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Thinking of leaving :(
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've been on this site over a year, and have yet to find a female to meet me, ive tried being as polite as I can in my messages and have a clear face pic on my profile that I send with every message,
Am I in a bad area?
Am I doing something wrong?
Please help!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Same here mate it's not a friendly as it should be"
You mean nobody will drop their knickers just because you want them to?
Too many people act like this place exists for them to get lots of easy sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Same here mate it's not a friendly as it should be
You mean nobody will drop their knickers just because you want them to?
Too many people act like this place exists for them to get lots of easy sex."
it does  |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"I've been on this site over a year, and have yet to find a female to meet me, ive tried being as polite as I can in my messages and have a clear face pic on my profile that I send with every message,
Am I in a bad area?
Am I doing something wrong?
Please help!
X
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My opinion....
Change your username
Pad out your profile, it says nothing about you.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Same here mate it's not a friendly as it should be
You mean nobody will drop their knickers just because you want them to?
Too many people act like this place exists for them to get lots of easy sex."
'Easy' sex? I've always preferred the 'hard' sex myself
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"Same here mate it's not a friendly as it should be, I had a profile with a female friend and we met couples ok, we are all looking for that elusive female, I there is any interested for real meet txt us  07523281827
Sorry but your brave to put your number on an open forum x"
wouldnt say brave id say daft , even tells you dont post numbers . the op saying you aint fussy probs imo put ppl off ,redo profile try reinvent yourself |
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"Same here mate it's not a friendly as it should be, I had a profile with a female friend and we met couples ok, we are all looking for that elusive female, I there is any interested for real meet txt us 07523281827 "
its against the rules to post your number on the forums also very stupid thing to do indeed ...and also a little confusing as your only looking to meet females 
Anyway back to the question at hand Op your profile screams of desperation you need to use your profile as your window of oppertunity have a little bit of respect towards the people ur hoping to meet and try and make them special by meeting them because your attracted to them and not just because they said yes to you..have some morals and good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP, as someone else said pad your profile out and loose the "I'll do any size" line as it's not complimentary and makes you sound desperate.
As for the other guy.....sheesh !
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Firstly , single females are not elusive they just get that much attention they couldnt possibly answer everyones messages let alone meet.
Secondly, your profile says absolutely nothing about you and is typical of a large proportion of single guys who cant get meets then blame everyone but themselves.
You need to try understand others thought processes and rewrite your profile accordingly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think he is just a horny boy wanting to sew his oats lol x but i dont think a swinging site is for him at this time in his life. Go out in the big wide world get some experience and come back in about 5 years.
Just my opinion x |
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OP I dont know what your doing wrong as theres lots out there...... Maybe as others have said try a different angle or use clubs etc...... Joinus4fun I cant understand you having difficulty meeting peeps your lass looks horny as fcuk...... I know your not looking for single men....... I dont see a prob putting a number in open forum Ive done it and I see it as being open  |
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"OP I dont know what your doing wrong as theres lots out there...... Maybe as others have said try a different angle or use clubs etc...... Joinus4fun I cant understand you having difficulty meeting peeps your lass looks horny as fcuk...... I know your not looking for single men....... I dont see a prob putting a number in open forum Ive done it and I see it as being open "
well as its been well publisised that the press are on here looking to entrap people do you still think its a good idea ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Having a preference helps! And take interest in what the other person wants and be happy to chat or socialise! It's not just insta-shag (seen on many forum posts but very true) |
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"I've been on this site over a year, and have yet to find a female to meet me, ive tried being as polite as I can in my messages and have a clear face pic on my profile that I send with every message,
Am I in a bad area?
Am I doing something wrong?
Please help!
X
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well for a start your only 19 most ladies prefer someone with a bit more experience and confidence, and you saying your shy wont help.
don't for get that for every lady on here there are approx 1000 guys, so your profile really has to stand out from the crowd,
It is very very tough for single guys on here and any other site,so may be the local pubs and nightclubs will give better results.
what ever you chose good luck in the future |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah I know :s
I'm not fussy at all!
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The problem is that most people are. You come across as desperate and immature and that combination is going to get you nowhere. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think he is just a horny boy wanting to sew his oats lol x but i dont think a swinging site is for him at this time in his life. Go out in the big wide world get some experience and come back in about 5 years.
Just my opinion x"
 +1 to that.
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"Yeah I know :s
I'm not fussy at all!
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The problem is that most people are. You come across as desperate and immature and that combination is going to get you nowhere."
You are 19 and you not fussy I dont think older women are as unscrupulous as older men seem to have been.
Think you need to redo you profile stick up some sexy pictures and market yourself better instead of whining ..
just my opinion |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah I know :s
I'm not fussy at all!
