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Just been browsing a few profiles and come across a fem profile with 230 plus verifications and she only does bareback penetration , she's meeting 3 or more men a day , I'm not judging anyone but is she and the guys mad or is it the risk that makes it sexier |
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"Just been browsing a few profiles and come across a fem profile with 230 plus verifications and she only does bareback penetration , she's meeting 3 or more men a day , I'm not judging anyone but is she and the guys mad or is it the risk that makes it sexier "
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over a year ago
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Each to their own - but that's exactly why I - and many I know - backtrack veri's. You're never doing yourself any injustice doing your research!
But at the end of the day - if there's no veri's and no evidence of safe play - I'd still be responsible for my own 'safety'! |
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Like yourself, not judging, but anyone who does bareback when swinging/having sex with someone they dodn't want....personally feel they need their noggin examined. Would be 'ok' if they only contracted problems themselves, but they may pass them onto other folks... Personally I'd ban the phrase/declaration 'does bareback' from profiles. Sorry, not meaning to judge, but just feel responsibility for self and others is surely a big thing when it comes to swinging  |
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"Like yourself, not judging, but anyone who does bareback when swinging/having sex with someone they dodn't want....personally feel they need their noggin examined. Would be 'ok' if they only contracted problems themselves, but they may pass them onto other folks... Personally I'd ban the phrase/declaration 'does bareback' from profiles. Sorry, not meaning to judge, but just feel responsibility for self and others is surely a big thing when it comes to swinging "
banning it from profiles wont stop people doing it and forewarned is forearmed I think. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We became swingers to add another dimension to our sex lives and are loving it , but to ride bare back once is very risky , to ride bare back that many times is suicidal |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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And she's still alive. Only a matter of time before she gets something or someone nasty. I hope she doesn't get anything more than fun but in reality that doesn't sound good  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"good god, fanny like a baggy sock comes to mind!!"
Why do you think that. Fair play to her. No one is forcing people to meet her. She also being honest. I think my tally this year works out at not far off averaging 2 a day. But just have them in groups
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"good god, fanny like a baggy sock comes to mind!!
Why do you think that. Fair play to her. No one is forcing people to meet her. She also being honest. I think my tally this year works out at not far off averaging 2 a day. But just have them in groups
Cali"
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Thing is she is being honest. Yet every guy I've ever gone bare with or who has asked about it has stated safe sex only
So not sure why people get so stressed at those that are honest
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thing is she is being honest. Yet every guy I've ever gone bare with or who has asked about it has stated safe sex only
So not sure why people get so stressed at those that are honest
Cali"
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By (user no longer on site)
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But didn't you know? Promiscous women always have big saggy fannies and are total sluts. "
Oh yeah. My bad. Best tighten the straps on my pussy after my week lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why is it mad? Anyone on here could have had bareback sex with hundreds of people. Just because they don't have a ton of veri's showing it, doesn't mean they haven't.
Good for her for having her profile as she wants it. |
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By *c69funCouple
over a year ago
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The thing to think about is 1 women +250 bareback men is bad enough, but how many other women have said men met before and after and played bareback.
Each to their own, that's why we play safe only, spread like wildfire springs to mind with bareback. |
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"Like yourself, not judging, but anyone who does bareback when swinging/having sex with someone they dodn't want....personally feel they need their noggin examined. Would be 'ok' if they only contracted problems themselves, but they may pass them onto other folks... Personally I'd ban the phrase/declaration 'does bareback' from profiles. Sorry, not meaning to judge, but just feel responsibility for self and others is surely a big thing when it comes to swinging "
Exactly.. and sorry but that many is horrid.. if they want to but all of them are at risk its not just her and could then put others at risk unknowingly.. safe sex is never 100% safe so thats bad.. and sorry but the real genuinr swinging community wouldnt do that or tolerate it either... the sad truth of the site being full of non genuine swingers.. genuine swingers take safety in highest regard.. now it could be that all concerned are tested clear but not good anyway... each to their own but you should not be putting others at risk.
Yes we backtrack veris and do as much research as we can.. only way to be.. any doubts on health or safety we wont meet. |
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"It's ok though cos she's not a bisexual guy so she's 'low risk' according to WHO "
lol... But the 250 might be... lets face it at least half are likely to be..just using her as the bee to spread the pollen .. so to speak.. |
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Exactly.. and sorry but that many is horrid.. if they want to but all of them are at risk its not just her and could then put others at risk unknowingly.. safe sex is never 100% safe so thats bad.. and sorry but the real genuinr swinging community wouldnt do that or tolerate it either... the sad truth of the site being full of non genuine swingers.. genuine swingers take safety in highest regard.. now it could be that all concerned are tested clear but not good anyway... each to their own but you should not be putting others at risk.
