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How hard it is to find what we are looking for??
we have done the mmf thing and are looking for mff or mffm with the girls to play with each other but men stay with own partners, and we are finding it impossible to say the least ,
Any hints and tips where we might be going wrong!! |
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Seems impossible but the thing is we get a lot of people saying that they are up for it, but after a couple of messages we find out it ain’t what they are really looking for if you get what we mean |
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over a year ago
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"How hard it is to find what we are looking for??
we have done the mmf thing and are looking for mff or mffm with the girls to play with each other but men stay with own partners, and we are finding it impossible to say the least ,
Any hints and tips where we might be going wrong!!"
I doubt you're going wrong anywhere.
What you're looking for has many challenges. 4 way attraction, 4 diaries to co-ordinate, distance/geography are the most obvious.
Add in what you're specifically looking for and you'll start to see the challenge you're up against.
We have a similar conundrum, what we want to find is possibly more niche than yourselves.
We managed it once, completely unplanned and unexpected.
Our suggestion, try a club where it's easier to gauge real world interest and attraction.
Trying to find what you're looking for in the cold unconnected world of the written word is very difficult. In a club you get to see "real" people and have "real" conversations.
Hope that helps, don't give up, keep looking and don't lower your standards.
Winston |
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"How hard it is to find what we are looking for??
we have done the mmf thing and are looking for mff or mffm with the girls to play with each other but men stay with own partners, and we are finding it impossible to say the least ,
Any hints and tips where we might be going wrong!!
I doubt you're going wrong anywhere.
What you're looking for has many challenges. 4 way attraction, 4 diaries to co-ordinate, distance/geography are the most obvious.
Add in what you're specifically looking for and you'll start to see the challenge you're up against.
We have a similar conundrum, what we want to find is possibly more niche than yourselves.
We managed it once, completely unplanned and unexpected.
Our suggestion, try a club where it's easier to gauge real world interest and attraction.
Trying to find what you're looking for in the cold unconnected world of the written word is very difficult. In a club you get to see "real" people and have "real" conversations.
Hope that helps, don't give up, keep looking and don't lower your standards.
Winston"
What a fantastic response xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"…. I doubt you're going wrong anywhere.
What you're looking for has many challenges. 4 way attraction, 4 diaries to co-ordinate, distance/geography are the most obvious.
Add in what you're specifically looking for and you'll start to see the challenge you're up against…."
This is life on fab in a nutshell.
Lots of users start with them looking at themselves, but come to terms with this first, that’s my advice.
Frustration aside, we then can focus more, and possibly change what to do to find people like ourselves that want the same thing.  |
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Many couples will play with the Ladies playing with each other and just their own partner (us including), it's just finding them. We get discounted by many as we don't full swap, which is fine as we still have great fun. Maybe start a thread every now and again "Ladies playing together and just with own partner", or similar. You'll get responses  |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
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"We get discounted by many as we don't full swap"
Think that happens to us as well. I don't join in (don't even have to be there, really), so we thought it'd be easier as only have three people to fancy. Seems it doesn't make it easier at all.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anyone else have any ideas??"
Best thing to do is keep looking in the forums for threads about it x i know that it's always a bit difficult but im sure that yous will find it in the forums x good luck x  |
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"Anyone else have any ideas??
Best thing to do is keep looking in the forums for threads about it x i know that it's always a bit difficult but im sure that yous will find it in the forums x good luck x "
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"Anyone else have any ideas??
Best thing to do is keep looking in the forums for threads about it x i know that it's always a bit difficult but im sure that yous will find it in the forums x good luck x
Thanks"
No problem xx |
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We are looking for this dynamic to and if your having troubles finding that down in London then we have no hope where we come from which is a small place in morayshire Scotland. It's even difficult finding hardened swingers up here and genuine bi guys, and goes without saying the single fems to. There has got to be more to it that this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anyone else have any ideas??"
Group socials. Great way to network and make connections. Get your faces out there, get some social meet verifications saying what a great couple you are.
An invite to one group social can often lead to an invite to another.
Lots of people attend more than one group social, you'll get to hear about other socials you can get your name down for.
"We met xyz at such and such a social the other day and they were lovely" is something we've often heard.
Keep at it!
Winston |
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"We get discounted by many as we don't full swap
Think that happens to us as well. I don't join in (don't even have to be there, really), so we thought it'd be easier as only have three people to fancy. Seems it doesn't make it easier at all.
(Bry)"
A14 then A1?  |
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"How hard it is to find what we are looking for??
we have done the mmf thing and are looking for mff or mffm with the girls to play with each other but men stay with own partners, and we are finding it impossible to say the least ,
Any hints and tips where we might be going wrong!!"
I hope this doesn’t come across as boastful, but we tend to find MFF and FMF quite easily.
The only thing I can think of that might be the reason is that we’re not actively looking. When we go to clubs or socials, we tend to just chat in a non sexual way with everyone. I think the fact we’re both quite quirky helps too. I (The Boy) am not overly masculine or ‘blokey’.
We’re both genuinely very bi and interested in the other party as an individual, not merely an experience. |
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By *1c4yMan
over a year ago
stourbridge |
This thread is so funny. Loads of couples looking for other couples all saying:
''it's impossible to find other couples''
But here you all are?
Hmm I wonder where I can find a mffm .... let me think.... |
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"This thread is so funny. Loads of couples looking for other couples all saying:
''it's impossible to find other couples''
But here you all are?
Hmm I wonder where I can find a mffm .... let me think.... "
If only it was that simple. As per my first post on this thread.
Winston |
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" If you're looking for the same thing then just meet up with OP ? ...."
Whilst we appreciate that it is incredibly difficult for single guys, as demonstrated to us every day, maybe Read their profile and ours. |
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By *andSCouple
over a year ago
Old London Town |
"Anyone else have any ideas??"
If you want a club to try that’s not ages away, try Pleasures.
We’ve been there loads and it’s a very friendly place.
As others have said finding what you want can be hard, but we were talking with a couple there who want exactly what you do.
At least that’s one of the things to tick off your list. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We've been looking for the same. Seems to be a rare dynamic.
If you're looking for the same thing then just meet up with OP ? ...."
The key part of your solution is "If you're looking for the same thing" and the key word was "if"......
Winston |
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By (user no longer on site)
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look for it on the forums ??? its a very very tiny part of fab ?
when we first hit the scene couples meeting couples where the 2 women played was thee most popular meets around but slowly in the last 28 years its become one of the hardest things to find as most women feel they dont want to put shows on for anyone ... woman on woman has very much become a one on one thing. |
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Try a cuckold couple with a bi female and straight male. The women can play and the men watch. Your man can have you afterwards.
It often seems as if couples are inundated with offers but getting what you really want is hard. |
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"How hard it is to find what we are looking for??
we have done the mmf thing and are looking for mff or mffm with the girls to play with each other but men stay with own partners, and we are finding it impossible to say the least ,
Any hints and tips where we might be going wrong!!"
U2 have been singing about it for years and they still haven't found what they are looking for ?? |
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"This thread is so funny. Loads of couples looking for other couples all saying:
''it's impossible to find other couples''
But here you all are?
Hmm I wonder where I can find a mffm .... let me think.... "
Us couples still get to meet with people we fancy. We don't play with another couple simply because they're a couple!  |
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