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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Subscription ends tomorrow after being on here for about 10 years under 3 different profiles just thought I'd say it's been interesting but that's about it. Although it's cheap to join and get messaging than just about any other website it doesn't really bear fruit for single guys. Despite being a decent lad, in shape, fit, fairly handsome so I'm told and with plenty conversation none of this has transpired into any meets for over 3 years.. yes covid has been a killer but it's more than that.

Its fair enough as the site is really for swinging couples, but as a place to actually meet women for a single guy it's dire.

I've been on several other dating sites and had lots more fruitful chats and dates than here, so latterly I've just accepted that this site is really just akin to semi reality soft porn and for window shopping..

The latest local pics seems to be full of unattractive people and the attractive ladies mostly live miles away down south. Over a third of the views to my profile over the last year's have been tvtscd folks ..

I've sent thousands of messages but only received a few hundred in total. I've always always been nice, polite, cheeky, complimentary but to little avail. It very much appears the site is used by a lot of women of a certain 'fabulous' 'ample' to help their confidence I guess which is cool.. confidence is so important but many others are simply here to stroke their egos .. meeting is just not on the cards.

Many guys like me are really wasting their time.

It has introduced me to these clubs though and I did visit one in 2019 which was interesting but not really for me, maybe down south they are a bit busier / nicer.

I've had some chat with about 4 yes altogether in the last 4 years there been about 4 women I've kept regular chat with, and never met any of them despite trying. Wasn't always like that though.. when I first joined, in the first two years on previous but very similar profile I met 5 women only one of which I went on to meet again. In total over 10 odd years I have met 9 women and 2 that ended up in a sexy date and one of them I was also chatting to of another dating site at the same time. Pretty poor record going by others it would seem. However I'm not a pushy guy and chasing women isn't something im evidently very good at, tbh in the pubs through my 30s it's always me that's been chased .. just the way it's worked out.

I'm very definitely interested in the swinging thing but it would have to be with a likewise interested partner, as it's pretty demoralising as a single guy being on here trying to meet a kinky lass you're attracted enough to.

It will be interesting to see where dating in 2022 23 goes as the regular sites are rubbish too for this.. again im on the 2/3 other main dating apps and dates from them are nothing like as prolific as they were years ago.

Personally after a wee health scare recently think I need to go back to base look up old friends and get back out into the pubs. After all, that's where I've met all my previous girlfriends bar none ..

Anyway a rambling jab at online and fabswingers but heyho.

No offence to anybody.

Over and out. G

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Subscription ends tomorrow after being on here for about 10 years under 3 different profiles just thought I'd say it's been interesting but that's about it. Although it's cheap to join and get messaging than just about any other website it doesn't really bear fruit for single guys. Despite being a decent lad, in shape, fit, fairly handsome so I'm told and with plenty conversation none of this has transpired into any meets for over 3 years.. yes covid has been a killer but it's more than that.

Its fair enough as the site is really for swinging couples, but as a place to actually meet women for a single guy it's dire.

I've been on several other dating sites and had lots more fruitful chats and dates than here, so latterly I've just accepted that this site is really just akin to semi reality soft porn and for window shopping..

The latest local pics seems to be full of unattractive people and the attractive ladies mostly live miles away down south. Over a third of the views to my profile over the last year's have been tvtscd folks ..

I've sent thousands of messages but only received a few hundred in total. I've always always been nice, polite, cheeky, complimentary but to little avail. It very much appears the site is used by a lot of women of a certain 'fabulous' 'ample' to help their confidence I guess which is cool.. confidence is so important but many others are simply here to stroke their egos .. meeting is just not on the cards.

Many guys like me are really wasting their time.

It has introduced me to these clubs though and I did visit one in 2019 which was interesting but not really for me, maybe down south they are a bit busier / nicer.

