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How important is the face…..?
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I’m feeling really shallow asking this question but here goes…. So, the body is a tick, the personality seems to be a tick but the face just doesn’t do it…. I’m a sucker for a lovely smile and good teeth…. Is it just a ‘preference’ or is it shallow? Should I try and push through…..?  |
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over a year ago
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"I’m feeling really shallow asking this question but here goes…. So, the body is a tick, the personality seems to be a tick but the face just doesn’t do it…. I’m a sucker for a lovely smile and good teeth…. Is it just a ‘preference’ or is it shallow? Should I try and push through…..? "
Face is the first thing I look at! I appreciate peoples’ concern for privacy but there’s nothing worse than talking to someone with a great body, only to see their face ten messages in and be like “erm…” |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've sometimes found with some fellas I've chatted with, I'm attracted to their body. However, it's only once I've seen their face pic is where the real attraction is for me - or not as the case may be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The whole package is the attraction. I’m not interested in meeting just one body part, and the face is attached so….. yes it’s important for anything sexual. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The face has to be attractive, more so than the body for me actually."
Same here. At a gangbang or something it's perhaps doesn't matter, but for a meet it's very important xx |
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By *our HeroMan
over a year ago
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One definitely has to be attracted to the face.
For me personally it’s a combination of face body and personality. Obviously there’s a minimum for each but if the average works out high enough it doesn’t really matter in what ratio.
If that makes sense!!   |
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I do like someone to be facially attractive. However the right personality can sway me to the extent that the 'who they are' over writes the 'what they look like'. I guess sex appeal can come in a number of forms. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As long as the face is "well kept" I'm more interested in the personality and body. I keep a selection of blindfolds and hoods for those occasions when someone finds me less attractive (or vice versa). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s certainly not shallow it’s completely understandable, I don’t want to be kissing somebody who has teeth like a witch doctors neckless  Good teeth, Nice smile are important to me. Nothing wrong with having standards sometimes on here it feels like as a guy I’m not allowed to have them and should take whatever I’m offered, well I’d honestly prefer to never meet again than meet somebody with that outlook who had no standards. |
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"I’m feeling really shallow asking this question but here goes…. So, the body is a tick, the personality seems to be a tick but the face just doesn’t do it…. I’m a sucker for a lovely smile and good teeth…. Is it just a ‘preference’ or is it shallow? Should I try and push through…..? "
not sure how you can fuck someone you don't find attractive |
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I’ve no set ‘attractive thing’ as many things can catch my eye, a nice leg, a smile, red lips, nice eyes. Mannerisms help too. Femininity is my biggest single turn on.
A lady I came across regularly (I wish) in the high street was tall, slim, dressed nicely, facially quite plain but her femininity & feminine mannerisms were amazing. I got turned on every time I saw her.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nobody is perfect as long the people we meet are average and got a good personality
We don’t mind a bit of a tummy
And a few stretch marks
Faces not important to us it’s all about meeting real people with the same kinks
Not perfect ourselves so don’t expect
Glamour or skinny people
Just normal people
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"I’m feeling really shallow asking this question but here goes…. So, the body is a tick, the personality seems to be a tick but the face just doesn’t do it…. I’m a sucker for a lovely smile and good teeth…. Is it just a ‘preference’ or is it shallow? Should I try and push through…..? "
Attraction is what it is.. if you’re not attracted to someone for any reason then “pushing through” is a bad idea that will ultimately result in a bad experience for you.
It’s not shallow |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If wanting to fuck people I'm attracted to makes me shallow then yes I'm very shallow.
If someone tries to shame me for not being attracted to them I really don't care.
The entitlement with some people is so strong it's like the heavy stench of cowshit.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The face is important. There has to be some attraction but if they can have a laugh and have other attractive qualities it’s not a complete deal breaker. |
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"I’m feeling really shallow asking this question but here goes…. So, the body is a tick, the personality seems to be a tick but the face just doesn’t do it…. I’m a sucker for a lovely smile and good teeth…. Is it just a ‘preference’ or is it shallow? Should I try and push through…..? "
I don’t think you’re shallow at all
If they have a body from bay watch and a face from crime watch it’s not going to be a good episode  
It’s a good job I’m all baywatch 
 blowing my own trumpet because someone has too |
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Different looks are attractive to different people.
