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I think it depends on what you define as a time waster. If you’ve been let down twice maybe have a look at how you are choosing who you meet wisely.
This is why clubs are good, no one wasting your time and can make a night of it. X |
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By *csc2021 OP Couple
over a year ago
Edin,Glasgow,Aberdeen,London,Blackpool |
If I didn’t turn up for a meet and was accused of being a time waster then I’d hold my hands up to being a time waster.
So, not wrongly accused.
2 guys said they would turn up and didn’t!
I’m not trying to be judge and jury on here, I was led to believe people on here were not judgmental. Merely, asking for advice. Have a good evening  |
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I just asked admin about this.
You can report their profiles, but there would need to be evidence in the messages.
So if you don't stick to contact on here, there's no proof.
Always worth reporting though, as a pattern might form if they're repeat offenders. |
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"This is why clubs are good, no one wasting your time and can make a night of it. X"
I totally agree. Clubs and organised parties are the best way to develop a circle or reliable playmates. But don’t give up, is good guys are worth finding  |
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"I think it depends on what you define as a time waster. If you’ve been let down twice maybe have a look at how you are choosing who you meet wisely.
This is why clubs are good, no one wasting your time and can make a night of it. X"
That's irrelevant. I've been let down by people who I've already met for socials, who've had verifications... |
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By *csc2021 OP Couple
over a year ago
Edin,Glasgow,Aberdeen,London,Blackpool |
When my time is wasted then that defines time waster.
What’s your advice on how to out the time wasters?
Clubs are always excellent but not always accessible. You’d think people on here were all here for the same reason, fun! |
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"Nope, your point has been lost on me….
I didn’t ask you to respond, so, you decided to waste your own time! "
the problem with naming and shaming is what’s stopping me from saying you never turned up blah blah it’s not difficult to slate someone that’s why admin won’t allow it simple really do you get my point now |
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By *csc2021 OP Couple
over a year ago
Edin,Glasgow,Aberdeen,London,Blackpool |
I put my original post on to ask for advice…. I’ve clearly hit a nerve.
FYI - admin haven’t responded to my report requests. Hence my post.
I suggest you step away from your phone! I don’t want to be accused of wasting anymore of your time.  |
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"I put my original post on to ask for advice…. I’ve clearly hit a nerve.
FYI - admin haven’t responded to my report requests. Hence my post.
I suggest you step away from your phone! I don’t want to be accused of wasting anymore of your time. "
wasting my time ??? You asked in your original post about ideas and one was naming and shaming I simply pointed out that anyone could say he was or they where timewasters etc etc that’s why admin won’t allow it it really is that simple perhaps someone else mite come along and explain it to you as you clearly don’t have a clue what I’m getting at perhaps fab isn’t for you as you seem very upset that you got let down any way that’s me done on the subject  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unfortunately it just happens it is very frustrating especially if it happens again and again…
There’s nothing you can really do I’m sure most on here have experienced it… |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I completely understand I can’t do anything about inconsiderate people….. just frustrating….
However, I know exactly how to use that frustration "
It’s good to get it out   |
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"Unfortunately it just happens it is very frustrating especially if it happens again and again…
There’s nothing you can really do I’m sure most on here have experienced it…"
If it happens again and again then maybe the issue lies elsewhere?
Unpopular opinion but maybe OP needs to get better at filtering potential meets? The evidence would suggest that the current filtering strategy isn’t really working. |
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"I put my original post on to ask for advice…. I’ve clearly hit a nerve.
FYI - admin haven’t responded to my report requests. Hence my post.
I suggest you step away from your phone! I don’t want to be accused of wasting anymore of your time. "
You won't get any response from admin from a report. They just put a block between you and the person you reported. They don't give feedback. |
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Started to chat with a couple from Eastbourne regarding phone chat. They replied a couple of times then stopped. Apparently that's a hint. Well they showed interest, why not just say, we've changed our minds.
