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Couples and Ladies: what messages grab your attention most?
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By *ammo89 OP Man
over a year ago
Aberdeen |
In a sea of "hi" and "wanna fuck" messages, what messages do you read that make you go "damn, that's good!"?
And have you ever been convinced by an attached pic even if the message wasn't very good? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The messages that stand out for us from single guys tend to be those that have clearly read our profile first, have spent some time putting a message together and have ensured a reasonable level of spelling and grammar is present.
Oh, and not sending a cut-and-paste message that is sent to everyone. These are quite simple to spit after a while!
Reference something in the profile that you're attracted by too.
Do photos ever appeal? Yes they can - if tailored for our interests. The single guys we tend to look for are dominant and enjoy rope/impact play, so some experience demonstrated there would help. Again, it comes down to reading the profile first!
Hope this helps a little!
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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago
Sheffield |
"The messages that stand out for us from single guys tend to be those that have clearly read our profile first, have spent some time putting a message together and have ensured a reasonable level of spelling and grammar is present.
Oh, and not sending a cut-and-paste message that is sent to everyone. These are quite simple to spit after a while!
Reference something in the profile that you're attracted by too.
Do photos ever appeal? Yes they can - if tailored for our interests. The single guys we tend to look for are dominant and enjoy rope/impact play, so some experience demonstrated there would help. Again, it comes down to reading the profile first!
Hope this helps a little!
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easy to spit ... just wow ..obviously your high standards only work one way . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The messages that stand out for us from single guys tend to be those that have clearly read our profile first, have spent some time putting a message together and have ensured a reasonable level of spelling and grammar is present.
Oh, and not sending a cut-and-paste message that is sent to everyone. These are quite simple to spit after a while!
Reference something in the profile that you're attracted by too.
Do photos ever appeal? Yes they can - if tailored for our interests. The single guys we tend to look for are dominant and enjoy rope/impact play, so some experience demonstrated there would help. Again, it comes down to reading the profile first!
Hope this helps a little!
Agreed xx
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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago
Sheffield |
"easy to spit ... just wow ..obviously your high standards only work one way .
Not at all, feel free to block us if the mistyped word offends you."
I leave the blocking to couples. Im no longer in the game so really not bothered.
Its the mental gymnastics from couples that offend me most. You have so much choice and can afford to be so very choosy and that is due to the numbers game. Spelling and grammar? Are you fucking people or employing them ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its the mental gymnastics from couples that offend me most. You have so much choice and can afford to be so very choosy and that is due to the numbers game. Spelling and grammar? Are you fucking people or employing them ?"
Surely where you're contacting anyone on Fab, you want to present yourself in the best possible way, especially in an initial message.
The original question from the OP was essentially how to get your message to stand out, and for us this is a major aspect of it. It surely also holds true for any fab member messaging any other - not just for single guys who message couples.
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"Spelling and grammar? Are you fucking people or employing them ?"
This is a swingers site not a sex site. A lot of us like to meet up with like minded people and socialise too.
Those that think Fab is all about "fucking people" won't understand  |
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We’ll always respond to a well thought out message regardless of attraction.
Simple one liners, graphic messages, only addressing one of us, dick pics, just get deleted.
The attraction has to be there or something in the profile or pics appeals, but I’d think that would be the same for everyone regardless of how many messages they receive.
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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago
Sheffield |
"Its the mental gymnastics from couples that offend me most. You have so much choice and can afford to be so very choosy and that is due to the numbers game. Spelling and grammar? Are you fucking people or employing them ?
Surely where you're contacting anyone on Fab, you want to present yourself in the best possible way, especially in an initial message.
The original question from the OP was essentially how to get your message to stand out, and for us this is a major aspect of it. It surely also holds true for any fab member messaging any other - not just for single guys who message couples.
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unfortunately the majority of messages never get read anyway. The actual content is irrelevant. Spending time composing intelligent, unique messages is a thankless task. |
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Neither, we both understand people are different and may have reasons behind the short introduction, we have a no1 rule which never fails, that is if you can’t talk over the phone then how the hell will we be able to get naked together ?.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its the mental gymnastics from couples that offend me most. You have so much choice and can afford to be so very choosy and that is due to the numbers game. Spelling and grammar? Are you fucking people or employing them ?
