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Why do single males get stereotyped and ignored
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Hi I've been on here for quite a long time and not had much luck on meeting people I either get ignored deleted or blocked if I message people im polite and friendly is it me or is single males stereotyped I understand there are some single males that aren't pleasant ie pushy etc is it something I've done or not done |
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"Hi I've been on here for quite a long time and not had much luck on meeting people I either get ignored deleted or blocked if I message people im polite and friendly is it me or is single males stereotyped I understand there are some single males that aren't pleasant ie pushy etc is it something I've done or not done "
If you saw the types of messages we get then I think it would become obvious very quickly |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Hi I've been on here for quite a long time and not had much luck on meeting people I either get ignored deleted or blocked if I message people im polite and friendly is it me or is single males stereotyped I understand there are some single males that aren't pleasant ie pushy etc is it something I've done or not done "
Hi op
It's nothing to do with stereotyped everyone has a preference and if you're not getting a response obviously your not theirs it goes Both ways but getting blocked just stops the hassle having to explain why just accept and move forward
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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago
Sheffield |
"Single males do not all get ignored. I chat to them all the time. Maybe it’s something else about you that people don’t like.
How do people get to know someone if they don't chat or reply "
It mainly down to numbers . Far too many guys . Always been the case. Find another way, go to a club when single guys are allowed and just chat to people with no intention of play. Just make friends.
No matter what you do or say on here , someone will be along to complain. |
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"Hi I've been on here for quite a long time and not had much luck on meeting people I either get ignored deleted or blocked if I message people im polite and friendly is it me or is single males stereotyped I understand there are some single males that aren't pleasant ie pushy etc is it something I've done or not done
If you saw the types of messages we get then I think it would become obvious very quickly"
I get there are people that push things but not all single males are like that is it fair to the honest single males or would it be fair to treat single males like anybody else and if they get over the top block button |
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"Single males do not all get ignored. I chat to them all the time. Maybe it’s something else about you that people don’t like.
How do people get to know someone if they don't chat or reply
It mainly down to numbers . Far too many guys . Always been the case. Find another way, go to a club when single guys are allowed and just chat to people with no intention of play. Just make friends.
No matter what you do or say on here , someone will be along to complain. "
i get what your saying and I never have expectations that way I don't get disappointed |
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Doubt it's anything specific, mate (tho' I agree you might want to think about the profile text): us single guys are ten a penny on here.
Just got to be yourself and hope you connect with people as you go - just like in the "real world", you can't force it and I personally don't think there's any magic formula. Win some, lose some. Chin up! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I didnt see your original profile but i would definitely not respond if that is the level of effort you put into a profile
If you cant make the effort with a profile im not going to waste time trying to figure out if you have a personality that attracts me |
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"To be fair OP there’s a lot of guys on here that would say you’ve not been doing too badly to have received eleven verifications."
11 verifications from 6 years I don't want to have everyone just someone if that makes sense |
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I do well as a single male.. just got to not expect too much. if you go to clubs then you get plenty of chances there to make friends and have fun.
if you sit on here and message filth and dick pics then maybe another reason you get ignored ( not saying you do but its just a theory) |
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It has nothing to do with stereotypes it's a simple numbers game
There's over 100 guys to every couple or single lady on here meaning most guys will unfortunately struggle on here as it's simply impossible for all those messages to get read or responded to let alone meets be had
Every women would need to meet twice a week to give every guy one meet a year, it's just not going to happen
As others have said have a look at your own profile, are you really selling yourself the best way possible, your bio is a bit woe is me which isn't attractive |
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"I didnt see your original profile but i would definitely not respond if that is the level of effort you put into a profile
If you cant make the effort with a profile im not going to waste time trying to figure out if you have a personality that attracts me"
I do put lots of effort into things I will rewrite my profile in more detail I'm not blowing my trumpet but I'm very outgoing and a happy person I guess I'm missing giving gentle touches and feeling the excitement |
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"I do well as a single male.. just got to not expect too much. if you go to clubs then you get plenty of chances there to make friends and have fun.
if you sit on here and message filth and dick pics then maybe another reason you get ignored ( not saying you do but its just a theory)"
I don't send pics I do have lots of respect |
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"I didnt see your original profile but i would definitely not respond if that is the level of effort you put into a profile
If you cant make the effort with a profile im not going to waste time trying to figure out if you have a personality that attracts me
I do put lots of effort into things I will rewrite my profile in more detail I'm not blowing my trumpet but I'm very outgoing and a happy person I guess I'm missing giving gentle touches and feeling the excitement "
That's not coming accross from this post or your profile
The one line bio is not an improvement on the negative one that was there beforehand
You need to sell yourself, why should someone over the other 100 guys that are messaging them, what are your sexual likes and dislikes, how would I know if we are sexually compatible from your profile |
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"To be fair OP there’s a lot of guys on here that would say you’ve not been doing too badly to have received eleven verifications.
I thought this, also last verification was 4 weeks ago  "
I have no clue about the 4 weeks ago verification last I had was 2020 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To be fair OP there’s a lot of guys on here that would say you’ve not been doing too badly to have received eleven verifications.