Apparently it's ok to do this to single men, while FEMS are treated as goddesses. I appreciate that there are men out there doing the same, but ... |
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"Started to chat with a couple from Eastbourne regarding phone chat. They replied a couple of times then stopped. Apparently that's a hint. Well they showed interest, why not just say, we've changed our minds.
Apparently it's ok to do this to single men, while FEMS are treated as goddesses. I appreciate that there are men out there doing the same, but ..."
Yes even us FEMS have time wasters and let downs... I've had 2   |
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"Started to chat with a couple from Eastbourne regarding phone chat. They replied a couple of times then stopped. Apparently that's a hint. Well they showed interest, why not just say, we've changed our minds.
Apparently it's ok to do this to single men, while FEMS are treated as goddesses. I appreciate that there are men out there doing the same, but ...
Yes even us FEMS have time wasters and let downs... I've had 2 "
I had one last week. It happens to everyone. |
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"We had 2 no shows this weekend!
Should there be consequences for this?
A blacklist?
Name and shame?
We find this behaviour frustrating!!
Thoughts? "
We've had 8 years of that, definitely become much worse over the last couple of years  . Yes maybe a 'seller rating' style anonymous points system like they have on Ebay.... 'Photos not misleading, well mannered and respectful, profile not misleading, did not let us down, had a great time, good communication, met us' etc. Also showing the number of feedback for each category and allow the receiver the opportunity to appeal any negative feedback. Only allowing positive feedback might deter the false trouble makers, lack of positive scores being an indicator for the genuine folk here when looking at someone's profile... |
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"Our record for the number of consecutive letdowns ?.... 13 "
That’s so bad. I’ve never been a no show and Ill never will be. Turn up and see how it goes, more respect if you just na it’s not gonna happen |
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"Started to chat with a couple from Eastbourne regarding phone chat. They replied a couple of times then stopped. Apparently that's a hint. Well they showed interest, why not just say, we've changed our minds.
Apparently it's ok to do this to single men, while FEMS are treated as goddesses. I appreciate that there are men out there doing the same, but ...
Yes even us FEMS have time wasters and let downs... I've had 2
I had one last week. It happens to everyone. "
Sorry I was venting
I seriously think that we all have out little kinks, and for some letting people down is there's.
There's seriously good looking gems on here getting let down, and I can't even get a reply out of them !!.. lol |
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By *csc2021 OP Couple
over a year ago
Edin,Glasgow,Aberdeen,London,Blackpool |
If people were a bit more upfront on how they feel, everything would be easier….
We are on here for fun, not to deal with people who don’t know how to behave.
Good luck out there! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Started to chat with a couple from Eastbourne regarding phone chat. They replied a couple of times then stopped. Apparently that's a hint. Well they showed interest, why not just say, we've changed our minds.
Apparently it's ok to do this to single men, while FEMS are treated as goddesses. I appreciate that there are men out there doing the same, but ...
Yes even us FEMS have time wasters and let downs... I've had 2 "
I have lost count 
But when you get a good one it's worth it.. |
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"We had 2 no shows this weekend!
Should there be consequences for this?
A blacklist?
Name and shame?
We find this behaviour frustrating!!
Thoughts? "
Why not just go to cjs townhouse in Glasgow good club. |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
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"Why not just go to cjs townhouse in Glasgow good club."
Clubs aren't the solution for everyone. For us, it's an hour drive to either of our nearest, then add the entry fee and a drink. We're looking at almost £60 and that's a weeks food shopping right now.
Char doesn't travel well due to side effects of chemo and surgery, so an hour's trip means she's not up for playing, or will need a two hour kip when we get there.
Home meets are best for us as Char can have a lie-in, take her time getting ready, and we can keep the rest of the day free for her to rest afterwards.
OP: We've not managed a reliable way to filter out the no-shows. We've tried only meeting people that have met others we know, we've tried long conversations, short conversations, people we've met socially first, newbies, old hands, young guys and old. Most of the no-shows are newer accounts and younger, but there's no real pattern.
