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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do you have a high sex drive? is it driving you mad? Mine is particularly high at the moment and I'm not sure it's a good thing. Maybe you're the opposite and wish your's was higher. How do you deal with these low or high periods? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mine is almost none existent for the majority of the time. I’ve been to the dr and everything is fine, not menopausal or unbalanced in any way.
I actually prefer to be this way as it allows me to focus my energy on other things and stops me from doing things I’d later regret! I do sometimes wish it was different when I read about others having such a great time but not very often. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a much higher sex drive than my wife but she’s very understanding and we make it work. It also helps that we often work opposite shifts so by the time the weekend comes we’re both up for it. |
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By *omer47Man
over a year ago
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Mine has dropped over the last few years. Do have erection problems, mainly keeping it erect and not a heavy cummer aswell, but dr says I'm fine so trying to up my game, its not for the want of trying. |
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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago
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Mine is very low and it have been like that for years. I dont really crave it as much as I did before and I can easily live without it, one of the reasons is cos I might be dieting on low calories  |
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I don't have a high sex drive and don't ever remember having one but 10 years without any form of sexual contact would have removed it anyway.
I suffer from anhedonia which doesn't help either but I'm always in the moment and have no issues during sex. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I thought mine would disappear after my hysterectomy but it's done the opposite I'm hornier than ever 
Mine did the exact same thing "
I really wasn't prepared, I'm so frustrated. I want sex 24/7 |
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My sex drive has always been quite high and it ruined a couple of my vanilla relationships (the guys just couldn't keep up). In the recent years, it fluctuates a bit, but I've also noticed lately that the more sex I have, the more I want! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Mine is very low and it have been like that for years. I dont really crave it as much as I did before and I can easily live without it, one of the reasons is cos I might be dieting on low calories "
I found that too before I think it is definitely a side affect |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Mine is very low and it have been like that for years. I dont really crave it as much as I did before and I can easily live without it, one of the reasons is cos I might be dieting on low calories
I found that too before I think it is definitely a side affect "
Hmm I’m wondering if that could be my issue, I only eat one meal a day. I hadn’t even thought of that! |
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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago
From the land of haribos. |
"Mine is very low and it have been like that for years. I dont really crave it as much as I did before and I can easily live without it, one of the reasons is cos I might be dieting on low calories
I found that too before I think it is definitely a side affect
Hmm I’m wondering if that could be my issue, I only eat one meal a day. I hadn’t even thought of that! "
Yes. I think so too, cos I heard that it lowers ones test levels, although it is a trade of that is worth doing I think, 6pack or sex so to speak |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Mine is very low and it have been like that for years. I dont really crave it as much as I did before and I can easily live without it, one of the reasons is cos I might be dieting on low calories
I found that too before I think it is definitely a side affect
Hmm I’m wondering if that could be my issue, I only eat one meal a day. I hadn’t even thought of that! Yes. I think so too, cos I heard that it lowers ones test levels, although it is a trade of that is worth doing I think, 6pack or sex so to speak "
I think so too, I’d rather be slim if I had to choose so won’t be upping my calories any time soon  |
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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago
From the land of haribos. |
"Mine is very low and it have been like that for years. I dont really crave it as much as I did before and I can easily live without it, one of the reasons is cos I might be dieting on low calories
I found that too before I think it is definitely a side affect
Hmm I’m wondering if that could be my issue, I only eat one meal a day. I hadn’t even thought of that! Yes. I think so too, cos I heard that it lowers ones test levels, although it is a trade of that is worth doing I think, 6pack or sex so to speak
I think so too, I’d rather be slim if I had to choose so won’t be upping my calories any time soon "
That is right and same here. I would also rather stay the same too |
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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago
From the land of haribos. |
"Mine is very low and it have been like that for years. I dont really crave it as much as I did before and I can easily live without it, one of the reasons is cos I might be dieting on low calories
I found that too before I think it is definitely a side affect
Hmm I’m wondering if that could be my issue, I only eat one meal a day. I hadn’t even thought of that! Yes. I think so too, cos I heard that it lowers ones test levels, although it is a trade of that is worth doing I think, 6pack or sex so to speak
I think so too, I’d rather be slim if I had to choose so won’t be upping my calories any time soon That is right and same here. I would also rather stay the same too "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Mine is very low and it have been like that for years. I dont really crave it as much as I did before and I can easily live without it, one of the reasons is cos I might be dieting on low calories
I found that too before I think it is definitely a side affect
Hmm I’m wondering if that could be my issue, I only eat one meal a day. I hadn’t even thought of that! Yes. I think so too, cos I heard that it lowers ones test levels, although it is a trade of that is worth doing I think, 6pack or sex so to speak
I think so too, I’d rather be slim if I had to choose so won’t be upping my calories any time soon That is right and same here. I would also rather stay the same too "
I'd rather have sex  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Mine is always generally quite high... though it does ebb and flow..