I've had some chat with about 4 yes altogether in the last 4 years there been about 4 women I've kept regular chat with, and never met any of them despite trying. Wasn't always like that though.. when I first joined, in the first two years on previous but very similar profile I met 5 women only one of which I went on to meet again. In total over 10 odd years I have met 9 women and 2 that ended up in a sexy date and one of them I was also chatting to of another dating site at the same time. Pretty poor record going by others it would seem. However I'm not a pushy guy and chasing women isn't something im evidently very good at, tbh in the pubs through my 30s it's always me that's been chased .. just the way it's worked out.

I'm very definitely interested in the swinging thing but it would have to be with a likewise interested partner, as it's pretty demoralising as a single guy being on here trying to meet a kinky lass you're attracted enough to.

It will be interesting to see where dating in 2022 23 goes as the regular sites are rubbish too for this.. again im on the 2/3 other main dating apps and dates from them are nothing like as prolific as they were years ago.

Personally after a wee health scare recently think I need to go back to base look up old friends and get back out into the pubs. After all, that's where I've met all my previous girlfriends bar none ..

Anyway a rambling jab at online and fabswingers but heyho.

No offence to anybody.

Over and out. G"

Worth remembering that you're a single guy, looking to meet women, on a Swingers site! The majority of people on here are looking for three or more, 2 is dating or hookups, which there are dozens of apps specifically designed for.

You're right that you'll be better off on a dating site, you don't sound like a swinger, just someone looking for a hookup.

Good luck!

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By *ugby 123Couple  over a year ago
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The latest local pics seems to be full of unattractive people

G"

It could be this comment that could be the issue.

You also mention about being on other dating sites...this isn't a dating site.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

How dare the fabulous ample women use a site like this.

Some men understand swinging and some want a quick free fuck.

It's not the site's fault they don't understand.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

This isn't a dating app ! Mainly couples looking for a female or a couple looking for a couple or a couple looking for a man and there is like 1000 men to a couple or women on here lol

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By *ad NannaWoman  over a year ago

East London

When you say "guys like me" what do you mean exactly?

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple  over a year ago

Exeter

So many guys join thinking that swinging means easy sex and it's far from it. The majority ofvthem on here should stick to the likes of T1nder etc.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Subscription ends tomorrow after being on here for about 10 years under 3 different profiles just thought I'd say it's been interesting but that's about it. Although it's cheap to join and get messaging than just about any other website it doesn't really bear fruit for single guys. Despite being a decent lad, in shape, fit, fairly handsome so I'm told and with plenty conversation none of this has transpired into any meets for over 3 years.. yes covid has been a killer but it's more than that.

Its fair enough as the site is really for swinging couples, but as a place to actually meet women for a single guy it's dire.

I've been on several other dating sites and had lots more fruitful chats and dates than here, so latterly I've just accepted that this site is really just akin to semi reality soft porn and for window shopping..

The latest local pics seems to be full of unattractive people and the attractive ladies mostly live miles away down south. Over a third of the views to my profile over the last year's have been tvtscd folks ..

I've sent thousands of messages but only received a few hundred in total. I've always always been nice, polite, cheeky, complimentary but to little avail. It very much appears the site is used by a lot of women of a certain 'fabulous' 'ample' to help their confidence I guess which is cool.. confidence is so important but many others are simply here to stroke their egos .. meeting is just not on the cards.

Many guys like me are really wasting their time.

It has introduced me to these clubs though and I did visit one in 2019 which was interesting but not really for me, maybe down south they are a bit busier / nicer.

I've had some chat with about 4 yes altogether in the last 4 years there been about 4 women I've kept regular chat with, and never met any of them despite trying. Wasn't always like that though.. when I first joined, in the first two years on previous but very similar profile I met 5 women only one of which I went on to meet again. In total over 10 odd years I have met 9 women and 2 that ended up in a sexy date and one of them I was also chatting to of another dating site at the same time. Pretty poor record going by others it would seem. However I'm not a pushy guy and chasing women isn't something im evidently very good at, tbh in the pubs through my 30s it's always me that's been chased .. just the way it's worked out.