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By *csc2021 OP Couple
over a year ago
Edin,Glasgow,Aberdeen,London,Blackpool |
"We had 2 no shows this weekend!
Should there be consequences for this?
A blacklist?
Name and shame?
We find this behaviour frustrating!!
Thoughts?
Why not just go to cjs townhouse in Glasgow good club."
we normally go to clubs further afield. |
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"Started to chat with a couple from Eastbourne regarding phone chat. They replied a couple of times then stopped. Apparently that's a hint. Well they showed interest, why not just say, we've changed our minds.
Apparently it's ok to do this to single men, while FEMS are treated as goddesses. I appreciate that there are men out there doing the same, but ...
Yes even us FEMS have time wasters and let downs... I've had 2
I had one last week. It happens to everyone. "
No it obviously doesn't. I've never had a no show or been let down in 5 years and every time these threads appear there are lots of women and couples who agree that they've never had a no show either. |
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By *csc2021 OP Couple
over a year ago
Edin,Glasgow,Aberdeen,London,Blackpool |
"Why not just go to cjs townhouse in Glasgow good club.
Clubs aren't the solution for everyone. For us, it's an hour drive to either of our nearest, then add the entry fee and a drink. We're looking at almost £60 and that's a weeks food shopping right now.
Char doesn't travel well due to side effects of chemo and surgery, so an hour's trip means she's not up for playing, or will need a two hour kip when we get there.
Home meets are best for us as Char can have a lie-in, take her time getting ready, and we can keep the rest of the day free for her to rest afterwards.
OP: We've not managed a reliable way to filter out the no-shows. We've tried only meeting people that have met others we know, we've tried long conversations, short conversations, people we've met socially first, newbies, old hands, young guys and old. Most of the no-shows are newer accounts and younger, but there's no real pattern.
(Bry)"
So pleased you shared this. It’s not easy at the moment! Keep having fun! wishing you all the best. Xx |
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"We had 2 no shows this weekend!
Should there be consequences for this?
A blacklist?
Name and shame?
We find this behaviour frustrating!!
Thoughts?
Why not just go to cjs townhouse in Glasgow good club. we normally go to clubs further afield. "
Not sure why you bother with fab meets if you like clubs we
Life way to short. |
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"Started to chat with a couple from Eastbourne regarding phone chat. They replied a couple of times then stopped. Apparently that's a hint. Well they showed interest, why not just say, we've changed our minds.
Apparently it's ok to do this to single men, while FEMS are treated as goddesses. I appreciate that there are men out there doing the same, but ...
Yes even us FEMS have time wasters and let downs... I've had 2
I had one last week. It happens to everyone. "
I have to say, it's not happened to me in all the years I've been on the site x |
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By *csc2021 OP Couple
over a year ago
Edin,Glasgow,Aberdeen,London,Blackpool |
"Started to chat with a couple from Eastbourne regarding phone chat. They replied a couple of times then stopped. Apparently that's a hint. Well they showed interest, why not just say, we've changed our minds.
Apparently it's ok to do this to single men, while FEMS are treated as goddesses. I appreciate that there are men out there doing the same, but ...
Yes even us FEMS have time wasters and let downs... I've had 2
I had one last week. It happens to everyone.
I have to say, it's not happened to me in all the years I've been on the site x"
that’s fabulous, enjoy the success rate! What’s your secret? |
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"Started to chat with a couple from Eastbourne regarding phone chat. They replied a couple of times then stopped. Apparently that's a hint. Well they showed interest, why not just say, we've changed our minds.
Apparently it's ok to do this to single men, while FEMS are treated as goddesses. I appreciate that there are men out there doing the same, but ...
Yes even us FEMS have time wasters and let downs... I've had 2
I had one last week. It happens to everyone.