Like someone else said, the more I have the more I want.. but with no reg partner, I'm forced to go for a while without it...  "
Agree, when regular my sex drive is constant.
At moment being single it is minimal |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mines healthy... Quite high maybe, how do you actually tell.
Is sex 1 or 2 times a day a high drive?
Wouldnt change it at all. And he matches me on it so I have absolutely no complaints at all
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This thread has been a genuine eye opener for me. There’s a lot of people on here with low sex drives and naively I just presumed almost everyone had a high sex drive here.
As I said niaive of me.
My sex drive is very high. I don’t see that as a blessing. I also struggle with the term “healthy” sex drive, as for me it’s probably not.....
(OMG I did a serious reply to a forum thread!). |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This thread has been a genuine eye opener for me. There’s a lot of people on here with low sex drives and naively I just presumed almost everyone had a high sex drive here.
As I said niaive of me.
My sex drive is very high. I don’t see that as a blessing. I also struggle with the term “healthy” sex drive, as for me it’s probably not.....
(OMG I did a serious reply to a forum thread!). "
I agree with you, I'm struggling with mine and wouldn't class it as healthy. It's extremely high and it's a daily struggle to keep on top of it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Mine is ridiculous, I honestly I wish mine was lower it just causes frustration more than anything."
It is very frustrating for anyone with a low or high sex drive by reading this thread.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a disgustingly high one.
Last few years it was dying off, and i just thought i was getting old.
About a month ago a semi-gf finally stopped talking to me.
We never became a full relationship because she was toxic as fuck.
I hadn't realised how toxic, because over last few weeks it feels a breath of fresh air. Like how smokers say they feel and smell again once they stop.
I can think straight, get more done, and fk my life ive been a rampant rabbit. Over last two weeks Fucking feiends and fk buds like no tomorrow.
I knew she was dragging me down a bit, but didn't realise my drive was a mess cos of her.
Do miss the ***** though. We had some great sex. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I had a disgustingly high one.
Last few years it was dying off, and i just thought i was getting old.
About a month ago a semi-gf finally stopped talking to me.
We never became a full relationship because she was toxic as fuck.
I hadn't realised how toxic, because over last few weeks it feels a breath of fresh air. Like how smokers say they feel and smell again once they stop.
I can think straight, get more done, and fk my life ive been a rampant rabbit. Over last two weeks Fucking feiends and fk buds like no tomorrow.
I knew she was dragging me down a bit, but didn't realise my drive was a mess cos of her.
Do miss the ***** though. We had some great sex. "
But you're getting sex or are you saying she's better? |
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Wouldn't say it's particularly high or low, but definitely agree that the nice weather makes me hornier.
Generally I am pretty happy with my sex drive and it seems to match quite nicely with S
MJ x
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By *itzimadCouple
over a year ago
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inside a relationship you just need to have a similar level to be happy if two people want it 3 times a day or once a year thats ok
we were surprised when we first started swinging to discover how high some peoples drive was compared to ours . for many with a very high sex drive it was a curse rather than a blessing
there is no "normal" its just what you both want and need
we both agreed that every night would have turned it into a chore rather than a pleasure
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By (user no longer on site)
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""I had a disgustingly high one.
Last few years it was dying off, and i just thought i was getting old.
About a month ago a semi-gf finally stopped talking to me.
We never became a full relationship because she was toxic as fuck.
I hadn't realised how toxic, because over last few weeks it feels a breath of fresh air. Like how smokers say they feel and smell again once they stop.
I can think straight, get more done, and fk my life ive been a rampant rabbit. Over last two weeks Fucking feiends and fk buds like no tomorrow.