I thought this, also last verification was 4 weeks ago "
Saw the verifications. First thing I thought was some men haven't had any meets yet. Mrs x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don’t take this the wrong way but are you really 46? I know people have fab ages but it’s fucking stupid
Fab ages (decrease)
Fab heights (increase)
I understand this probably doesn’t help. Am sure there is someone for you somewhere in fab world  |
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"Don’t take this the wrong way but are you really 46? I know people have fab ages but it’s fucking stupid
Fab ages (decrease)
Fab heights (increase)
I understand this probably doesn’t help. Am sure there is someone for you somewhere in fab world "
Hi yes sadly I am 46 I am 47 in August |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe the recipients of your messages don't all fancy you?
Thats allowed.
Doesn't matter how friendly and polite your message is, if someone isn't attracted to you, then they don't have to reply let alone arrange to meet.
I read on here often about oh I send good messages out... and ? Doesn't guarantee anything.
Nothings guaranteed on here.
You've been verified 11 times, you clearly go to clubs (as per your status) ,just enjoy using the site and have no expectations of replies or meets. |
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"Maybe the recipients of your messages don't all fancy you?
Thats allowed.
Doesn't matter how friendly and polite your message is, if someone isn't attracted to you, then they don't have to reply let alone arrange to meet.
I read on here often about oh I send good messages out... and ? Doesn't guarantee anything.
Nothings guaranteed on here.
You've been verified 11 times, you clearly go to clubs (as per your status) ,just enjoy using the site and have no expectations of replies or meets. "
I don't remember saying it was an expectation to get replies and also never said that things are allowed or not im no dictator can you point out where I suggested these please |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, you didn't say it, it's what I believe you were insinuating.
You mention single males being stereotyped... in what way does you not getting replies indicate single males are stereotyped on here ? |
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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago
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"Maybe the recipients of your messages don't all fancy you?
Thats allowed.
Doesn't matter how friendly and polite your message is, if someone isn't attracted to you, then they don't have to reply let alone arrange to meet.
I read on here often about oh I send good messages out... and ? Doesn't guarantee anything.
Nothings guaranteed on here.
You've been verified 11 times, you clearly go to clubs (as per your status) ,just enjoy using the site and have no expectations of replies or meets. "
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"No, you didn't say it, it's what I believe you were insinuating.
You mention single males being stereotyped... in what way does you not getting replies indicate single males are stereotyped on here ? "
Asking as the replies that i do get are sometimes abusive or you see profiles saying not looking for single males (which is allowed) but is there profiles saying (no single females allowed) I've not seen 1 yet lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You are one of probably 25,000 guys here
Single males are the biggest group and, quite often, the least sought
So, the odds aren't great to start with
Then add in the number of guys here that tick boxes in looks and physique
Those that are looking for single men will tend towards these to start with
The odds just get lower
Then throw in a less than attractive profile
I'm not giving advice because you haven't asked for it, but you see where I'm going with this?
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The other thing is, just because you message people you are not guaranteed a reply
That's just the way of the site
I don't believe it's impolite to not reply |
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"You can't blame stereotyping or the collective actions of single males on here for your own failures.
It will be down to you and your actions alone."
I don't agree as I do know some single males are pushy and not respectful and people see this as the norm towards single males then ignore single males
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I’d say the majority of single men on the site will see themselves as ‘honest, decent, genuine etc…’ even the actual time wasters.
I’ve also seen these threads started by guys complaining that in the real world they never struggle meeting women, but on here they’re all stuck up. When you look at their pictures you can quite believe them.
It’ll always be down to three things in my opinion.
1. A good profile and that includes the text.
2. Your locality, some guy in central London will have a better chance than the guy living in the Scottish Highlands.
3. Messages, are they to the right people (read their profile properly) ? or actually any good as interesting to read ?
I actually think you’ve done well, normally these posts are started by guys who’ve been on the site for less than 6 months and have no verifications. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"Hi I've been on here for quite a long time and not had much luck on meeting people I either get ignored deleted or blocked if I message people im polite and friendly is it me or is single males stereotyped I understand there are some single males that aren't pleasant ie pushy etc is it something I've done or not done "
They don’t… you don’t determine how I do on here… and my actions don’t determine your fate!!!
What you do is on you and you alone!!! No one else! |
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"I didnt see your original profile but i would definitely not respond if that is the level of effort you put into a profile
If you cant make the effort with a profile im not going to waste time trying to figure out if you have a personality that attracts me"
this so right.
You need to stand out, if you don't, work on it to do so. Go to socials or clubs, the opportunity is there. |
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"You can't blame stereotyping or the collective actions of single males on here for your own failures.
It will be down to you and your actions alone.
I don't agree as I do know some single males are pushy and not respectful and people see this as the norm towards single males then ignore single males
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If your success or lack of it isn't down to yourself then who's fault is it?
You take your pics, you create your profile, you choose who to message, you choose what yo write. Where does a third party influence your contribution?
I'm not trying to be cruel or harsh but if you can't see that how you are seen or perceived is the main influence in how people on here will respond to you then you will always struggle. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You can't blame stereotyping or the collective actions of single males on here for your own failures.
It will be down to you and your actions alone.
I don't agree as I do know some single males are pushy and not respectful and people see this as the norm towards single males then ignore single males
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No.
They're not ignoring, just being selective and applying their preferences as to who they make contact with.
Work on your actions and don't lay the blame with others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m actually getting fed up of these threads and I’m really sorry guys saying they get no traction on her 
This is not levelled at you OP but males In general. Be realistic…no matter what faff you have in your profile women won’t message if they are not attracted to your pics or you physically initially. Now in clubs I guess you have a better chance because you can actually speak and body language abs other factors come into it which women love.