I have to say, it's not happened to me in all the years I've been on the site x that’s fabulous, enjoy the success rate! What’s your secret? "
I take my time to get to know someone before having a social meet, if they aren't interested in that then I know they aren't compatible with me x |
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Sadly, sites like FAB have a huge percentage of time wasters but not all.
For us, clubs, parties, socials and swingers holidays are never a let down.
Folks joined last 6 months and no verifications, we give them a miss.
For single guys with no verifications, no thanks.
Just don't have the time to trawl through the good, bad and wasters.
Good luck and hope you have fun. |
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"Started to chat with a couple from Eastbourne regarding phone chat. They replied a couple of times then stopped. Apparently that's a hint. Well they showed interest, why not just say, we've changed our minds.
Apparently it's ok to do this to single men, while FEMS are treated as goddesses. I appreciate that there are men out there doing the same, but ...
Yes even us FEMS have time wasters and let downs... I've had 2
I had one last week. It happens to everyone.
Sorry I was venting
I seriously think that we all have out little kinks, and for some letting people down is there's.
There's seriously good looking gems on here getting let down, and I can't even get a reply out of them !!.. lol"
Now they've blocked me!! Lol |
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"Even people who have multiple verifications waste people’s time, it’s a joke very hard to find real people now."
Very true but at least it gives you a pointer that they actually meet.
We also have a pub meet first, if there is no chemistry at least you have had a pleasant night in the pub but by far the best way to meet swingers is to attend a swingers club or party. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well that's part of being on here, I often get ignored as started up a new profile and don't have any new verifications but there is genuine people out there but couples often skip past them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Name and shame will get you removed from the site - check Ts and Cs.
The consequences are up to you. Report the user for not showing by going to their profile and doing it from there. Even if they have already blocked you the link to report is there.
Then block the profile as above.
Keep your chats on Fab and usually you'll have a single chat by phone to verify them. After that ask them to not call you and keep the chat on Fab. When they do not show up ask them why not on Fab and then report them. At least you will have evidence of them wasting time and this makes the site better for everyone. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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Name and shame? Wouldn't work as too open to abuse and there'd be nothing to stop someone claiming someone else was a timewaster just because they'd turned them down.
The suggested 'Tripadvisor' style rating? Wouldn't work for the exact same reason as above. The existing verification system isn't perfect as it is. There are undoubtedly fake veris on the site and once a profile is deleted the veri vanishes anyway, leaving just a count.
The best solution to timewasters?
Better vetting before you travel to someone/pay for a hotel/pop on your glad rags and wait for someone to arrive. Don't rely on messages. Speak on the phone, video chat, or have a social. The less pre-meet prep you do the higher the likelihood of you being let down. Even with all the pre-meet prep done perfectly there's still a chance you'll be stood up. You're dealing with strangers on the internet. Not friends that you know well and have a level of trust in.
You could stick to clubs as that way if someone you arrange to meet doesn't show you have other options.
You'll never have a cast iron guarantee someone will show and it's irritating when they don't. But it's no more the site's fault than your own. Fab just gives you the mechanism to contact people. What happens after that contact is made is down to those involved and nobody else.
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"Name and shame? Wouldn't work as too open to abuse and there'd be nothing to stop someone claiming someone else was a timewaster just because they'd turned them down.
The suggested 'Tripadvisor' style rating? Wouldn't work for the exact same reason as above. The existing verification system isn't perfect as it is. There are undoubtedly fake veris on the site and once a profile is deleted the veri vanishes anyway, leaving just a count.
The best solution to timewasters?
Better vetting before you travel to someone/pay for a hotel/pop on your glad rags and wait for someone to arrive. Don't rely on messages. Speak on the phone, video chat, or have a social. The less pre-meet prep you do the higher the likelihood of you being let down. Even with all the pre-meet prep done perfectly there's still a chance you'll be stood up. You're dealing with strangers on the internet. Not friends that you know well and have a level of trust in.
You could stick to clubs as that way if someone you arrange to meet doesn't show you have other options.
