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over a year ago
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Love bareback but mostly do it in relationship. Can't say I've ever tested a partner first though.
I do on occasion do it with a meet just because it feels better. I currently have one regular guy that always go bare with. Although not sure if I will now with my change of circumstances
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"what do you prefer? bare back or wearing a condom "
It depends on context but with my partner we don't use condoms but play wise its never without a condom.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Safe all the way, but it is amazing how many people turn up to meets or clubs without condoms!!!!"
Oh isn't it just..so many men seem to have left them in the car or their locker..their loss, as others have said..no glove, no love !! |
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"Safe all the way, but it is amazing how many people turn up to meets or clubs without condoms!!!!
Oh isn't it just..so many men seem to have left them in the car or their locker..their loss, as others have said..no glove, no love !!"
It makes you mad all the excitment before hand then to be let down. Single guys take note!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You want to ask this question really use all the freaking protection you can x"
But many men and women will happily suck as many bare cocks as they can, drink cum etc, and that never strikes me as playing safe |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Safe all the way, but it is amazing how many people turn up to meets or clubs without condoms!!!!"
yes you are right there hun we always take condoms to club  |
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"You want to ask this question really use all the freaking protection you can x
But many men and women will happily suck as many bare cocks as they can, drink cum etc, and that never strikes me as playing safe"
Nor us but as has been said on here many times before people choose the level of risk they are willing to take. Personally I like my recreational sex to be as risk free as possible |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You want to ask this question really use all the freaking protection you can x
But many men and women will happily suck as many bare cocks as they can, drink cum etc, and that never strikes me as playing safe
Nor us but as has been said on here many times before people choose the level of risk they are willing to take. Personally I like my recreational sex to be as risk free as possible "
Me too. There is much that is risk free but very powerful and erotic I have found xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Safe all the way, but it is amazing how many people turn up to meets or clubs without condoms!!!!
Oh isn't it just..so many men seem to have left them in the car or their locker..their loss, as others have said..no glove, no love !!It makes you mad all the excitment before hand then to be let down. Single guys take note!!"
Really? So its just the responsibility of the single guy now is it?
Funny that, I thought safe sex was the responsibility of all involved. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Safe all the way, but it is amazing how many people turn up to meets or clubs without condoms!!!!
Oh isn't it just..so many men seem to have left them in the car or their locker..their loss, as others have said..no glove, no love !!It makes you mad all the excitment before hand then to be let down. Single guys take note!!
Really? So its just the responsibility of the single guy now is it?
Funny that, I thought safe sex was the responsibility of all involved."
However it still is amazing how many go to a club with no protection even though all clubs have them for sale or even free. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i would have thought everyone prefers bare back
but what we prefer and what we do isnt always the same  "
I think that was what I was trying to say earlier |
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"Safe all the way, but it is amazing how many people turn up to meets or clubs without condoms!!!!
Oh isn't it just..so many men seem to have left them in the car or their locker..their loss, as others have said..no glove, no love !!It makes you mad all the excitment before hand then to be let down. Single guys take note!!
Really? So its just the responsibility of the single guy now is it?
Funny that, I thought safe sex was the responsibility of all involved."
It IS the responsibility of everyone, but personally if a guy turns up for a play meet with me without condoms.... No play. I will always have them, but if someone else doesn't carry / have them it makes me wonder what they would do if the other party didn't have any |
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"Safe all the way, but it is amazing how many people turn up to meets or clubs without condoms!!!!"
It is. I went to club once and I had taken some but ended up giving this bloke a condom so he could play. I couldn't believe he turned up at a club without one. In future I wouldn't give them out, the harshest lessons are often the best remembered. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Surely everyone prefers bareback sex? We choose to wear condoms for safety's sake not because we love the feel and smell and texture of them!?
Skin is always nicer just risky!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Safe all the way, but it is amazing how many people turn up to meets or clubs without condoms!!!!
Oh isn't it just..so many men seem to have left them in the car or their locker..their loss, as others have said..no glove, no love !!It makes you mad all the excitment before hand then to be let down. Single guys take note!!
Really? So its just the responsibility of the single guy now is it?
Funny that, I thought safe sex was the responsibility of all involved.
It IS the responsibility of everyone, but personally if a guy turns up for a play meet with me without condoms.... No play. I will always have them, but if someone else doesn't carry / have them it makes me wonder what they would do if the other party didn't have any "
We always carry them as well, but it does get a bit annoying when you are constantly faced with a blank look or an excuse when you ask if the guy has one.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Safe all the way, but it is amazing how many people turn up to meets or clubs without condoms!!!!
