of us was none verified at some point, but someone put their faith in us and was our first meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have only been here a couple of months and when we arranged our first meet here we made it clear we were new here but not new to this.
We have been verified several times now so I find it hard to believe you could be here for a year, meeting and not had a single verification.
Can totally understand the single guys may have issues if they haven't found the right person yet but as said above. Couples - Really? They have been here a year. Been meeting and not met a single verified person willing to leave them one?
But that is just my take on it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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And let's face it - you can still be private and verified can't you ?
depends on your definition of verified
if you have all your verifications private it shows as a verified user but in reality they could just be web cam verifications
so if your only looking for people to meet who meet i wouldnt say a verified profile with none on show isnt any beter than a unverifed profile
People seem to forget we all have to start somewhere
all of us was none verified at some point, but someone put their faith in us and was our first meet "
Don't the filters allow you to only look for those who have been meet verified though? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think the issue, or for us anyway, is when you get messages from people who have been here ages and not verified.
it does make it hard to make a judgement |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There seems an awful lot of profiles which have been active for over a year , yet are still not verified or there are no indications they have met anyone ?
I know there are fake profiles etc ... But do folk really set up a genuine profile and actively not meet ?
The reason for this post is we had two friend invites today from couples where this is the case , and although we accepted them to perv the pics it is just plain odd that you can be on here over a year without a meet !
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There are a lot who bottle it before meeting on here and don't delete. I never think that much about the ones who don't meet though those that do are far more interesting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are a lot who bottle it before meeting on here and don't delete. I never think that much about the ones who don't meet though those that do are far more interesting. "
No but if they bottle on you when you have made arrangement to meet, babysitters etc it is a proper pain.
I suppose it just shows that people DO actually meet or have done in the past so gives you a bit more confidence they won't mess you around |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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And let's face it - you can still be private and verified can't you ?
depends on your definition of verified
if you have all your verifications private it shows as a verified user but in reality they could just be web cam verifications
so if your only looking for people to meet who meet i wouldnt say a verified profile with none on show isnt any beter than a unverifed profile
People seem to forget we all have to start somewhere
all of us was none verified at some point, but someone put their faith in us and was our first meet
Don't the filters allow you to only look for those who have been meet verified though? "
The point is that it's the ones that have been on for over a year - not genuine newbies - so filters would be counter productive as we love newbies |
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By (user no longer on site)
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And let's face it - you can still be private and verified can't you ?
depends on your definition of verified
if you have all your verifications private it shows as a verified user but in reality they could just be web cam verifications
so if your only looking for people to meet who meet i wouldnt say a verified profile with none on show isnt any beter than a unverifed profile
People seem to forget we all have to start somewhere
all of us was none verified at some point, but someone put their faith in us and was our first meet
Don't the filters allow you to only look for those who have been meet verified though?
The point is that it's the ones that have been on for over a year - not genuine newbies - so filters would be counter productive as we love newbies "
Yes I get that but there is a filter allowing you to block unverified then it doesn't matter how they use the site cos they won't be able to message you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have been on here over a year and have had plenty of offers,but none have floated our boat..yet...hence no veris...and i think that might be the case with a few others...we are very fussy and will stay fussy until we find what we are looking for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have been on here over a year and have had plenty of offers,but none have floated our boat..yet...hence no veris...and i think that might be the case with a few others...we are very fussy and will stay fussy until we find what we are looking for."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have been on here over a year and have had plenty of offers,but none have floated our boat..yet...hence no veris...and i think that might be the case with a few others...we are very fussy and will stay fussy until we find what we are looking for.
Well said"
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"Amazing number of people say you are not verified.If they really read our profile they would see we are.We choose notto show from whom though."
Can't really see the point in being able to hide verifications.Other sites we have used you can't do this.Surely the whole idea of a verification is so people can see your genuine,or get an idea what people that have met you have said.
Whats the point having them other than that ?
Obviously this is just our 2 bobs worth and everyone will disagree but thats normal .. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have been on here over a year and have had plenty of offers,but none have floated our boat..yet...hence no veris...and i think that might be the case with a few others...we are very fussy and will stay fussy until we find what we are looking for."
good to see selective people.
People not having veri's doesn't bother me, if like above they don't float my boat I don't meet either way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Amazing number of people say you are not verified.If they really read our profile they would see we are.We choose notto show from whom though.
Can't really see the point in being able to hide verifications.Other sites we have used you can't do this.Surely the whole idea of a verification is so people can see your genuine,or get an idea what people that have met you have said.
