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Di you think that swinging can cause cheating in a relationship???
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I guess it's a possibility but I also think there's probably less chance because why would they when they have the freedom to swing anyway (obviously everyone's swinging dynamic is different)
The risk of developing an emotional connection was something that put me off swinging for a long while & it's why my husband and I don't often do repeat meets, exchange telephone numbers, rarely do socials, we are purely here for sex |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If someone is a cheater they will cheat regardless of whether they swing tbh. It's the person not the lifestyle in our opinion"
I disagree. I think it is the circumstances and relationship that makes a "cheater", not necessarily the person. I think society is as dishonest as someone being unfaithful, in expecting unquestioning lifelong monogamy between partners no matter what.
I find the use of the word "cheating" interesting. It implies that a relationship is a game of sorts, presumably with a "winner" and a "loser".
In any case, when someone is being unfaithful, I think it is disingenuous to just blame the unfaithful partner and label them. |
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If someone is a cheater they will cheat regardless of whether they swing tbh. It's the person not the lifestyle in our opinion"
 if it’s in their nature to cheat and sleep around it’s very unlikely they’ll change regardless of the situation or the pain they cause. It will always be their needs before anyone else’s  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't know that it causes cheating but I know for a fact that it certainly doesn't prevent cheating. I've had men from couples that have wanted to meet me in secret without their partner after I've met them both together. I think it's despicable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always wondered if two partners start to swinging together, can cause one or both to cheat?? What’s your view"
In my view, yes. I say this because I was on the receiving end of cheating! |
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over a year ago
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I think there must be a certain amount of jealousy, but I have seen on here singles who used to be couples now just looking for themselves because the relationship has broken down, but not sure if the swinging caused it or not... |
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My hubby didn;t mind me going out before we started swinging but know after seeing how easy i am and what i do with another guys cock hes not so fussy on me going out with the girls but i wouldn't cheat i have no need to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If someone is a cheater they will cheat regardless of whether they swing tbh. It's the person not the lifestyle in our opinion
I disagree. I think it is the circumstances and relationship that makes a "cheater", not necessarily the person. I think society is as dishonest as someone being unfaithful, in expecting unquestioning lifelong monogamy between partners no matter what.
I find the use of the word "cheating" interesting. It implies that a relationship is a game of sorts, presumably with a "winner" and a "loser".
In any case, when someone is being unfaithful, I think it is disingenuous to just blame the unfaithful partner and label them."
I agree! People blame and shame the ‘ cheater’ way to easy! In my previous relationship I cheated, looking back, I see why it happened. |
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"I don't know that it causes cheating but I know for a fact that it certainly doesn't prevent cheating. I've had men from couples that have wanted to meet me in secret without their partner after I've met them both together. I think it's despicable."
this. I would comfortably say that at least half of couples I have met over the years the guy has tried meeting me on the sly later down the line .
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If a couple has trust issues about cheating then swinging is not the thing for them to do
The amount of couples who’ve split up over the years because of cheating is crazy
Why cheat when your in this game with your partner? |
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If it wasn't through Swinging, it would be through Tinder, or down the Winchester.
Cheaters cheat for whatever reason, but personally I'd have thought being in an open relationship would have helped reduce the desire they have, compared to if they were in a monogamous relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If a couple has trust issues about cheating then swinging is not the thing for them to do
The amount of couples who’ve split up over the years because of cheating is crazy
Why cheat when your in this game with your partner? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Another thing as we would be seeking a MFM I wouldn't let him have my wife's number or any social media etc. I'd deal with him through my own number or kik etc. I just couldn't even imagine my wife cheating she isn't the type and we do this for the right reason because our relationship is strong. Can't do it if you relationship isn't 100% great |
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Can it cause it? Yes of course. No different from a non swinging relationship in that regards.
Personally we've been swinging together for 26 years and never felt the urge to cheat. We play together and are also both free to meet separately (and do). Our dynamic is maybe a bit different than some couples but my wife genuinlyloves me being with other women with or without her there just as she likes being with other women with or without me there. We also enjoy meeting couples and parties and all the rest.
We've built a life together and swinging adds to it rather than gives us something we are missing. We follow 2 pretty simple rules that work for us. 1) Always communicate what is happening and with who. 2) The other can veto any meets no questions asked.
Never been an issue for us but again, we know not many couples are like us or even been swinging as long as us.
Unfortunetly there are a growing amount of people on fab that automatically assume a person with a partner playing solo is cheating these days but that's just fab for you I guess. |
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I am not part of a couple but as the third party I have pretty much universally heard that swinging has made their relationship stronger.
Every couple I play with tells me that watching her with another guy just strengthens them. I guess if you relationship is good then it makes it better and if your relationship wasn’t then it doesn’t. |
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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago
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If someone is a cheater they will cheat regardless of whether they swing tbh. It's the person not the lifestyle in our opinion
I disagree. I think it is the circumstances and relationship that makes a "cheater", not necessarily the person. I think society is as dishonest as someone being unfaithful, in expecting unquestioning lifelong monogamy between partners no matter what.
