For me personally (Luke) it really depends on the situation.
If Hannah had a random wild fling that came out of the blue and wasn't intending to carry on, I'm pretty sure I could deal with it.
If she did something to open the door to a fully open relationship for both of us, We'd talk it through and consider it.
If she fell in love and wanted to keep seeing him then I would find that very difficult.
If it's with another woman then I'd give her every encouragement happily drive her so she could meet the lady in question! (Something related has actually happened.)
It really all depends on the damage to our relationship. |
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It would be the end of us
We swing together and do meet alone ,as long as we tell each other everything that's cool
There would be absolutely no reason for either of us to cheat and the trust would be gone for me.
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We were out at a music festival last weekend. Mrs disappeared until 4am, i couldn’t find her anywhere. When she finally showed up i asked where she went she confessed she got chatting to a pretty boy who happened to have a huge cock. She went off to his tent and admitted to cheating on me with him. We havnt stopped fucking since. Made me too horny. |
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"How would you feel if your partner, was cheating behind your back?"
It would depend, if it was playful cheating in order to confess for the tease, then great.
If though it was sneaking around in the hope to not be found out, that would end us. |
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To be honest I think I'd be okay. If that ever happened, he isn't the man I thought he was so our relationship was based on a lie. I also know my worth so it would be over in my eyes. |
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"How would you feel if your partner, was cheating behind your back?"
I felt well and truly mugged off when I found out 3 year after we split up. He tortured me accusing me of cheating all the time and I never did. I would have been well up for an open relationship if he'd wanted to go elsewhere, but he would have never ever agreed to it because wouldn't have wanted me sleeping with someone else. |
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over a year ago
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"How would you feel if your partner, was cheating behind your back?
I felt well and truly mugged off when I found out 3 year after we split up. He tortured me accusing me of cheating all the time and I never did. I would have been well up for an open relationship if he'd wanted to go elsewhere, but he would have never ever agreed to it because wouldn't have wanted me sleeping with someone else."
I had a very similar experience but the other way round, felt totally betrayed and manipulated |
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There are quite a mixture of answers depending on the context of ‘cheat’
I’m allowed and encouraged to cheat sexually, because it’s part of our arrangement and agreed in advance. Anything undisclosed or with more behind it would be an issue for us.
Hubby isn’t, because we haven’t discussed it at this stage, so I’d be devastated.
It’s much more about communication and whether or not trust has been broken, rather than the act itself x |
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"We were out at a music festival last weekend. Mrs disappeared until 4am, i couldn’t find her anywhere. When she finally showed up i asked where she went she confessed she got chatting to a pretty boy who happened to have a huge cock. She went off to his tent and admitted to cheating on me with him. We havnt stopped fucking since. Made me too horny."
The disappearing off seems disrespectful to me, it could have caused you concern. Each to their own. |
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"There are quite a mixture of answers depending on the context of ‘cheat’
I’m allowed and encouraged to cheat sexually, because it’s part of our arrangement and agreed in advance. Anything undisclosed or with more behind it would be an issue for us.
Hubby isn’t, because we haven’t discussed it at this stage, so I’d be devastated.
It’s much more about communication and whether or not trust has been broken, rather than the act itself x"
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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago
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Cheating and swinging are two VERY different things. Cheating involves deliberately deceiving your partner to fulfill your own selfish urges. I could never cheat on my Husband and I believe he feels the same way x |
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For us the wife wouldn't need to cheat as she can fuck who she likes but I'd need to know where and who with as it's our safety thing, I wouldn't be happy if she didn't tell me as I need to know she's safe. |
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As a swinging couple they'd be no need to cheat but if I found he did without my knowledge it would be the end of us. If I can't trust him and he was prepared to risk us he doesn't deserve my breath so I wouldn't waste it on him.
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Cant see why either of us would want to cheat as we can meet people as a couple and have sex with them if we wish, it's far from cheating if we are together. If he went behind my back with someone though that would be the end of our marriage. |
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Cheating as in having sex with someone else and not telling me? I'd be hurt and angry but try to find out why.
Cheating as in having an intimate emotional relationship I'd be hurt, angry and packing my suitcase.
Cheating as in concealing or hiding certain actions I'd be hurt because I would know the intimacy and closeness had gone from our relationship. |
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Found out my ex cheated on me after also discovering that he was a serial domestic abuser...
It was the night he went out 'to wet the babies head' so whilst I was laying in bed feeling physically and mentally broken, he was out sticking his dick in someone else...  |
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"For me personally (Luke) it really depends on the situation.
If Hannah had a random wild fling that came out of the blue and wasn't intending to carry on, I'm pretty sure I could deal with it.
If she did something to open the door to a fully open relationship for both of us, We'd talk it through and consider it.
If she fell in love and wanted to keep seeing him then I would find that very difficult.
If it's with another woman then I'd give her every encouragement happily drive her so she could meet the lady in question! (Something related has actually happened.)
It really all depends on the damage to our relationship."
Reading this - obvious observation is you see cheating with a woman as different to cheating with a man? |
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It's a trust issue .. if you can't agree on the aspects of fun in your life and have to resort to cheating. Well your not in a relationship you in a convenient dull conundrum. |
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I agree there’s a big difference between cheating and swinging/open marriage/enm
My ex cheated and what hurt the most was the deception and the insult to my intelligence (he was rubbish at hiding it!) plus he went bare which was plain stupid!
Annoyingly I also would have been happy to discuss an open marriage but as earlier poster he’d have hated that as he wouldn’t have wanted me being with anyone else.
It’s a betrayal of trust pure and simple.
Those saying they fantasise about it - it’s just that fantasy, the reality would be quite different
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We have challenges with each other, and both stick to them, so it's a game to us.
We both challenge each other on nights, get pics, stick to rules as it's a power trip to both.
Yet, our love is unbreakable, this lifestyle is all kinks and games, when it's us, it's absolutely immense |
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"Honestly was heart breaking when I found out that my ex repeatedly cheated on me after she kept accusing me of cheating on her. So no I wouldn’t forgive"
Cheaters will always accuse you of cheating as its a distraction so you wont find out they are cheating on you. Cheeters are the scum of the earth no matter how they sugar coat it by saying they love them and cant leave them but cheat to get sex thats missing in their relationships. Better to leave and start afresh than cheat. |
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"I agree there’s a big difference between cheating and swinging/open marriage/enm
My ex cheated and what hurt the most was the deception and the insult to my intelligence (he was rubbish at hiding it!) plus he went bare which was plain stupid!
Annoyingly I also would have been happy to discuss an open marriage but as earlier poster he’d have hated that as he wouldn’t have wanted me being with anyone else.
It’s a betrayal of trust pure and simple.
Those saying they fantasise about it - it’s just that fantasy, the reality would be quite different
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So true |
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