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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi
Just wanted to know if others have experienced the same, is it acceptable for some people on here to ask who ive met already??...i think not myself but seem to get an increasing number of guys asking who i've met and what their names are...i also get alot of questions as to why i don't show my verifications....my answer is....why should i?, i think its a private thing who i choose to meet, so why are some obsessed with wanting to know. Anyone else get this? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No I haven't had this problem. I suppose it's just guys trying to work out if you are genuine. I must admit that I will look at who has verified a profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its none of peoples business.. I do know that there are a few people that if they see my name on someones verifications then they have told that person they wont meet because they have met me..
I think that is a bit childish but their choice.
They can ask.. its just up to you if you answer.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We havent been asked who we have met and certainly wouldnt tell anyone. That is our business and of no concern to others.We also dont show our verifications we used to when we first started on here.We dont see the need to display. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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ive never had this either but i would tell them to piss off if anyone asked me such questions
who you meet has nothing to do with anyone else
i have no idea at all why someone would want to know the names of who you have met in the past  |
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We are grown ups and have our own code for what is acceptable.
Personally, anyone being crass enough to ask me such a question, or "are you having much luck on here" is instantly blocked.
I also take note of those who mention who they've played with on the forums or allude to reading messages, seeing private pics from other members sent to their latest conquest. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well im a site supporter, been fab approved with pic and verified....is that not enough for some?"
Think the worst interrogation ive had was from a guy who was a policeman...he kept on and on, got a bit arsey so i blocked him....ho-hum im still smiling though  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well im a site supporter, been fab approved with pic and verified....is that not enough for some?"
i can only assum it people with hang ups that would ask such thing
like people who dont like bi men or people who have played with them, or they may go thro your previous meets to check if there are any bate back photos etc
some people on here really are that anal  |
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It's perfectly reasonable to ask someone who hides their veris to un hide one or maybe two so you can check they are reliable veris.
But it's perfectly reasonable to say no to that request if you want to.
It sounds like either nosiness or that there is someone in your area people have a bias against.
Choose exactly how you prefer to do things (I won't cam or give my number out) amend your profile to state this and then if anyone complains you can refer them back to your profile and say the warning is there. If they didn't bother to read it it is not your problem.  |
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I have never been asked, and I wouldnt give details anyway.
I do have verifications on my profile, none are explicit and i dont give anyone explicit verifications.
I have them on my profile because i feel as a single guy it looks better having verifications from actual meets rather than just 'Verified Profile' at the bottom of the page.
I would never dream of asking anyone who they have met either, none of my business -
We meet who we like (or who likes us) its a swingers site ! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you to all replies, very much appreciated. There are some very weird but also very wonderful people on here, ive made some great genuine friends and hope to make many more |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a women obsessed with who i met and goes through my verifications to meet the same men then asks them what im like when she fucking them, very odd!! lol i have men ask me how many i have met, and i tell them that is none of their business, i think its rudde to even ask. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have a women obsessed with who i met and goes through my verifications to meet the same men then asks them what im like when she fucking them, very odd!! lol i have men ask me how many i have met, and i tell them that is none of their business, i think its rudde to even ask."
My god...not just me then! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone has a different take on verifications and who you have met etc ....
We happily meet unverified and newbies - and those who display or don't display verifications - it really doesn't make any difference to us
However there are those who don't like meeting people with lots of verifications or those who may have met so and so - that's up to them !
Each to their own and as long as you are happy that's all that matters |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's perfectly reasonable to ask someone who hides their veris to un hide one or maybe two so you can check they are reliable veris.
But it's perfectly reasonable to say no to that request if you want to.
It sounds like either nosiness or that there is someone in your area people have a bias against.
Choose exactly how you prefer to do things (I won't cam or give my number out) amend your profile to state this and then if anyone complains you can refer them back to your profile and say the warning is there. If they didn't bother to read it it is not your problem. "
Thank you, have amended my profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It may be us just being naive but wasn't the whole point of verifications there to help people decide who they want to meet?
For instance suppose your strictly a non bareback person/couple and your interested in someone who's profile states the same, yet when you check their verifications they've met lots of bare-backers so you decide not to contact.
Also you wish to meet a straight guy yet his verifications are full of meets with TV/TS.
You've used the information available on the site to decide who you wish to meet, can't see the problem really or the reason for hiding verifications, unless its done to deceive others.
XXXX |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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"It may be us just being naive but wasn't the whole point of verifications there to help people decide who they want to meet?
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A verification is simply that!
Verifying you are who you say you are.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well im a site supporter, been fab approved with pic and verified....is that not enough for some?"
A profile with all these ( +verification tick only) things could be still be a fake esp guys pretending to be girls - I usually ask to see on cam for a secs to put my mind at ease |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It may be us just being naive but wasn't the whole point of verifications there to help people decide who they want to meet?
For instance suppose your strictly a non bareback person/couple and your interested in someone who's profile states the same, yet when you check their verifications they've met lots of bare-backers so you decide not to contact.