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maybe your not but not many women will want to meet you knowing you'll shag anything
You could try rephrasing what you have put
something like.....
i dont have a particular preference i like women of all ages and sizes
sounds much better than......
i'll shag anything im not fussy lol
i wouldnt meet a man who didnt care what i looked like, even tho its swinging id still like to think men who meet me are attracted to me and not just a member of the any holes a goal league
its all in the wording |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You are not doing anything wrong. The simple fact is that there are a lot of women on here who are contemptuous of men.
They are either stupid or lack the most basic of manners which, laughably, they demand of us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You are not doing anything wrong. The simple fact is that there are a lot of women on here who are contemptuous of men.
They are either stupid or lack the most basic of manners which, laughably, they demand of us. "
Oh this should be good. Where's me popcorn?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You are not doing anything wrong. The simple fact is that there are a lot of women on here who are contemptuous of men.
They are either stupid or lack the most basic of manners which, laughably, they demand of us.
Oh this should be good. Where's me popcorn?!"
INCOMING!!!!!!!!!! (Dons tin helmet....)
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"You are not doing anything wrong. The simple fact is that there are a lot of women on here who are contemptuous of men.
They are either stupid or lack the most basic of manners which, laughably, they demand of us. "
well with remarks like that I'm sure there will be plenty more woman contemptuous of you...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You are not doing anything wrong. The simple fact is that there are a lot of women on here who are contemptuous of men.
They are either stupid or lack the most basic of manners which, laughably, they demand of us. "
Actually it's probably fairer to say that many men are authors of their own fate and provoke the contempt with which they are viewed, not just by females but by couples and indeed other single males.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You are not doing anything wrong. The simple fact is that there are a lot of women on here who are contemptuous of men.
They are either stupid or lack the most basic of manners which, laughably, they demand of us. "
I don't see the stupidity if women ignore or refuse to meet with some guys. Especially if they are not worthy of us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Whilst not exactly incorrect, it could have been put better. There are a few women who come across like that....but I think they are playing to an audience who like to be treated like that! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You are not doing anything wrong. The simple fact is that there are a lot of women on here who are contemptuous of men.
They are either stupid or lack the most basic of manners which, laughably, they demand of us. "
I find your point of view interesting and would like to subscribe to your newsletter.
However I fear you are too busy guarding the bridge from the bovids attempting to cross it to have the opportunity to write it. |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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"You are not doing anything wrong. The simple fact is that there are a lot of women on here who are contemptuous of men.
They are either stupid or lack the most basic of manners which, laughably, they demand of us. "
And yet we still manage to get what we want  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You have put the cart before the horse I think.
To suggest that it's all the fault of men (or women) is too simplistic.
As a man I can only speak of my experiences and they have been disappointing. I believe if you show respect you should receive it but in the world of swinging that seems to have been forgotten. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You're all being far too kind to him. What's the matter with you all? Where did the fire and vitriol go!
Oh well. Barryco you're a dick. Just because you send a message does not entitle you to a reply. No matter how nice it is. No one on this site owes you a damn thing and the sooner you realise it the better off you'll be. Its not a sex site as you said in another thread. Its a swinger site. The two things are different.
If you want someone who replies to all your messages and drops her knickers when you want can I suggest finding a good prostitute and fucking off've here.
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"You're all being far too kind to him. What's the matter with you all? Where did the fire and vitriol go!
Oh well. Barryco you're a dick. Just because you send a message does not entitle you to a reply. No matter how nice it is. No one on this site owes you a damn thing and the sooner you realise it the better off you'll be. Its not a sex site as you said in another thread. Its a swinger site. The two things are different.
If you want someone who replies to all your messages and drops her knickers when you want can I suggest finding a good prostitute and fucking off've here.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You're all being far too kind to him. What's the matter with you all? Where did the fire and vitriol go!
Oh well. Barryco you're a dick. Just because you send a message does not entitle you to a reply. No matter how nice it is. No one on this site owes you a damn thing and the sooner you realise it the better off you'll be. Its not a sex site as you said in another thread. Its a swinger site. The two things are different.
If you want someone who replies to all your messages and drops her knickers when you want can I suggest finding a good prostitute and fucking off've here.
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Jodie, I bloody love your comebacks - pee my pants every time!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You are not doing anything wrong. The simple fact is that there are a lot of women on here who are contemptuous of men.
They are either stupid or lack the most basic of manners which, laughably, they demand of us. "
G r e n a d e !!!!! pmsl  |
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"You are not doing anything wrong. The simple fact is that there are a lot of women on here who are contemptuous of men.
They are either stupid or lack the most basic of manners which, laughably, they demand of us. "
factor in your 'dissapointment' and it does rather beg the question why are you still here m8?
is 'this aspect' for you?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can every body please check out my new profile text!!