Surely where you're contacting anyone on Fab, you want to present yourself in the best possible way, especially in an initial message.
The original question from the OP was essentially how to get your message to stand out, and for us this is a major aspect of it. It surely also holds true for any fab member messaging any other - not just for single guys who message couples.
unfortunately the majority of messages never get read anyway. The actual content is irrelevant. Spending time composing intelligent, unique messages is a thankless task. "
In your opinion. Plenty of people do fine on here and don’t spend their time moaning about it. |
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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago
Sheffield |
"Its the mental gymnastics from couples that offend me most. You have so much choice and can afford to be so very choosy and that is due to the numbers game. Spelling and grammar? Are you fucking people or employing them ?
Surely where you're contacting anyone on Fab, you want to present yourself in the best possible way, especially in an initial message.
The original question from the OP was essentially how to get your message to stand out, and for us this is a major aspect of it. It surely also holds true for any fab member messaging any other - not just for single guys who message couples.
unfortunately the majority of messages never get read anyway. The actual content is irrelevant. Spending time composing intelligent, unique messages is a thankless task.
In your opinion. Plenty of people do fine on here and don’t spend their time moaning about it."
whos moaning? |
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"Its the mental gymnastics from couples that offend me most. You have so much choice and can afford to be so very choosy and that is due to the numbers game. Spelling and grammar? Are you fucking people or employing them ?
Surely where you're contacting anyone on Fab, you want to present yourself in the best possible way, especially in an initial message.
The original question from the OP was essentially how to get your message to stand out, and for us this is a major aspect of it. It surely also holds true for any fab member messaging any other - not just for single guys who message couples.
unfortunately the majority of messages never get read anyway. The actual content is irrelevant. Spending time composing intelligent, unique messages is a thankless task. "
Is that why you don’t get meets on here? |
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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago
Sheffield |
"Its the mental gymnastics from couples that offend me most. You have so much choice and can afford to be so very choosy and that is due to the numbers game. Spelling and grammar? Are you fucking people or employing them ?
Surely where you're contacting anyone on Fab, you want to present yourself in the best possible way, especially in an initial message.
The original question from the OP was essentially how to get your message to stand out, and for us this is a major aspect of it. It surely also holds true for any fab member messaging any other - not just for single guys who message couples.
unfortunately the majority of messages never get read anyway. The actual content is irrelevant. Spending time composing intelligent, unique messages is a thankless task.
Is that why you don’t get meets on here?"
Had quite a few actually. Do you really not understand the issue here?
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"Its the mental gymnastics from couples that offend me most. You have so much choice and can afford to be so very choosy and that is due to the numbers game. Spelling and grammar? Are you fucking people or employing them ?
Surely where you're contacting anyone on Fab, you want to present yourself in the best possible way, especially in an initial message.
The original question from the OP was essentially how to get your message to stand out, and for us this is a major aspect of it. It surely also holds true for any fab member messaging any other - not just for single guys who message couples.
unfortunately the majority of messages never get read anyway. The actual content is irrelevant. Spending time composing intelligent, unique messages is a thankless task.
Is that why you don’t get meets on here?
Had quite a few actually. Do you really not understand the issue here?
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Yes you can’t be bothered anymore as your not getting any meets? You think it’s pointless messaging |
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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago
Sheffield |
"Its the mental gymnastics from couples that offend me most. You have so much choice and can afford to be so very choosy and that is due to the numbers game. Spelling and grammar? Are you fucking people or employing them ?
Surely where you're contacting anyone on Fab, you want to present yourself in the best possible way, especially in an initial message.
The original question from the OP was essentially how to get your message to stand out, and for us this is a major aspect of it. It surely also holds true for any fab member messaging any other - not just for single guys who message couples.
unfortunately the majority of messages never get read anyway. The actual content is irrelevant. Spending time composing intelligent, unique messages is a thankless task.
Is that why you don’t get meets on here?
Had quite a few actually. Do you really not understand the issue here?