My profile is utter shit and I’m so sorry this is gonna sound arrogant but I get women message me and winks and whatnot. Women are just as shallow as guys. I have virtually zero text in fact I’m telling them to bugger off lol
Try and do some other types of pics mate and use what you have …try and tease anyone that looks at your profile . But women won’t message back unless there is an initial attraction no matter what stuff is in your profile
I could be way off the mark here and I’m probably gonna get lynched sorry. It’s just reading loads of these types of threads yours unfortunately got the brunt of it OP. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In short mate be more creative with your pictures ..you’re a decent looking guy . The profile text I find doesn’t actually make a difference no one really reads it on here men or women haha |
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"I’m actually getting fed up of these threads and I’m really sorry guys saying they get no traction on her
This is not levelled at you OP but males In general. Be realistic…no matter what faff you have in your profile women won’t message if they are not attracted to your pics or you physically initially. Now in clubs I guess you have a better chance because you can actually speak and body language abs other factors come into it which women love.
My profile is utter shit and I’m so sorry this is gonna sound arrogant but I get women message me and winks and whatnot. Women are just as shallow as guys. I have virtually zero text in fact I’m telling them to bugger off lol
Try and do some other types of pics mate and use what you have …try and tease anyone that looks at your profile . But women won’t message back unless there is an initial attraction no matter what stuff is in your profile
I could be way off the mark here and I’m probably gonna get lynched sorry. It’s just reading loads of these types of threads yours unfortunately got the brunt of it OP. "
I know its not personal.. I ask this question if you hot loads of messages with dick pics or pushy messages would you block single males I do know a lot of single males have got a bad rep for doing this most female profiles suggest this also |
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"In short mate be more creative with your pictures ..you’re a decent looking guy . The profile text I find doesn’t actually make a difference no one really reads it on here men or women haha "
Haha I see that a lot I do read them tbh I find them interesting sadly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So if a female gets hundreds of dick pics from single males or pushy messages would a female consider blocking single males "
We do get a lot of dick pics,despite it saying our profile we don't want them
Yes we block alot of people,not just men. But some want the dick pics.
It's all about personal preference.
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"So if a female gets hundreds of dick pics from single males or pushy messages would a female consider blocking single males
We do get a lot of dick pics,despite it saying our profile we don't want them
Yes we block alot of people,not just men. But some want the dick pics.
It's all about personal preference.
Mrs x"
everything is personal choice i understand that and do you see my point does it put you off single males |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m actually getting fed up of these threads and I’m really sorry guys saying they get no traction on her
This is not levelled at you OP but males In general. Be realistic…no matter what faff you have in your profile women won’t message if they are not attracted to your pics or you physically initially. Now in clubs I guess you have a better chance because you can actually speak and body language abs other factors come into it which women love.
My profile is utter shit and I’m so sorry this is gonna sound arrogant but I get women message me and winks and whatnot. Women are just as shallow as guys. I have virtually zero text in fact I’m telling them to bugger off lol
Try and do some other types of pics mate and use what you have …try and tease anyone that looks at your profile . But women won’t message back unless there is an initial attraction no matter what stuff is in your profile
I could be way off the mark here and I’m probably gonna get lynched sorry. It’s just reading loads of these types of threads yours unfortunately got the brunt of it OP.
I know its not personal.. I ask this question if you hot loads of messages with dick pics or pushy messages would you block single males I do know a lot of single males have got a bad rep for doing this most female profiles suggest this also "
But your initial post is about not getting replies to your messages, not about women who have blocked men from messaging?
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"I’m actually getting fed up of these threads and I’m really sorry guys saying they get no traction on her
This is not levelled at you OP but males In general. Be realistic…no matter what faff you have in your profile women won’t message if they are not attracted to your pics or you physically initially. Now in clubs I guess you have a better chance because you can actually speak and body language abs other factors come into it which women love.
My profile is utter shit and I’m so sorry this is gonna sound arrogant but I get women message me and winks and whatnot. Women are just as shallow as guys. I have virtually zero text in fact I’m telling them to bugger off lol
Try and do some other types of pics mate and use what you have …try and tease anyone that looks at your profile . But women won’t message back unless there is an initial attraction no matter what stuff is in your profile
I could be way off the mark here and I’m probably gonna get lynched sorry. It’s just reading loads of these types of threads yours unfortunately got the brunt of it OP.
I know its not personal.. I ask this question if you hot loads of messages with dick pics or pushy messages would you block single males I do know a lot of single males have got a bad rep for doing this most female profiles suggest this also
But your initial post is about not getting replies to your messages, not about women who have blocked men from messaging?
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no my initial post is about single males getting stereotyped as in people don't want to meet single males |
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"I’m actually getting fed up of these threads and I’m really sorry guys saying they get no traction on her
This is not levelled at you OP but males In general. Be realistic…no matter what faff you have in your profile women won’t message if they are not attracted to your pics or you physically initially. Now in clubs I guess you have a better chance because you can actually speak and body language abs other factors come into it which women love.
My profile is utter shit and I’m so sorry this is gonna sound arrogant but I get women message me and winks and whatnot. Women are just as shallow as guys. I have virtually zero text in fact I’m telling them to bugger off lol
Try and do some other types of pics mate and use what you have …try and tease anyone that looks at your profile . But women won’t message back unless there is an initial attraction no matter what stuff is in your profile
I could be way off the mark here and I’m probably gonna get lynched sorry. It’s just reading loads of these types of threads yours unfortunately got the brunt of it OP.