I knew she was dragging me down a bit, but didn't realise my drive was a mess cos of her.
Do miss the b***h though. We had some great sex."
But you're getting sex or are you saying she's better?"
I'm getting loads of sex. In the last 2 weeks I've only not had sex on 2 days.
She wasn't better. Think it was like Stockholm syndrome. Just felt great because it was the only think i could do right.
BUT shes finally messaged me yesterday after 5 weeks.... and she is definitely the problem- I've completely lost my horn again.
Could barely keep it down all day and now can barely keep it up after hearing from her (currently lying in bed with someone whos fallen asleep!)
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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""I had a disgustingly high one.
Last few years it was dying off, and i just thought i was getting old.
About a month ago a semi-gf finally stopped talking to me.
We never became a full relationship because she was toxic as fuck.
I hadn't realised how toxic, because over last few weeks it feels a breath of fresh air. Like how smokers say they feel and smell again once they stop.
I can think straight, get more done, and fk my life ive been a rampant rabbit. Over last two weeks Fucking feiends and fk buds like no tomorrow.
I knew she was dragging me down a bit, but didn't realise my drive was a mess cos of her.
Do miss the b***h though. We had some great sex."
But you're getting sex or are you saying she's better?
I'm getting loads of sex. In the last 2 weeks I've only not had sex on 2 days.
She wasn't better. Think it was like Stockholm syndrome. Just felt great because it was the only think i could do right.
BUT shes finally messaged me yesterday after 5 weeks.... and she is definitely the problem- I've completely lost my horn again.
Could barely keep it down all day and now can barely keep it up after hearing from her (currently lying in bed with someone whos fallen asleep!)
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I'm sorry to hear that, I would block her number if she has that hold on you |
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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago
Stafford |
Mines like a heartbeat monitor or a mountain, up and down. And when it's up, it's relentless.
I've been put on sex bans for days as a result. I've spent 7+hours playing with toys at night, just to scratch the itch that the days 15 rounds of sex didn't itch.
Honestly I prefer going back down the mountain, at least the itch is scratched. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mine is low and has been for a while.. no idea why, been to the Dr's and everything is pretty much okay apart from the erections but he has prescribed me a form of Viagra. So we will see how it goes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you have a high sex drive? is it driving you mad? Mine is particularly high at the moment and I'm not sure it's a good thing. Maybe you're the opposite and wish your's was higher. How do you deal with these low or high periods?"
Both have massive sex drives and love to please others… therefore best of both worlds either playing together or playing with others |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Always had a very high sex drive.so I've kept myself busy either weights or something more meaningful, not been easy at times but have better control."
I think I may need to do this |
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"Always had a very high sex drive.so I've kept myself busy either weights or something more meaningful, not been easy at times but have better control.
I think I may need to do this"
Err....have more sex. Plenty of willing victims, I mean volunteers x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Always had a very high sex drive.so I've kept myself busy either weights or something more meaningful, not been easy at times but have better control.
I think I may need to do this
Err....have more sex. Plenty of willing victims, I mean volunteers x"
Need to be victims that are compatible |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Always had a very high sex drive.so I've kept myself busy either weights or something more meaningful, not been easy at times but have better control.
I think I may need to do this"
Does help if you're mentally drained,slowly it becomes less of an urge, which becomes controllable.
I know what I'd like to do though  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Always had a very high sex drive.so I've kept myself busy either weights or something more meaningful, not been easy at times but have better control.
I think I may need to do this
Does help if you're mentally drained,slowly it becomes less of an urge, which becomes controllable.
I know what I'd like to do though "
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"Always had a very high sex drive.so I've kept myself busy either weights or something more meaningful, not been easy at times but have better control.
I think I may need to do this
Err....have more sex. Plenty of willing victims, I mean volunteers x
Need to be victims that are compatible "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you have a high sex drive? is it driving you mad? Mine is particularly high at the moment and I'm not sure it's a good thing. Maybe you're the opposite and wish your's was higher. How do you deal with these low or high periods?"
General it’s high all the time |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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"Always had a very high sex drive.so I've kept myself busy either weights or something more meaningful, not been easy at times but have better control.
