FabSwingers.com > Forums > Swingers Chat > regular guy keeping you as back up
regular guy keeping you as back up
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
we have a friend on here who has a regular fwb who openly told her she's his back up plan for when nothing else is going on .... ie she wants to meet hes got a meet sign up and tells her if he cant get a meet by a certain time then he'll meet her ... she never said anything to him as she thought it was ok .... maybe im wrong but id tell him where to go if hes looking for a meet he should just tell her he has other plans my thought was i would not be second choice for anyone what do you think ..
there agreemet was regular fwb no exclusive stuff no drama but i think hes taking the piss |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"we have a friend on here who has a regular fwb who openly told her she's his back up plan for when nothing else is going on .... ie she wants to meet hes got a meet sign up and tells her if he cant get a meet by a certain time then he'll meet her ... she never said anything to him as she thought it was ok .... maybe im wrong but id tell him where to go if hes looking for a meet he should just tell her he has other plans my thought was i would not be second choice for anyone what do you think ..
there agreemet was regular fwb no exclusive stuff no drama but i think hes taking the piss"
Here's the thing I know this is going to sound harsh please don't take it the wrong way because I personally would not entertain any woman who tried to treat me this way . Now here's the harsh bit it's not mine or your place to try and influence or tell yours or my friends what they should do because if there happy with the arrangement I'm happy for there happiness.
I try to not judge my friends behavior unless it directly impacts me only then would I voice my opinion. If ask for my opinion I'd give adding but you do what makes you happy I will still be your friend and have your back what ever you choose to do . |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"we have a friend on here who has a regular fwb who openly told her she's his back up plan for when nothing else is going on .... ie she wants to meet hes got a meet sign up and tells her if he cant get a meet by a certain time then he'll meet her ... she never said anything to him as she thought it was ok .... maybe im wrong but id tell him where to go if hes looking for a meet he should just tell her he has other plans my thought was i would not be second choice for anyone what do you think ..
there agreemet was regular fwb no exclusive stuff no drama but i think hes taking the piss
Here's the thing I know this is going to sound harsh please don't take it the wrong way because I personally would not entertain any woman who tried to treat me this way . Now here's the harsh bit it's not mine or your place to try and influence or tell yours or my friends what they should do because if there happy with the arrangement I'm happy for there happiness.
I try to not judge my friends behavior unless it directly impacts me only then would I voice my opinion. If ask for my opinion I'd give adding but you do what makes you happy I will still be your friend and have your back what ever you choose to do ."
and your correct ive not said anything to her nor will i all i said was on this post id tell him to do one ... as i also said she was talking to us what others do is there choice so as i said in my post ''id tell him to do one'' ive advised no one just chatting to see how others feel |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
In general it seems a lot of women in my life do or have a history of accepting terrible behaviour from men and being treated poorly yet continuing bite at any scap of attention. On the face of this a story that is replicated a million times over saddly.
However to play devil's advocate maybe they have a open and brutally honest consensual understanding of each other. Basically this is the reality of how I feel, do you accept these terms? Clearly she does and I'd hope likewise she'd chose something better over him if the opportunity arises and doesn't change any plans on the off chance she's needed. They are both adults. Although I suspect it's more a case userery and puppetry just from what I've noticed over the years and the feel of concern the post has for her.
Begs the question in a world of various sexual partners is it OK to be second fiddle? After all many of us see more than one other and we can't always be top dog. Also is it OK to be open and honest about it or should we keep it to ourselves? Likewise is it OK to try and make arrangements like that? I mean deep down I bet a lot of people would like a plan B if a plan A falls through, especially if free time is limited. And I suspect (although maybe not said in such harsh terms) a lot of people (especially ladies) do if they're honest keep a plan B on the hook or someone they can call up. And it may not be a lack of desire for that person but more simply that they wish to enjoy variety and can't be two places at once. So it may not be a case she is plan B (or lesser desired) , more a case of plan different has simply fallen through. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
As if it wasn’t difficult enough to create connections on here, and then the dickhead goes and treats her like that!
I’d stick him straight in the bin, where he belongs, and then give me a call!  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"we have a friend on here who has a regular fwb who openly told her she's his back up plan for when nothing else is going on .... ie she wants to meet hes got a meet sign up and tells her if he cant get a meet by a certain time then he'll meet her ... she never said anything to him as she thought it was ok .... maybe im wrong but id tell him where to go if hes looking for a meet he should just tell her he has other plans my thought was i would not be second choice for anyone what do you think ..
there agreemet was regular fwb no exclusive stuff no drama but i think hes taking the piss"
I'd bin him personally |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
Catthorpe |
What's it got to do with you, op? Sounds like an arrangement they're both enjoying even if the original terms have changed, that's between them, I mean she wouldn't meet him if she weren't happy. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