You'll never have a cast iron guarantee someone will show and it's irritating when they don't. But it's no more the site's fault than your own. Fab just gives you the mechanism to contact people. What happens after that contact is made is down to those involved and nobody else.
A "
100% this. |
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Its a fre open site that anyone, good or bad, can join. Itsy up to each of us to learn from experience and hone our skills. In 15 years herw, I've had very little of this.
The site terms are very clear. You just need to modify and refine tactics now, to reduce the potential failures. I think it's best to assume that it's 100% possible to filter people better. And to meet for a social drink,, when you'd have enjoyed a drink alone anyway m, so haven't wasted a night, etc. Block, reporr, move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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What’s a time waster? We’ve had it happen to us, but we’ve also had to cancel at quite late notice before due to genuine reasons, work or like a few weeks ago when I (mr) became quite suddenly ill. Yes it’s frustrating but it’s just part of the scene I’m afraid. |
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By *csc2021 OP Couple
over a year ago
Edin,Glasgow,Aberdeen,London,Blackpool |
"We had 2 no shows this weekend!
Should there be consequences for this?
A blacklist?
Name and shame?
We find this behaviour frustrating!!
Thoughts?
Why not just go to cjs townhouse in Glasgow good club. we normally go to clubs further afield.
Not sure why you bother with fab meets if you like clubs we
Life way to short. "
why be on fab if you aren’t interested in meeting people! |
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By *csc2021 OP Couple
over a year ago
Edin,Glasgow,Aberdeen,London,Blackpool |
"Sadly, sites like FAB have a huge percentage of time wasters but not all.
For us, clubs, parties, socials and swingers holidays are never a let down.
Folks joined last 6 months and no verifications, we give them a miss.
For single guys with no verifications, no thanks.
Just don't have the time to trawl through the good, bad and wasters.
Good luck and hope you have fun."
thank you, we will see how things go. |
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By *csc2021 OP Couple
over a year ago
Edin,Glasgow,Aberdeen,London,Blackpool |
"Started to chat with a couple from Eastbourne regarding phone chat. They replied a couple of times then stopped. Apparently that's a hint. Well they showed interest, why not just say, we've changed our minds.
Apparently it's ok to do this to single men, while FEMS are treated as goddesses. I appreciate that there are men out there doing the same, but ...
Yes even us FEMS have time wasters and let downs... I've had 2
I had one last week. It happens to everyone.
Sorry I was venting
I seriously think that we all have out little kinks, and for some letting people down is there's.
There's seriously good looking gems on here getting let down, and I can't even get a reply out of them !!.. lol
Now they've blocked me!! Lol"
typical! So frustrating!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We had 2 no shows this weekend!
Should there be consequences for this?
A blacklist?
Name and shame?
We find this behaviour frustrating!!
Thoughts? "
Extremely frustrating, when I arrange I show up, but there seems to be an increasing number of people on here for a laugh and with no intention at all, let alone what or who they are claiming to be... |
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By *csc2021 OP Couple
over a year ago
Edin,Glasgow,Aberdeen,London,Blackpool |
"Well that's part of being on here, I often get ignored as started up a new profile and don't have any new verifications but there is genuine people out there but couples often skip past them."
I’m sure I’ll get over it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s very frustrating!
If they had only said they weren’t coming, we could’ve organised someone else or maybe 2 or 3! "
I'm going to suggest that may be part of the problem.
If someone let's you know they can't make it, and you're willing to invite other people at the last minute, I’m going to suggest your selection criteria may need refining.
Winston |
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By *csc2021 OP Couple
over a year ago
Edin,Glasgow,Aberdeen,London,Blackpool |
"Name and shame will get you removed from the site - check Ts and Cs.
The consequences are up to you. Report the user for not showing by going to their profile and doing it from there. Even if they have already blocked you the link to report is there.
Then block the profile as above.
