I adore aftercare and the intimacy it brings. On occasion, it feels incomplete when a play partner either doesn’t like it or in a rush to go.
Do you like after care? Do you feel unfulfilled or similar (not necessarily physically) if there nothing after an intense session?
I am aware that a lot of people prefer cum n go or quickies. I am interested in hearing from people who normally adore aftercare
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be rude not too 
even after a quickie ...gotta have a lil kiss n a cuddle rite ?
i couldnt just up n leave cum still dripping and not even had a cuppa n a few custard creams hahahahaha...i mean unless they wanted me to leave obv lol ....
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"It is absolutely essential and just as much a part of a meet for me as any other aspect.
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Likewise, for me. Nothing better than a warm connect and more often than not, things heats up for other possibilities  |
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It's usually missing with fab meets for me, but when it does happen it enhances the whole experience. Fuck and go has its place but I'm feeling more like I want to indulge in after snuggles now than I used to... |
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"It's usually missing with fab meets for me, but when it does happen it enhances the whole experience. Fuck and go has its place but I'm feeling more like I want to indulge in after snuggles now than I used to..."
It’s always more wholesome with a snuggle after. Everyone seems to be in a rush |
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Our aftercare is for each other not others. Just not how we play, happy to have a cuppa and giggle or whatever, but no kissing and cuddling here. Personally I would find that emotionally conflicting. |
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"Our aftercare is for each other not others. Just not how we play, happy to have a cuppa and giggle or whatever, but no kissing and cuddling here. Personally I would find that emotionally conflicting. "
Interesting perspective. I wonder if that is the Ds dynamic in play or will that be true in a non BDSM setup too? Thanks though, this is an angle that I never considered before  |
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"Our aftercare is for each other not others. Just not how we play, happy to have a cuppa and giggle or whatever, but no kissing and cuddling here. Personally I would find that emotionally conflicting. "
We're exactly the same. Intersting your the only couple on this thread to reply. Is it singles that require aftercare? |
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"Our aftercare is for each other not others. Just not how we play, happy to have a cuppa and giggle or whatever, but no kissing and cuddling here. Personally I would find that emotionally conflicting.
We're exactly the same. Intersting your the only couple on this thread to reply. Is it singles that require aftercare? "
I think so. My impression of couples here is they are generally looking for a human sex toy, in singles. With other couples it is likely to be different I would think but that’s my experience from the approaches I get from couples.
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"Our aftercare is for each other not others. Just not how we play, happy to have a cuppa and giggle or whatever, but no kissing and cuddling here. Personally I would find that emotionally conflicting.
We're exactly the same. Intersting your the only couple on this thread to reply. Is it singles that require aftercare? "
Let me put another angle on this please
I have met one couple. We talked before all 3 of us and built a good connection.
I met at their place after a couple of socials and we had a good evening.
At the end of it they were kissing and cuddling and I was totally forgotten. I felt, if I’m honest, used by them. That once we’d had sex I was surplus to their requirements. I have never felt so badly about myself.
I dressed and left. I did try and engage and say goodbye but it was clear I was not what they wanted in that moment.
I’m not asking for a kiss and a cuddle, but if I’m good enough to sleep with then at least offer me a cuppa or a snack and walk me down to the front door
This is why I will only meet couples in clubs and that’s rare |
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"Our aftercare is for each other not others. Just not how we play, happy to have a cuppa and giggle or whatever, but no kissing and cuddling here. Personally I would find that emotionally conflicting.
We're exactly the same. Intersting your the only couple on this thread to reply. Is it singles that require aftercare?
Let me put another angle on this please
I have met one couple. We talked before all 3 of us and built a good connection.
I met at their place after a couple of socials and we had a good evening.
At the end of it they were kissing and cuddling and I was totally forgotten. I felt, if I’m honest, used by them. That once we’d had sex I was surplus to their requirements. I have never felt so badly about myself.
I dressed and left. I did try and engage and say goodbye but it was clear I was not what they wanted in that moment.
I’m not asking for a kiss and a cuddle, but if I’m good enough to sleep with then at least offer me a cuppa or a snack and walk me down to the front door
This is why I will only meet couples in clubs and that’s rare "
That’s a raw deal.
" Is it singles that require aftercare?
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Don’t think so, every one does. You get it from your partner, but that doesn’t mean you don’t need it?
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"Our aftercare is for each other not others. Just not how we play, happy to have a cuppa and giggle or whatever, but no kissing and cuddling here. Personally I would find that emotionally conflicting.
Interesting perspective. I wonder if that is the Ds dynamic in play or will that be true in a non BDSM setup too? Thanks though, this is an angle that I never considered before "
It’s even more important in a D/s dynamic I believe. |
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"Our aftercare is for each other not others. Just not how we play, happy to have a cuppa and giggle or whatever, but no kissing and cuddling here. Personally I would find that emotionally conflicting.
