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Soft play or BJ only
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Is it really too much or presumptuous of a guy to want soft swing or BJ only (for ladies who don't want aoral on them) meets? If any couples or ladies would not mind this, please indicate. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What does the lady get in return?
A mouthful of cum by the sounds of it  "
If you're imaginative there's a lot more to sex than genital penetration. But then again, not everyone is imaginative. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What does the lady get in return?"
Reciprocal oral if she's interested for one. I also presume that soft play would involve kissing, massages and so on. Of course I realise this isn't for everyone, it's the idea that one who desires such is necessarily selfish or stupid that confuses me.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Lots of people only want soft play you might struggle to find women who are happy with no oral though. I don't like it myself but according to fab lore most women do."
I like the, "according to fab lore". I do love giving a woman oral. But apparently it does nothing for some women. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We definitely have a fantasy where I give a guy only oral Infront of m.
Some kissing and boobs out to be played with too, I thought this was pretty common fantasy. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No, I always want full sex on any meet xx
Same! Nothing worse than finishing your starter then being told there's no main. "
I sometimes get only a starter at restaurants. Especially if it's one I like a lot.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it really too much or presumptuous of a guy to want soft swing or BJ only (for ladies who don't want aoral on them) meets? If any couples or ladies would not mind this, please indicate. "
May I say , no one use indicators these days  |
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By *yche_xWoman
over a year ago
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"Lots of people only want soft play you might struggle to find women who are happy with no oral though. I don't like it myself but according to fab lore most women do.
I like the, "according to fab lore". I do love giving a woman oral. But apparently it does nothing for some women. "
If oral "does nothing" for a woman. It's not being don't right |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Lots of people only want soft play you might struggle to find women who are happy with no oral though. I don't like it myself but according to fab lore most women do.
I like the, "according to fab lore". I do love giving a woman oral. But apparently it does nothing for some women.
If oral "does nothing" for a woman. It's not being don't right"
That I can believe. Although, I have seen ladies on various threads insist that for them, it's boring, blah, meh, doesn't do it, can never come from it or other such words and phrases. I suppose nothing is universal. (Shrug) |
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"Lots of people only want soft play you might struggle to find women who are happy with no oral though. I don't like it myself but according to fab lore most women do.
I like the, "according to fab lore". I do love giving a woman oral. But apparently it does nothing for some women.
If oral "does nothing" for a woman. It's not being don't right"
No. Oral does nothing for me because I don't enjoy it. Nobody else can tell me what I do and don't like. |
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"Lots of people only want soft play you might struggle to find women who are happy with no oral though. I don't like it myself but according to fab lore most women do.
I like the, "according to fab lore". I do love giving a woman oral. But apparently it does nothing for some women. "
It doesn't do a lot for me. I can happily live without it |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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No I wouldn't be interested in meeting anyone new to give them a bj and soft swing. It would do nothing for me and I would feel like I was there just to please him .I know there are other things that can be done and are enjoyable but I personally really enjoy penetration and meeting someone new for just soft swing would be of no interest as I would be wondering why they expect a bj but aren't willing to have full sex with me.
The only person I would meet like that is someone I meet regularly and I know well. |
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Yeah that makes sense . Knowing them before makes a difference.
Personally on a new meet, I think if he has said he’s only interested in being pleased… if I like him enough, I can get off on just the act of doing it. |
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"Is it really too much or presumptuous of a guy to want soft swing or BJ only (for ladies who don't want aoral on them) meets? If any couples or ladies would not mind this, please indicate. "
This is actually how we do things we don't consider ourselves presumptuous because nobody is forced to meet us. |
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"Is it really too much or presumptuous of a guy to want soft swing or BJ only (for ladies who don't want aoral on them) meets? If any couples or ladies would not mind this, please indicate.
This is actually how we do things we don't consider ourselves presumptuous because nobody is forced to meet us. "
Yeah it’s not presumptuous If you’re just communicating what you like or want. |
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"Is it really too much or presumptuous of a guy to want soft swing or BJ only (for ladies who don't want aoral on them) meets? If any couples or ladies would not mind this, please indicate.
This is actually how we do things we don't consider ourselves presumptuous because nobody is forced to meet us.
Yeah it’s not presumptuous If you’re just communicating what you like or want. "
Although despite our profile setting things out it still comes as a surprise to some people when we ask if they're ok with it  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yeah that makes sense . Knowing them before makes a difference.
Personally on a new meet, I think if he has said he’s only interested in being pleased… if I like him enough, I can get off on just the act of doing it. "
This isn't about one party's pleasure but the idea of no full penitrative genital sex. Which is why soft play is included. For some that may not exclude toys - even vibrators and dildos. For some, that would include some aspects of bdsm and things like fisting. There are also practices like Kunyasa which focus on the woman's pleasure even without penetration. The point is that there is more to sex than a cock going in a pussy (pardon the crudeness). |
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"Yeah that makes sense . Knowing them before makes a difference.
Personally on a new meet, I think if he has said he’s only interested in being pleased… if I like him enough, I can get off on just the act of doing it.
This isn't about one party's pleasure but the idea of no full penitrative genital sex. Which is why soft play is included. For some that may not exclude toys - even vibrators and dildos. For some, that would include some aspects of bdsm and things like fisting. There are also practices like Kunyasa which focus on the woman's pleasure even without penetration. The point is that there is more to sex than a cock going in a pussy (pardon the crudeness). "
I think people are missing the soft swing part of your original post or not understanding what soft swing can involve |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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"Yeah that makes sense . Knowing them before makes a difference.
Personally on a new meet, I think if he has said he’s only interested in being pleased… if I like him enough, I can get off on just the act of doing it.
This isn't about one party's pleasure but the idea of no full penitrative genital sex. Which is why soft play is included. For some that may not exclude toys - even vibrators and dildos. For some, that would include some aspects of bdsm and things like fisting. There are also practices like Kunyasa which focus on the woman's pleasure even without penetration. The point is that there is more to sex than a cock going in a pussy (pardon the crudeness).
I think people are missing the soft swing part of your original post or not understanding what soft swing can involve"
I understand what soft swing is and if I was meeting a couple with my Fwb then yes it would be different .But I would have no interest in meeting a new meet one on one for soft swing. There is a lot more than just penetration but penetration is what I particularly like about sex the rest to me is just foreplay. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No sex = no cheating is that right op? "
Of course not, that's naive.
Not saying that's the case in my situation, as one could just as easily leave out any mention. But If it makes someone in the kind of situation you allude to feel better, that's really their business, is it not?
Just as it is people's business, if they choose to meet or not to meet with such a person. It is also people's business whatever their preferences are or even if they want to be swingers, polyamorous, cheaters or whatever. Each to their own.
“Just because we don’t understand doesn’t mean that the explanation doesn’t exist.” - Madeleine L'Engle
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I understand what your saying.
When I was starting out in a relationship on the scene I wouldn't fuck others. It was early days and I set boundaries while we found our feet together as a couple in this lifestyle. I enjoying kissing, foreplay and oral. Had some really hot encounters, not to be dismissed. I would explain my boundaries at the time so it didn't seem to put anyone off and it was still hot. Just to add this would be in a club setting. But often you could sense still a frustration that you wouldn't fuck them and often found that I'd still be encouraged to. Now my boundaries have moved and this is no longer problem. But I understand where your coming from. But if people want a piece of you on the whole they will (especially in a club setting). But we are all after fulfilling our fantasies so people won't want to waste all their energy on a prospect that won't fulfill all their desires (especially in terms of a meet where they are dedicating a day or a night all to you). So it will reduce your chances outside of a club setting. |
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