Yes we backtrack veris and do as much research as we can.. only way to be.. any doubts on health or safety we wont meet."
Bollocks. I know people who class themselves as genuine swingers, who have been doing this for many, many years, that play bareback.
It's their choice. Their risk. If you believe that genuine swingers don't play bareback then you have a very idealistic view of swinging. |
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Does she have an STD and is trying to spread it to as many men as possible as a twisted form of revenge? Men are far more likely to take chances and she probably knows this. Imagine trying to work out the sexual history of all these people. |
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"Just been browsing a few profiles and come across a fem profile with 230 plus verifications and she only does bareback penetration , she's meeting 3 or more men a day , I'm not judging anyone but is she and the guys mad or is it the risk that makes it sexier "
Okay, she's got 230+ veris. How would you feel if she had all those veris HIDDEN....????? Or, if she didn't state that she only does bareback, and waits until the meet to 'drop that one into the conversation'.....??
Forearmed is forewarned....
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Always makes me smile when people state 'Im not judging but...'. You obviously are judging because you've started this thread to discredit this lady who chooses to play how she wishes and the men who meet her make that choice too.
These adults are no doubt aware of the implications.
There are a lot of naive statements on this thread which indicate that more education is needed in relation to sexual health. Women having lots of sex being slacker for one. The other that having a lot of unprotected partners will definitely mean death.
I think its a waste of time backtracking veris. I am not naive enough to think that the just because the profiles of those who have verified state safe sex, actually means that they have never had unprotected sex.
We can only control our own sexual health. I do not have unprotected sex with men I meet. I ensure they wear condoms and I ensure those condoms are in place regularly. My OH will never play with a woman unprotected. We are educated in relation to sexual health matters and we have checks. We take responsibility for ourselves and what happens in the play sessions we have.
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"Does she have an STD and is trying to spread it to as many men as possible as a twisted form of revenge? Men are far more likely to take chances and she probably knows this. Imagine trying to work out the sexual history of all these people."
You have absolutely no proof that this lady has an STI and is using this as revenge. I might as well make a statement saying, what if this woman is an alien from outer space whose body will automatically kill any unwanted bacteria. My statement would be just as silly as yours. |
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"Does she have an STD and is trying to spread it to as many men as possible as a twisted form of revenge? Men are far more likely to take chances and she probably knows this. Imagine trying to work out the sexual history of all these people."
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Good Grief, have some of you stopped to hear yourselves?
How do I know that any of you on here banging on about 'Safe Sex' don't enjoy bareback gangbangs at a local IBIS, happily taking on anyone who walked off the streets?
How do I know that any of you get tested?
Because you say so?
Because you put it on your profile?
Because you bang on about it on a forum?
People LIE in this world to get what they want. Someone who is being open and honest about how they play is then vilified, which means that the rest of us DON'T get to make an informed choice about how WE want to play and with whom.
So before you seek to beat up those who are open and honest - stop and think about the consequences of your actions - you expect everyone else to.
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So now if you go bare your not genuine. So many rules.
People need to stop worrying as most of you will have had sex with someone who has gone bare.
This is why most people aren't honest. Because you get slated. Yet most bb swingers will get tested often.
I mean it wasn't that long ago that someone on here said that if you always play safe why do you need to be tested. Now that to me is more scary.
And for the record I've had way more men than the original posters profile issue. But that was oral bare
I just get checked often. |
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"Always makes me smile when people state 'Im not judging but...'. You obviously are judging because you've started this thread to discredit this lady who chooses to play how she wishes and the men who meet her make that choice too.
These adults are no doubt aware of the implications.
There are a lot of naive statements on this thread which indicate that more education is needed in relation to sexual health. Women having lots of sex being slacker for one. The other that having a lot of unprotected partners will definitely mean death.
I think its a waste of time backtracking veris. I am not naive enough to think that the just because the profiles of those who have verified state safe sex, actually means that they have never had unprotected sex.
We can only control our own sexual health. I do not have unprotected sex with men I meet. I ensure they wear condoms and I ensure those condoms are in place regularly. My OH will never play with a woman unprotected. We are educated in relation to sexual health matters and we have checks. We take responsibility for ourselves and what happens in the play sessions we have.
