This is a question mostly for the ladies. I've always been a bit adventurous, I like loads of different aspects to sex, not just the positions and sexual acts, but the role-play, dressing up, anticipation, flirting etc etc. It always amazes me when other men are not, all they want to to get their cock up a pussy and that's it. I mean, why would they not want more? Do you have experiences where you really wanted to man to try more but they were just not interested? Do a lot of men really just want vanilla sex and nothing more? |
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Over the course of my life I have met quite a few men who just want "a cock up a pussy". To be fair I haven't wanted much more than that with casual partners or one night stands. For me I need to know someone quite well to explore further and the way I like to play requires a lot of trust. Hence we always meet as a couple.  |
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over a year ago
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G here, most of my ex's just enjoyed missionary and nothing more. Would take ages to get them round to being more experimental with new positions.
One thing I did notice, and I've had friends who havehad the same experience. The more beautiful or sexy a woman thought they were, not actually were but thought they were, the less they did in bed. Thats not to sayall women are like that, I know that's not true. But it seemed to be more common than not in NE Scotland.
Likewise I know that some girls, who are friends of mine, would go on that their spouses were boring in bed too. |
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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago
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"Also in my opinion vanilla sex (whatever the definition)has a lot to recommend it "
I always find it odd when people use the word vanilla in a derogatory sense. It was the second most expensive flavouring in the world (behind saffron) and had to be synthesised to make it accessible.. |
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My ex husband only did vanilla and was the same routine all the time. I tried on numerous occasions to spice things up but he weren’t interested. If I dressed up he’d put me down. Eventually I just gave up. |
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Nothing wrong with a nice quick shag, but you always get the impression from the media that men are more interested in a greater variety of sex than women, and I don't think that's true. I have spoken to quite a few women who say that many partners are quite dull in bed and never want to try anything new. As a man I find it hard to comprehend that, why would they not want to add variety? |
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over a year ago
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Sometimes men try TOO hard to make it “edgy” and “adventurous”, trying a different position every minute and trying to do it in all manner of ways and it ruins it. |
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"Nothing wrong with a nice quick shag, but you always get the impression from the media that men are more interested in a greater variety of sex than women, and I don't think that's true. I have spoken to quite a few women who say that many partners are quite dull in bed and never want to try anything new. As a man I find it hard to comprehend that, why would they not want to add variety?"
I find it hard to comprehend why just sex , minus bells, whistles or gimmicks, is not enough |
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By *uzboxCouple
over a year ago
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"This is a question mostly for the ladies. I've always been a bit adventurous, I like loads of different aspects to sex, not just the positions and sexual acts, but the role-play, dressing up, anticipation, flirting etc etc. It always amazes me when other men are not, all they want to to get their cock up a pussy and that's it. I mean, why would they not want more? Do you have experiences where you really wanted to man to try more but they were just not interested? Do a lot of men really just want vanilla sex and nothing more? "
I don't understand your distinction between "adventurous" and "vanilla", role-play, dressing up, anticipation, flirting etc etc doesn't sound particularly adventurous but then again, we have no problem with what people call vanilla (we call it sex) |
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"My ex husband only did vanilla and was the same routine all the time. I tried on numerous occasions to spice things up but he weren’t interested. If I dressed up he’d put me down. Eventually I just gave up. "
Same as, he just wasn’t interested and I could not understand it hay ho I’m having great sex now 
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Both of us actually prefer to just get quickly to the "cock up a pussy" part. Its the most important part at the end of the day. You can have all the foreplay in the world but if you last 2 minutes or can't keep it up, what's the point? |
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"Sometimes men try TOO hard to make it “edgy” and “adventurous”, trying a different position every minute and trying to do it in all manner of ways and it ruins it. "
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it all changes when you add another male or female too the partnership we have a regular male too join us with all the right things for her in the room all over the house anything goes real good ful and builds up trust is the KEY.happy swinging |
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My ex husband was very much vanilla. I asked him to fuck my arse and he was horrified!!
