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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I was wondering how and why everyone got into swinging (and related kinks)? This is mostly aimed at couples and ladies. More adventure is probably the main reason I assume.
With couples, was one of you more into the idea than the other to start with? How did you approach the idea with your partner? Has it improved your relationship? Did you resist the idea to start with or jump right in? |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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I joined here as someone I used to meet was here and showed me.
I then met my partner on fab almost 6.5 years ago and we wanted to carry on this lifestyle together .so we have a couple profile ,plus our individual ones. |
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Both my husband and I had had thresdomes before we had met, he'd also done a bit of swinging in a previous relationship (not why it ended)
All of the above had been discussed on our first date but weirdly our sex life while enjoyable was tame compared to our pasts
During sec we'd often talk about threesomes, I was honest and admitted I missed the thrill of a one night stand he missed watching his partner with someone else but we were so deep into us was it worth risking a good relationship, I kind of wish we'd just had 3somes from the start as there was an opportunity once only around a month into us being together
Eventually after many years of talking about it we realised we were happy and secure in our relationship & felt that bringing in extra people wouldn't do us any harm, so we took the leap, looking for people on hook up sites, visiting our first club & then finding fab
We've now been here 6yrs we have a couples profile, solo profiles each, have been on swingers holidays, sex is kind of like a hobby for us an enjoyable pastime
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We were both after failed marriages and everything was on the table ..no secrets only non stop honesty including my bi side which I I began to release more when given time to be open about needs and wants. its a journey we are still on and swinging is but one more route.. |
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It started with little sex games and experimenting between ourselves which over the course of 20 years just got more and more. The big turning point was finding Tumbler (-e) and discovering the "label" for how we liked to experiment. Snowballed pretty quickly after that!
We've had a really good relationship all the way through anyway but yes I do think it has improved it. That week of soul searching in the lead up to first meet(stood up) was a massive part in it and brought up huge feelings about how I really felt about the Mrs! We also talk very openly about anything or anyone now, we still stop and laugh about some of the conversations we're having 
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Was in an LTR
Always drawn to BDSM but wife was bland like vanilla ice cream where they forgot to put the bloody vanilla in.
When we broke up, it was try it and expand.
Thats what I did.
This is what I enjoy
Luckily, so does my new partner
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We were both swinging as individuals when we met and went exclusive for nearly 2 years. We started out of interest to see what it was about.
As a couple we haven't a great deal of experience and we found that there was a bit of disruption in our relationship initially when we started together but we passed it quickly enough and we are closer now than ever before. To us the swinging is a thing we might do from time-to-time but it is far from regular and necessary in our relationship. Sometimes he is more interested and other times I am though we won't do anything unless we are both happy to do so. |
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