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How did you build up the courage for your first meet?
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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago
Coventry |
Try to chat a bit first, prob speak on the phone before meeting to know that you can converse and then it may be easier face to face. Our 1st experience was a few years ago, the guy was not as he was pictured and described and this was awkward. Hindsight should of asked for a recent pic to know who you're meeting. No expectation or pressure and treat as a social and see from there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Omg i was terrified... Met in an hotel after being given a postcode enroute...
Instructions were to kik when arrived. Realised i was parked opposite his car, so i knew he was there
He called and told me to take as long as i needed to leave my car /collect myself.. I took so many deep breaths and in the end thought what's the worst that could happen... Decided axe murderer... So went back to take a picture of his car+reg just in case 
Had a major fit of giggles in reception picking up a key to meet my 'husband'  it was so bad the receptionist was also in a fit of giggles
Started to relax in the lift /or stairs i forget now, caused a stir as i passed a family group.. Managed to whip my trousers off in the corridor so i was wearing lace dress.. Gulped a bit more outside the door.. The rest is history  |
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"Omg i was terrified... Met in an hotel after being given a postcode enroute...
Instructions were to kik when arrived. Realised i was parked opposite his car, so i knew he was there
He called and told me to take as long as i needed to leave my car /collect myself.. I took so many deep breaths and in the end thought what's the worst that could happen... Decided axe murderer... So went back to take a picture of his car+reg just in case
Had a major fit of giggles in reception picking up a key to meet my 'husband' it was so bad the receptionist was also in a fit of giggles
Started to relax in the lift /or stairs i forget now, caused a stir as i passed a family group.. Managed to whip my trousers off in the corridor so i was wearing lace dress.. Gulped a bit more outside the door.. The rest is history "
The axe murderer fear is exactly why I went for a pub. Lots of people, lots of exit routes. lol |
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She called me up to chat and mentioned her friend had let her down for the cinema, I could tell she was fishing so offered to step in. An hour later she was picking me up outside my military base. I was nervous and she put me at ease on the drive. She parked in a secluded corner and proceeded to go down on me. She tried really hard to make me cum, but I was too nervous. We had a fumble in the cinema too, and afterward she stopped on the way back for more fun.
You just have to make the leap, and chances are you'll be rewarded! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I quite like the nerves/excitement of a first meet.
I like to chat first but move to a social quickly.
I find the longer this stage goes on the more nervous I can become so the sooner the better.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It all happened naturally for us. We were away in Manchester stopping in a hotel got drinking with this guy who I found attractive. Husband had always had these fantasies of sharing me with another guy. So I said your fantasies are going to become reality. That's how it started  |
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By *ebbie69Couple
over a year ago
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First ever time I was really really nervous but had the excitement too. I enjoyed the build up and getting ready like a giggly teenager. It was a social in a pub and luckily they were as nervous as me which in a way helped somehow |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's to easy to over think a subject so my best advice would be jump right in as the more pressure you put on yourself the more likely you are not to enjoy yourself when it happens.
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We had a couple of socials with another new couple. Then organised an evening of drinks at theirs, played a couple of swing board games to get things rolling and then took things upstairs. Worked for us. |
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We'd been chatting and calling for a while and she eventually convinced me to meet at a hotel. I was really nervous and showed up several hours early but checked in anyway. When the knock on the door came I opened it and let her in. I was just wondering what the hell to do next but as soon as I turned around she was kissing me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Met on a park bench in public. Plenty of 'escape route's if it doesn't go to plan. That was just a social.
Cant really remember who my first 'meet' meet was with. That's pretty bad isn't it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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99% of the time it's always a social be it coffee or a bite to eat. In the right surroundings there's little need for nerves as its just two like minded people catching up for a chat. |
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My first UK meet was surreal. Arranged to meet a couple in a pub. Turned up, only hubby was in the car.
Drove behind hubby back to theirs. Had a lovely social in the lounge and an hour later the wife just told me to get upstairs.....
Really took me off guard but naturally I was happy to oblige |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My first was one of the terrifying times I’ve been through…. However keep the nerve, I’m so glad I didn’t back out. It’s created a new side of me I needed to let out!! |
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First meet was a baptisum of fire!
We were miles from home only two messages in said we are either doing this or we are not.
1st FF
1st time in a swing
1st time with a wand
1st time spit roast
1st mulipul gushing
Kept our one rule but nothing else giddy from then to now!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don’t remember feeling nervous about it, although I was concerned about whether the ‘couple’ actually existed, and I would end up propping up the bar with some random bloke. After a 75 mile drive that would be one expensive pint of Guinness, so was prepared to make the most of it.
Turns out I was lucky and they were a lovely couple, the conversation flowed and we all enjoyed our first MFM together - albeit a week later. |
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