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I got ukranian refugee
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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No not to seduce him at all. I did it for the right reasons. I'm ex military I had a spare room it was the right thing to fo. I just didn't stop to think I couldn't host parties anymore. That's a big loss, I love them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ahh my mistake! Sorry! Maybe just tell him now then that you have a girl coming round later tomorrow or whatever and does he mind.. gives him the choice to stay in or go out then! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yes they do. I had spare room, being ex military myself it was either go fight or take someone in. I couldn't stand by and do nothing whilst complaining about it at the same time. |
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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago
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Nationality doesn’t really matter. Just common sense says you’d better tell him about your lifestyle and ask him directly if he is ok with you hosting a couple or single swingers. If no underage lives with him I don’t see a reason to ask on opinion.
P.S. I am originally from Ukraine have been living here for 7+ years. You can message me if any questions or help needed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"35 year old male guy. Not told him I swing yet, is the best way to tell him at a party deep end? I think I should what you guys think?"
What? You’re really considering throwing a swingers party when there’s someone their escaping war? And even worse, you’re planning on not telling them and just surprising them with it?
Also - isn’t there a ban on men leaving Ukraine? Something doesn’t add up… |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would imagine the poor guy is just looking for a safe place to stay, maybe relax & try get his head together. Right now your sex life isn't at the top of his list. It's no different to a single guy bringing a 1 night stand back. Maybe accommodate his needs for a while first. Tbh it wouldn't even cross my mind to have a conversation with a refugee about my sex life, I'd be focused on getting him settled in and make sure he has everything he needs, mentally and emotionally as well as the spare room
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"I would imagine the poor guy is just looking for a safe place to stay, maybe relax & try get his head together. Right now your sex life isn't at the top of his list. It's no different to a single guy bringing a 1 night stand back. Maybe accommodate his needs for a while first. Tbh it wouldn't even cross my mind to have a conversation with a refugee about my sex life, I'd be focused on getting him settled in and make sure he has everything he needs, mentally and emotionally as well as the spare room
Mrs"
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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago
Welling |
"I thought Ukrainian martial law banned men between 18 and 60 from leaving the country. How can a 35 year old male be a refugee?"
In general yea, but there are exceptions allowed by the same law. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your status reads as though he is spoiling your fun. Maybe have a think about what he’s been through rather than your sex life. Jeez "
totally agree ……I think this is a wind up though ….. nobody could be this fu@@ing stupid jeeez lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I thought Ukrainian martial law banned men between 18 and 60 from leaving the country. How can a 35 year old male be a refugee?
In general yea, but there are exceptions allowed by the same law. "
What kind of exceptions? |
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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago
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"I thought Ukrainian martial law banned men between 18 and 60 from leaving the country. How can a 35 year old male be a refugee?
In general yea, but there are exceptions allowed by the same law.
What kind of exceptions? "
For example you are not fit for military service for whatever reason and have this certified by authorities.
Or you have 3 kids under age of 18  doesn’t necessarily need to leave with them.
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"I thought Ukrainian martial law banned men between 18 and 60 from leaving the country. How can a 35 year old male be a refugee?
In general yea, but there are exceptions allowed by the same law.
What kind of exceptions? "
Essentially you have to stay unless you have three or more children under 18 that you are financially supporting, you are a single father or the if you have children/ are a guardian of a child with disabilities.
Basically if you can fight or help then you stay. |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
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Well done on taking in a refugee. You can continue with the Swinging lifestyle by attending clubs or going to hotels or other people's parties. Don't even consider having anyone back to your place whilst you have the refugee with you. You made a serious commitment when you took him in and must put him first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I thought Ukrainian martial law banned men between 18 and 60 from leaving the country. How can a 35 year old male be a refugee?
In general yea, but there are exceptions allowed by the same law.
What kind of exceptions?
For example you are not fit for military service for whatever reason and have this certified by authorities.
Or you have 3 kids under age of 18 doesn’t necessarily need to leave with them.
And few more "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I thought Ukrainian martial law banned men between 18 and 60 from leaving the country. How can a 35 year old male be a refugee?
In general yea, but there are exceptions allowed by the same law.
What kind of exceptions?
Essentially you have to stay unless you have three or more children under 18 that you are financially supporting, you are a single father or the if you have children/ are a guardian of a child with disabilities.
Basically if you can fight or help then you stay."
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Personally I say keep you private life private. He's come to escape not to join in your sex festival (a bit Partridge). It's very inappropriate, especially when someone is on the back foot in a new country anyway. And is he even single or has he got a partner or kids to worry about somewhere? Most people are not swingers or want that trust on them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ukrainians are generally religious and/ or a little conservative, so I doubt swinging is all the rage there. Maybe keep it to yourself and arrange meets elsewhere? Just my thoughts |
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"I would imagine the poor guy is just looking for a safe place to stay, maybe relax & try get his head together. Right now your sex life isn't at the top of his list. It's no different to a single guy bringing a 1 night stand back. Maybe accommodate his needs for a while first. Tbh it wouldn't even cross my mind to have a conversation with a refugee about my sex life, I'd be focused on getting him settled in and make sure he has everything he needs, mentally and emotionally as well as the spare room
Mrs"
THIS |
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I mean your status "Got Ukranian refugee in spare room. Kind of spoils the vibe, can I still host, not tried it yet?"
Kinda spoils the vibe???? SERIOUSLY!?
Good on you for taking him in, but just try an imagine what he's going through right now. You can always not accom, go to a club etc. And I'm sure your sex life isn't his main concern right now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I mean your status alone is concerning, the tone of it, saying having the refugee is the spare room is spoiling the vibe. I take it you did this purely for the money? Sounds like you have not thought this through enough with your own lifestyle and privacy. |
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"35 year old male guy. Not told him I swing yet, is the best way to tell him at a party deep end? I think I should what you guys think?"
Think it best you keep it to yourself.
He could view your offer to accommodate him as a start of sexual grooming.
I'd keep your sex life and preferences private, if you mention this to him and he trots off down to speak to the police you could find yourself at best in an embarrassing interview at worse...well have a guess.
Well done for offering him a home. |
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"I mean your status alone is concerning, the tone of it, saying having the refugee is the spare room is spoiling the vibe. I take it you did this purely for the money? Sounds like you have not thought this through enough with your own lifestyle and privacy."
I agree |
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