Yes you can’t be bothered anymore as your not getting any meets? You think it’s pointless messaging"
what ever you say. Only women and couples opinions count. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We’ll always respond to a well thought out message regardless of attraction.
Simple one liners, graphic messages, only addressing one of us, dick pics, just get deleted.
The attraction has to be there or something in the profile or pics appeals, but I’d think that would be the same for everyone regardless of how many messages they receive.
K
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The only addressing one of us thing really annoys me, we are a couple we have a couples profile, it’s not difficult to address both of us. It also really bugs me when they just address E like I’m a piece of meat, instant block! - L xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its the mental gymnastics from couples that offend me most. You have so much choice and can afford to be so very choosy and that is due to the numbers game. Spelling and grammar? Are you fucking people or employing them ?
Surely where you're contacting anyone on Fab, you want to present yourself in the best possible way, especially in an initial message.
The original question from the OP was essentially how to get your message to stand out, and for us this is a major aspect of it. It surely also holds true for any fab member messaging any other - not just for single guys who message couples.
unfortunately the majority of messages never get read anyway. The actual content is irrelevant. Spending time composing intelligent, unique messages is a thankless task.
In your opinion. Plenty of people do fine on here and don’t spend their time moaning about it.whos moaning? "
You. |
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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago
Sheffield |
"Its the mental gymnastics from couples that offend me most. You have so much choice and can afford to be so very choosy and that is due to the numbers game. Spelling and grammar? Are you fucking people or employing them ?
Surely where you're contacting anyone on Fab, you want to present yourself in the best possible way, especially in an initial message.
The original question from the OP was essentially how to get your message to stand out, and for us this is a major aspect of it. It surely also holds true for any fab member messaging any other - not just for single guys who message couples.
unfortunately the majority of messages never get read anyway. The actual content is irrelevant. Spending time composing intelligent, unique messages is a thankless task.
In your opinion. Plenty of people do fine on here and don’t spend their time moaning about it.whos moaning?
You."
No . Im explaining why guys don't write eloquent messages. Stick to the point rather than insult . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its the mental gymnastics from couples that offend me most. You have so much choice and can afford to be so very choosy and that is due to the numbers game. Spelling and grammar? Are you fucking people or employing them ?
Surely where you're contacting anyone on Fab, you want to present yourself in the best possible way, especially in an initial message.
The original question from the OP was essentially how to get your message to stand out, and for us this is a major aspect of it. It surely also holds true for any fab member messaging any other - not just for single guys who message couples.
unfortunately the majority of messages never get read anyway. The actual content is irrelevant. Spending time composing intelligent, unique messages is a thankless task.
In your opinion. Plenty of people do fine on here and don’t spend their time moaning about it.whos moaning?
You.No . Im explaining why guys don't write eloquent messages. Stick to the point rather than insult ."
Where did I insult you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me, I'm looking for someone who is polite and can string a few sentences together. Who doesn't speak in text language like "how r u" and knows how to use punctuation, like a question mark in the above.
Prove you've read my profile by not sending pics of your bits and by referencing something in my write up. Don't call me Babe or Sweetie. I don't know you, so I'm neither of those to you.
Don't tell me in detail, what you want to do to me. Don't copy and paste the message you send to everyone, especially if you sent it to me a while back and I said no. Sending it again won't get me to say yes. |
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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago
Sheffield |
"Its the mental gymnastics from couples that offend me most. You have so much choice and can afford to be so very choosy and that is due to the numbers game. Spelling and grammar? Are you fucking people or employing them ?
Surely where you're contacting anyone on Fab, you want to present yourself in the best possible way, especially in an initial message.
The original question from the OP was essentially how to get your message to stand out, and for us this is a major aspect of it. It surely also holds true for any fab member messaging any other - not just for single guys who message couples.
unfortunately the majority of messages never get read anyway. The actual content is irrelevant. Spending time composing intelligent, unique messages is a thankless task.
In your opinion. Plenty of people do fine on here and don’t spend their time moaning about it.whos moaning?
You.No . Im explaining why guys don't write eloquent messages. Stick to the point rather than insult .
Where did I insult you?"