Let ne know what you think
Thankyou!!
X"
There you go a guy that actually listens to feedback all you need now is a few pics maybe a few body shots you dont have to show face pics but keep them for when your sending messages. |
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By *ptimusDMan
over a year ago
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"Can every body please check out my new profile text!!
Let ne know what you think
Thankyou!!
X"
Decent effort, but I'm sorry I find all this rather amusing If you find it all puzzling at this point, I doubt you'll be able to do any better if by some miracle you manage to arrange a meet.
There's a lot more to swinging than just getting your end away, and I'm not sure you're up for it yet.
I've always believed that if you can't get laid outside swinging, you'll struggle if you think swinging is an easy way out. I'll advise paying for sex instead. I'm speaking in general terms btw.
Also, unfortunately for you, there are very few swingers around your age group, and while there are quite a few older women who fancy younger guys, 19 may be tending towards cradle snatching for some of them, which makes your pool of potentials not very great.
Don't get me wrong, I'm sure there are teenage swingers out there who have a whale of a time. But I'll be willing to bet that they're a lot more clued on & take a more mature approach to swinging than what you've shown so far.
That said, we've all got to start somewhere and if you've chosen this path, 19 is as good an age as any other to start.
On the other hand, as someone suggested earlier, you could come back in 5 years, after living a bit. |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
"Can every body please check out my new profile text!!
Let ne know what you think
Thankyou!!
X"
As with most things keep developin it, think of your best characteristics and try to capture them in words,.. give people a sense of who you are, what you are..you know yourself best.. its not easy but its the thing that seperates your profile from others ..
If it still doesnt work you can still exit...have fun... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can every body please check out my new profile text!!
Let ne know what you think
Thankyou!!
X"
Massive improvement, but as someone said, do a spell check. Also, get rid of the text speak, a lot of people hate it, unless you're texting of course.
I always tweak my profile, even if its just the odd sentence or word. Best of luck |
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Well the profile is better ..tho I see you still arent fussy.. Hmm oh well. still here so something might happen. I see you want an older lady to take you to a club.. how about offering to take an older lady to a club. You arent a boy to be led ..do the leading. !
( not me by the way )  |
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"Same here mate it's not a friendly as it should be
You mean nobody will drop their knickers just because you want them to?
Too many people act like this place exists for them to get lots of easy sex."
Hang on! You mean it's some kind of sex site?!? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been on this site over a year, and have yet to find a female to meet me, ive tried being as polite as I can in my messages and have a clear face pic on my profile that I send with every message,
Am I in a bad area?
Am I doing something wrong?
Please help!
X
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YAWN |
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Well your profile shows your age, lack of tact and maturity that most people especally women would actually expect as a given.
But also you dont say your VVWE even if its not true in my experiance here unless youve got at least a 10incher (and that girth ) the women seaching the profile here just arnt interested dispite those same women saying that a +7 inch dildo is too big to fit. :LOL
But you should know this by now, youve been here longer than me.
I personal dont think more than a few % do actually meet real people here. And given some of the chats in hot tubs and clubs; no one actaully think FS is of much use in actually getting any meets even socal ones.
Lets face it some of the unintelligent posts on the fora should reveal the real mindset of those on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well your profile shows your age, lack of tact and maturity that most people especally women would actually expect as a given.
But also you dont say your VVWE even if its not true in my experiance here unless youve got at least a 10incher (and that girth ) the women seaching the profile here just arnt interested dispite those same women saying that a +7 inch dildo is too big to fit. :LOL
But you should know this by now, youve been here longer than me.
I personal dont think more than a few % do actually meet real people here. And given some of the chats in hot tubs and clubs; no one actaully think FS is of much use in actually getting any meets even socal ones.
Lets face it some of the unintelligent posts on the fora should reveal the real mindset of those on here. "
So why are you still here then if Fab is so rubbish? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't know what the problem is my profile is blank and I do quite well on hear
It must be what you say in ur messages !!! "
The extra years and able to accom for a single guy may have something to do with it xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Another 'I am leaving thread' and the same responses 'improve your profile, add sexy pictures, try not to be negative or tell us why you can't accommodate etc etc'
Why don't people just read through previous topics that ask the same thing? Got to be much easier than grabbing an ass kicking from men, women and couples.
My advice, for what its worth... join the chat rooms, put your cam on (on your face not your cock), join in the fun on the forums and find a social to go to. Enjoy the the company of the people you meetand ddon't treat this place like a butchers shop, its not a meat market.
Have fun |
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"Well your profile shows your age, lack of tact and maturity that most people especally women would actually expect as a given.
