To be honest i dont really like to see people with long lists on their profile. We choose to hide the majority of ours as i find it more appealing with the odd verification. If people are interested in what they read in your profile and are up for a social meet then im happy with that. But everyone has different thoughts. |
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"just wounding if it puts people off when someone has lots of verifications, how many is too many?? does it bother people or do you think the more they have the better??
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some are good so you can see if are real, too many make me feel like I'm inadequate |
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I agree its good to see a verification againt your name but when it gets to double figues i tend to be put off a bit. But hey thats not to say people with long lists are no genuine nice people and im not saying i wouldnt be interested in them its just a preference. |
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"just wounding if it puts people off when someone has lots of verifications, how many is too many?? does it bother people or do you think the more they have the better??
some are good so you can see if are real, too many make me feel like I'm inadequate "
how does it make you feel inadequate?  |
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I show most of mine. To be honest most people I meet don't leave me a verification anyway.
To be honest I don't worry if people don't like what's on my profile. As I only now meet people in groups of 5 or more. So they know I am a greedy girl.
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"I show most of mine. To be honest most people I meet don't leave me a verification anyway.
To be honest I don't worry if people don't like what's on my profile. As I only now meet people in groups of 5 or more. So they know I am a greedy girl.
Cali"
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"just wounding if it puts people off when someone has lots of verifications, how many is too many?? does it bother people or do you think the more they have the better??
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As a sort of 'newbie', it makes it a bit daunting, but thats just me!  |
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"just wounding if it puts people off when someone has lots of verifications, how many is too many?? does it bother people or do you think the more they have the better??
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We show most of ours and don't really mind whether folk think we have too many or not enough . If anyone feels we have too many that's up to them and judgemental folk are not what we are here for , so perhaps by showing them we filter them out ! |
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Why are people put off by too many verifications. Does it make you feel that someone with more verifications is somehow more of a tart than those who only have a few showing?
We all meet strangers for sex.
I show all mine, I don't think about too many or too few on others' profiles. I'm not stupid enough not to realise that a person showing 2 veris in 6 months may have a long list of hidden veris.
To me showing all your veris indicates that you do show up when arranged and are what you say you are |
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Yes, im not in tune with this idea that "too many" means/signifies something bad,to be avoided type reaction, there are some very busy bees who prune down their available info/verifications.
People who swing tend to meet other people and verifications are gained, maybe first glance they look very busy, quite often your looking at meets over a long period of time too. |
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TBH when we first got into this, we avoided the profiles with lots and lots of verifications.
We put it down to being newbie swingers at the time, maybe we were scared the hardened swingers would corrupt us and make us do things we didn't want to do. 
Looking back we were just being silly.
Verifications usually means a profile does actually meet. It just means they have had a lot of fun along the way.
At the end of the day they are on here for the same thing as you.
TBH
We don't read others verifications, what they do with other folks is upto them.
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"i`ve had loads of meets, but only one had the decency to leave me a verification, after i wrote each one a nice verification, there`s a lot if ignorant so called people on here with no basic manners 
i always wait and see if they have left me one first.
what about the ones who leave you one, so you leave them one and they dont show it on their profile yet they show other peoples as if they dont want anyone to know they have met you.  "
I've had that happen too. 
I don't think people with tons of veri's are tarts, I'd think they were lucky. 
I understand how lots of veri's could put people off as they might think they have lots of experience and might not have much fun with someone that didn't have the same experience.  |
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We don't really care about veris as what's the point people can hide as many as they want so even if they only have a few showing they may have hundreds hidden. And you can't even be sure who they may have met cause again they hide ones that might put people off. Had a guy I was chatting to hide his veris from men and it just do happened I noticed one day he had put one on for a few min then took it back off. When I questioned him he admitted to meeting guys and said when asked he always told truth. My mistake for thinking straight meant I didnt have to ask |
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"just wounding if it puts people off when someone has lots of verifications, how many is too many?? does it bother people or do you think the more they have the better??
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Not sure why it shoud put people off? After all this is a swinging site not a mail order bride/groome website!
We do read some Verifications with a pinch of salt but all in all the more veris the more info really.
With reviews -which is basically what a verification is-The writers personal foibles and likes /dislikes colour their opinion of the other person/s so we tend to pay more attention to the subjective and transferable aspects of a verification. The practicalities of what a great time was had by all are raely transferable to what is a new situation altogether...one mans meat is another mans poison remember.
We look at verifications as a loose guide rather than a guarentee of heaven on earth. |
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"just wounding if it puts people off when someone has lots of verifications, how many is too many?? does it bother people or do you think the more they have the better??
Not sure why it shoud put people off? After all this is a swinging site not a mail order bride/groome website!
We do read some Verifications with a pinch of salt but all in all the more veris the more info really.
With reviews -which is basically what a verification is-The writers personal foibles and likes /dislikes colour their opinion of the other person/s so we tend to pay more attention to the subjective and transferable aspects of a verification. The practicalities of what a great time was had by all are raely transferable to what is a new situation altogether...one mans meat is another mans poison remember.
We look at verifications as a loose guide rather than a guarentee of heaven on earth. "
And any that give a 'blood and guts' description of the nights events kinda put me off - not necessarily the person with the veri - but often those that left it!
Some things should stay behind closed doors!! |
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"just wounding if it puts people off when someone has lots of verifications, how many is too many?? does it bother people or do you think the more they have the better??
some are good so you can see if are real, too many make me feel like I'm inadequate
how does it make you feel inadequate? "
because they have played with all them I feel that I'd have to compete againt all them |
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"just wounding if it puts people off when someone has lots of verifications, how many is too many?? does it bother people or do you think the more they have the better??
some are good so you can see if are real, too many make me feel like I'm inadequate
how does it make you feel inadequate?
because they have played with all them I feel that I'd have to compete againt all them "
it's not about competing though it's about new experiences and fun. remember that and you will be fine.
I often take newbies in hand. they often worry but by end of night they are feeling good
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dont bother me
i have met people with no verification and ive met people with a lot
im not here to judge people on who they have met in the past
i take people on face value
if someone mails me and im attracted to them i will reply, if we chat and get on i will meet
cant see the point in missing out on meeting someone who id have a good time with just because of how many verifications they may or may not have |
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"just wounding if it puts people off when someone has lots of verifications, how many is too many?? does it bother people or do you think the more they have the better??
some are good so you can see if are real, too many make me feel like I'm inadequate
how does it make you feel inadequate?
because they have played with all them I feel that I'd have to compete againt all them "
i do understand that
tho the amount of people other have met does not bother me, if i do nose thro profiles and a lot of the women they have met are young and slim that does put me off replying to them, as like you, i feel i cant compeat with who else they have met and wonder why they have met me when all the other women they have met dont fit my looks at all
so its kind of the same feeling only for a slightly different reason
sometimes i think its best to just not look as daft things could stop us from having a really good meet but sometimes we have to get past our own insecurities x |
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