Accusing me then . Im not moaning . Some couples really dont understand how this works. The numbers mismatch is what drives the dynamics of the site. This manifests itself in many ways. The messaging situation being one of them .
I have been involved in the swinging scene for a few years , as a couple with my ex gf. I have seen both sides . Seeing both sides really does chance your perspective on things.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its the mental gymnastics from couples that offend me most. You have so much choice and can afford to be so very choosy and that is due to the numbers game. Spelling and grammar? Are you fucking people or employing them ?
Surely where you're contacting anyone on Fab, you want to present yourself in the best possible way, especially in an initial message.
The original question from the OP was essentially how to get your message to stand out, and for us this is a major aspect of it. It surely also holds true for any fab member messaging any other - not just for single guys who message couples.
unfortunately the majority of messages never get read anyway. The actual content is irrelevant. Spending time composing intelligent, unique messages is a thankless task.
In your opinion. Plenty of people do fine on here and don’t spend their time moaning about it.whos moaning?
You.No . Im explaining why guys don't write eloquent messages. Stick to the point rather than insult .
Where did I insult you?
Accusing me then . Im not moaning . Some couples really dont understand how this works. The numbers mismatch is what drives the dynamics of the site. This manifests itself in many ways. The messaging situation being one of them .
I have been involved in the swinging scene for a few years , as a couple with my ex gf. I have seen both sides . Seeing both sides really does chance your perspective on things.
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The guys that type a well thought out message always catch are attention. You just clearly can't be arsed to do that. Quit the site is you're going to be so miserable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its the mental gymnastics from couples that offend me most. You have so much choice and can afford to be so very choosy and that is due to the numbers game. Spelling and grammar? Are you fucking people or employing them ?
Surely where you're contacting anyone on Fab, you want to present yourself in the best possible way, especially in an initial message.
The original question from the OP was essentially how to get your message to stand out, and for us this is a major aspect of it. It surely also holds true for any fab member messaging any other - not just for single guys who message couples.
unfortunately the majority of messages never get read anyway. The actual content is irrelevant. Spending time composing intelligent, unique messages is a thankless task.
In your opinion. Plenty of people do fine on here and don’t spend their time moaning about it.whos moaning?
You.No . Im explaining why guys don't write eloquent messages. Stick to the point rather than insult .
Where did I insult you?
Accusing me then . Im not moaning . Some couples really dont understand how this works. The numbers mismatch is what drives the dynamics of the site. This manifests itself in many ways. The messaging situation being one of them .
I have been involved in the swinging scene for a few years , as a couple with my ex gf. I have seen both sides . Seeing both sides really does chance your perspective on things.
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How what works? People have their own reasons for being here. It works exactly how each individual or couple wants it to work. |
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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago
Sheffield |
"Its the mental gymnastics from couples that offend me most. You have so much choice and can afford to be so very choosy and that is due to the numbers game. Spelling and grammar? Are you fucking people or employing them ?
Surely where you're contacting anyone on Fab, you want to present yourself in the best possible way, especially in an initial message.
The original question from the OP was essentially how to get your message to stand out, and for us this is a major aspect of it. It surely also holds true for any fab member messaging any other - not just for single guys who message couples.
unfortunately the majority of messages never get read anyway. The actual content is irrelevant. Spending time composing intelligent, unique messages is a thankless task.
In your opinion. Plenty of people do fine on here and don’t spend their time moaning about it.whos moaning?
You.No . Im explaining why guys don't write eloquent messages. Stick to the point rather than insult .
Where did I insult you?
Accusing me then . Im not moaning . Some couples really dont understand how this works. The numbers mismatch is what drives the dynamics of the site. This manifests itself in many ways. The messaging situation being one of them .
I have been involved in the swinging scene for a few years , as a couple with my ex gf. I have seen both sides . Seeing both sides really does chance your perspective on things.
The guys that type a well thought out message always catch are attention. You just clearly can't be arsed to do that. Quit the site is you're going to be so miserable."
Of all the meets ive had , none of them where from a message i sent. Miserable ? Just because you don't like a different opinion?
Messages dont get through.. like this one . |
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