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"Did you discuss boundaries whilst messaging before the meet ?
Didn’t think they would be any as they came as straight "
There are always boundaries even if people are straight. For example I don't do anal. Some people only kiss their partners. Some don't do oral. Some do bareback some don't.
I suggest next time before a meet you have a bit of a discussion. |
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By *reezul OP Man
over a year ago
birmingham |
"Did you discuss boundaries whilst messaging before the meet ?
Didn’t think they would be any as they came as straight
There are always boundaries even if people are straight. For example I don't do anal. Some people only kiss their partners. Some don't do oral. Some do bareback some don't.
I suggest next time before a meet you have a bit of a discussion. "
Oh no there was the usual boundaries where kissing was ultimately their choice and it was safe sex only. Just the bi sexual part literally had me on the spot. |
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Guy was tipsy as had a bit too much dutch courage. As we were newbies, we tried to go through with it anyway (nowadays, we would just leave there and then).
Then he claimed he'd forgotten his condoms, even though we'd had explicit conversations about that.
Finally, he fell over whilst receiving a blow job (he was standing at the end of the bed). He grabbed Alice's arm to hold onto as he went and gave her a MASSIVE bruise.
I'm surprised we ever met anyone else after that! |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
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"First meet turned a couple who advertised as straight but came as bi. Complete turn off on the spot. "
Going to have to expand on that. Did they arrive, admit to being bi and you told them to leave? Did the bi guy try something on with you that you'd not agreed to?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"First meet turned a couple who advertised as straight but came as bi. Complete turn off on the spot. "
You'll find a few on here who advertise straight but turn out to be Bi-curious, they will meet and play totally straight if that is what's wanted though... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Guy was tipsy as had a bit too much dutch courage. As we were newbies, we tried to go through with it anyway (nowadays, we would just leave there and then).
Then he claimed he'd forgotten his condoms, even though we'd had explicit conversations about that.
Finally, he fell over whilst receiving a blow job (he was standing at the end of the bed). He grabbed Alice's arm to hold onto as he went and gave her a MASSIVE bruise.
I'm surprised we ever met anyone else after that!"
Sounds like a different side of the claim to me, Judge Rinder would have a field day here  |
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By *reezul OP Man
over a year ago
birmingham |
"You know bi guys can play straight, right? "
Of course I knew that but wouldn’t you want to state that your bi instead as straight and be straight with people who are comfy with being straight and be bi with people who are comfy with being bi ??? |
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By *reezul OP Man
over a year ago
birmingham |
"First meet turned a couple who advertised as straight but came as bi. Complete turn off on the spot.
Going to have to expand on that. Did they arrive, admit to being bi and you told them to leave? Did the bi guy try something on with you that you'd not agreed to?
(Bry)"
Literally as they were arriving they wanted to know if I would play with the mr. I kindly refused still said to them to have some drinks and that was the end of it |
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By *reezul OP Man
over a year ago
birmingham |
"Guy was tipsy as had a bit too much dutch courage. As we were newbies, we tried to go through with it anyway (nowadays, we would just leave there and then).
Then he claimed he'd forgotten his condoms, even though we'd had explicit conversations about that.
Finally, he fell over whilst receiving a blow job (he was standing at the end of the bed). He grabbed Alice's arm to hold onto as he went and gave her a MASSIVE bruise.
I'm surprised we ever met anyone else after that!"
Sorry who are you ? |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
"Literally as they were arriving they wanted to know if I would play with the mr. I kindly refused still said to them to have some drinks and that was the end of it "
Just seems like neither party was clear on the state of play before the meet. Guess it happens.
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By *reezul OP Man
over a year ago
birmingham |
"Literally as they were arriving they wanted to know if I would play with the mr. I kindly refused still said to them to have some drinks and that was the end of it
Just seems like neither party was clear on the state of play before the meet. Guess it happens.
(Bry)"
I guess so was so gutted as I was eager and ready x |
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"You know bi guys can play straight, right?
Of course I knew that but wouldn’t you want to state that your bi instead as straight and be straight with people who are comfy with being straight and be bi with people who are comfy with being bi ??? "
This all reads very much like neither side asked enough questions before hand. If they had said they were bi but happy to play straight, would you still have met them? |
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By *reezul OP Man
over a year ago
birmingham |
"You know bi guys can play straight, right?
Of course I knew that but wouldn’t you want to state that your bi instead as straight and be straight with people who are comfy with being straight and be bi with people who are comfy with being bi ???
This all reads very much like neither side asked enough questions before hand. If they had said they were bi but happy to play straight, would you still have met them? "
Of course I would have |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know many couples complain about the single guys saying they’re bi just to get some play time with the lady in a bi couple but the number of couples I’ve played with in which the male half has said he’s straight but then during play, he’s going for my junk or trying to get the lady to rub both dicks together while sucking etc is surprising.
I guess we all have things we hide, perhaps even from ourselves!
Ps - that last line fell out of my head but is surprisingly deep for me  |
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"You know bi guys can play straight, right?
Of course I knew that but wouldn’t you want to state that your bi instead as straight and be straight with people who are comfy with being straight and be bi with people who are comfy with being bi ???
This all reads very much like neither side asked enough questions before hand. If they had said they were bi but happy to play straight, would you still have met them?
Of course I would have "
I'm not sure I understand the issue then. They asked, you said no... Or Was this a deal breaker for them? |
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"Sounds like a different side of the claim to me, Judge Rinder would have a field day here "
I hadn't even clicked that it could read like a response from the couple the OP asked about. I was simply sharing *our* first time.
Apologies for the confusion, OP! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sounds like a different side of the claim to me, Judge Rinder would have a field day here
I hadn't even clicked that it could read like a response from the couple the OP asked about. I was simply sharing *our* first time.
Apologies for the confusion, OP! "
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By *reezul OP Man
over a year ago
birmingham |
"You know bi guys can play straight, right?
Of course I knew that but wouldn’t you want to state that your bi instead as straight and be straight with people who are comfy with being straight and be bi with people who are comfy with being bi ???
This all reads very much like neither side asked enough questions before hand. If they had said they were bi but happy to play straight, would you still have met them?
Of course I would have
I'm not sure I understand the issue then. They asked, you said no... Or Was this a deal breaker for them? "
They wanted me to play with the guy and I didn’t want to. |
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By *reezul OP Man
over a year ago
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"Sounds like a different side of the claim to me, Judge Rinder would have a field day here
I hadn't even clicked that it could read like a response from the couple the OP asked about. I was simply sharing *our* first time.
Apologies for the confusion, OP! "
So sorry I was confused and shocked thinking what was going on here |
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We've never experienced this as we've yet to meet someone through Fab (mainly because we don't actively seek on here). We find people in clubs, parties or out and about in the vanilla world. That way we get a measure of people when we come across without pressure or having gone especially out of our for a meet that may fail. |
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