I find the use of the word "cheating" interesting. It implies that a relationship is a game of sorts, presumably with a "winner" and a "loser".
In any case, when someone is being unfaithful, I think it is disingenuous to just blame the unfaithful partner and label them."
You make an interesting point and one with some merit. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Cheating will happen whether you are swinger or not. If the people are that way inclined. But we have found the swinging as brought us closer together and more open about are relationship.
But on the the other hand the number of males on here posing as singles are in relationships. So they are all cheating  |
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"I am not part of a couple but as the third party I have pretty much universally heard that swinging has made their relationship stronger.
Every couple I play with tells me that watching her with another guy just strengthens them. I guess if you relationship is good then it makes it better and if your relationship wasn’t then it doesn’t."
I agree with you, swinging is in my opinion not a quick fix to help a bad relationship, it such be something that makes a good relationship better.
Neither of us use swinging to help prevent cheating, we do it because we love group sex, watching each other etc.
Cheaters will cheat. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am not part of a couple but as the third party I have pretty much universally heard that swinging has made their relationship stronger.
Every couple I play with tells me that watching her with another guy just strengthens them. I guess if you relationship is good then it makes it better and if your relationship wasn’t then it doesn’t.
I agree with you, swinging is in my opinion not a quick fix to help a bad relationship, it such be something that makes a good relationship better.
Neither of us use swinging to help prevent cheating, we do it because we love group sex, watching each other etc.
Cheaters will cheat. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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weak relationships yes so much can go wrong .. too many swing to repair things and of course is totally the wrong way to swing ..only strong together couples have lasting swinging relationships
the only reason couples are blocked by us on here is the amount of male halfs who ask to meet without there partner knowing is massive ... we only meet couples via clubs bnecause of this |
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"I don't know that it causes cheating but I know for a fact that it certainly doesn't prevent cheating. I've had men from couples that have wanted to meet me in secret without their partner after I've met them both together. I think it's despicable."
This. Happens a lot. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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Swinging could mean they meet more people to have the opportunity to cheat.
I doubt my ex would have had an affair if the person he was seeing didn't move back into the area.
Sometimes opportunities to good to refuse turn up.
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I’d say yes
Temptation is the start. Swinging just leaves more room for it.
2 people madly in love that never look at other people?
Vs 2 people madly in love but are constantly swapping fluids with other people they find equally or more attractive than their current partner?
Seems pretty obvious to me that a swinging lifestyle leaves space for temptation, jealousy, competition and lies |
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"I’d say yes
Temptation is the start. Swinging just leaves more room for it.
2 people madly in love that never look at other people?
Vs 2 people madly in love but are constantly swapping fluids with other people they find equally or more attractive than their current partner?
Seems pretty obvious to me that a swinging lifestyle leaves space for temptation, jealousy, competition and lies "
Did your swinging relationship end badly? |
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"I’d say yes
Temptation is the start. Swinging just leaves more room for it.
2 people madly in love that never look at other people?
Vs 2 people madly in love but are constantly swapping fluids with other people they find equally or more attractive than their current partner?
Seems pretty obvious to me that a swinging lifestyle leaves space for temptation, jealousy, competition and lies
Did your swinging relationship end badly? "
No, did yours? |
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The old saying "the grass is always greener where you water it most" is never truer than in swinging. You meet people who are always on their best behaviour, never having an off day, always wearing their best clothes, cheerful, you don't have to pick up behind them or make sure they've got water in their windscreen washer bottles. It's easy to pay them more attention, think of them more favourably, imagine that a life with them would be sooo much easier and more fun.
It's still people that cause cheating though, swinging is just one of many ways to facilitate it. |
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I think with us we are so open with each about it we both don't mind each other having relationship with others so cheating never becomes a issue.
He is happy for me to see others and I am happy for him to see others.
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We’ve always been very open with each other and swinging has only opened us up more to each other.
As said above it will happen in any relationship but for us it’s only brought us closer and we have complete trust each other.
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"I’d say yes
Temptation is the start. Swinging just leaves more room for it.
2 people madly in love that never look at other people?
Vs 2 people madly in love but are constantly swapping fluids with other people they find equally or more attractive than their current partner?
Seems pretty obvious to me that a swinging lifestyle leaves space for temptation, jealousy, competition and lies
Did your swinging relationship end badly?
No, did yours? "
Just thought you sounded bitter about it. No awesome thanks |
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"I’d say yes
Temptation is the start. Swinging just leaves more room for it.
2 people madly in love that never look at other people?
Vs 2 people madly in love but are constantly swapping fluids with other people they find equally or more attractive than their current partner?
Seems pretty obvious to me that a swinging lifestyle leaves space for temptation, jealousy, competition and lies
Did your swinging relationship end badly?
No, did yours?
Just thought you sounded bitter about it. No awesome thanks "
Bitter? No, sadly I feel you’ve either misunderstood my position, or I’ve sadly hit a nerve
It’s just my opinion, don’t let the opinions of strangers online effect you so much |
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"I’d say yes
Temptation is the start. Swinging just leaves more room for it.