I'm very definitely interested in the swinging thing but it would have to be with a likewise interested partner, as it's pretty demoralising as a single guy being on here trying to meet a kinky lass you're attracted enough to.

It will be interesting to see where dating in 2022 23 goes as the regular sites are rubbish too for this.. again im on the 2/3 other main dating apps and dates from them are nothing like as prolific as they were years ago.

Personally after a wee health scare recently think I need to go back to base look up old friends and get back out into the pubs. After all, that's where I've met all my previous girlfriends bar none ..

Anyway a rambling jab at online and fabswingers but heyho.

No offence to anybody.

Over and out. G"

Ffs spit it out!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Dude… just go on tinder or pof or something. This isn’t a dating site.

This is a swinging site… many couples aren’t going to be interested because you feel the need to say how straight you are about 40 times on your profile and many women are here for more than the standard MF hookups as they can get those effortlessly on tinder etc…

Also i wonder why nobody wants to sleep with you… I’m sure the fact that you’re wiling to publicly insult half of the users on here says nothing about your personality.

Also 10 years on here and no verifications at all??? We won’t even speak to anyone that’s been a member for any amount of time without any veris at all.

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By *evaquitCouple  over a year ago

Catthorpe

The only conclusion I came to was that the time you've put in here has been wasted purely down to you using it as a dating site which it isn't. Was there really any need to mention womens size and looks in your post, a bit uncalled for that. Feeding egos, boosting self esteem yes there's definitely plenty of that here for sure but that's also prevailant on dating sites just more subtle due to the difference in it's nature to here.

Anyway, best of luck elsewhere.

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By *r and Mrs 81Couple  over a year ago

Leicester


"Subscription ends tomorrow after being on here for about 10 years under 3 different profiles just thought I'd say it's been interesting but that's about it. Although it's cheap to join and get messaging than just about any other website it doesn't really bear fruit for single guys. Despite being a decent lad, in shape, fit, fairly handsome so I'm told and with plenty conversation none of this has transpired into any meets for over 3 years.. yes covid has been a killer but it's more than that.

Its fair enough as the site is really for swinging couples, but as a place to actually meet women for a single guy it's dire.

I've been on several other dating sites and had lots more fruitful chats and dates than here, so latterly I've just accepted that this site is really just akin to semi reality soft porn and for window shopping..

The latest local pics seems to be full of unattractive people and the attractive ladies mostly live miles away down south. Over a third of the views to my profile over the last year's have been tvtscd folks ..

I've sent thousands of messages but only received a few hundred in total. I've always always been nice, polite, cheeky, complimentary but to little avail. It very much appears the site is used by a lot of women of a certain 'fabulous' 'ample' to help their confidence I guess which is cool.. confidence is so important but many others are simply here to stroke their egos .. meeting is just not on the cards.

Many guys like me are really wasting their time.

It has introduced me to these clubs though and I did visit one in 2019 which was interesting but not really for me, maybe down south they are a bit busier / nicer.

I've had some chat with about 4 yes altogether in the last 4 years there been about 4 women I've kept regular chat with, and never met any of them despite trying. Wasn't always like that though.. when I first joined, in the first two years on previous but very similar profile I met 5 women only one of which I went on to meet again. In total over 10 odd years I have met 9 women and 2 that ended up in a sexy date and one of them I was also chatting to of another dating site at the same time. Pretty poor record going by others it would seem. However I'm not a pushy guy and chasing women isn't something im evidently very good at, tbh in the pubs through my 30s it's always me that's been chased .. just the way it's worked out.

I'm very definitely interested in the swinging thing but it would have to be with a likewise interested partner, as it's pretty demoralising as a single guy being on here trying to meet a kinky lass you're attracted enough to.

