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Is romance dead?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Is it acceptable to bring a gift for a meet or is that classed as a date? I've been bought flowers and wine, although they were lovely I did feel slightly guilty as it wasn't a date. Have you brought a gift along? Maybe it's just a nice thing to do. What are your thoughts?

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By *urvytreatWoman over a year ago

somewhere nice

Buying a drink is fine, but I would feel like you if the guy brought me flowers and wine. As thoughtful as it is, that’s definitely more for a date

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Certainly seems like it is in porn these days ... Suppose it depends on the gift. Some might hate Chocolate & a butt plug? Others may love a teddy bear & slippers?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Certainly seems like it is in porn these days ... Suppose it depends on the gift. Some might hate Chocolate & a butt plug? Others may love a teddy bear & slippers?

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By *ellinever70Woman over a year ago

Ayrshire

It's a bit try to hard to ingratiate themselves

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

From me it is it has no place in my life and likely never will

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By *ornucopiaMan over a year ago

Bexley

"From me it is it has no place in my life and likely never will"

You never know, it could change your life!

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By *ife NinjaMan over a year ago

Dunfermline

Hopeful, always hopeful

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would feel very uncomfortable if anyone brought a gift to a meet. It really would not go down well with me all after all it's just sex and not a date.

Delight xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

to a swinging meet? what has romance got to do with swinging meets ?? ive had gifts broughr and have the the guy bringing that i dont want ...so they take it back with them hate gifts with swinging its does not sit well with us at all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think it's kind of sweet when they don't want to come empty-handed.

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By *ife NinjaMan over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I think it's kind of sweet when they don't want to come empty-handed.

I once brought a bath bomb along. Got to admit it seemed more sexy that a pack of magners

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I think it's kind of sweet when they don't want to come empty-handed.

I once brought a bath bomb along. Got to admit it seemed more sexy that a pack of magners

I'd rather have the Magners

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"to a swinging meet? what has romance got to do with swinging meets ?? ive had gifts broughr and have the the guy bringing that i dont want ...so they take it back with them hate gifts with swinging its does not sit well with us at all"

That's the point it's swinging so I'm not sure why he got the gifts for me. Maybe he thought it would be a nice gesture or he was trying to romance me but I felt abit awkward because it was a meet and not a date.

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By *hunky GentMan over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I'll take that diamond pendant back then. Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'll take that diamond pendant back then. Lol"

Trust you Chunky!

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By *hil most chillMan over a year ago

South East & Europe

I only provide the gift of charming witticisms and banter. And a medium vial of spermicidal lube.

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By *hunky GentMan over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I'll take that diamond pendant back then. Lol

Trust you Chunky! "

You luvs me really

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'll take that diamond pendant back then. Lol

Trust you Chunky!

You luvs me really

Does it mean I have to buy you a gift?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"From me it is it has no place in my life and likely never will

You never know, it could change your life!"
no it wont my fate is to sacrifice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is it acceptable to bring a gift for a meet or is that classed as a date? I've been bought flowers and wine, although they were lovely I did feel slightly guilty as it wasn't a date. Have you brought a gift along? Maybe it's just a nice thing to do. What are your thoughts?"

Dnt see anything wrong in it. Some people have manners and standards. Not every meet as to be a fuck meet. Why worry. Accept graciously

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By *hunky GentMan over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I'll take that diamond pendant back then. Lol

Trust you Chunky!

You luvs me really

Does it mean I have to buy you a gift?

Your gift to me would be a smile.

And wear blue underwear

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"From me it is it has no place in my life and likely never will"

Glad we not meeting you.

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By *arry monk40Man over a year ago

Telford

I take condomds and handcuffs it sets the tone

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By *he_Last_TitanMan over a year ago

Bristol

I took a bottle of champagne along to a hotel meet …we both enjoyed it.

A lovely lady, I met for a social, took her panties off in the toilet and gifted them to me to take home - even mentioned it in the verification!

But no, I wouldn’t take flowers / chocolates to a booty call. I wouldn’t take them on a first date either. A few dates in, sure - but often with this sort of thing we’re meeting for the first time - sometimes the only time.

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By *hoirCouple over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

I've never thought to being a gift but that sounds a great idea. Sadly most people would bring the female part of a couple a gift and ignore the male so I may look at bringing him and him steaks

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By *wistedTooCouple over a year ago

Frimley

We might bring a drink but flowers? That’s a date. That isn’t anything like what we want from a meet.

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By *uenevereWoman over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I don't think gifts and Fab meets are appropriate personally, it's a dating thing. A gift would probably make me feel uncomfortable.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nearly always try to bring a gift along,You sound lovely shouldn’t feel guilty at all, Its only a date if the participants say it is nobody else's opinion matters (bar mine obviously always get my approval first lol).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple over a year ago

liverpool

I'm pretty romantic but the idea of taking a gift to a meet is a hard pass for me. Date, yes, meet no. Mr

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman over a year ago

Thurrock

I don't know why but i was thinking about this the other day

The first few meets I had I went to theirs & always took a bottle of wine, now I prefer to host at home & no one's ever done the same

I'd never not offer a drink (so are others automatically expecting me to supply because I host) & equally I'd never go to a friends empty handed, be it a bottle of something, a crate of beer, flowers, chocolates etc

I think it's an awkward one because by buying a gift is it a presumption of what will happen, it could be taken as offensive as in a gift in exchange for sex

I think it's one of those lose lose situations for guys

Although if any of my potential meets are reading this I'll never say no to a bar of dairy milk or a Galaxy (I'm a cheap date & easily pleased lol)

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By *he_Last_TitanMan over a year ago

Bristol

I think it's one of those lose lose situations for guys

What about for women?

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman over a year ago

Thurrock

I think it's one of those lose lose situations for guys

What about for women?"

As I said I did always take a bottle with me & still would if I went to someone's house but I now only meet at home, to me it would feel cheeky to turn up empty handed

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By *eeds fun guyMan over a year ago

yorkshire

"I don't know why but i was thinking about this the other day

The first few meets I had I went to theirs & always took a bottle of wine, now I prefer to host at home & no one's ever done the same

I think it's an awkward one because by buying a gift is it a presumption of what will happen, it could be taken as offensive as in a gift in exchange for sex

I think it's one of those lose lose situations for guys

Although if any of my potential meets are reading this I'll never say no to a bar of dairy milk or a Galaxy (I'm a cheap date & easily pleased lol) "

I think a bottle is absolutely fine if you are visiting, it not a gift as most likely to be shared. I would certainly do this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The only gift I would want is there smile when they arrive and a thank you kiss when they leave.

Anything else is a no x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We wouldn't expect or want any gift, it's a mutual sexual thing. I get a big cock, he gets some big boobs to play with! That's the gift!

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