i have had a social meet with a lady of fab got on well she is well up for some fun in the bedroom but she does not want to use condoms as she says she has a allergy from them she said she can prove she is std free,what do i do |
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"i have had a social meet with a lady of fab got on well she is well up for some fun in the bedroom but she does not want to use condoms as she says she has a allergy from them she said she can prove she is std free,what do i do "
Is she allergic to latex? You can get latex free.
Personally if someone couldn't even due to allergy I'd pass them by but it's personal preference and only you can anwer this. |
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"i have had a social meet with a lady of fab got on well she is well up for some fun in the bedroom but she does not want to use condoms as she says she has a allergy from them she said she can prove she is std free,what do i do "
If she is allergic to latex get some non latex condomd. Personally I wouldn't play with her without using protection. |
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Easy, you do what your comfortable with and only take the risks your happy with. She does not control what you do or don't with your body and your health. And also unless your completely happy with the safety situation there's a good chance worries may hinder your performance and enjoyment.
Personally speaking if I were single in your shoes I would be ok with that if I trusted the person. It is quite probable not to get the level of trust I need from a first meet. If your both really horny there are things you can do together without penetrative sex. It's not the same but maybe a happy compromise? Although there is a risk of getting carried away in the moment and crossing your personal boundaries depending on how displined your are. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
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"Easy, you do what your comfortable with and only take the risks your happy with. She does not control what you do or don't with your body and your health. And also unless your completely happy with the safety situation there's a good chance worries may hinder your performance and enjoyment.
Personally speaking if I were single in your shoes I would be ok with that if I trusted the person. It is quite probable not to get the level of trust I need from a first meet. If your both really horny there are things you can do together without penetrative sex. It's not the same but maybe a happy compromise? Although there is a risk of getting carried away in the moment and crossing your personal boundaries depending on how displined your are."
No concerns for pregnancy then, even if you 'trust' them to be STD free?
Because other forms of contraception can fail.
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There are plenty of people with latex allergies. I tend to buy Skyns latex free as that way a latex allergy isn't going to cause an issue with the condoms I bring with me.
I am a little surprised that if she has an allergy (that has been genuinely identified as such) she hasn't been advised of or identified a brand that she can use without triggering it. Perhaps she just isn't aware that latex free condoms exist?
Ultimately only you know what to do, although my suspicion from your tone is that you know you don't want to, but do want to have sex with her. |
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"i have had a social meet with a lady of fab got on well she is well up for some fun in the bedroom but she does not want to use condoms as she says she has a allergy from them she said she can prove she is std free,what do i do "
This happened to a male I chatted to on here a few years back. The lady later claimed she was pregnant and threatened to tell his wife if he didn't give her money for an abortion. Just be careful OP. |
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"Easy, you do what your comfortable with and only take the risks your happy with. She does not control what you do or don't with your body and your health. And also unless your completely happy with the safety situation there's a good chance worries may hinder your performance and enjoyment.
Personally speaking if I were single in your shoes I would be ok with that if I trusted the person. It is quite probable not to get the level of trust I need from a first meet. If your both really horny there are things you can do together without penetrative sex. It's not the same but maybe a happy compromise? Although there is a risk of getting carried away in the moment and crossing your personal boundaries depending on how displined your are.
No concerns for pregnancy then, even if you 'trust' them to be STD free?
Because other forms of contraception can fail.
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To be fair I just assumed that sensible adults factored this in as well. Is this not the case? So just talking about myself then obviously some form of contraception would be in place (although I had sexual partner once who had a hysterectomy). But like you said all forms of contraception including a malfunctioning condom can fail. Plus most people do other things such as oral or just kissing that likewise involves risk. This game is not a risk free game. We are all adults. We all must decide for ourselves what level of risk is acceptable to us. |
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"i have had a social meet with a lady of fab got on well she is well up for some fun in the bedroom but she does not want to use condoms as she says she has a allergy from them she said she can prove she is std free,what do i do
This happened to a male I chatted to on here a few years back. The lady later claimed she was pregnant and threatened to tell his wife if he didn't give her money for an abortion. Just be careful OP."
That’s horrendous! |
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"i have had a social meet with a lady of fab got on well she is well up for some fun in the bedroom but she does not want to use condoms as she says she has a allergy from them she said she can prove she is std free,what do i do "
Do you want an STD? Unfortunately they’re very common and if she’s telling every man she meets not to use a condom then there’s a chance she has one.
Her test results means nothing unless she had it done the day you met her. |
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"i have had a social meet with a lady of fab got on well she is well up for some fun in the bedroom but she does not want to use condoms as she says she has a allergy from them she said she can prove she is std free,what do i do "
Get a test around the same time a few days before , or failing that both go together to a same day test clinic ,there are a few around that do results within a few hours anyway .. we use theses for adult industry .. 56 dean street is great .
upto you on what your comfort levels are with sexual health/protection vs risk ratio ... you are an adult at end of day .. |
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If she is asking you to only play bareback how many others have cum up her before you! You are a grown up so can make your own choice. I for one would only fuck her using a condom or pass on meeting her. But each to their own as its your own choice how you play on here. John |
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By *nlyfun3Woman
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She can't prove she is STI free unless she has not had sex 3 months prior to your meet, as some STIs can take longer to show up plus. Some STIs can't/aren't tested for such as herpes and warts which don't always have outward signs.
Your call, your Russian Roulette, your risk assessment. |
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"i have had a social meet with a lady of fab got on well she is well up for some fun in the bedroom but she does not want to use condoms as she says she has a allergy from them she said she can prove she is std free,what do i do
Is she allergic to latex? You can get latex free.
Personally if someone couldn't even due to allergy I'd pass them by but it's personal preference and only you can anwer this. "
Move on if you don’t feel comfortable  |
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