Keep your chats on Fab and usually you'll have a single chat by phone to verify them. After that ask them to not call you and keep the chat on Fab. When they do not show up ask them why not on Fab and then report them. At least you will have evidence of them wasting time and this makes the site better for everyone."
I wasn’t suggesting I would name and shame. Just that there should be consequences |
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Evening all I’m really struggling with time wasters myself lots of couples get in touch we arrange to meet for a coffee or drink, then a lam excuse time after time but people happy to keep wanting or asking for kik WhatsApp snd pics, or is it just me !! Have a good evening all |
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By *csc2021 OP Couple
over a year ago
Edin,Glasgow,Aberdeen,London,Blackpool |
"Name and shame? Wouldn't work as too open to abuse and there'd be nothing to stop someone claiming someone else was a timewaster just because they'd turned them down.
The suggested 'Tripadvisor' style rating? Wouldn't work for the exact same reason as above. The existing verification system isn't perfect as it is. There are undoubtedly fake veris on the site and once a profile is deleted the veri vanishes anyway, leaving just a count.
The best solution to timewasters?
Better vetting before you travel to someone/pay for a hotel/pop on your glad rags and wait for someone to arrive. Don't rely on messages. Speak on the phone, video chat, or have a social. The less pre-meet prep you do the higher the likelihood of you being let down. Even with all the pre-meet prep done perfectly there's still a chance you'll be stood up. You're dealing with strangers on the internet. Not friends that you know well and have a level of trust in.
You could stick to clubs as that way if someone you arrange to meet doesn't show you have other options.
You'll never have a cast iron guarantee someone will show and it's irritating when they don't. But it's no more the site's fault than your own. Fab just gives you the mechanism to contact people. What happens after that contact is made is down to those involved and nobody else.
A "
You may be right, clubs are the way to go, trust no one and treat people the way you are treated not how you would like be treated! |
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By *csc2021 OP Couple
over a year ago
Edin,Glasgow,Aberdeen,London,Blackpool |
"Its a fre open site that anyone, good or bad, can join. Itsy up to each of us to learn from experience and hone our skills. In 15 years herw, I've had very little of this.
The site terms are very clear. You just need to modify and refine tactics now, to reduce the potential failures. I think it's best to assume that it's 100% possible to filter people better. And to meet for a social drink,, when you'd have enjoyed a drink alone anyway m, so haven't wasted a night, etc. Block, reporr, move on. "
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By *csc2021 OP Couple
over a year ago
Edin,Glasgow,Aberdeen,London,Blackpool |
"What’s a time waster? We’ve had it happen to us, but we’ve also had to cancel at quite late notice before due to genuine reasons, work or like a few weeks ago when I (mr) became quite suddenly ill. Yes it’s frustrating but it’s just part of the scene I’m afraid. "
did you tell them you were cancelling? That’s what normal people would do. Happy fabbing! |
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By *csc2021 OP Couple
over a year ago
Edin,Glasgow,Aberdeen,London,Blackpool |
"It’s very frustrating!
If they had only said they weren’t coming, we could’ve organised someone else or maybe 2 or 3!
I'm going to suggest that may be part of the problem.
If someone let's you know they can't make it, and you're willing to invite other people at the last minute, I’m going to suggest your selection criteria may need refining.
Winston"
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By *csc2021 OP Couple
over a year ago
Edin,Glasgow,Aberdeen,London,Blackpool |
"Evening all I’m really struggling with time wasters myself lots of couples get in touch we arrange to meet for a coffee or drink, then a lam excuse time after time but people happy to keep wanting or asking for kik WhatsApp snd pics, or is it just me !! Have a good evening all "
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
"We had 2 no shows this weekend!
Should there be consequences for this?
A blacklist?
Name and shame?
We find this behaviour frustrating!!
Thoughts? "
Define what you consider a timewaster. If they are not turning up to meets and you have had two in a week the whilst that is frustrating you need to look at your selection process. Don't let you urges override your senses. |
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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago
Aberdeen |
"Sorry to hear about that.