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I suppose there is no reason why people on swingers sites should be any less judgemental than any other forums, nevertheless I always find it dispiriting, especially when regarding consensual sexual preferences. |
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Well this lady on the profile is (so far) a prostitute with a baggy fanny, bent on a murderous revenge to infect the whole world and is not far from death.
I think some of the kind people on here should go through her profile with a fine tooth comb. Go into all the 230 guys/couples/females verifications and track back to when they first set up their profile, tracking everyone they've played with, and then of course checking out who everyone else has played with. Write down the amount of bareback profiles that you come up when you are completing your stats and wrap this up in a nice neat report to present to the rest of us angelic swingers.
See you in 10 years guys |
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"So now if you go bare your not genuine. So many rules.
People need to stop worrying as most of you will have had sex with someone who has gone bare.
This is why most people aren't honest. Because you get slated. Yet most bb swingers will get tested often.
Good point.
I mean it wasn't that long ago that someone on here said that if you always play safe why do you need to be tested. Now that to me is more scary.
And for the record I've had way more men than the original posters profile issue. But that was oral bare
I just get checked often."
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By (user no longer on site)
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Good for her for being up front about it !
Everyone has the opportunity to play or not to play with her and it seems there are plenty that do lol !
The negative comments on this thread are inevitable and judgemental but that's the nature of forums and people !
Just our two Penney worth ! |
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"Good Grief, have some of you stopped to hear yourselves?
How do I know that any of you on here banging on about 'Safe Sex' don't enjoy bareback gangbangs at a local IBIS, happily taking on anyone who walked off the streets?
How do I know that any of you get tested?
Because you say so?
Because you put it on your profile?
Because you bang on about it on a forum?
People LIE in this world to get what they want. Someone who is being open and honest about how they play is then vilified, which means that the rest of us DON'T get to make an informed choice about how WE want to play and with whom.
So before you seek to beat up those who are open and honest - stop and think about the consequences of your actions - you expect everyone else to.
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The original thread was my initial shock at seeing her meet so many men in a short time , this is my shock not others,I wonder where she finds the time??
Her veris are a statement of her honesty, she has nothing to hide but how many of the guys she meets are as honest in their profiles.
This is a small community, at sometime or another we will come In to contact with people who have crossed sexual paths with some higher risk players its up to each individual to Procter or not to protect themselves.
In the heat of the moment some people will throw caution to the wind esp at parties that turn into fuck fests .
Nobody is attacking this woman it's because we all have differing standards to our risk and what we are prepared to do in respect to the risk of having sex with strangers, a thread like this us always going to stir opinion
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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im sure she'll wise up if she ever gets the balls to to to the GUM clinic.
The numbers arent really scary but totally agree with the OP, its senseless to be sleeping with that many and not think even twice about the potential ramifications
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"im sure she'll wise up if she ever gets the balls to to to the GUM clinic.
The numbers arent really scary but totally agree with the OP, its senseless to be sleeping with that many and not think even twice about the potential ramifications "
Who's to know whether she goes to the GUM clinic? That hasn't been mentioned. For all we know she might be there once a month. For all we know she may be very well aware of the ramifications and is taking 'some' steps to lessen the risk.
What she is doing may be considered dangerous by many, but making assumptions about how this lady is going about it is too....
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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Just thought,
At least she is showing her verifications/tastes. As someone else said, 'forewardned is forearmed'
The amonunt of meets ive been to where to woman has tried to mount me without is astonishing, at least she is open about her habbits and people can actually choose to mail her or not |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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What she is doing may be considered dangerous by many, but making assumptions about how this lady is going about it is too....
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dangerous is walking onto a motorway in rush hour, this is just plain stupid - unless im naive about sti's. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ohhhhh ... she sounds 'lovely' !!
Imagine how gutted a guy would be to approach her and get denied LMAO"
She sounds a fun lady with a good sex drive. And why would a guy be gutted. I am always telling guys not for me. And they do seem shocked I refuse them
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What she is doing may be considered dangerous by many, but making assumptions about how this lady is going about it is too....
dangerous is walking onto a motorway in rush hour, this is just plain stupid - unless im naive about sti's."
Actually, your analogy is a very good one. You walk on to a motorway in rush hour with oo's of cars coming at you. You 'may' be able to stand there while 230+ cars go past and not get hit. Or you may get hit by the 3rd, the 28th, the 143rd etc. You may have 500+ cars go past before one hits you. So, yes, I would agree it's dangerous.