We're exactly the same. Intersting your the only couple on this thread to reply. Is it singles that require aftercare?
Let me put another angle on this please
I have met one couple. We talked before all 3 of us and built a good connection.
I met at their place after a couple of socials and we had a good evening.
At the end of it they were kissing and cuddling and I was totally forgotten. I felt, if I’m honest, used by them. That once we’d had sex I was surplus to their requirements. I have never felt so badly about myself.
I dressed and left. I did try and engage and say goodbye but it was clear I was not what they wanted in that moment.
I’m not asking for a kiss and a cuddle, but if I’m good enough to sleep with then at least offer me a cuppa or a snack and walk me down to the front door
This is why I will only meet couples in clubs and that’s rare "
I have met alot of couples and I suppose some feel that adding another person is such a turn on it hightens their sex as well. So I'm like you meeting couples at Chameleons or similar is more fun than meeting in their own space. |
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"Our aftercare is for each other not others. Just not how we play, happy to have a cuppa and giggle or whatever, but no kissing and cuddling here. Personally I would find that emotionally conflicting.
We're exactly the same. Intersting your the only couple on this thread to reply. Is it singles that require aftercare? "
Surely couples have aftercare automatically. Their relationship.
Or do you just fuck each other then not touch or speak until it's sex time again? |
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"Our aftercare is for each other not others. Just not how we play, happy to have a cuppa and giggle or whatever, but no kissing and cuddling here. Personally I would find that emotionally conflicting.
We're exactly the same. Intersting your the only couple on this thread to reply. Is it singles that require aftercare? "
Couples need it too - you’re just giving it to each other |
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"I adore aftercare and the intimacy it brings. On occasion, it feels incomplete when a play partner either doesn’t like it or in a rush to go.
Do you like after care? Do you feel unfulfilled or similar (not necessarily physically) if there nothing after an intense session?
I am aware that a lot of people prefer cum n go or quickies. I am interested in hearing from people who normally adore aftercare
Jay"
Aftercare like what? |
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"Our aftercare is for each other not others. Just not how we play, happy to have a cuppa and giggle or whatever, but no kissing and cuddling here. Personally I would find that emotionally conflicting.
Interesting perspective. I wonder if that is the Ds dynamic in play or will that be true in a non BDSM setup too? Thanks though, this is an angle that I never considered before
It’s even more important in a D/s dynamic I believe. "
Yes, I agree. I use it as an opportunity to reconnect and level with the submissive. I adore aftercare in that context, it brings people much closer in my experience |
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"Our aftercare is for each other not others. Just not how we play, happy to have a cuppa and giggle or whatever, but no kissing and cuddling here. Personally I would find that emotionally conflicting.
We're exactly the same. Intersting your the only couple on this thread to reply. Is it singles that require aftercare?
Let me put another angle on this please
I have met one couple. We talked before all 3 of us and built a good connection.
I met at their place after a couple of socials and we had a good evening.
At the end of it they were kissing and cuddling and I was totally forgotten. I felt, if I’m honest, used by them. That once we’d had sex I was surplus to their requirements. I have never felt so badly about myself.
I dressed and left. I did try and engage and say goodbye but it was clear I was not what they wanted in that moment.
I’m not asking for a kiss and a cuddle, but if I’m good enough to sleep with then at least offer me a cuppa or a snack and walk me down to the front door
This is why I will only meet couples in clubs and that’s rare "
Wow, well that’s awful! We used to mainly only meet at our home and if my memory serves me correctly the only 2 people who didn’t sleep over and stay for breakfast etc were 2 single men we met.
Could any other couples confirm is this normal, just to ignore after with either single people you have met or other couples? |
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"Our aftercare is for each other not others. Just not how we play, happy to have a cuppa and giggle or whatever, but no kissing and cuddling here. Personally I would find that emotionally conflicting.
We're exactly the same. Intersting your the only couple on this thread to reply. Is it singles that require aftercare?
Surely couples have aftercare automatically. Their relationship.
Or do you just fuck each other then not touch or speak until it's sex time again?"
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"I adore aftercare and the intimacy it brings. On occasion, it feels incomplete when a play partner either doesn’t like it or in a rush to go.
Do you like after care? Do you feel unfulfilled or similar (not necessarily physically) if there nothing after an intense session?
I am aware that a lot of people prefer cum n go or quickies. I am interested in hearing from people who normally adore aftercare
Jay
Aftercare like what?"
Kiss, cuddles, chat, a cuppa or a massage. It different for every individual. Anything but fuck and go |
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By *rHotNottsMan
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I think it’s important to read the situation and do what’s exactly what’s needed or wanted rather than assume. Sometimes people are hypersensitive after an intense session and can barely be touched and some people need aftercare in the days after, messages, calls etc.
A submissive that understands Dom drop is a rare find too |
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