I know its not personal.. I ask this question if you hot loads of messages with dick pics or pushy messages would you block single males I do know a lot of single males have got a bad rep for doing this most female profiles suggest this also
But your initial post is about not getting replies to your messages, not about women who have blocked men from messaging?
Tbh I'm not sure which way this chat is going to go next!
Mrs x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have seen the type of messages that men send women on here and they are sickening ..constant abuse and entitlement about them being ‘slurs’ and gross requests. Also it’s relentless non stop messages of just shyte from guys saying
Hi
Then a dick pic attached
So it’s not any wonder a lot of women totally ignore the men on here really
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
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"So if a female gets hundreds of dick pics from single males or pushy messages would a female consider blocking single males "
No. They block the idiots sending dick pics and unpleasant messages and are pleased to receive friendly pleasant messages. They then look at the profile to check where the person lives, the age range they are looking for and read the gents profile text to get an indication of what they're looking for and the persons personality and check out their range of photos.
I suggest you read this through again and act on the advise people are giving you, instead of trying to blame all the other single men on the site which seems to be your current stance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We disagree with your premise.
Perhaps you are messaging profiles whose stated preferences you don’t meet?
Also your bio seems quite brief and ends on a negative whiny note. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m actually getting fed up of these threads and I’m really sorry guys saying they get no traction on her
This is not levelled at you OP but males In general. Be realistic…no matter what faff you have in your profile women won’t message if they are not attracted to your pics or you physically initially. Now in clubs I guess you have a better chance because you can actually speak and body language abs other factors come into it which women love.
My profile is utter shit and I’m so sorry this is gonna sound arrogant but I get women message me and winks and whatnot. Women are just as shallow as guys. I have virtually zero text in fact I’m telling them to bugger off lol
Try and do some other types of pics mate and use what you have …try and tease anyone that looks at your profile . But women won’t message back unless there is an initial attraction no matter what stuff is in your profile
I could be way off the mark here and I’m probably gonna get lynched sorry. It’s just reading loads of these types of threads yours unfortunately got the brunt of it OP.
I know its not personal.. I ask this question if you hot loads of messages with dick pics or pushy messages would you block single males I do know a lot of single males have got a bad rep for doing this most female profiles suggest this also
But your initial post is about not getting replies to your messages, not about women who have blocked men from messaging?
no my initial post is about single males getting stereotyped as in people don't want to meet single males"
But they DO want to meet single males ???
Youre a single male , and people have met you
Your post is because certain people you message don't want to meet you.
Which is allowed and ok |
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"I’m actually getting fed up of these threads and I’m really sorry guys saying they get no traction on her
This is not levelled at you OP but males In general. Be realistic…no matter what faff you have in your profile women won’t message if they are not attracted to your pics or you physically initially. Now in clubs I guess you have a better chance because you can actually speak and body language abs other factors come into it which women love.
My profile is utter shit and I’m so sorry this is gonna sound arrogant but I get women message me and winks and whatnot. Women are just as shallow as guys. I have virtually zero text in fact I’m telling them to bugger off lol
Try and do some other types of pics mate and use what you have …try and tease anyone that looks at your profile . But women won’t message back unless there is an initial attraction no matter what stuff is in your profile
I could be way off the mark here and I’m probably gonna get lynched sorry. It’s just reading loads of these types of threads yours unfortunately got the brunt of it OP.
I know its not personal.. I ask this question if you hot loads of messages with dick pics or pushy messages would you block single males I do know a lot of single males have got a bad rep for doing this most female profiles suggest this also
But your initial post is about not getting replies to your messages, not about women who have blocked men from messaging?
Tbh I'm not sure which way this chat is going to go next!
Mrs x
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Thanks Mrs x I placed this post originally to find answers to my questions lol I appreciate your input |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sluts not slurs
I have a friend who has screenshot her mailbox and it’s pretty sickening to be honest and 90 percent of the messages outside of the abusive horrible ones are just ‘hi’ or ‘what you up to sexy’ or a copy and paste with a dick pic attached …I’m talking hundreds after hundreds of the same boring shite.
If I was a woman on here I’d ignore men. Lol |
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"I’m actually getting fed up of these threads and I’m really sorry guys saying they get no traction on her
This is not levelled at you OP but males In general. Be realistic…no matter what faff you have in your profile women won’t message if they are not attracted to your pics or you physically initially. Now in clubs I guess you have a better chance because you can actually speak and body language abs other factors come into it which women love.
My profile is utter shit and I’m so sorry this is gonna sound arrogant but I get women message me and winks and whatnot. Women are just as shallow as guys. I have virtually zero text in fact I’m telling them to bugger off lol
Try and do some other types of pics mate and use what you have …try and tease anyone that looks at your profile . But women won’t message back unless there is an initial attraction no matter what stuff is in your profile
I could be way off the mark here and I’m probably gonna get lynched sorry. It’s just reading loads of these types of threads yours unfortunately got the brunt of it OP.
I know its not personal.. I ask this question if you hot loads of messages with dick pics or pushy messages would you block single males I do know a lot of single males have got a bad rep for doing this most female profiles suggest this also
But your initial post is about not getting replies to your messages, not about women who have blocked men from messaging?
no my initial post is about single males getting stereotyped as in people don't want to meet single males
But they DO want to meet single males ???