Oh isn't it just..so many men seem to have left them in the car or their locker..their loss, as others have said..no glove, no love !!It makes you mad all the excitment before hand then to be let down. Single guys take note!!
Really? So its just the responsibility of the single guy now is it?
Funny that, I thought safe sex was the responsibility of all involved."
It is the responsibility of all, totally agree with you there. We always carry them but if a guy turns up without any it instantly rings alarm bells and tells me its not something he usually thinks about!
Plus if we all take some theres plenty to last ALL night   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bare back sex is like a sin in here!
Yes I love bare back who doesn't love to feel a full throbbing length???
But yea I only play safe you have to in this game, the skin rubbers are quite good and thin so u can feel alot more  |
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"I prefer safe sex all away but I seem to be losing a lot of meets just because I won't play bareback!!  "
I've noticed this too, one couple were looking for a bareback gang bang this week. No thanks! |
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"I wonder how many "safe sex" players have done bareback on the sly but won't say... Everyone barebacks end of."
Do you mean when swinging? I'd thank you not to speak on behalf of me. I have NEVER swung bareback and never will (see my post above) |
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"You want to ask this question really use all the freaking protection you can x
But many men and women will happily suck as many bare cocks as they can, drink cum etc, and that never strikes me as playing safe"
I was just about to say this lots of people use condoms for fucking but then let the guy cum in there mouths or around the pussy area CONFUSED.COM |
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"what do you prefer? bare back or wearing a condom "
Don't know how you can even ask such a dumb question...everyman prefers bareback,but without a shadow of doubt safe sex every time when going with someone other than your partner..
Its just common sense ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We always play safe! No other way, there are risks, but it's keeping them to the lowest level. Nothing compares to bareback, hence it's nice to save that for your partner. Each to their own, but it's amazing how many ppl want bareback in play! In the end it's personal choices! |
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We always play safe. Single guys can be a nightmare. 'You got a condom'? They come back with 'no, can i borrow one of yours'? Answer NO welly no sex!!It's like a brickie turning up to build you a wall and saying 'have you got a trowel i could borrow'!! ffs.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we all love bare back but were all safe and wear a condom anyone who dont must be mad these days even if you have been with themfor years who did they have last night and was he or she safe then but not saying everyone has a std |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always provide my own protection and although i enjoy oral do not do cum in my mouth at all or near the nether regions unless it is being deposited in the rubber bank xx |
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Don't know how you can even ask such a dumb question...everyman prefers bareback, !
Doesn't every woman as well?  "
I am sorry,its a typo should have said everyone.
Thank you for being so picky ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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watch "Un safe sex in the city" on channel bbc3 on wed night if you are considering bareback it might put you of.
Safe sex every time !!!!! I hate condoms but dont want anything nasty !!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"why would you bareback a person your only just met.
bareback is for mrnsa only, thanks "
Have you never done so? I have to say I have done on one night stands. Till late twenties I hadn't used condoms ever.
I am safer now but sometimes things happen.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bare back sex is like a sin in here!
Yes I love bare back who doesn't love to feel a full throbbing length???
But yea I only play safe you have to in this game, the skin rubbers are quite good and thin so u can feel alot more "
Had an unfortunate encounter with skin rubbers.... Had them split on me a couple of times.... Refuse to wear them now.... Safe sex all the way though p |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Us personally we go bare back with each other but if we are meeting some1 its safe sex. we are not judging other couples on there cleanliness its just best 2 be safe than sorry. but thats just our opinion |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i agree with many on here so far in that i enjoy bareback more than with a condom but the risks are too high. hubby is the only one who barebacks me however much we would both enjoy other men doing it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i agree with many on here so far in that i enjoy bareback more than with a condom but the risks are too high. hubby is the only one who barebacks me however much we would both enjoy other men doing it"
Same here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i always play safe although if with a partner then yes bareback is better.
Here's a thought though what if someone had a certificate or some proof from clinic to sure they have been tested and the date they were tested? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i always play safe although if with a partner then yes bareback is better.
Here's a thought though what if someone had a certificate or some proof from clinic to sure they have been tested and the date they were tested?"
But in between being tested and meeting you they could have shagged someone who was infected and caught it themselves... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i always play safe although if with a partner then yes bareback is better.
Here's a thought though what if someone had a certificate or some proof from clinic to sure they have been tested and the date they were tested?
