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over a year ago
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What are you like at socials?
When we went to our first one I was rooted to the spot with fear and would'nt let Rob leave my side!It was only because everyone was so friendly and came to speak to us that I was able to relax and really enjoy myself
So now when we go I feel so comfortable that I can leave Rob chatting to people and go off and chat to others on my own and will especially make sure that I go and say hello to anyone that seems to be on their own
What do you do? do you mingle or sit and wait to be approached? |
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"What are you like at socials?
When we went to our first one I was rooted to the spot with fear and would'nt let Rob leave my side!It was only because everyone was so friendly and came to speak to us that I was able to relax and really enjoy myself
So now when we go I feel so comfortable that I can leave Rob chatting to people and go off and chat to others on my own and will especially make sure that I go and say hello to anyone that seems to be on their own
What do you do? do you mingle or sit and wait to be approached?"
to be honest i have never been to one ...been invited to 4 or 5 but never been able to make it ....will try hard for next one tho ... |
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We haven't been to a social yet, but I guess I will stay quiet in the corner watching people, taking it all in, and Coll will be socialising much more, she tends to be the more sociable one, lol.
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the social i went to on sat was hard work for me lol i spent some time sitting on my own away from other people ONLY cos it was hurting my back standing for so long lol and i had a headache that night.
so now and again just needed 5 mins space. but everyone was so nice i was not on me own for long as people coming up to say hi.
being there as a single was hard cos u felt there was no one at all there just to hold ya hand if it got a bit too much lol how sad am i!!! |
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I'm widely regarded as a social butterfly I goto soo many.
I'm often a hand holder these days looking after newbies, but when on my own, I spend ages chatting with folk who know me, then rush over to find those I really wanted to speak to having never met, have a chat with any lonely looking folk, drink more beer, dance, then think oh buggers its finished and I never spoke to several folk.
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my first social was a real eye opener, but within minutes felt at ease, so many people came over to say hello, some strangers and some i'd chatted online to. now i try to introduce myself to everyone and if i spot someone looking nervous i make apoint of saying hi and introducing them to people i know. |
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"I'm widely regarded as a social butterfly I goto soo many.
I'm often a hand holder these days looking after newbies, but when on my own, I spend ages chatting with folk who know me, then rush over to find those I really wanted to speak to having never met, have a chat with any lonely looking folk, drink more beer, dance, then think oh buggers its finished and I never spoke to several folk.
Regards
Harry Jones"
Social Butterfly?????????? You are a munch whore Mr Jones!!!!!!
We tend to turn up late, missing any pre-drinks and then I tend to get d*unk with anybody that will chat and have a brew with me. Depending on the size I do try and say hello to everyone but I do have nights where for whatever reason I can't be bothered and will stick with those I know well!!
To me it's like any other night out, with any other circle of friends. |
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if ur a wall flower then dont bover!!! i love socails thats what started me off in the first place, plenty of beer,k gud chat!
what more does a women want.......lol and PD! shut the feck uo lol x |
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we really dont understand socials, much rather go to a club to socialise and then hopefully play, dont quite get the point, what would you do at a social you cant do at a club, this isnt slagging socials its a genuine question, also is a social the same as a munch,
sometimes we feel so green lol, we still dont know what doggin is about (despite asking on here, but dont think we we were taken seriously) even though been swinging and going to clubs regularly for 5 years |
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"Well i think im quiet, well behavioured and extremely ladylike when i attend socials, not sure if others agree pmsl"
If it makes you feel better thinking that then thats fine..............lol |
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We have never been to a social and I doubt that will change as we just don't see the point.
If we want to meet folks we go to a club where we can meet and play or we meet couples with the intention of playing.
Whilst a night out chatting about having fun works for some, not a criticism just an observation, not sure it would for us  |
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We are new to the lifestyle and attending our first social in a vanilla setting this week and feeling quite nervous of what to and not to expect and what info to share or not share with others eg. name, occupation etc...  any hints or tips would be appreciated. Thanks |
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"We are new to the lifestyle and attending our first social in a vanilla setting this week and feeling quite nervous of what to and not to expect and what info to share or not share with others eg. name, occupation etc... any hints or tips would be appreciated. Thanks "
I'd advise that you don't share information that you don't feel comfortable sharing, you can in some cases say what profession you work in without it being obvious where you work or without divulging that info.
Hope all goes well for you both. |
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"What are you like at socials?
When we went to our first one I was rooted to the spot with fear and would'nt let Rob leave my side!It was only because everyone was so friendly and came to speak to us that I was able to relax and really enjoy myself
So now when we go I feel so comfortable that I can leave Rob chatting to people and go off and chat to others on my own and will especially make sure that I go and say hello to anyone that seems to be on their own
What do you do? do you mingle or sit and wait to be approached?"
Never been to scared |
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"We are new to the lifestyle and attending our first social in a vanilla setting this week and feeling quite nervous of what to and not to expect and what info to share or not share with others eg. name, occupation etc... any hints or tips would be appreciated. Thanks "
keep it vague, first names only, general area that you live in, say "I work in retail" rather than "I'm manager of Tescos in Acacia Avenue". Basically just tell people what they need to know and what you want to. Don't worry too much though, most people are genuinely just interested in chatting and not out to turn up at your workplace wearing their "I met Joe Bloggs at a swingers social"tee shirt  |
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