Youre a single male , and people have met you
Your post is because certain people you message don't want to meet you.
Which is allowed and ok "
again I know its allowed and ok to not want to chat reply or meet etc you take a look at female profiles most I see are not meeting single males (which is ok) is this because single males have gained a bad rep and is all single males stereotyped and ignored cos of the minority |
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"Sluts not slurs
I have a friend who has screenshot her mailbox and it’s pretty sickening to be honest and 90 percent of the messages outside of the abusive horrible ones are just ‘hi’ or ‘what you up to sexy’ or a copy and paste with a dick pic attached …I’m talking hundreds after hundreds of the same boring shite.
If I was a woman on here I’d ignore men. Lol"
exactly my point because if those has it put your friend off replying to single males |
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over a year ago
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"I’m actually getting fed up of these threads and I’m really sorry guys saying they get no traction on her
This is not levelled at you OP but males In general. Be realistic…no matter what faff you have in your profile women won’t message if they are not attracted to your pics or you physically initially. Now in clubs I guess you have a better chance because you can actually speak and body language abs other factors come into it which women love.
My profile is utter shit and I’m so sorry this is gonna sound arrogant but I get women message me and winks and whatnot. Women are just as shallow as guys. I have virtually zero text in fact I’m telling them to bugger off lol
Try and do some other types of pics mate and use what you have …try and tease anyone that looks at your profile . But women won’t message back unless there is an initial attraction no matter what stuff is in your profile
I could be way off the mark here and I’m probably gonna get lynched sorry. It’s just reading loads of these types of threads yours unfortunately got the brunt of it OP.
I know its not personal.. I ask this question if you hot loads of messages with dick pics or pushy messages would you block single males I do know a lot of single males have got a bad rep for doing this most female profiles suggest this also
But your initial post is about not getting replies to your messages, not about women who have blocked men from messaging?
no my initial post is about single males getting stereotyped as in people don't want to meet single males
But they DO want to meet single males ???
Youre a single male , and people have met you
Your post is because certain people you message don't want to meet you.
Which is allowed and ok
again I know its allowed and ok to not want to chat reply or meet etc you take a look at female profiles most I see are not meeting single males (which is ok) is this because single males have gained a bad rep and is all single males stereotyped and ignored cos of the minority "
To answer your question, no. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We only look for single males. No amount of dick pics or one word/line messages would put us off meeting single males. I’d imagine that anyone else who is looking for single males will be the same.
You can’t blame everyone else for your lack of success. Work with what you’ve got, put effort in and make your profile more attractive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sluts not slurs
I have a friend who has screenshot her mailbox and it’s pretty sickening to be honest and 90 percent of the messages outside of the abusive horrible ones are just ‘hi’ or ‘what you up to sexy’ or a copy and paste with a dick pic attached …I’m talking hundreds after hundreds of the same boring shite.
If I was a woman on here I’d ignore men. Lol"
I ignore men haha
I admit if the profile pic is the standard shadow then I delete without reading
I look at pics next , then if I like the pics I read the profile , and then I tend not to reply anyway
Your profile and pics are hot btw  |
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"So if a female gets hundreds of dick pics from single males or pushy messages would a female consider blocking single males
No. They block the idiots sending dick pics and unpleasant messages and are pleased to receive friendly pleasant messages. They then look at the profile to check where the person lives, the age range they are looking for and read the gents profile text to get an indication of what they're looking for and the persons personality and check out their range of photos.
I suggest you read this through again and act on the advise people are giving you, instead of trying to blame all the other single men on the site which seems to be your current stance. "
Preach Queen!
Apart from far and few who just block everyone from messaging - this is exactly how most sensible women/couples operate.
I don't understand why the "Nice guys" always pop up crying about how other men ruin fab for them.
If you have to constantly tell people how nice you are - chances are there's something you're hiding that ain't that nice.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m actually getting fed up of these threads and I’m really sorry guys saying they get no traction on her
This is not levelled at you OP but males In general. Be realistic…no matter what faff you have in your profile women won’t message if they are not attracted to your pics or you physically initially. Now in clubs I guess you have a better chance because you can actually speak and body language abs other factors come into it which women love.
My profile is utter shit and I’m so sorry this is gonna sound arrogant but I get women message me and winks and whatnot. Women are just as shallow as guys. I have virtually zero text in fact I’m telling them to bugger off lol
Try and do some other types of pics mate and use what you have …try and tease anyone that looks at your profile . But women won’t message back unless there is an initial attraction no matter what stuff is in your profile
I could be way off the mark here and I’m probably gonna get lynched sorry. It’s just reading loads of these types of threads yours unfortunately got the brunt of it OP.
I know its not personal.. I ask this question if you hot loads of messages with dick pics or pushy messages would you block single males I do know a lot of single males have got a bad rep for doing this most female profiles suggest this also
But your initial post is about not getting replies to your messages, not about women who have blocked men from messaging?
no my initial post is about single males getting stereotyped as in people don't want to meet single males
But they DO want to meet single males ???
Youre a single male , and people have met you
Your post is because certain people you message don't want to meet you.
Which is allowed and ok
again I know its allowed and ok to not want to chat reply or meet etc you take a look at female profiles most I see are not meeting single males (which is ok) is this because single males have gained a bad rep and is all single males stereotyped and ignored cos of the minority "
It's because they don't want to meet single males. Nothing to do bad rep and stereotyping.