But in between being tested and meeting you they could have shagged someone who was infected and caught it themselves..."
exactly thats my thoughts on it just wonder what other peoples thoughts are on it, I may consider that though if it was an fb i had known for some time and i could trust, if they said that it was only me they have sex with. i would have to no them for quite some time though.
it's all about risk and how we minimize it, taking a test as i said before reduces that risk but there is still a chance that they have shagged in between as you say. I just wonder where people draw the line and deem the risk low enough. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As said earlier...if you give and receive oral you are as just as much of a risk of contracting chlamydia and gonhorea as you would be having full sex. So we should all be using dams and condoms for that too......can't see that happening can you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone prefers bareback, but if your not in a relationship where you both KNOW your safe you just don't. Having said that, a condom can only add to the overall size! |
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I think the answer should be pretty obvious. Safe sex is best if your with a girl your not sure about but in a relationship or with someone your sure is safe then bareback unquestionably feels better. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think the answer should be pretty obvious. Safe sex is best if your with a girl your not sure about but in a relationship or with someone your sure is safe then bareback unquestionably feels better."
the answer is very obvious each to there own, we are all consenting adults. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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 my take on this is simple really; if its a known and totally trusted partner you should be fine to spunk; but if there is any doubt; condom
Persoanlly Safe sex is best; but no gaurantees |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Voiceing an opinion and judging what other people do are 2 very different things."
People have free will , and can voice an opinion , or judge others as they wish , as I defend your rite to do so ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Voiceing an opinion and judging what other people do are 2 very different things.
People have free will , and can voice an opinion , or judge others as they wish , as I defend your rite to do so ! ..everyone know's the risks when not using a condom only the stupid will carry on without one and that's our opinion  "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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actually they work really well. I'm allergic to condom and guys love these because they don't have to put anything on themselves and it feels great for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry, but personally we can't believe that anyone would possibly consider bareback when swinging...!... "
yet people still will and do, but each to there own we shouldnt judge others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry, but personally we can't believe that anyone would possibly consider bareback when swinging...!...
yet people still will and do, but each to there own we shouldnt judge others."
And people who do not approve will continue to judge them ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry, but personally we can't believe that anyone would possibly consider bareback when swinging...!...
yet people still will and do, but each to there own we shouldnt judge others.
And people who do not approve will continue to judge them ! "
and that is what is wrong with people on this site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry, but personally we can't believe that anyone would possibly consider bareback when swinging...!...
yet people still will and do, but each to there own we shouldnt judge others.
And people who do not approve will continue to judge them !
and that is what is wrong with people on this site."
Informed choices, is a better way to put it.
Everyone likes different things we all understand that. Each to their own.
But as adults we all make the choice what we do and do not like.
We do not need to force that on others.
Sometimes its time to turn the other cheek, stick by your own thoughts and just get on with life.
The world can not be changed in a day, nevermind our lifetime.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry, but personally we can't believe that anyone would possibly consider bareback when swinging...!...
yet people still will and do, but each to there own we shouldnt judge others.
And people who do not approve will continue to judge them !
and that is what is wrong with people on this site."
That sounds like being judgmental ?
Pot , kettle , black |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By taking that stance, you have judged someone for being judgmental. You have entered an infinite loop and there is no way out. Damned whatever you think. My brain hurts, and I don't feel well now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Pardon by saying "each to there own" is not been judgmental its a simple statement meaning i will not judge what people do even if its not to my taste it is upto consenting adults what they do and there is no code people have to follow as long as its legal people can do what they want. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Pardon by saying "each to there own" is not been judgmental its a simple statement meaning i will not judge what people do even if its not to my taste it is upto consenting adults what they do and there is no code people have to follow as long as its legal people can do what they want."
I can accept that you do not intend to be judgemental but , when you say, and you have a few times that something is wrong , then at that point you are making a judgement as to what is, and what is not right or wrong ! That in itself is judgmental !
But again let me say I defend you're rite to make that statement !
Respect |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Id like you to point out where ive been judgmental in this thread the simple fact is i havent ive stated "each to there own" which is in no way judgmental.
I understand these forums have groups that stick by eachother one disagrees the rest disagree but is there really any need to twist and turn things into something there not just because someone says something you dont agree with. |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"Id like you to point out where ive been judgmental in this thread the simple fact is i havent ive stated "each to there own" which is in no way judgmental.