2 people madly in love that never look at other people?
Vs 2 people madly in love but are constantly swapping fluids with other people they find equally or more attractive than their current partner?
Seems pretty obvious to me that a swinging lifestyle leaves space for temptation, jealousy, competition and lies
Did your swinging relationship end badly?
No, did yours?
Just thought you sounded bitter about it. No awesome thanks
Bitter? No, sadly I feel you’ve either misunderstood my position, or I’ve sadly hit a nerve
It’s just my opinion, don’t let the opinions of strangers online effect you so much "
No nerve hit and honestly I’m not affected at all, more generally wondering. I’ve clearly misunderstood your position. |
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"I’d say yes
Temptation is the start. Swinging just leaves more room for it.
2 people madly in love that never look at other people?
Vs 2 people madly in love but are constantly swapping fluids with other people they find equally or more attractive than their current partner?
Seems pretty obvious to me that a swinging lifestyle leaves space for temptation, jealousy, competition and lies "
Why are here if you feel that you could potentially be ruining a relationship ?
Personally when we have full swamped with couples or involved a single man it’s about seeing each other enjoying the experience. Would definitely say we’re madly in love and nothing has changed since starting swinging.
I spend a lot of time working away from home and being the only one I know of that’s into this lifestyle I’m probably one of the few that I work with that hasn’t gone on tinder or another app looking for casual sex while I’m away. I get to listen to married guys talk about their relationship at home and making excuses about how it’s gone stale and they don’t do it anymore. |
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"I’d say yes
Temptation is the start. Swinging just leaves more room for it.
2 people madly in love that never look at other people?
Vs 2 people madly in love but are constantly swapping fluids with other people they find equally or more attractive than their current partner?
Seems pretty obvious to me that a swinging lifestyle leaves space for temptation, jealousy, competition and lies
Why are here if you feel that you could potentially be ruining a relationship ?
Personally when we have full swamped with couples or involved a single man it’s about seeing each other enjoying the experience. Would definitely say we’re madly in love and nothing has changed since starting swinging.
I spend a lot of time working away from home and being the only one I know of that’s into this lifestyle I’m probably one of the few that I work with that hasn’t gone on tinder or another app looking for casual sex while I’m away. I get to listen to married guys talk about their relationship at home and making excuses about how it’s gone stale and they don’t do it anymore. "
It’s not my responsibility to maintain other peoples relationships and I’m not only here to meet couples.
It would be ridiculous to place the blame of a failed swinging relationship on the only person that’s not in that relationship
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"I’d say yes
Temptation is the start. Swinging just leaves more room for it.
2 people madly in love that never look at other people?
Vs 2 people madly in love but are constantly swapping fluids with other people they find equally or more attractive than their current partner?
Seems pretty obvious to me that a swinging lifestyle leaves space for temptation, jealousy, competition and lies
Why are here if you feel that you could potentially be ruining a relationship ?
Personally when we have full swamped with couples or involved a single man it’s about seeing each other enjoying the experience. Would definitely say we’re madly in love and nothing has changed since starting swinging.
I spend a lot of time working away from home and being the only one I know of that’s into this lifestyle I’m probably one of the few that I work with that hasn’t gone on tinder or another app looking for casual sex while I’m away. I get to listen to married guys talk about their relationship at home and making excuses about how it’s gone stale and they don’t do it anymore.
It’s not my responsibility to maintain other peoples relationships and I’m not only here to meet couples.
It would be ridiculous to place the blame of a failed swinging relationship on the only person that’s not in that relationship
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Didn’t say it was your responsibility to maintain a relationship but obviously don’t have the respect to be invited to be involved sexually into one of that the attitude.
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"I’d say yes
Temptation is the start. Swinging just leaves more room for it.
2 people madly in love that never look at other people?
Vs 2 people madly in love but are constantly swapping fluids with other people they find equally or more attractive than their current partner?
Seems pretty obvious to me that a swinging lifestyle leaves space for temptation, jealousy, competition and lies
Why are here if you feel that you could potentially be ruining a relationship ?
Personally when we have full swamped with couples or involved a single man it’s about seeing each other enjoying the experience. Would definitely say we’re madly in love and nothing has changed since starting swinging.
I spend a lot of time working away from home and being the only one I know of that’s into this lifestyle I’m probably one of the few that I work with that hasn’t gone on tinder or another app looking for casual sex while I’m away. I get to listen to married guys talk about their relationship at home and making excuses about how it’s gone stale and they don’t do it anymore.
It’s not my responsibility to maintain other peoples relationships and I’m not only here to meet couples.
It would be ridiculous to place the blame of a failed swinging relationship on the only person that’s not in that relationship
Didn’t say it was your responsibility to maintain a relationship but obviously don’t have the respect to be invited to be involved sexually into one of that the attitude.
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Well in short, I’m here because I don’t think that’s my problem. I think adults should be allowed to make adult decision. It could go well, it could go bad. And if it wasn’t me, it’ll be someone else. I’ve had nothing but good experiences with couples, what happens when I leave it between those 2 adults. |
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