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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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don't know where I am going wrong so thought I would through myself out there and see if any ones interested or whether I should just try somewhere else , I am a genuine guy and happy to provide face pics etc , so I leave it to you to give me some hope or tell me to pack my bags lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hey
As a single guy I'm afraid it's gonna be hard work for you :S
Personally I would lose the SHOUTY text and make your profile a little bit more informative.
And again personally the butt plug pic does nothing for me 
Lou xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hey
As a single guy I'm afraid it's gonna be hard work for you :S
Personally I would lose the SHOUTY text and make your profile a little bit more informative.
And again personally the butt plug pic does nothing for me
Lou xx"
thanks lou x |
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"don't know where I am going wrong so thought I would through myself out there and see if any ones interested or whether I should just try somewhere else , I am a genuine guy and happy to provide face pics etc , so I leave it to you to give me some hope or tell me to pack my bags lol "
Pack your bags....no charge  |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"don't know where I am going wrong so thought I would through myself out there and see if any ones interested or whether I should just try somewhere else , I am a genuine guy and happy to provide face pics etc , so I leave it to you to give me some hope or tell me to pack my bags lol Pack your bags....no charge
was hoping to get some genuine help and direction from people that have taken the time to bother to look at my profile and not just keyboard commandos who pleed for people to read theirs before contacting but don't return the courtesy "
not making generalisations .. but you realise they are from Liverpool dont you?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"don't know where I am going wrong so thought I would through myself out there and see if any ones interested or whether I should just try somewhere else , I am a genuine guy and happy to provide face pics etc , so I leave it to you to give me some hope or tell me to pack my bags lol "
Lose the capitals. Put some varied pics up (and not the toy one!) - it's easy enough to hide tattoos! Flesh the text out a bit with your interests, more about what you're looking for - and lose the warning message! it's pointless!
Top tip - browse some single guy profiles to see what others do - but don't even think of cutting and pasting - not a good move!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Constructive? No problem.
1) A couple more pics wouldn't go amiss, even if you pop them in 'friends only' - or perhaps a few clothed shots (make them headless if you so wish etc.
2) Remove the references to your daughter, looking for 'the one' etc,etc - sum it up in one sentence about cannot accommodate due to being a single parent.
3) Theres very little about what your looking for in a play meet (or play partner) and when you have to offer. Think that you're one of many, so try to stand out, plus you're Bi (ish) so it does limit the field of play as you're not wanting to meet other Bi guys. Don't be afraid to stand out, but in a good way
4) Keep it fun - nothing to serious, preachy and don't have a list of No,No,No etc.
5) Loose the Legal Notice. Its worthless and it occupies as much space as the rest of your profile
Lastly, some may recommend getting out to clubs and social events. These can be good ways of meeting people and can be fun if you feel comfortable doing so. Remember though, there is etiquette in these things and its best to ask for advice and read through some forum posts on social / club etiquette for single guys prior to attending.
..and lastly; post while in forums, get into some banter on threads. You never know where it could lead....
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Constructive? No problem.
1) A couple more pics wouldn't go amiss, even if you pop them in 'friends only' - or perhaps a few clothed shots (make them headless if you so wish etc.
2) Remove the references to your daughter, looking for 'the one' etc,etc - sum it up in one sentence about cannot accommodate due to being a single parent.
3) Theres very little about what your looking for in a play meet (or play partner) and when you have to offer. Think that you're one of many, so try to stand out, plus you're Bi (ish) so it does limit the field of play as you're not wanting to meet other Bi guys. Don't be afraid to stand out, but in a good way
4) Keep it fun - nothing to serious, preachy and don't have a list of No,No,No etc.
5) Loose the Legal Notice. Its worthless and it occupies as much space as the rest of your profile
Lastly, some may recommend getting out to clubs and social events. These can be good ways of meeting people and can be fun if you feel comfortable doing so. Remember though, there is etiquette in these things and its best to ask for advice and read through some forum posts on social / club etiquette for single guys prior to attending.
..and lastly; post while in forums, get into some banter on threads. You never know where it could lead....
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thanks for this was really appreciate it , looks like I've got some work to do !
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What puts me off is that you sound like you just want to shag anyone available until you find someone good enough in the 'real world' to introduce to your daughter.
Ouch is what I say to that!
I want to meet guys who value me as a person, even if we do spend most of our time shagging. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"What puts me off is that you sound like you just want to shag anyone available until you find someone good enough in the 'real world' to introduce to your daughter.
Ouch is what I say to that!
I want to meet guys who value me as a person, even if we do spend most of our time shagging. "
I do value people and it's not a case of not being good enough it's a case of a relationship commitment not just meets for sex etc which I'm not looking for on here otherwise this site would be called fabrelationships.com in my profile I was trying to be as honest as possible about who I am not just the standard suck up to everyone especially just because someones on here as a couple or paying everyone a compliment regardless of whether you are attracted to them or not, just to shag anything ! I'm not like that and I certainly don't spend my time pesting and sucking up to people and pretending to be something I'm not because I think it will get me a shag! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What puts me off is that you sound like you just want to shag anyone available until you find someone good enough in the 'real world' to introduce to your daughter.
Ouch is what I say to that!
I want to meet guys who value me as a person, even if we do spend most of our time shagging.
I do value people and it's not a case of not being good enough it's a case of a relationship commitment not just meets for sex etc which I'm not looking for on here otherwise this site would be called fabrelationships.com in my profile I was trying to be as honest as possible about who I am not just the standard suck up to everyone especially just because someones on here as a couple or paying everyone a compliment regardless of whether you are attracted to them or not, just to shag anything ! I'm not like that and I certainly don't spend my time pesting and sucking up to people and pretending to be something I'm not because I think it will get me a shag! "
OP - your first sentence reads more like it is suited for a 'dating' site than a swinging one. Talking about 'finding the one' will put a LOT of women (specially) off meeting you. They are here to swing (usually!) - not to find 'the one'... Personally I wouldn't even mention your daughter other than to explain that her presence at weekends is why you can't accommodate - which, to your credit, you have tackled head on (the usual 'single guy who can't accomm' conundrum)  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What puts me off is that you sound like you just want to shag anyone available until you find someone good enough in the 'real world' to introduce to your daughter.
Ouch is what I say to that!
I want to meet guys who value me as a person, even if we do spend most of our time shagging.
I do value people and it's not a case of not being good enough it's a case of a relationship commitment not just meets for sex etc which I'm not looking for on here otherwise this site would be called fabrelationships.com in my profile I was trying to be as honest as possible about who I am not just the standard suck up to everyone especially just because someones on here as a couple or paying everyone a compliment regardless of whether you are attracted to them or not, just to shag anything ! I'm not like that and I certainly don't spend my time pesting and sucking up to people and pretending to be something I'm not because I think it will get me a shag! "
I was just saying how it came across to me that's all. Your profile as it is now is much better. |
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