It will be interesting to see where dating in 2022 23 goes as the regular sites are rubbish too for this.. again im on the 2/3 other main dating apps and dates from them are nothing like as prolific as they were years ago.

Personally after a wee health scare recently think I need to go back to base look up old friends and get back out into the pubs. After all, that's where I've met all my previous girlfriends bar none ..

Anyway a rambling jab at online and fabswingers but heyho.

No offence to anybody.

Over and out. G"

It's not a dating app here or a free for all for sex... maybe your time will be better spent elsewhere as I can't really see you being a loss to the swinging scene,,,,, I really wish single guys would learn what swinging is before even trying !!!

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By *randMrsNorthernCouple  over a year ago

Cheshire

Jesus Christ.

Bit of a dramatic departure.

You’re a single guy.

Fab is a sausage fest where even the 1/10 women will be harangued by thirsty guys each and every day.

Either go to a club, try a brass house or have a Tommy Tank. You’ll feel better about it in the morning.

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By *ammo89Man  over a year ago

Aberdeen


"Subscription ends tomorrow after being on here for about 10 years under 3 different profiles just thought I'd say it's been interesting but that's about it. Although it's cheap to join and get messaging than just about any other website it doesn't really bear fruit for single guys. Despite being a decent lad, in shape, fit, fairly handsome so I'm told and with plenty conversation none of this has transpired into any meets for over 3 years.. yes covid has been a killer but it's more than that.

Its fair enough as the site is really for swinging couples, but as a place to actually meet women for a single guy it's dire.

I've been on several other dating sites and had lots more fruitful chats and dates than here, so latterly I've just accepted that this site is really just akin to semi reality soft porn and for window shopping..

The latest local pics seems to be full of unattractive people and the attractive ladies mostly live miles away down south. Over a third of the views to my profile over the last year's have been tvtscd folks ..

I've sent thousands of messages but only received a few hundred in total. I've always always been nice, polite, cheeky, complimentary but to little avail. It very much appears the site is used by a lot of women of a certain 'fabulous' 'ample' to help their confidence I guess which is cool.. confidence is so important but many others are simply here to stroke their egos .. meeting is just not on the cards.

Many guys like me are really wasting their time.

It has introduced me to these clubs though and I did visit one in 2019 which was interesting but not really for me, maybe down south they are a bit busier / nicer.

I've had some chat with about 4 yes altogether in the last 4 years there been about 4 women I've kept regular chat with, and never met any of them despite trying. Wasn't always like that though.. when I first joined, in the first two years on previous but very similar profile I met 5 women only one of which I went on to meet again. In total over 10 odd years I have met 9 women and 2 that ended up in a sexy date and one of them I was also chatting to of another dating site at the same time. Pretty poor record going by others it would seem. However I'm not a pushy guy and chasing women isn't something im evidently very good at, tbh in the pubs through my 30s it's always me that's been chased .. just the way it's worked out.

I'm very definitely interested in the swinging thing but it would have to be with a likewise interested partner, as it's pretty demoralising as a single guy being on here trying to meet a kinky lass you're attracted enough to.

It will be interesting to see where dating in 2022 23 goes as the regular sites are rubbish too for this.. again im on the 2/3 other main dating apps and dates from them are nothing like as prolific as they were years ago.

Personally after a wee health scare recently think I need to go back to base look up old friends and get back out into the pubs. After all, that's where I've met all my previous girlfriends bar none ..

Anyway a rambling jab at online and fabswingers but heyho.

No offence to anybody.

Over and out. G"

It's definitely tougher on here for single guys, but criticising people's bodies and looks on here won't get you anywhere.

Also notice that you're solely looking for women, not couples or groups. Solo meets are only a small part of this site overall, so I think your time and energy would be better spent on a dating app.

Hope you find what you're looking for

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By *AYENCouple  over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Do you go to an Indian restaurant for a Chinese meal OP?

Singles looking for singles isn't swinging, it's just doing what singles do.

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