 |
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
Watching a Louis theroux documentary about the adult industry and there was an interesting discussion on consent.
If you are out at a club or arrange a meet with someone new do you have a detailed discussion about what's on offer?
For example do you agree to have sex or do you go into detail as to what type of sex? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *batMan
over a year ago
Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales) |
It was an interesting episode wasn't it?
As far as I'm concerned, consent can be withdrawn at ANY time, before or during an encounter, but I'm not sure about the ethics of changing your mind on a porn shoot and still getting paid.
Of course, change your mind, but surely the contract would be out of the window then?
On the other hand, we need to protect people and don't want to get into victim blaming, so threatening to withdraw funding is probably one of the tactics used by unscrupulous directors who try to change the goalposts.
Conundrum or what??
Gbat |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
It was interesting but guess was more curious what level of discussion people go into in swinging and what happens if people get caught up in the moment and stray slightly |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
We would say nothing is guaranteed as in person vibes can be very different to those you get online.
We would always set out what type of play we are looking for and that it would be straight only with guys. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *batMan
over a year ago
Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales) |
Yes, sorry, I didn't actually answer your question, did I?
When I've been to a club it's usually been a discussion about what people are into and take it from there. But I've paid very special attention to body language and what's being said as things are moving along.
Gbat |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I only play bareback which I know many don't like, so I make sure that it is in my profile and I reiterate it in messages prior to any meet, I also discuss positions I do & don't enjoy, kinks I have etc
That's not to say sex is guaranteed, as others have said consent can be refused at any time including once started you're entitled to say stop as with many things it's continuous conversation |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I don't meet very often and usually by the time we get around to meeting we've discussed mutual interests but consent is never assumed.
I've told the story of my first fab meet before when in my naivety I found myself in an hotel room with a woman who made assumptions about me and who crossed boundaries we had never discussed because I could never have imagined them ever being crossed.
She punched me in the face in the vain hope that I would retaliate. When I didn't and attempted to leave in disgust she apologised and begged me to stay.
An hour later she drove her knee into my groin and I got dressed and left.
She was much more experienced than me but at no stage had she ever brought up her kink during the 2 social meets before getting to that room. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