Stop searching for an excuse and work on yourself as others have said above. |
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"I’m actually getting fed up of these threads and I’m really sorry guys saying they get no traction on her
This is not levelled at you OP but males In general. Be realistic…no matter what faff you have in your profile women won’t message if they are not attracted to your pics or you physically initially. Now in clubs I guess you have a better chance because you can actually speak and body language abs other factors come into it which women love.
My profile is utter shit and I’m so sorry this is gonna sound arrogant but I get women message me and winks and whatnot. Women are just as shallow as guys. I have virtually zero text in fact I’m telling them to bugger off lol
Try and do some other types of pics mate and use what you have …try and tease anyone that looks at your profile . But women won’t message back unless there is an initial attraction no matter what stuff is in your profile
I could be way off the mark here and I’m probably gonna get lynched sorry. It’s just reading loads of these types of threads yours unfortunately got the brunt of it OP.
I know its not personal.. I ask this question if you hot loads of messages with dick pics or pushy messages would you block single males I do know a lot of single males have got a bad rep for doing this most female profiles suggest this also
But your initial post is about not getting replies to your messages, not about women who have blocked men from messaging?
no my initial post is about single males getting stereotyped as in people don't want to meet single males
But they DO want to meet single males ???
Youre a single male , and people have met you
Your post is because certain people you message don't want to meet you.
Which is allowed and ok
again I know its allowed and ok to not want to chat reply or meet etc you take a look at female profiles most I see are not meeting single males (which is ok) is this because single males have gained a bad rep and is all single males stereotyped and ignored cos of the minority
To answer your question, no. "
The above suggests so it may not be in your personal choice which is fine obviously but most profiles suggest so |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sluts not slurs
I have a friend who has screenshot her mailbox and it’s pretty sickening to be honest and 90 percent of the messages outside of the abusive horrible ones are just ‘hi’ or ‘what you up to sexy’ or a copy and paste with a dick pic attached …I’m talking hundreds after hundreds of the same boring shite.
If I was a woman on here I’d ignore men. Lol
I ignore men haha
I admit if the profile pic is the standard shadow then I delete without reading
I look at pics next , then if I like the pics I read the profile , and then I tend not to reply anyway
Your profile and pics are hot btw "
Thanks for this  ….OP …^ …I rest my case |
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"So if a female gets hundreds of dick pics from single males or pushy messages would a female consider blocking single males
No. They block the idiots sending dick pics and unpleasant messages and are pleased to receive friendly pleasant messages. They then look at the profile to check where the person lives, the age range they are looking for and read the gents profile text to get an indication of what they're looking for and the persons personality and check out their range of photos.
I suggest you read this through again and act on the advise people are giving you, instead of trying to blame all the other single men on the site which seems to be your current stance.
Preach Queen!
Apart from far and few who just block everyone from messaging - this is exactly how most sensible women/couples operate.
I don't understand why the "Nice guys" always pop up crying about how other men ruin fab for them.
If you have to constantly tell people how nice you are - chances are there's something you're hiding that ain't that nice.
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Your assuming im telling people im nice as my profile name suggests im just Keith I don't claim to be anything else |
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"Sluts not slurs
I have a friend who has screenshot her mailbox and it’s pretty sickening to be honest and 90 percent of the messages outside of the abusive horrible ones are just ‘hi’ or ‘what you up to sexy’ or a copy and paste with a dick pic attached …I’m talking hundreds after hundreds of the same boring shite.
If I was a woman on here I’d ignore men. Lol"
But women don't ignore men, they just ignore all spam and other shite  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don’t take this the wrong way but are you really 46? I know people have fab ages but it’s fucking stupid
Fab ages (decrease)
Fab heights (increase)
I understand this probably doesn’t help. Am sure there is someone for you somewhere in fab world "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m actually getting fed up of these threads and I’m really sorry guys saying they get no traction on her
This is not levelled at you OP but males In general. Be realistic…no matter what faff you have in your profile women won’t message if they are not attracted to your pics or you physically initially. Now in clubs I guess you have a better chance because you can actually speak and body language abs other factors come into it which women love.
My profile is utter shit and I’m so sorry this is gonna sound arrogant but I get women message me and winks and whatnot. Women are just as shallow as guys. I have virtually zero text in fact I’m telling them to bugger off lol
Try and do some other types of pics mate and use what you have …try and tease anyone that looks at your profile . But women won’t message back unless there is an initial attraction no matter what stuff is in your profile
I could be way off the mark here and I’m probably gonna get lynched sorry. It’s just reading loads of these types of threads yours unfortunately got the brunt of it OP.
I know its not personal.. I ask this question if you hot loads of messages with dick pics or pushy messages would you block single males I do know a lot of single males have got a bad rep for doing this most female profiles suggest this also
But your initial post is about not getting replies to your messages, not about women who have blocked men from messaging?
no my initial post is about single males getting stereotyped as in people don't want to meet single males
But they DO want to meet single males ???
Youre a single male , and people have met you
Your post is because certain people you message don't want to meet you.
Which is allowed and ok
again I know its allowed and ok to not want to chat reply or meet etc you take a look at female profiles most I see are not meeting single males (which is ok) is this because single males have gained a bad rep and is all single males stereotyped and ignored cos of the minority
To answer your question, no.