Whats the point having them other than that ?
Obviously this is just our 2 bobs worth and everyone will disagree but thats normal .. "
But why would you want to meet someone on the back of what someone else says about them ? I just don't get that but anyway we all use the site how best it works for us |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"It could be a case of they have met but met other none veritied people so they cant verify each other
It could be a case of they just havnt found anyone they like enough to meet yet, or have arranged a meet and been stood up so they are more weary now
if they are single guys i think its perfectly acceptable to be on here any ,lenth of time and not be verifed yet still genuine. all because they havnmt found anyone to meet them yet that does not mean they wouldnt if they had the right offer
they could be fake but theres also a few good reasons why genuine people arn not verified "
well said...
Also some people just choose not to accept / send verifications. We have met quite a few who don't. |
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"Amazing number of people say you are not verified.If they really read our profile they would see we are.We choose notto show from whom though.
Can't really see the point in being able to hide verifications.Other sites we have used you can't do this.Surely the whole idea of a verification is so people can see your genuine,or get an idea what people that have met you have said.
Whats the point having them other than that ?
Obviously this is just our 2 bobs worth and everyone will disagree but thats normal ..
But why would you want to meet someone on the back of what someone else says about them ? I just don't get that but anyway we all use the site how best it works for us "
Nobody said meet somebody off the back of what somebody has said about them in a verification,but it can give you an idea..
The whole point of verifications is to proof you are who you say you are,otherwise whats the point in them at all ? We've never ever arranged meets through any internet site and never will,but like you say everyone has their own ideas.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We have been on here over a year and have had plenty of offers,but none have floated our boat..yet...hence no veris...and i think that might be the case with a few others...we are very fussy and will stay fussy until we find what we are looking for.
Well said"
This is absolutely fine - but neither of you have sent a friend request to us have you ?
The point of the post was that those who send friend invites to us , yet have been on for so long without a meet are clearly not for us ( nor us for them I guess lol )
Being fussy is your prerogative and we are not trying to judge or criticise your activity  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have been on here over a year and have had plenty of offers,but none have floated our boat..yet...hence no veris...and i think that might be the case with a few others...we are very fussy and will stay fussy until we find what we are looking for.
Well said
This is absolutely fine - but neither of you have sent a friend request to us have you ?
The point of the post was that those who send friend invites to us , yet have been on for so long without a meet are clearly not for us ( nor us for them I guess lol )
Being fussy is your prerogative and we are not trying to judge or criticise your activity "
ahh...i see your point...sorry. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have been on here over a year and have had plenty of offers,but none have floated our boat..yet...hence no veris...and i think that might be the case with a few others...we are very fussy and will stay fussy until we find what we are looking for.
Well said
This is absolutely fine - but neither of you have sent a friend request to us have you ?
The point of the post was that those who send friend invites to us , yet have been on for so long without a meet are clearly not for us ( nor us for them I guess lol )
Being fussy is your prerogative and we are not trying to judge or criticise your activity "
Ah that was the point the friends request, why would you accept to perv the pics and then go on to say its plain odd being on here over a year and no meets then and not just delete and move on as they not for you ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If someone sends me a veri, I will verify them in return. I don't display them myself, but have never written a veri that I'm ashamed of - it's up to my friends if they want to display my words or not. It's not as if verifications are Holy Writ! |
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By * n zCouple
over a year ago
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"We have been on here over a year and have had plenty of offers,but none have floated our boat..yet...hence no veris...and i think that might be the case with a few others...we are very fussy and will stay fussy until we find what we are looking for."
Exactly the same for us |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have been on here over a year and have had plenty of offers,but none have floated our boat..yet...hence no veris...and i think that might be the case with a few others...we are very fussy and will stay fussy until we find what we are looking for."
Exactly this, and bizarrely we have far more luck away from here than from here. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We have been on here over a year and have had plenty of offers,but none have floated our boat..yet...hence no veris...and i think that might be the case with a few others...we are very fussy and will stay fussy until we find what we are looking for.
Well said
This is absolutely fine - but neither of you have sent a friend request to us have you ?
The point of the post was that those who send friend invites to us , yet have been on for so long without a meet are clearly not for us ( nor us for them I guess lol )
Being fussy is your prerogative and we are not trying to judge or criticise your activity
Ah that was the point the friends request, why would you accept to perv the pics and then go on to say its plain odd being on here over a year and no meets then and not just delete and move on as they not for you ? "
Since they sent us the friend invite , perhaps you could explain why we shouldn't perv their pics ?