But also you dont say your VVWE even if its not true in my experiance here unless youve got at least a 10incher (and that girth ) the women seaching the profile here just arnt interested dispite those same women saying that a +7 inch dildo is too big to fit. :LOL
But you should know this by now, youve been here longer than me.
I personal dont think more than a few % do actually meet real people here. And given some of the chats in hot tubs and clubs; no one actaully think FS is of much use in actually getting any meets even socal ones.
Lets face it some of the unintelligent posts on the fora should reveal the real mindset of those on here.
So why are you still here then if Fab is so rubbish?"
Lets face it some of the unintelligent posts on the fora should reveal the real mindset of those on here. " |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Another 'I am leaving thread' and the same responses 'improve your profile, add sexy pictures, try not to be negative or tell us why you can't accommodate etc etc'
Why don't people just read through previous topics that ask the same thing? Got to be much easier than grabbing an ass kicking from men, women and couples.
My advice, for what its worth... join the chat rooms, put your cam on (on your face not your cock), join in the fun on the forums and find a social to go to. Enjoy the the company of the people you meetand ddon't treat this place like a butchers shop, its not a meat market.
Have fun"
Why be so harsh he is a 19 year old lad and least he is trying and showing some back bone give him a break x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well your profile shows your age, lack of tact and maturity that most people especally women would actually expect as a given.
But also you dont say your VVWE even if its not true in my experiance here unless youve got at least a 10incher (and that girth ) the women seaching the profile here just arnt interested dispite those same women saying that a +7 inch dildo is too big to fit. :LOL
But you should know this by now, youve been here longer than me.
I personal dont think more than a few % do actually meet real people here. And given some of the chats in hot tubs and clubs; no one actaully think FS is of much use in actually getting any meets even socal ones.
Lets face it some of the unintelligent posts on the fora should reveal the real mindset of those on here.
So why are you still here then if Fab is so rubbish?
Lets face it some of the unintelligent posts on the fora should reveal the real mindset of those on here. ""
Congratulations for just repeating yourself. What did you say about the unintelligent on here ..........? |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Well your profile shows your age, lack of tact and maturity that most people especally women would actually expect as a given.
But also you dont say your VVWE even if its not true in my experiance here unless youve got at least a 10incher (and that girth ) the women seaching the profile here just arnt interested dispite those same women saying that a +7 inch dildo is too big to fit. :LOL
But you should know this by now, youve been here longer than me.
I personal dont think more than a few % do actually meet real people here. And given some of the chats in hot tubs and clubs; no one actaully think FS is of much use in actually getting any meets even socal ones.
Lets face it some of the unintelligent posts on the fora should reveal the real mindset of those on here. "
My experience is the complete opposite to the above. I meet people, the people I meet meet people, and when I am at a club and meet someone from here they usually talk about the people they've met, good and bad.
I understand that some people aren't very successful on here, but I think its a bit disingenuous to blame the site. |
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"and when I am at a club and meet someone from here they usually talk about the people they've met, good and bad."
I think youve hit the nail on the head
I too meet people at clubs and talk about meeting others and they dont seem to be able to "meet up" with pep's on this site ie no-shows or email chain dies, so they vocalise their frustrations, strangley they match mine. Some of those are even that MOST elusive and MUCH sort after "Single white bi-females" so I rest my case; its just a small % of the sites membership that actually do do meets. Blammng a virtual server on the interweb is as you say pointless. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"its just a small % of the sites membership that actually do do meets.
That you know of!
Fixed that for you."
I am a single white bi female and I meet do you chick that makes 2 so far lol x |
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By *ngelbiTVTV/TS
over a year ago
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"I've been on this site over a year, and have yet to find a female to meet me, ive tried being as polite as I can in my messages and have a clear face pic on my profile that I send with every message,
Am I in a bad area?
Am I doing something wrong?
Please help!
X
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I love the line on your profile about your verifications and then those verifications are from guys.
Not sure they are comparable lol I look for different things when I play with a single guy to when I meet couples with my partner. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think he is just a horny boy wanting to sew his oats lol x but i dont think a swinging site is for him at this time in his life. Go out in the big wide world get some experience and come back in about 5 years.
Just my opinion x"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah I know :s
I'm not fussy at all!
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Well as many people on here are "fussy" that's obviously where your falling down.
Saying your not puts you in a high risk category! |
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"its just a small % of the sites membership that actually do do meets.
That you know of!
Fixed that for you.
I am a single white bi female and I meet do you chick that makes 2 so far lol x"
And of course that make it statically significant doesnt it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been on this site over a year, and have yet to find a female to meet me, ive tried being as polite as I can in my messages and have a clear face pic on my profile that I send with every message,
Am I in a bad area?
Am I doing something wrong?
Please help!
X
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Still here then |
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