I'm aware that me & V are no oil paintings for some but find each other very attractive. So there shouldn't be an issue with being attracted to a face or not, it has to be natural surely. |
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"I’m feeling really shallow asking this question but here goes…. So, the body is a tick, the personality seems to be a tick but the face just doesn’t do it…. I’m a sucker for a lovely smile and good teeth…. Is it just a ‘preference’ or is it shallow? Should I try and push through…..? "
Not at all, you decide, your rules, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not shallow, if everything isn't as you like then why should you settle ? I certainly wouldn't and if the physical attraction isn't there then it's a no go. |
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over a year ago
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The face is the most important part, you have to look at mainly that whilst clothed, so all spark could go from everything else at that point also I like watching for reactions to certain things during sex, so I'd have to be looking at a face I'm attracted to. |
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An attractive kissable face & fun personality are key. Body is secondary for me, after all none of us have perfect bodies.
If I don't want to kiss somebody and can't have a flirt & a giggle with them then there's no attraction for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There has to be some sort of attraction. They don't have to be Brad Pitt/Tom Hardy but if you don't feel that initial spark, then you'll not enjoy the meet.
As others have mentioned there's alot of other factors too, but if you don't get that vibe it's not being shallow just a personal preference. |
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over a year ago
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Do as you choose. For us the whole package is important yet if one feature is too far out of alignment for us then it is a simple no. From what you've written you seem to be a very visual person so visual appeal seems important to you.
It might be helpful to ask yourself why you want to know if others might think you are shallow. These kinds of questions will leave you open to grief. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The fact that you are asking means that for you it does have importance so no you should just ‘push through’
It’s important for me as I want to fancy that person every time I look at them and not just naked |
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"I’m feeling really shallow asking this question but here goes…. So, the body is a tick, the personality seems to be a tick but the face just doesn’t do it…. I’m a sucker for a lovely smile and good teeth…. Is it just a ‘preference’ or is it shallow? Should I try and push through…..? "
It’s whatever floats your boat imho.
For some people it’s all about getting their rocks off, for others it’s all about the overall experience. There’s no right or wrong, no shallow or deep, just whatever you want/like/need/prefer.  |
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"I’m feeling really shallow asking this question but here goes…. So, the body is a tick, the personality seems to be a tick but the face just doesn’t do it…. I’m a sucker for a lovely smile and good teeth…. Is it just a ‘preference’ or is it shallow? Should I try and push through…..?
Face is the first thing I look at! I appreciate peoples’ concern for privacy but there’s nothing worse than talking to someone with a great body, only to see their face ten messages in and be like “erm…”"
This for me too. Many people seem to get really arsey about being asked to send face pics early on. I’ve actually had guys who’ve refused to send face pics - even direct private photos which can be deleted straight afterwards - for ‘security’ reasons. They expect me to either travel to a social for a blind date - or go on kik/WhatsApp etc for face pics or a video chat.
Frankly it isn’t happening.
I’m well aware that I’m not everyone’s type and I’m definitely not precious if someone doesn’t fancy me - I expect others to be the same but sadly it often isn’t the case - to the extent that I no longer message back if I’m not interested as I don’t need the tantrums! |
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"Do as you choose. For us the whole package is important yet if one feature is too far out of alignment for us then it is a simple no. From what you've written you seem to be a very visual person so visual appeal seems important to you.
It might be helpful to ask yourself why you want to know if others might think you are shallow. These kinds of questions will leave you open to grief."