I'm sure there's a tab for it if you report a profile? You're asked to give details as well Yes, I did this. Report and blocked! "
At least you'll out the unreliable ones, leaving more time for the good ones |
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By *csc2021 OP Couple
over a year ago
Edin,Glasgow,Aberdeen,London,Blackpool |
"Sorry to hear about that.
I'm sure there's a tab for it if you report a profile? You're asked to give details as well Yes, I did this. Report and blocked!
At least you'll out the unreliable ones, leaving more time for the good ones "
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By *csc2021 OP Couple
over a year ago
Edin,Glasgow,Aberdeen,London,Blackpool |
"We had 2 no shows this weekend!
Should there be consequences for this?
A blacklist?
Name and shame?
We find this behaviour frustrating!!
Thoughts?
Definitely "
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By *csc2021 OP Couple
over a year ago
Edin,Glasgow,Aberdeen,London,Blackpool |
"We had 2 no shows this weekend!
Should there be consequences for this?
A blacklist?
Name and shame?
We find this behaviour frustrating!!
Thoughts?
Define what you consider a timewaster. If they are not turning up to meets and you have had two in a week the whilst that is frustrating you need to look at your selection process. Don't let you urges override your senses."
if you don’t know what a time waster is then I suspect nobody has wasted your time! Your thoughts are noted, thanks! |
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"How many in the past 6-12 months have messed you about ?? Too many to mention!
Same here way tooooo many time wasters and fakes I’ve named and shamed in the past…. "
did you name them publicly on fab? |
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"How many in the past 6-12 months have messed you about ?? Too many to mention!
Same here way tooooo many time wasters and fakes I’ve named and shamed in the past…. did you name them publicly on fab?"
Yeah profile name and put don’t turn up even after messaging minutes before meet so I was left waiting at a pub. |
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"How many in the past 6-12 months have messed you about ?? Too many to mention!
Same here way tooooo many time wasters and fakes I’ve named and shamed in the past…. did you name them publicly on fab?
Yeah profile name and put don’t turn up even after messaging minutes before meet so I was left waiting at a pub. "
what did admin think about you naming a profile? |
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"How many in the past 6-12 months have messed you about ?? Too many to mention!
Same here way tooooo many time wasters and fakes I’ve named and shamed in the past…. did you name them publicly on fab?
Yeah profile name and put don’t turn up even after messaging minutes before meet so I was left waiting at a pub. what did admin think about you naming a profile? "
. Nothing happened. So many fake profiles on here. Even had a couple give me a Location of where they parked Their campervan and it wasn’t there…. |
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"How many in the past 6-12 months have messed you about ?? Too many to mention!
Same here way tooooo many time wasters and fakes I’ve named and shamed in the past…. did you name them publicly on fab?
Yeah profile name and put don’t turn up even after messaging minutes before meet so I was left waiting at a pub. what did admin think about you naming a profile? . Nothing happened. So many fake profiles on here. Even had a couple give me a Location of where they parked Their campervan and it wasn’t there…. "
nothing happened? Lucky as if admin saw it you’d get a ban that’s the problem with naming and shaming anyone can say he/she/they didn’t turn up |
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"How many in the past 6-12 months have messed you about ?? Too many to mention!
Same here way tooooo many time wasters and fakes I’ve named and shamed in the past…. did you name them publicly on fab?
Yeah profile name and put don’t turn up even after messaging minutes before meet so I was left waiting at a pub. what did admin think about you naming a profile? . Nothing happened. So many fake profiles on here. Even had a couple give me a Location of where they parked Their campervan and it wasn’t there…. nothing happened? Lucky as if admin saw it you’d get a ban that’s the problem with naming and shaming anyone can say he/she/they didn’t turn up "
totally agree but I’m sure admin can read messages saying where are you ??? |
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"How many in the past 6-12 months have messed you about ?? Too many to mention!
Same here way tooooo many time wasters and fakes I’ve named and shamed in the past…. did you name them publicly on fab?