I think I may need to do this
Does help if you're mentally drained,slowly it becomes less of an urge, which becomes controllable.
I know what I'd like to do though
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Take care and have a few drinks this also helps   the thoughts can be thirsty work as well |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My sex drive is stuck in neutral and has been for a while now….not sure the particular body part functions 
But with the right person, with the right chemistry and connection (coupled with a lovely face and bum)….it’ll hit top gear faster than Lewis Hamilton in an F1 car!!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My sex drive is stuck in neutral and has been for a while now….not sure the particular body part functions
But with the right person, with the right chemistry and connection (coupled with a lovely face and bum)….it’ll hit top gear faster than Lewis Hamilton in an F1 car!!!"
Haha love that |
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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago
Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?) |
"My sex drive has always been quite high and it ruined a couple of my vanilla relationships (the guys just couldn't keep up). In the recent years, it fluctuates a bit, but I've also noticed lately that the more sex I have, the more I want! "
You're not alone ...it's something to do with living in Bedford ...Anglian Water maybe?! |
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"My sex drive has always been quite high and it ruined a couple of my vanilla relationships (the guys just couldn't keep up). In the recent years, it fluctuates a bit, but I've also noticed lately that the more sex I have, the more I want!
You're not alone ...it's something to do with living in Bedford ...Anglian Water maybe?! "
No, it's just Bedford  x |
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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago
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"My sex drive has always been quite high and it ruined a couple of my vanilla relationships (the guys just couldn't keep up). In the recent years, it fluctuates a bit, but I've also noticed lately that the more sex I have, the more I want!
You're not alone ...it's something to do with living in Bedford ...Anglian Water maybe?!
No, it's just Bedford x"
That might be it too! |
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By *alypsoWoman
over a year ago
Hinckley |
"Do you have a high sex drive? is it driving you mad? Mine is particularly high at the moment and I'm not sure it's a good thing. Maybe you're the opposite and wish your's was higher. How do you deal with these low or high periods?"
I’ve always had a high sex drive but didn’t know or realise when in a month until the last few years. |
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Our sex drive has got up and driven away at the moment. The pressures, stresses and incredibly long working hours with no days off takes it's toll on us. You can't do all that and have a high sex drive.
We have a holiday booked for the end of May so we will be well and truly rampant for each other. Can't wait! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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At the moment its very high. I have had a bad start to year and spent 3 weeks in hospital fighting pneumonia, then sepsis. With a period in icu where was touch and go. But now in recovery. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"At the moment its very high. I have had a bad start to year and spent 3 weeks in hospital fighting pneumonia, then sepsis. With a period in icu where was touch and go. But now in recovery. "
Glad to hear you're ok |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"At the moment its very high. I have had a bad start to year and spent 3 weeks in hospital fighting pneumonia, then sepsis. With a period in icu where was touch and go. But now in recovery.
Glad to hear you're ok "
Thank you for the kind words |
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By (user no longer on site)
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""I had a disgustingly high one.
Last few years it was dying off, and i just thought i was getting old.
About a month ago a semi-gf finally stopped talking to me.
We never became a full relationship because she was toxic as fuck.
I hadn't realised how toxic, because over last few weeks it feels a breath of fresh air. Like how smokers say they feel and smell again once they stop.
I can think straight, get more done, and fk my life ive been a rampant rabbit. Over last two weeks Fucking friends and fk buds like no tomorrow.
I knew she was dragging me down a bit, but didn't realise my drive was a mess cos of her.
Do miss the b***h though. We had some great sex."
But you're getting sex or are you saying she's better?
I'm getting loads of sex. In the last 2 weeks I've only not had sex on 2 days.
She wasn't better. Think it was like Stockholm syndrome. Just felt great because it was the only think i could do right.
BUT shes finally messaged me yesterday after 5 weeks.... and she is definitely the problem- I've completely lost my horn again.
Could barely keep it down all day and now can barely keep it up after hearing from her (currently lying in bed with someone whos fallen asleep!)
I'm sorry to hear that, I would block her number if she has that hold on you "
Regrettably, I can't block her number.
Not because I don't want to, but other responsibily (no kids, thankfully).
But, did end up having an active day yesterday, so forgot all about her, and ended up making a FWB very happy albeit wobbly legs. |
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