I had a bad experience one time after accommodating. She kept turning up unannounced for a few weeks afterwards. I’d have friends around, or family over and she’d just pull up and be asking who I have over, saying I better not be having other women in the house.
The best part, we only had a coffee and a kiss when she came round.
Now, I like to meet somewhere neutral for the first few meets. That way I can fully asses whether or not I want to let someone know my exact address. |
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"How do you decide if you will accommodate? Any tips and advice welcome. Thanks "
We don't advertise that we can accom as can't have frequent meets here (nosy neighbours). We do though, but only after a good social or if we have met before. We always insist on a social as too many weirdos and misleading pics on here !, ALWAYS check them out first before inviting home !! |
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I prefer to meet somewhere neutral for the first few times - a bar or cafe for a social, or hotel for something more sensual.
I've had a couple of bad experiences, so need to get to know people before I feel comfortable inviting them home. No particular rules for when that happens, just follow your instincts. |
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This is an interesting one… in fact a bit of a double standard to be honest. Because a lot of couples/women expect a man to accommodate in his own home but aren’t willing to do the same or even compromise by meeting in a neutral venue like a hotel at the very least.
The assumption is if a guy can’t or won’t accommodate then automatically they’re cheating on their partner which a lot of the time is far from the case.
There’s a number of different reasons why someone doesn’t want to or can’t have someone from this site in their home. If I could accommodate it certainly wouldn’t be with someone that I hadn’t met previously in a neutral venue or a social setting such as a party or club but that’s just me… |
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For us it's easy we've small children so it's a no, but if we hadn't I don't think I would unless it's someone we'd met a few times prior, ultimately I wouldn't want a stranger in my house.
Plus I've extremely nosey neighbours.
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"This is an interesting one… in fact a bit of a double standard to be honest. Because a lot of couples/women expect a man to accommodate in his own home but aren’t willing to do the same or even compromise by meeting in a neutral venue like a hotel at the very least.
The assumption is if a guy can’t or won’t accommodate then automatically they’re cheating on their partner which a lot of the time is far from the case.
There’s a number of different reasons why someone doesn’t want to or can’t have someone from this site in their home. If I could accommodate it certainly wouldn’t be with someone that I hadn’t met previously in a neutral venue or a social setting such as a party or club but that’s just me… "
I don’t expect a man to accommodate. In fact, even if he does - I’m not going to a strange man’s house!
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I would always meet away from home, I'm happy to give a reasonable idea where I am so people can decide about travelling. I think you can get the measure of people fairly quickly over a pint or a coffee. Most that agree to a social meet will understand, but I had to walk away from one meet she was obviously going to be trouble. A bullet dodged.
Don't give a toss about what the neighbours think, the house is detached so as long as the windows are closed it's okay. I wondered a few times about the noises from the hot tub!!!  |
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"This is an interesting one… in fact a bit of a double standard to be honest. Because a lot of couples/women expect a man to accommodate in his own home but aren’t willing to do the same or even compromise by meeting in a neutral venue like a hotel at the very least.
The assumption is if a guy can’t or won’t accommodate then automatically they’re cheating on their partner which a lot of the time is far from the case.
There’s a number of different reasons why someone doesn’t want to or can’t have someone from this site in their home. If I could accommodate it certainly wouldn’t be with someone that I hadn’t met previously in a neutral venue or a social setting such as a party or club but that’s just me…
I don’t expect a man to accommodate. In fact, even if he does - I’m not going to a strange man’s house!
Hotel or club only "
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I use the same rules for anyone who I invite to my home, irrespective of where I meet them. As my view is that people are people, just where you meet them varies.
Instinct plays a huge part for me. Hence my need for chat and a social meet/date/whatever term you want to use to gauge chemistry etc. in person 
The only somewhat bad experience I've ever had was with a guy not from fab. |
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Once I've met away somewhere for a coffee then yes if I think they OK and I have a empty house ! As for neibours I actually enjoy that they look! Have one set next door but one who have known maybe 40 years are so nosey! I like to keep them guessing! If I get dropped back home after a meet they say I won't kiss I say please do! Need to give the neibours something to talk about ! X |
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