The above suggests so it may not be in your personal choice which is fine obviously but most profiles suggest so"
The vast majority of profiles here do not say no single males.
Some do.
But the vast majority do not.
Some people aren't very pleasant on this site, men AND women included.
Because that is a reflection on life.
Your success on fab is purely down to you.
Just like mine is down to me.
Its nothing to do with single males being stereotyped.
I don't think it matters how many replies you receive telling you this though. |
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"So if a female gets hundreds of dick pics from single males or pushy messages would a female consider blocking single males
No. They block the idiots sending dick pics and unpleasant messages and are pleased to receive friendly pleasant messages. They then look at the profile to check where the person lives, the age range they are looking for and read the gents profile text to get an indication of what they're looking for and the persons personality and check out their range of photos.
I suggest you read this through again and act on the advise people are giving you, instead of trying to blame all the other single men on the site which seems to be your current stance.
Preach Queen!
Apart from far and few who just block everyone from messaging - this is exactly how most sensible women/couples operate.
I don't understand why the "Nice guys" always pop up crying about how other men ruin fab for them.
If you have to constantly tell people how nice you are - chances are there's something you're hiding that ain't that nice.
Your assuming im telling people im nice as my profile name suggests im just Keith I don't claim to be anything else "
"You can't blame stereotyping or the collective actions of single males on here for your own failures.
It will be down to you and your actions alone."
I don't agree as I do know some single males are pushy and not respectful and people see this as the norm towards single males then ignore single males
Here's one of the quotes where you're putting others down to bring yourself up. "I'm not pushy, I'm always respectful, unlike others".
My ex used to do that... it's not attractive.
As others have said - focus more on yourself and never you mind what others are doing.
It's not a competition. There is no prize. You don't have to convince anyone to meet you.
You will either find someone you click with or you don't. Nothing to do with other men's behaviour.
Best of luck OP. |
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"So if a female gets hundreds of dick pics from single males or pushy messages would a female consider blocking single males
No. They block the idiots sending dick pics and unpleasant messages and are pleased to receive friendly pleasant messages. They then look at the profile to check where the person lives, the age range they are looking for and read the gents profile text to get an indication of what they're looking for and the persons personality and check out their range of photos.
I suggest you read this through again and act on the advise people are giving you, instead of trying to blame all the other single men on the site which seems to be your current stance.
Preach Queen!
Apart from far and few who just block everyone from messaging - this is exactly how most sensible women/couples operate.
I don't understand why the "Nice guys" always pop up crying about how other men ruin fab for them.
If you have to constantly tell people how nice you are - chances are there's something you're hiding that ain't that nice.
Your assuming im telling people im nice as my profile name suggests im just Keith I don't claim to be anything else
"You can't blame stereotyping or the collective actions of single males on here for your own failures.
It will be down to you and your actions alone."
I don't agree as I do know some single males are pushy and not respectful and people see this as the norm towards single males then ignore single males
Here's one of the quotes where you're putting others down to bring yourself up. "I'm not pushy, I'm always respectful, unlike others".
My ex used to do that... it's not attractive.
As others have said - focus more on yourself and never you mind what others are doing.
It's not a competition. There is no prize. You don't have to convince anyone to meet you.
You will either find someone you click with or you don't. Nothing to do with other men's behaviour.
Best of luck OP. "
What have I got to gain from putting others down to up myself when I was stating a fact
And I can't be compared to your ex lol |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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Your profile is your shop window to the world….
What makes your shop window stand out from others…
If you were the target party, how would they know they were right for you….
What you need to do is get a pad, a pen, and actually think about how you want to present yourself…
You are your own best seller and best self promoter… but you can also be your own worst enemy….
I always say you get one chance to make a great first impression….. what impression do you think your profile is giving……. |
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"Hi I've been on here for quite a long time and not had much luck on meeting people I either get ignored deleted or blocked if I message people im polite and friendly is it me or is single males stereotyped I understand there are some single males that aren't pleasant ie pushy etc is it something I've done or not done "
Just for educational purpose. Open up a new profile. Make it female. Don't put ANY pictures. Put the bare minimum of words into it. Give it an hour.
You will get more messages in that hour on a fem profile than you probably will ever with a male one.
A woman with decent pictures and profile will literally get hundreds of messages a day easily. To the point opening your inbox is a nightmare and chore to get through. Close the account for good when you have seen what to expect as a woman.
So with that in mind, you need to send them a message that's going to attract their interest from hundreds of others. If you do that your profile and pictures need to be catching their eyes and attention.
Your profile has barely any reason to make anyone want to message you. Pictures are OK but not anything special either.
Not being rude or mean, just pointing out what a woman's experience is and why you may be struggling. There are so many more men on here than women and couples and so many women and couples now block single men as its too much hard work. The abuse they can get can be pretty horrible too if they take the time to reply but say no.
BTW, I don't have a fake fem profile on here. I opened one many years ago just to see what a woman could expect to get as messages, so I could figure out what might stand out when I wrote to someone. It's long closed so please no admins having a go at me or banning me please  |
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"So if a female gets hundreds of dick pics from single males or pushy messages would a female consider blocking single males
No. They block the idiots sending dick pics and unpleasant messages and are pleased to receive friendly pleasant messages. They then look at the profile to check where the person lives, the age range they are looking for and read the gents profile text to get an indication of what they're looking for and the persons personality and check out their range of photos.
