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Struggling to find a regular bull
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So we’ve been on fab for over 2 years we’ve found a lovely female to play with its working well, hubby can see her separately or we can all play together
But we are struggling to find a male bull , someone we can socialize with and play with when I’m wanting a mmf or single date .
We’ve had a few mmf play date in the hope it more regular but the men are just not interested in the whole package , they just want the blowjob /sex .
Not sure what I’m /we are doing wrong .
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By *rad670Man
over a year ago
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Maybe I'm in a minority but I would personally prefer that very kind of arrangement instead of one off hot wife experiences, my preference is couples, I'm probably not alone in getting the runaround from singles, I'm shocked you have not found what you want in all your time on here. |
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"Maybe I'm in a minority but I would personally prefer that very kind of arrangement instead of one off hot wife experiences, my preference is couples, I'm probably not alone in getting the runaround from singles, I'm shocked you have not found what you want in all your time on here."
You would think so . We found a unicorn easier ??
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over a year ago
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over 28 years of swinging we know 6 guys we can call regular 4 of them regular ish ...its very hard to find those right people many men like the idea of regular but rarely keep to it or you find a regular and he becomes a jealous mess by becoming clingy (lots of these) very hard to get that match that balance .... all our regulars have come via very early days dogging or clubs ...we have yet to find one via fab and we've been on here right from the start
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"over 28 years of swinging we know 6 guys we can call regular 4 of them regular ish ...its very hard to find those right people many men like the idea of regular but rarely keep to it or you find a regular and he becomes a jealous mess by becoming clingy (lots of these) very hard to get that match that balance .... all our regulars have come via very early days dogging or clubs ...we have yet to find one via fab and we've been on here right from the start
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O wow thanks for your reply
Not a lot of hope then lol
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over a year ago
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People are right on this. People do become very clingy or jealous unfortunately, suppose its just human nature if you build up a longer term relationship.
I've had two very regular couples before moving south who I met weekly. We were great friends for years during, and have remained friends following my relocation.
I know they've met a couple of other guys since and have had the same issues you're having.
I suppose it all comes down to the person, where the line is drawn (being great friends and having a mutual affection), but that always being the boundary line.
I hope you all find what you're looking for though, it can't be easy.
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over a year ago
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biggest problem hands down is guys will tell you anything to get a fuck so they will tell you that they are also looking for regular then once met for fun they will make every excuse ...
the next problem ...guys will say they want you as a regular only to keep you as a back-up if nothing else happens again this happens alot real genuine guys that match what you want as well as attractions that dont bullshit just to get a fuck are extremely rare ..
then you get all the oh but us good guys dont get a look in excuse's well theres a reason for that there no attraction in the first place you xan tick every box you want but no attraction ther no hope ... |
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"biggest problem hands down is guys will tell you anything to get a fuck so they will tell you that they are also looking for regular then once met for fun they will make every excuse ...
the next problem ...guys will say they want you as a regular only to keep you as a back-up if nothing else happens again this happens alot real genuine guys that match what you want as well as attractions that dont bullshit just to get a fuck are extremely rare ..
then you get all the oh but us good guys dont get a look in excuse's well theres a reason for that there no attraction in the first place you xan tick every box you want but no attraction ther no hope ... "
That’s exactly what we’ve had , wish they would be honest from the being .
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By *lex D.Man
over a year ago
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"So we’ve been on fab for over 2 years we’ve found a lovely female to play with its working well, hubby can see her separately or we can all play together
But we are struggling to find a male bull , someone we can socialize with and play with when I’m wanting a mmf or single date .
We’ve had a few mmf play date in the hope it more regular but the men are just not interested in the whole package , they just want the blowjob /sex .
Not sure what I’m /we are doing wrong .
Hotwife "
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Cuck meets are so very much better when everyone is totally comfortable with each other.
I can well understand the OP's frustration when they cannot find a regular man to play with. I also think this leads to couples being very cautious about who they meet so the pool of men from whom they can chose the right guy is limited.
All I can suggest is to keep trying out guys and when you find THE guy hang on to him tight. You will benefit from the relaxed familiarity. |
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We thought we’d found one… but he turned out a little clingy. He decided to become part of the “relationship”, so we had let him go.
We made it clear from the beginning, but as someone mentioned previously, some will say anything to “get in” and then act the opposite.
Kind of like lying at a job interview heh |
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In my experience it just takes time to find a couple who you can meet regularly.
I have one or two couples that I see reasonably regularly and a couple of others that I see on a more ad hoc basis. Nothing is ever planned but they know that I am usually free with a bit of notice (life etc!) and that I am genuine/will turn up if we plan something. We get on well and I think that is all that can be asked of both sides. |
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guys from your point of view it should be hard and for most very hard this is down to one thing and thats the sheer number of you ...
you would think from a womans or couples point of view it would be extremely easy but its not for starters most men on fab dont even reconize its a swimgers site let alone sub cats like cuckold and hotwife by the time you remove all the porn obsessed men then your left with very few then feed in preference and attraction even less thats before any chatting and small talk that for most breaks down due to not being on the same page ....
guys think because they tick the same box or like the same things its ok thats all that matters they dont care about attraction and getting on then theres those guys who think its as simple as just being free at the same time ..it really has become a joke that gets worse week after week..
everyday more men pour in everyday more couples and women leave ...can we see where this is going ???
and yes there are gems of guys on here who understand and get meets but they are rare nowdays |
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"So we’ve been on fab for over 2 years we’ve found a lovely female to play with its working well, hubby can see her separately or we can all play together
But we are struggling to find a male bull , someone we can socialize with and play with when I’m wanting a mmf or single date .
We’ve had a few mmf play date in the hope it more regular but the men are just not interested in the whole package , they just want the blowjob /sex .
Not sure what I’m /we are doing wrong .
Hotwife "
I’m very interested I’m sure we could work something out PM me |
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"So we’ve been on fab for over 2 years we’ve found a lovely female to play with its working well, hubby can see her separately or we can all play together
But we are struggling to find a male bull , someone we can socialize with and play with when I’m wanting a mmf or single date .
We’ve had a few mmf play date in the hope it more regular but the men are just not interested in the whole package , they just want the blowjob /sex .
Not sure what I’m /we are doing wrong .
Hotwife "
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For some reason I’ve had a few D M from men regarding help with a cuckold
I’m not sure where they have got that idea from ,
Im looking for a bull to fulfill some fantasy’s I have ie mmf play and hotdate play .
Just would rather have someone we can see regularly than just a random hook up .
Hotwife x.
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"I've been to clubs and a lot of men don't understand the dynamics of swinging, but a lot do so I'm sure you will all find the right one eventually. "
You’re right there , sadly the ones that do understand are very few , plus the rules are not hard to follow either
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"Try an app called Feeld , it’s been fairly successful- though it doesn’t seem to get too much traffic, and we’re in London, so other areas of country may struggle, but worth a go. "
Thank you I will take a look .
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We have been trying to find mature couples for years with virtually no success.
In our regular club we dont seem to have a problem involving single guys but mature couples(55+) are rarer than rocking horse poo.
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