Hi Everyone,
This is I guess for the regular club members...
Recently on here there seems to be for us at least a sudden increase in males being rude and offensive when a polite "No thank you" is messaged...We know it is a normal thing on here to a degree...and we have come to accept it but some guys are being complete knobs at times! (sorry to the majority of guys that aren't)....So we are considering taking a look at the Club scene in the future...
The question is in the clubs if a guy or guys are being rude or offensive and wont take a "No thank you" ...which means No is there any support from the club staff to resolve the matter or is it just better to leave and not go back?
As we say we've never done the club scene yet ...but with the way things are on here of late considering giving it a go...we'd appreciate any feedback you can offer on situations like this and how the clubs handle them ...like a complaint I guess thanks x  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Clubs are generally quite strict on no meaning no, no uninvited contact etc. the advantage (in most not all clubs) is guys don’t want a ban do they’ll behave. Plus online being an utter prick is easy whereas people aren’t usually that way in person. |
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In our experience, it depends on the club.
Some only have one or two staff who run the door and bar, so when there's an issue, there's no one to deal with it.
Others however - The Attic in particular springs to mind - have security staff all around the club, who immediately step in if a problem arises. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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deffo depends on the club ..we always found the guys who are the pest are normally part of a couple they get treated totally different to single guys sadly |
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We've been to 2 or 2 clubs over the years. We do 2 strikes, them get club to deal with them.
We start with the polight no, or no thank you. 2nd, is a much stonger, polight but firm no, and back off. 3rd, report to club team members. Who normally remove them from the club.
Our main 2 clubs are The Attic, I know Ron and team would take no nonsence. Along with Gems, Ian and gang run a tight ship. |
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I can only speak for Jaydees in Cambridgeshire, but the only time I've come across any guys behaving like that at the club was when a friend of ours was being followed and I just invited her to hang out with me. They soon buggered off.
For sure, if the staff were to see any inappropriate behaviour they would soon step in and, to be fair, if staff were elsewhere we regulars would soon tell the offender to cut it out.
It's just not tolerated at Jaydees and we all try to look out for each other. |
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We've been to a lot of clubs. In our experience they are safe places to be and play. Plus you cut out all of the BS you have online and get straight to the meeting people. We've found on the occasions guys are out of line (or girls or couples, which can happen) the club takes it seriously. However the general behaviour of the guys in the first place is the most important thing. In our experience behaviour is better in some clubs (or particular party nights) more than others.
Because of clubs we tend to just do our hooking up and meeting people in clubs rather than on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most clubs clamp down on bad behavior have seen some guys get booted just for asking too many people for attention, it teaches manners as there are always other guys to replace them. |
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We’ve had lot of positive experiences in clubs where a male has tried to touch during our play, L will either move away slightly of just hold her hand up to say no thanks and it’s never been poorly received.
We are happy to chat and make conversation with anyone tho even if they aren’t potential play mates we make it clear what we’re looking for and try not to give anyone false hope.
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Thanks everyone a good response from you all and we appreciate you taking the time to help us out and give your feedback ....hopefully we will sort something out and give it a go in the near future hugs to everyone x |
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I've personally never experienced unwanted touching in clubs. The ones I've been to are very strict about no meaning no. I personally prefer to attend swinging events that only allow single men that are members as usually they're selective about who they give memberships to and the men don't want to lose their membership. I've occasionally witnessed people being escorted from clubs for breaking rules. I've generally been impressed by how these situations are handled. |
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Can't say we entertain single guys so we don't really interact with them outside of social events.
However at our local club, we've always been respected and left alone beyond polite conversation.
We did witness a guy getting kicked out for poor behaviour apparently (we don't know what it was or who was on the reciving end) so in our eyes that's a good thing.
It really will depend on the club at the end of the day but some like to keep their noses clean and won't tolerate anything but good behaviour from all attendees. |
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By *itzimadCouple
over a year ago
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most clubs will be keeping an eye out for bad behaviour and warn or eject the culprits
its a very fine line singles walk as some couples like the gropey aspect we would only accept uninvited touching with someone we had conversed with its the out of the blue gropes that are not acceptable |
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