Yeah profile name and put don’t turn up even after messaging minutes before meet so I was left waiting at a pub. what did admin think about you naming a profile? . Nothing happened. So many fake profiles on here. Even had a couple give me a Location of where they parked Their campervan and it wasn’t there…. nothing happened? Lucky as if admin saw it you’d get a ban that’s the problem with naming and shaming anyone can say he/she/they didn’t turn up totally agree but I’m sure admin can read messages saying where are you ??? "
not sure but I’m fairly sure that in the site rules and regs it states that you can’t name another profile it’s been a while since I last looked at them maybe someone can tell me |
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"How many in the past 6-12 months have messed you about ?? Too many to mention!
Same here way tooooo many time wasters and fakes I’ve named and shamed in the past…. did you name them publicly on fab?
Yeah profile name and put don’t turn up even after messaging minutes before meet so I was left waiting at a pub. what did admin think about you naming a profile? . Nothing happened. So many fake profiles on here. Even had a couple give me a Location of where they parked Their campervan and it wasn’t there…. nothing happened? Lucky as if admin saw it you’d get a ban that’s the problem with naming and shaming anyone can say he/she/they didn’t turn up totally agree but I’m sure admin can read messages saying where are you ??? not sure but I’m fairly sure that in the site rules and regs it states that you can’t name another profile it’s been a while since I last looked at them maybe someone can tell me "
. Been a while since I let a profile mess me about that much. As it takes mins to up load a photo I ask for a photo with them making funny faces before I arrange a social. |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
"We had 2 no shows this weekend!
Should there be consequences for this?
A blacklist?
Name and shame?
We find this behaviour frustrating!!
Thoughts?
Define what you consider a timewaster. If they are not turning up to meets and you have had two in a week the whilst that is frustrating you need to look at your selection process. Don't let you urges override your senses. if you don’t know what a time waster is then I suspect nobody has wasted your time! Your thoughts are noted, thanks! "
You are right nobody has wasted our time because we don't agree to meet anybody at the drop of a hat. We take our time and ask questions, have our own system of proving if somebody is genuining or not and whether they are likely to turn up. In the 9 years we have been on Fab we have never had somebody not turn up.
Yes we might have missed out on the odd genuine meet along the way because they appeared reluctant to do something we asked but that is a risk we are prepared to take and our time on Fab has been successful and enjoyable. |
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"Started to chat with a couple from Eastbourne regarding phone chat. They replied a couple of times then stopped. Apparently that's a hint. Well they showed interest, why not just say, we've changed our minds.
Apparently it's ok to do this to single men, while FEMS are treated as goddesses. I appreciate that there are men out there doing the same, but ..."
Happens to females as well.
Organised a bukkake meet a couple of weeks ago. 4 of the guys were no shows - despite all chatting and confirming the night before and two of them confirming in the morning for a 1pm meet.
None of them had less than 6 meet verifications and all had at least 2 very recent ones. |
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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago
Aberdeen |
It's happened to me a couple of times. I'd arranged a meet with a couple who then delayed the meet at the last minute (as in, an hour before we agreed to meet up). They did the same again for the rescheduled meet. Then a third time. Happened to check their profile, and they had verifications on all three dates. Decided to just block them after that. Haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What’s a time waster? We’ve had it happen to us, but we’ve also had to cancel at quite late notice before due to genuine reasons, work or like a few weeks ago when I (mr) became quite suddenly ill. Yes it’s frustrating but it’s just part of the scene I’m afraid. did you tell them you were cancelling? That’s what normal people would do. Happy fabbing! "
of course we did. We would never just not show up. |
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"We had 2 no shows this weekend!
Should there be consequences for this?
A blacklist?
Name and shame?
We find this behaviour frustrating!!
Thoughts? "
Maybe they knew each other, chatted between themselves, found out you had arranged to meet both of them, then each decided not to bother as they thought the other was turning up |
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