Also slept with a guy once who didn’t have any concept of foreplay, always just wanted to skip to the sex. Didn’t even enjoy having his cock sucked. I didn’t stick around of course…. MissR |
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Everyone's into different things, exciting to one is someone else's boring
Personlly I enjoy a 'wham bam thank you mam' kind of quickiefuck every now again, especially from here, that's kind of my preference when meeting single guys, I don't have lots of free time & Id rather save the other stuff for my husband |
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"Everyone's into different things, exciting to one is someone else's boring
Personlly I enjoy a 'wham bam thank you mam' kind of quickiefuck every now again, especially from here, that's kind of my preference when meeting single guys, I don't have lots of free time & Id rather save the other stuff for my husband "
So is hubby keen to get home from work to fuck you while you still have the other man's cum inside you |
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"Everyone's into different things, exciting to one is someone else's boring
Personlly I enjoy a 'wham bam thank you mam' kind of quickiefuck every now again, especially from here, that's kind of my preference when meeting single guys, I don't have lots of free time & Id rather save the other stuff for my husband
So is hubby keen to get home from work to fuck you while you still have the other man's cum inside you "
I only meet single guys with my husband present so he will either join in & it will be a threesome or he will watch take videos/photos etc & we'll duck as soon as the guy has left
Occasionally I'll meet guys we've met previously alone and the deal is that they send my husband photos.& videos of the meet |
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Personally when I have sex with a partner it’s more about the chemistry I have with them than it is about the gismos, role play etc. I’ve taken loads of toys to meets and never used them.
For me, mind blowing sex happens when I get naked with the right person. It can be ‘making love’ or downright animal passion that’s so intense you literally can’t get close enough, deep enough or hard enough.
It’s largely about who it is rather than what they/we do - and it’s fucking awesome.
You can all keep your party tricks - when the ‘right’ man fucks me it’s amazing. |
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"This is a question mostly for the ladies. I've always been a bit adventurous, I like loads of different aspects to sex, not just the positions and sexual acts, but the role-play, dressing up, anticipation, flirting etc etc. It always amazes me when other men are not, all they want to to get their cock up a pussy and that's it. I mean, why would they not want more? Do you have experiences where you really wanted to man to try more but they were just not interested? Do a lot of men really just want vanilla sex and nothing more? "
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I remember a conversation I had years ago with a married colleague who was proudly a serial philandering.
He was quite open in admitting that the act of penetration was the ultimate expression of a woman's acquiescence and approval of him as a man and gave him all the satisfaction he needed...it took me a long time to get my head around that one, needless to say I didn't become one of his conquests! |
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Personally when I have sex with a partner it’s more about the chemistry I have with them than it is about the gismos, role play etc. I’ve taken loads of toys to meets and never used them.
For me, mind blowing sex happens when I get naked with the right person. It can be ‘making love’ or downright animal passion that’s so intense you literally can’t get close enough, deep enough or hard enough.
It’s largely about who it is rather than what they/we do - and it’s fucking awesome.
You can all keep your party tricks - when the ‘right’ man fucks me it’s amazing. "
This, totally. |
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By *ixen13Woman
over a year ago
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Personally when I have sex with a partner it’s more about the chemistry I have with them than it is about the gismos, role play etc. I’ve taken loads of toys to meets and never used them.
For me, mind blowing sex happens when I get naked with the right person. It can be ‘making love’ or downright animal passion that’s so intense you literally can’t get close enough, deep enough or hard enough.
It’s largely about who it is rather than what they/we do - and it’s fucking awesome.
You can all keep your party tricks - when the ‘right’ man fucks me it’s amazing. "
I completely agree with every word of this. The person, the connection and the trust make it mind blowing x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't think sex is boring, it's what you make out of it. I love basic, simple sex. You can focus attention on the both of you then rather than focusing on what else you want to try. |
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Personally when I have sex with a partner it’s more about the chemistry I have with them than it is about the gismos, role play etc. I’ve taken loads of toys to meets and never used them.
For me, mind blowing sex happens when I get naked with the right person. It can be ‘making love’ or downright animal passion that’s so intense you literally can’t get close enough, deep enough or hard enough.
It’s largely about who it is rather than what they/we do - and it’s fucking awesome.
You can all keep your party tricks - when the ‘right’ man fucks me it’s amazing. "
I’d agree with you there - even from a males POV.
For me it’s actually really difficult to cum from ‘sex’ it’s very rare for a woman to make me cum. It’s a combination of environment & how I feel about you.
I’ve had plenty of them wham bams but they do nothing at all for me. More intense the connection more intense your thoughts are = the better your orgasm is |
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