I suggest you read this through again and act on the advise people are giving you, instead of trying to blame all the other single men on the site which seems to be your current stance.
Preach Queen!
Apart from far and few who just block everyone from messaging - this is exactly how most sensible women/couples operate.
I don't understand why the "Nice guys" always pop up crying about how other men ruin fab for them.
If you have to constantly tell people how nice you are - chances are there's something you're hiding that ain't that nice.
Your assuming im telling people im nice as my profile name suggests im just Keith I don't claim to be anything else
"You can't blame stereotyping or the collective actions of single males on here for your own failures.
It will be down to you and your actions alone."
I don't agree as I do know some single males are pushy and not respectful and people see this as the norm towards single males then ignore single males
Here's one of the quotes where you're putting others down to bring yourself up. "I'm not pushy, I'm always respectful, unlike others".
My ex used to do that... it's not attractive.
As others have said - focus more on yourself and never you mind what others are doing.
It's not a competition. There is no prize. You don't have to convince anyone to meet you.
You will either find someone you click with or you don't. Nothing to do with other men's behaviour.
Best of luck OP.
What have I got to gain from putting others down to up myself when I was stating a fact
And I can't be compared to your ex lol"
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I know it's hard for single guys OP but you have met people, so obviously some people do like and don't ignore you.
I'm a single woman and have met four guys in the last three years. I hardly like anyone  |
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"I know it's hard for single guys OP but you have met people, so obviously some people do like and don't ignore you.
I'm a single woman and have met four guys in the last three years.
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It is hard to meet people on here I've been to clubs when I was more confident id love to go again but bit nervous tbh lol |
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I'm a man on fab and I don't feel stereotyped.
At the same time I don't claim to be anything other than myself. I'm respectful of course and that begins with self respect but I don't feel the need to point it out when chatting to people.
I'd much rather they made their own decision on that.
I don't send messages because it suits be me to allow others to find me through the effort I've made in my profile and forum engagement.
I don't blow smoke up anyone's backside regardless of who they are and my experience so far is that others notice that and find that to be an attractive trait.
I've got 10 years on you op and didn't join here until I was 52 so most people I chat to aren't attracted by my many years of nonexistent experience.
They just feel comfortable approaching me and starting a conversation.
I've got dick pics in my profile and people are free to look at them if they wish or ignore them if they don't but it's my profile and I own it and everything I say in it and on here and that all starts with self respect. |
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Single males are the bulk and bane of any kind of dating site including Fab. They are most frequently selfish and focussed on their desires. Even after chatting for a short while they focus on their desires rather than getting to know those that respond and building a connection. There are plenty of folks that just want sex and to walk away and in all cases do something different with your profile. Show yourself as a human being, be honest about your sexuality and be patient. Meet people at social meets first and build up your interaction skills and watch your world change for the better. |
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"I'm off now people thank you for everyone input its really appreciated good luck with everything we all do hope nobody has taken offence by me or my post "
All credit to the Op, he’s actually engaged with most of the people commenting, rather than just moan and disappear.
Good luck Op |
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"I have seen the type of messages that men send women on here and they are sickening ..constant abuse and entitlement about them being ‘slurs’ and gross requests. Also it’s relentless non stop messages of just shyte from guys saying
Hi
Then a dick pic attached
Yep! Spot on.
Mrs x
So it’s not any wonder a lot of women totally ignore the men on here really
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"I have seen the type of messages that men send women on here and they are sickening ..constant abuse and entitlement about them being ‘slurs’ and gross requests. Also it’s relentless non stop messages of just shyte from guys saying
Hi
Then a dick pic attached
Yep! Spot on.
Mrs x
So it’s not any wonder a lot of women totally ignore the men on here really
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Not sure if I've worded this post properly I have no filters i say things as I see them or as it appears to me I just hope nobody is offended |
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"I have seen the type of messages that men send women on here and they are sickening ..constant abuse and entitlement about them being ‘slurs’ and gross requests. Also it’s relentless non stop messages of just shyte from guys saying
Hi
Then a dick pic attached
Yep! Spot on.
Mrs x
So it’s not any wonder a lot of women totally ignore the men on here really
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Well yeah I've received quite a few along those lines. Consequently I tend to not to send them out like that. In most instances even a carefully constructed message gets little response from couples or females. Even some guys come on strong then fail to show up or get cold feet. I think this is a tricky site to get than of if you're a single guy and we need all the help we can get. |
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"I have seen the type of messages that men send women on here and they are sickening ..constant abuse and entitlement about them being ‘slurs’ and gross requests. Also it’s relentless non stop messages of just shyte from guys saying
Hi
Then a dick pic attached
Yep! Spot on.
Mrs x
So it’s not any wonder a lot of women totally ignore the men on here really
Well yeah I've received quite a few along those lines. Consequently I tend to not to send them out like that. In most instances even a carefully constructed message gets little response from couples or females. Even some guys come on strong then fail to show up or get cold feet. I think this is a tricky site to get than of if you're a single guy and we need all the help we can get. "
we all need some help some of the time males or females |
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"Every profile I've written whether positive or not no difference has been made people are not viewing the profile even when I've sent a polite message "
I ALWAYS read the profile first when someones sent me a message.
Often then i don't bother to read the message, i just delete it because they aren't what I'm looking for/have a crap profile. |
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Tbf I’ve met a few people from fabs for sex so it’s not all negative! Just hard work! 