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So we've noticed of late quite a few single female profiles in our area (and on fab as a whole) that stipulate they only attend meets with a FWB or husband in tow who they expect to join in with the action.
Firstly, far be it for us to tell anyone else how to meet but surely that's a couples account and not a single account?
Secondly, doesn't that raise's a red flag as you have no idea who they are dragging alone?
We appreciate there's a safety element for women but if a couple arrive then your a couple.
What concerns us the most though is we've been contacted by a few "single" ladies in our time on fab who then state they want to bring a friend along...but then they start sending face pics of this mystery male. We thought you where not to have face pics of people on your account that are not yours?
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over a year ago
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This works both ways.
Single males who have partners they want to introduce.
Honestly I say to them if you’re wife or partner knows you’re on here then I will expect to speak to them, funny how many times that gets me blocked.
There are married men and woman on here with single profiles and honestly as long as they are up front then it becomes my choice if I want to talk with them. When they introduce them after talking for some time I find a bit weird |
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"This works both ways.
Single males who have partners they want to introduce.
Honestly I say to them if you’re wife or partner knows you’re on here then I will expect to speak to them, funny how many times that gets me blocked.
There are married men and woman on here with single profiles and honestly as long as they are up front then it becomes my choice if I want to talk with them. When they introduce them after talking for some time I find a bit weird "
Oh I'm well aware it works both ways. Same opinions for the guys who do that as well.
We just find it odd as we are pretty much a "what it says on the packet" couple.
We both meet separately (and are upfront about the fact we are married) but if either of us are doing a solo meet then it's just the respective individual turning up. Seems rather redundant to have single account then demand to bring each other along to play. That's what this couples account is for. So this account for us playing as a couple and our singles account for us each individually.
Maybe we are doing wrong, I dunno. Just noticed it's becoming more and more prevalent of late. |
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How about the couples profiles that are really singles?
I've had a number of women using this approach to get around age filters by having a couples profile where the non existent male is above my lower age filter which allows them to message me.
Or the couples profiles where the male is no longer involved but she is still using all their old verifications.
In one case actually having a completely different male half following a public falling out but displaying verifications from the previous relationship. In my mind that is a fake account regardless of how well verified the woman is. |
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"So we've noticed of late quite a few single female profiles in our area (and on fab as a whole) that stipulate they only attend meets with a FWB or husband in tow who they expect to join in with the action.
Firstly, far be it for us to tell anyone else how to meet but surely that's a couples account and not a single account?
Secondly, doesn't that raise's a red flag as you have no idea who they are dragging alone?
We appreciate there's a safety element for women but if a couple arrive then your a couple.
What concerns us the most though is we've been contacted by a few "single" ladies in our time on fab who then state they want to bring a friend along...but then they start sending face pics of this mystery male. We thought you where not to have face pics of people on your account that are not yours?
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There's loads of single female profiles that are part of a couple and don't meet alone, we even know some! Admin do sometimes change the profile to a couples profile if they see evidence of it being a couple. |
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over a year ago
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"And what about single men with their photos full of women  "
This ^^. For me personally it’s hugely off putting to see loads of graphic action shots on a single guys profile. I can only assume they think it shows off their prowess.
To me it screams notches on headboard.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You can send pics straight from your phone, didn't you know...? 
I'm using a PC and I can only send photos saved to our profile so..... "
Other people use phones  |
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"This ^^. For me personally it’s hugely off putting to see loads of graphic action shots on a single guys profile. I can only assume they think it shows off their prowess.
To me it screams notches on headboard.
Viv"
To me it screams insecurity, they aren't happy enough in themselves to be openly single  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This ^^. For me personally it’s hugely off putting to see loads of graphic action shots on a single guys profile. I can only assume they think it shows off their prowess.
To me it screams notches on headboard.
Viv
To me it screams insecurity, they aren't happy enough in themselves to be openly single "
I won’t reply to profiles with pics of others in as I’d be worried my photos may end up somewhere I didn’t know or wanted |
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"Yes there are fakes. Good people too, focus on the good  "
There are a lot of fakes, to be fair, which makes it sooo much more difficult than it needs to be, especially for guys like me who find it challenging enough!