I like to question myself and as I’m fairly new to the world of swinging was interested to find out other’s view. Have loved the answers so far and no grief lol |
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I used to think the face more important than I do now, although first impressions are still important. I do think a great personality can inhabit a face which at first glance isn't that attractive. |
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"I’m feeling really shallow asking this question but here goes…. So, the body is a tick, the personality seems to be a tick but the face just doesn’t do it…. I’m a sucker for a lovely smile and good teeth…. Is it just a ‘preference’ or is it shallow? Should I try and push through…..? "
I prefer to judge someone on their personality rather than looks (as long as they have a big cock) |
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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago
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"its a bonus yes but you dont look at the mantelpiece when you are pocking the fire "
This is what puts me off meeting... I want someone that is attracted to me, not just using my holes to get off |
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"its a bonus yes but you dont look at the mantelpiece when you are pocking the fire
This is what puts me off meeting... I want someone that is attracted to me, not just using my holes to get off "
Seen you. Lovely face |
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It’s not shallow. It’s a buyers market, you can hold out for the combination that’s right for you. Different things matter to different people but what you like is highly personal. My favourite features are eyes and smile, I can’t help that |
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It's all about the face and personality for us. That said it's usually quite easy to find a few things attractive about most people's faces. However we appreciate that were not for everyone, just the same as not everyone is for us.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me personally I don’t demand perfection, no one is ‘perfect’, sometimes what some people would consider negative qualities can be sexy/cute/attractive. I think I prefer uniqueness and quirkiness over societal norms. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m feeling really shallow asking this question but here goes…. So, the body is a tick, the personality seems to be a tick but the face just doesn’t do it…. I’m a sucker for a lovely smile and good teeth…. Is it just a ‘preference’ or is it shallow? Should I try and push through…..?
Face is the first thing I look at! I appreciate peoples’ concern for privacy but there’s nothing worse than talking to someone with a great body, only to see their face ten messages in and be like “erm…”
This for me too. Many people seem to get really arsey about being asked to send face pics early on. I’ve actually had guys who’ve refused to send face pics - even direct private photos which can be deleted straight afterwards - for ‘security’ reasons. They expect me to either travel to a social for a blind date - or go on kik/WhatsApp etc for face pics or a video chat.
Frankly it isn’t happening.
I’m well aware that I’m not everyone’s type and I’m definitely not precious if someone doesn’t fancy me - I expect others to be the same but sadly it often isn’t the case - to the extent that I no longer message back if I’m not interested as I don’t need the tantrums! "
This exactly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On a d*unken one night stand, or a group situation setting, possibly not so important.
But if a one on one intimate setting, if you're not quite feeling it for any reason, don't push through. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me the Face is everything and all the rest comes later.
It's like the eyes, the smile, the hair it's fundamental to attraction!
It's all good looking at different parts of the anatomy and thinking nice but primarily its the face you seek, unless you really don't give a damn lol.
It's not shallow, it's just a natural instinct
Just my two penneth worth |
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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago
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"If someone doesn’t find my face attractive, I’d rather they move along and leave me be."
Agreed. I don't much enjoy the thought of a lady "pushing through" if we're sharing carnal pleasures together. Having to look away and/or imagine I'm Chris Hemsworth instead, would take away from her being able to fully relax and be 100% present in the moment, etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m feeling really shallow asking this question but here goes…. So, the body is a tick, the personality seems to be a tick but the face just doesn’t do it…. I’m a sucker for a lovely smile and good teeth…. Is it just a ‘preference’ or is it shallow? Should I try and push through…..?
Face is the first thing I look at! I appreciate peoples’ concern for privacy but there’s nothing worse than talking to someone with a great body, only to see their face ten messages in and be like “erm…”"
100%, if it’s not a Face I’d kiss, then there’s no point, the attraction in the face for me is key. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Face is the most important aspect for me physically. They could have the perfect body but if I'm not attracted to the face then I couldn't take it in any further
M |
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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago
Northampton |
"Face is a must.
If all else fails, you can simply bend over and get taken from behind and think of someone else.
Issue resolved 
Mxx"
If only it worked that way... I would have alot more sex! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Faces are important to me. Not so much the technical features or it's adherence beauty standards but it's ability show a person's personality and their nature.
If that makes sense to anyone?"
Makes sense to me. |
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