Also you wish to meet a straight guy yet his verifications are full of meets with TV/TS.
You've used the information available on the site to decide who you wish to meet, can't see the problem really or the reason for hiding verifications, unless its done to deceive others.
XXXX"
Ok i understand what you mean, i used to be part of a couple on here, one of the reasons i hide mine is because of an ex who tried to black mail me and if he came on this site and saw one particular verification it would make my life hell to be honest...he's already informed my mother that i'm bi-sexual and also used private vids against me, hence why i have no face pics to _iew, only private! |
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Then only put the verification up you want to, so say the latest one or one that just says you turned up, even if it is just to say it was for coffee, that does not incriminate you in any other way but to let people know you are real and will meet up.
Not many people we know have face pics even us, BUT we do have face pics in our private gallery so once we talk to someone/couple and are happy to invite as a friend then they can see who we are.
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"Hi
Just wanted to know if others have experienced the same, is it acceptable for some people on here to ask who ive met already??...i think not myself but seem to get an increasing number of guys asking who i've met and what their names are...i also get alot of questions as to why i don't show my verifications....my answer is....why should i?, i think its a private thing who i choose to meet, so why are some obsessed with wanting to know. Anyone else get this? "
I completely agree with you there - it is nobody's business but yours. |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"No I haven't had this problem. I suppose it's just guys trying to work out if you are genuine. I must admit that I will look at who has verified a profile."
That is my approach too - we all have our own way of doing things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi
Just wanted to know if others have experienced the same, is it acceptable for some people on here to ask who ive met already??...i think not myself but seem to get an increasing number of guys asking who i've met and what their names are...i also get alot of questions as to why i don't show my verifications....my answer is....why should i?, i think its a private thing who i choose to meet, so why are some obsessed with wanting to know. Anyone else get this? I completely agree with you there - it is nobody's business but yours. "
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"Hi
Just wanted to know if others have experienced the same, is it acceptable for some people on here to ask who ive met already??...i think not myself but seem to get an increasing number of guys asking who i've met and what their names are...i also get alot of questions as to why i don't show my verifications....my answer is....why should i?, i think its a private thing who i choose to meet, so why are some obsessed with wanting to know. Anyone else get this? I completely agree with you there - it is nobody's business but yours.
plus another two here "
I like it when you agree with me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We used to get asked this often and my answer sometimes offended. We no longer show are friends list for this reason. We feel personally believe that any person we meet is our and their business. We believe is discretion and no we have nothing to hide. We are select when picking our playmates. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've only once ever asked to see a guys veri's, he had contacted me, I quite fancied him but generally I feel safer knowing they have met others, so I asked politely about it and he declined, so we didn't meet.
I think I had a right to ask, just as he had a right to refuse. Everyone has their own ideas on stuff
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've only once ever asked to see a guys veri's, he had contacted me, I quite fancied him but generally I feel safer knowing they have met others, so I asked politely about it and he declined, so we didn't meet.
I think I had a right to ask, just as he had a right to refuse. Everyone has their own ideas on stuff
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oh, just to make it clearer, I don't mean I was wanting to know list of who he met, just that he 'had' met people |
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"I have a women obsessed with who i met and goes through my verifications to meet the same men then asks them what im like when she fucking them, very odd!! lol i have men ask me how many i have met, and i tell them that is none of their business, i think its rude to even ask.
My god...not just me then!"
I had a woman contact me to discuss the performance of someone we had both met! 
i was courteous, but non-committal as what happens in my meets is between me and my meets only.
I also write veris based on a coffee meet and rarely put any saucy detail in. I also veri guys who I choose not to take things any further with as long as they are as advertised and well kempt and well mannered - he may not be my type, but he may be yours.
But that does mean that if someone was to go by veris that are scattered across male profiles local to me they would have a mistaken _iew of how much and with whom I play...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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IMHO, it is none of my potential new playmates' business whom I had played with in the past.
If a gent insists on knowing, then I would lose interest and decline to meet him.
I have hidden my friends list and verifications from Day 1, and do not appear to have done me any harm.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We used to get asked this often and my answer sometimes offended. We no longer show are friends list for this reason. We feel personally believe that any person we meet is our and their business. We believe is discretion and no we have nothing to hide. We are select when picking our playmates. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's hilarious when people use veri's to 'check up' on who people have met. For example to try to make sure they don't meet someone who has a bareback veri or one for TV/TS.
Because after all, this site is the whole world, right?! If they only have straight veri's on disply then they must be straight....!!? 
I only show coffee meet veri's. Who I meet is my business. I have found that when blokes ask who else I've met then they are jealous/ clingy/ controlling types. I avoid those types. Had them before, don't want them again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never been asked that question, but it's nobody's business who you've met before so tell them not to be so nosey ....
If they don't like that response, tell them to piss off   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Never been asked that question, but it's nobody's business who you've met before so tell them not to be so nosey ....
If they don't like that response, tell them to piss off "
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