But.... apply this to 'the lady in question' and the same probability applies.... the first 100 guys, the first 150 guys, all of the 230 guys 'may' not pass something on to her. She might get to 500+ guys before something 'hits' her....
If it were a motorway, someone in their right mind wouldn't go near it without a hi-vis jacket. So, in the same vein, it could be argued that she shouldn't go near the 230+ guys without a hi-vis jac.., er, condom...??
As I said, very good analogy...
And yes, it is both stupid and dangerous in most peoples books.... but.. her choice....
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"Does she have an STD and is trying to spread it to as many men as possible as a twisted form of revenge? Men are far more likely to take chances and she probably knows this. Imagine trying to work out the sexual history of all these people.
You have absolutely no proof that this lady has an STI and is using this as revenge. I might as well make a statement saying, what if this woman is an alien from outer space whose body will automatically kill any unwanted bacteria. My statement would be just as silly as yours. "
I never stated anything. I asked a question. Better to ask questions than to go diving in head first....err...so to speak! |
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"Does she have an STD and is trying to spread it to as many men as possible as a twisted form of revenge? Men are far more likely to take chances and she probably knows this. Imagine trying to work out the sexual history of all these people.
You have absolutely no proof that this lady has an STI and is using this as revenge. I might as well make a statement saying, what if this woman is an alien from outer space whose body will automatically kill any unwanted bacteria. My statement would be just as silly as yours.
I never stated anything. I asked a question. Better to ask questions than to go diving in head first....err...so to speak!"
It is good to ask questions, but ask the person who will know the correct answer, and that will be the lady concerned. How on earth are any of us going to know. It was making a negative assumption about someone |
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"Good Grief, have some of you stopped to hear yourselves?
How do I know that any of you on here banging on about 'Safe Sex' don't enjoy bareback gangbangs at a local IBIS, happily taking on anyone who walked off the streets?
How do I know that any of you get tested?
Because you say so?
Because you put it on your profile?
Because you bang on about it on a forum?
People LIE in this world to get what they want. Someone who is being open and honest about how they play is then vilified, which means that the rest of us DON'T get to make an informed choice about how WE want to play and with whom.
So before you seek to beat up those who are open and honest - stop and think about the consequences of your actions - you expect everyone else to.
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That is EXACTLY how I feel, people can bang on about how often they get tested on these forums as much as they like....it's only their word, and I don't know them from Adam so will take it all with a pinch of salt. |
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"Just been browsing a few profiles and come across a fem profile with 230 plus verifications and she only does bareback penetration , she's meeting 3 or more men a day , I'm not judging anyone but is she and the guys mad or is it the risk that makes it sexier "
OMG we would never dream of going bare back dont really know what to say to that one |
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I feel that talking about sexual health is very important on sites like this.
It would be a better use of time, rather than looking through profiles for safe sex listed, to gain up to date information on STI's, how they are transmitted and what the treatment is. So many people are misinformed and personally I feel that if we are to partake in this hobby or lifestyle, then we should know the risks involved.
Many people do not understand about HIV infection and automatically assume that HIV+ people will develop and die of AIDS. I dont believe that as many people do go to the GUM clinic as stated on the forums and I bet people arent accessing up to date information on STI's.
This to me is far more important than taking someones word at face value on whether they have practised safe sex.
I wouldnt take a risk of bareback sex. Noone on this site is more important than my own health and I can only ensure I am as safe as I can be and I am educated about the transmission of infection. |
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The only sensible way to swing is to assume that there is a slim chance that people might have something you don't want. If you are prepared to chance it, that's your lookout but most people on here, I assume, would opt for the safe option. You can only be responsible for your own health, you can't expect someone else to look after you. If I caught a dose through unsafe sex I would have nobody but myself to blame. STI checks are all well and good, but they are performed a lot less frequency than peoples sex lives. |
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Honestly, I am quite shocked at someone having so many meets bareback but accept it is her choice and it's the choice of the guys she meets. I would hope she is having regular check ups at the GUM Clinic, but even then I personally would think twice about meeting anyone that had met her...but that's my choice.
As has been stated by others though, I am glad she is being upfront about how she plays so I could make an informed choice should any of her meets contact me...I've had meets that talk about safe sex on their profile and then on a meet try for bareback (they don't get invited back!). I get that some people are happy to take the extra risks, but it's just not for me...I want to be as protected as I can be without going without!
Each to their own I guess, but just not how I'd choose to play |
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