I prefer to be honest up front. I have a couples profile with my wife, but I explicitly state it on my profile - this is my profile, for me, and my enjoyment. The same goes for our couples profile stating that we have single profiles.
If I wanted a couple, I'd look for a couple! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used my account to purely meet on my own and I stated we had a couple one too. Some nosey shite reported me for mentioning I meet with my husband occasionally so admin changed it to a couple. At the was fuming now it makes me laugh that someone could be bothered |
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Myself and Dirk were both on fab long before we met and became a couple.
When creating a couples profile we made a conscious choice to keep our single profiles.
We, as any other normal couple went through a honeymoon period where we weren't interested in meeting anyone separately for a while.
Someone reported my single profile and it got changed to couples.
I felt like I lost my voice as I was using that profile solely for engaging in forums and keeping in touch with my own friends and not to "lead anyone on", make new contacts or convince someone that they should meet us as a couple (created couples profile already existed for that purpose).
There's thousands of single profiles where single people are only here to chat and have no interest in meeting at all and there's people who only have a profile here for club nights out only and aren't interested in meeting individually.
Should those people's profiles get deleted completely too?
As much as I hate "matchmaking" - when random single profiles have this invisible shadow figure of a partner, who only gets involved in physical meets (couples profiles with only one person showing in photos also count) - I believe it's their right to run their own profile how they see fit and it's your right to just block them or not message them in a first place 
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"Myself and Dirk were both on fab long before we met and became a couple.
When creating a couples profile we made a conscious choice to keep our single profiles.
We, as any other normal couple went through a honeymoon period where we weren't interested in meeting anyone separately for a while.
Someone reported my single profile and it got changed to couples.
I felt like I lost my voice as I was using that profile solely for engaging in forums and keeping in touch with my own friends and not to "lead anyone on", make new contacts or convince someone that they should meet us as a couple (created couples profile already existed for that purpose).
There's thousands of single profiles where single people are only here to chat and have no interest in meeting at all and there's people who only have a profile here for club nights out only and aren't interested in meeting individually.
Should those people's profiles get deleted completely too?
As much as I hate "matchmaking" - when random single profiles have this invisible shadow figure of a partner, who only gets involved in physical meets (couples profiles with only one person showing in photos also count) - I believe it's their right to run their own profile how they see fit and it's your right to just block them or not message them in a first place
Missus "
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"Myself and Dirk were both on fab long before we met and became a couple.
When creating a couples profile we made a conscious choice to keep our single profiles.
We, as any other normal couple went through a honeymoon period where we weren't interested in meeting anyone separately for a while.
Someone reported my single profile and it got changed to couples.
I felt like I lost my voice as I was using that profile solely for engaging in forums and keeping in touch with my own friends and not to "lead anyone on", make new contacts or convince someone that they should meet us as a couple (created couples profile already existed for that purpose).
There's thousands of single profiles where single people are only here to chat and have no interest in meeting at all and there's people who only have a profile here for club nights out only and aren't interested in meeting individually.
Should those people's profiles get deleted completely too?
As much as I hate "matchmaking" - when random single profiles have this invisible shadow figure of a partner, who only gets involved in physical meets (couples profiles with only one person showing in photos also count) - I believe it's their right to run their own profile how they see fit and it's your right to just block them or not message them in a first place
Missus "
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"How about the couples profiles that are really singles?
I've had a number of women using this approach to get around age filters by having a couples profile where the non existent male is above my lower age filter which allows them to message me.
Or the couples profiles where the male is no longer involved but she is still using all their old verifications.
In one case actually having a completely different male half following a public falling out but displaying verifications from the previous relationship. In my mind that is a fake account regardless of how well verified the woman is. "
Wow …I’m confused just reading that!
Must be getting late. |
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"How about the couples profiles that are really singles?
I've had a number of women using this approach to get around age filters by having a couples profile where the non existent male is above my lower age filter which allows them to message me.
Or the couples profiles where the male is no longer involved but she is still using all their old verifications.