I understand these forums have groups that stick by eachother one disagrees the rest disagree but is there really any need to twist and turn things into something there not just because someone says something you dont agree with."
But surely that is being judgemental towards the people that you have percieved to be judgemental? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I understand these forums have groups that stick by eachother one disagrees the rest disagree but is there really any need to twist and turn things into something there not just because someone says something you dont agree with."
See this I really don't agree with,what you're doing now is assuming that everyone that has a different opinion to one person or a post are all part of some group of people that will stick together with their opinions regardless of whether they agree or disagree
The reality is that I would bet money that most of those people don't know each other from adam and are just voicing their own opinions as adults on a forum,which they're entitled to without being called judgmental and without being called less than decent |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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I am not in any group on these forums, I post exactly the same to males, females and couples. I have opinions on subjects that i will post on, these are only my _iews and that does not make them right, they are only right for ME.
I don't go out to offend people, sometimes I may and if I think an apology is warranted, I will offer one. Some people look to be offended as they love being the victim on these forums as they believe that will endear them to others.
If I have zero respect for a poster, I will just avoid their threads. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ok would just like to repeat as this always seems to go round in circles as swingers we are high risk as we have a lot of sex with a lot of different people. The only true safe sex is no sex but then you can get stds from blood tranfusions very rare but it happens.
Play safe as possible but some times you can play as safe as possible and still get caught and that is the risk we play.
If you are so hung up on this maybe swinging is not for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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And if you think about it in one way or another all of us on fabs has had sex with one another fabademic lol rules of elimination or the fabs tree of life if you think about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Prefer bareback obviously but only do it with A. On meets we always rubber up. I would like to see another guy play bareback with her but this will remain a fantasy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No one should judge what others do each to there own."
Yes they should. Judging the actions of others is how you determine where your own personal boundaries lie, and by extension, the path you choose to follow in life.
I judge thieves, murderers, liars, adulterers and shit drivers and am happy to do so. Are we to believe that you don't and are happy for them to carry on without you forming an opinion on them?
Forming a personal opinion on a subject (beyond mere facts) is by definition being judgemental |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was talking about been judgemental about what 2,3,4, or more consenting adults decide to do with each other on a meet from here or at a club not murderers and the like but ive been shot down and abused by mail so as my apology says we are taking a break to decide whether its actually worth it anymore thanks for your _iews though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was talking about been judgemental about what 2,3,4, or more consenting adults decide to do with each other on a meet from here or at a club not murderers and the like but ive been shot down and abused by mail so as my apology says we are taking a break to decide whether its actually worth it anymore thanks for your _iews though."
That's a little extreme! Taking a break because of a forum thread. The bare back issue ALWAYS gets very heated on here. Along with a few other topics which regularly come up. Try a few of the more light hearted threads, they quite often give you a laugh |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah its not the forum thats got to us we can handle debate its the private mail we have got since commenting on these threads i dont want to say to much or ill get accused of airing dirty washing but suffice to say its been very unpleasant and has really got us thinking what people are capable of. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah its not the forum thats got to us we can handle debate its the private mail we have got since commenting on these threads i dont want to say to much or ill get accused of airing dirty washing but suffice to say its been very unpleasant and has really got us thinking what people are capable of."
I hope you have reported any abuse if you have been given any? its unacceptable and if found to have substance then admin will take action |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was talking about been judgemental about what 2,3,4, or more consenting adults decide to do with each other on a meet from here or at a club not murderers and the like but ive been shot down and abused by mail so as my apology says we are taking a break to decide whether its actually worth it anymore thanks for your _iews though."
I don't think people should contact you by mail about something said in forum unless you have asked them to ! I also think if such mail is abusive then you should let Admin deal with it and block them !
As to taking a break , then that of course is up to you , I have seen your posts on two threads and from what I have seen there has been no abuse in public , and I am saddened and angry you have received it in private mail !
People disagree , it makes for good debate as long as it is appropriate and not a personal attack !
I have disagreed with most of your comments in two threads but , I still maintain you have a perfect rite to your opinion and to voice it ! I don't think you should let this put you off , as I look forward to disagreeing with you on threads to come
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People wont do the abusing on a forum as they will get a ban and others will be able to see what they are really like, i have blocked and reported the profiles in question and hope they are dealt with properly. |
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By *ngelbiTVTV/TS
over a year ago
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I'm hoping for a mini gangbang tonight and though all the guys will be covered will they are inside me.
I'm so hoping they save their cum for my mouth or face, back, bum cheeks lol
Angel xx |
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