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over a year ago
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i onlyhave to look at hubs for him to know and same with him to me ... we just know .... never be afraid just to say no as the person/people you are playing with wont want to carry on either |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Presuming by making it a safe word rather than stop, you want it to be unnoticed. Maybe use a pet name styled "babe" or "darling" which you would never normally use. Would seem very natural then, but you would know |
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"i onlyhave to look at hubs for him to know and same with him to me ... we just know .... never be afraid just to say no as the person/people you are playing with wont want to carry on either"
Completely agree with this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It doesn't have to be a word, you can make eye contact or do a gesture. But ultimately it doesn't have to be subtle, if your uncomfortable or not feeling any situation just get up and leave. |
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"Hi, me and my husband have been talking safe words, due to an experience we had and both thought we were enjoying the moment but in fact we both wanted to leave.
Any suggestions??? X"
We agreed some time ago that if we felt things weren't right we'd ask for a private chat. If there was an immediate problem we'd say "stop" or something similar. Personally I think safe words leave too much room for mistakes or mishearing while "stop" said loudly is unambiguous. |
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The traffic light system is easy.
Red - immediate drop
Yellow/amber - pause it go slow
Green is rarely used
It is necessary to have a safe word, because you might be facing away from your partner (during impact play), I’m which case they can’t see your face.
There are times I don’t want my no/stop to be listened to, so those words wouldn’t work. |
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By *andK69 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"The traffic light system is easy.
Red - immediate drop
Yellow/amber - pause it go slow
Green is rarely used
It is necessary to have a safe word, because you might be facing away from your partner (during impact play), I’m which case they can’t see your face.
There are times I don’t want my no/stop to be listened to, so those words wouldn’t work. "
I like this thank you x. |
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"The traffic light system is easy.
Red - immediate drop
Yellow/amber - pause it go slow
Green is rarely used
It is necessary to have a safe word, because you might be facing away from your partner (during impact play), I’m which case they can’t see your face.
There are times I don’t want my no/stop to be listened to, so those words wouldn’t work. "
I was going to say very similar, we have had the same safe word forever, there are times in our play together we wouldn’t be able to see each other’s faces, hoods or the like and no or stop is no good because it’s all part of the play.
I like the traffic light system idea. |
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"Hi, me and my husband have been talking safe words, due to an experience we had and both thought we were enjoying the moment but in fact we both wanted to leave.
Any suggestions??? X"
Myself and hubby just have to say the word "stop" the people/person have no choice but to respect that because if they don't and they have a go or Try and get you to stay will only result in a report on fab and a bad name. Choose any word you like and make the people/person aware that you have this safe word an if it is used then play must stop. It's you bodys and you have that right. |
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"The traffic light system is easy.
Red - immediate drop
Yellow/amber - pause it go slow
Green is rarely used
It is necessary to have a safe word, because you might be facing away from your partner (during impact play), I’m which case they can’t see your face.
There are times I don’t want my no/stop to be listened to, so those words wouldn’t work. "
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"My friend used to say "Margaret Thatcher" as her safe word. Apparently it used to kill the mood instantly"
Good choice.
I suggested 'Meatloaf' earlier because its a common one with kinksters.
Why? It signifies this.
"I would do anything for love, but I won't do that......."
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