In one case actually having a completely different male half following a public falling out but displaying verifications from the previous relationship. In my mind that is a fake account regardless of how well verified the woman is.
Wow …I’m confused just reading that!
Must be getting late. "
I was wondering about his secret of success that a number of women are so desperate to meet him they dream up ways to circumvent his filters. |
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By *luttTV/TS
over a year ago
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"How about the couples profiles that are really singles?
I've had a number of women using this approach to get around age filters by having a couples profile where the non existent male is above my lower age filter which allows them to message me.
Or the couples profiles where the male is no longer involved but she is still using all their old verifications.
In one case actually having a completely different male half following a public falling out but displaying verifications from the previous relationship. In my mind that is a fake account regardless of how well verified the woman is.
Wow …I’m confused just reading that!
Must be getting late.
I was wondering about his secret of success that a number of women are so desperate to meet him they dream up ways to circumvent his filters. "
I was wondering that too! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How about the couples profiles that are really singles?
I've had a number of women using this approach to get around age filters by having a couples profile where the non existent male is above my lower age filter which allows them to message me.
Or the couples profiles where the male is no longer involved but she is still using all their old verifications.
In one case actually having a completely different male half following a public falling out but displaying verifications from the previous relationship. In my mind that is a fake account regardless of how well verified the woman is.
Wow …I’m confused just reading that!
Must be getting late. "
It’s not late. It’s a ramble! |
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"Myself and Dirk were both on fab long before we met and became a couple.
When creating a couples profile we made a conscious choice to keep our single profiles.
We, as any other normal couple went through a honeymoon period where we weren't interested in meeting anyone separately for a while.
Someone reported my single profile and it got changed to couples.
I felt like I lost my voice as I was using that profile solely for engaging in forums and keeping in touch with my own friends and not to "lead anyone on", make new contacts or convince someone that they should meet us as a couple (created couples profile already existed for that purpose).
There's thousands of single profiles where single people are only here to chat and have no interest in meeting at all and there's people who only have a profile here for club nights out only and aren't interested in meeting individually.
Should those people's profiles get deleted completely too?
As much as I hate "matchmaking" - when random single profiles have this invisible shadow figure of a partner, who only gets involved in physical meets (couples profiles with only one person showing in photos also count) - I believe it's their right to run their own profile how they see fit and it's your right to just block them or not message them in a first place
Missus "
This speaks for us too. We met on fab and have our own profiles. We mainly use this but we still use our own too. Keeping our own voice is important and we do have some seperate freinds. Plus on occasion we do go clubs separately or make seperate arrangements.
However I think we are talking on here about those genuinely disingenuous profiles. Afterall if I was only interested in meeting someone with My Girl I'd refer them to our couples profile. Although when it comes to a FB or FWB rather than a formal relationship I totally understand just having a single profile as these can be short term arrangements. However I only think it's fair to clearly state this in the profile text.
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"So we've noticed of late quite a few single female profiles in our area (and on fab as a whole) that stipulate they only attend meets with a FWB or husband in tow who they expect to join in with the action.
Firstly, far be it for us to tell anyone else how to meet but surely that's a couples account and not a single account?
Secondly, doesn't that raise's a red flag as you have no idea who they are dragging alone?
We appreciate there's a safety element for women but if a couple arrive then your a couple.
What concerns us the most though is we've been contacted by a few "single" ladies in our time on fab who then state they want to bring a friend along...but then they start sending face pics of this mystery male. We thought you where not to have face pics of people on your account that are not yours?
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Report them. Admin will change it to a couple profile.
Also report face pics if it's not their profile. |
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"How about the couples profiles that are really singles?
I've had a number of women using this approach to get around age filters by having a couples profile where the non existent male is above my lower age filter which allows them to message me.
Or the couples profiles where the male is no longer involved but she is still using all their old verifications.
In one case actually having a completely different male half following a public falling out but displaying verifications from the previous relationship. In my mind that is a fake account regardless of how well verified the woman is. "
Yep it's still a fake. Seen that a few times. Women seem to get away with it. Makes verifications pointless. |
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