Surely that's our prerogative ?
Often , when folk send a friend invite it's because they only have pics on private and this is a way to show who you are to a party you may be interested in .
It's when one realises they have been on so long with no meets it is a bit frustrating  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have been on here over a year and have had plenty of offers,but none have floated our boat..yet...hence no veris...and i think that might be the case with a few others...we are very fussy and will stay fussy until we find what we are looking for.
Well said
This is absolutely fine - but neither of you have sent a friend request to us have you ?
The point of the post was that those who send friend invites to us , yet have been on for so long without a meet are clearly not for us ( nor us for them I guess lol )
Being fussy is your prerogative and we are not trying to judge or criticise your activity
Ah that was the point the friends request, why would you accept to perv the pics and then go on to say its plain odd being on here over a year and no meets then and not just delete and move on as they not for you ?
Since they sent us the friend invite , perhaps you could explain why we shouldn't perv their pics ?
Surely that's our prerogative ?
Often , when folk send a friend invite it's because they only have pics on private and this is a way to show who you are to a party you may be interested in .
It's when one realises they have been on so long with no meets it is a bit frustrating "
Do you know 100% that they havnt met , have you asked them ? |
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"We have been on here over a year and have had plenty of offers,but none have floated our boat..yet...hence no veris...and i think that might be the case with a few others...we are very fussy and will stay fussy until we find what we are looking for.
Well said
This is absolutely fine - but neither of you have sent a friend request to us have you ?
The point of the post was that those who send friend invites to us , yet have been on for so long without a meet are clearly not for us ( nor us for them I guess lol )
Being fussy is your prerogative and we are not trying to judge or criticise your activity
Ah that was the point the friends request, why would you accept to perv the pics and then go on to say its plain odd being on here over a year and no meets then and not just delete and move on as they not for you ?
Since they sent us the friend invite , perhaps you could explain why we shouldn't perv their pics ?
Surely that's our prerogative ?
Often , when folk send a friend invite it's because they only have pics on private and this is a way to show who you are to a party you may be interested in .
It's when one realises they have been on so long with no meets it is a bit frustrating
Do you know 100% that they havnt met , have you asked them ? "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have been on here over a year and have had plenty of offers,but none have floated our boat..yet...hence no veris...and i think that might be the case with a few others...we are very fussy and will stay fussy until we find what we are looking for.
Well said
This is absolutely fine - but neither of you have sent a friend request to us have you ?
The point of the post was that those who send friend invites to us , yet have been on for so long without a meet are clearly not for us ( nor us for them I guess lol )
Being fussy is your prerogative and we are not trying to judge or criticise your activity
Ah that was the point the friends request, why would you accept to perv the pics and then go on to say its plain odd being on here over a year and no meets then and not just delete and move on as they not for you ?
Since they sent us the friend invite , perhaps you could explain why we shouldn't perv their pics ?
Surely that's our prerogative ?
Often , when folk send a friend invite it's because they only have pics on private and this is a way to show who you are to a party you may be interested in .
It's when one realises they have been on so long with no meets it is a bit frustrating
Do you know 100% that they havnt met , have you asked them ?
Moody by name moody by nature eh ? "
Don't see asking a question as being moody but hey hoo |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Yeah , we actually thanked them fir the invite , said we liked the pics and would they like a social meet .
Guess what ?
No reply !!!!
It does seem a little like you have an issue here which is fine - we do things our way and have our opinion and you yours which is cool - but can't help echoing the sentiments of the previous couple  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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we have been on here on and off for over a year had loads of meets and verys in the past we dont think we have anything to prove we like to meet at clubs now so if people turn up so be it if not we can find someone to play with |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"we have been on here on and off for over a year had loads of meets and verys in the past we dont think we have anything to prove we like to meet at clubs now so if people turn up so be it if not we can find someone to play with"
This is great - we spent about six months exclusively playing in clubs and verifications are completely irrelevant when club play is ones thing
However we are not saying anyone has anything to prove here - perhaps you didn't get the gist of the thread ?
If you get a friend invite from a couple who have been on here for over a year and subsequently find they have yet to meet , it's a bit odd !
Hope that clears it up ?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yeah , we actually thanked them fir the invite , said we liked the pics and would they like a social meet .
Guess what ?
No reply !!!!
It does seem a little like you have an issue here which is fine - we do things our way and have our opinion and you yours which is cool - but can't help echoing the sentiments of the previous couple "
Thank you for making that clear that was all that was needed. |
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