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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's more or an issue for lone women on here probably but a valid concern for men too. There are a few things you can do to try to protect yourself, meet on neutral ground, meet those with meet verifications, tell a trusted friend where you are and who you're with, text them periodically so they know you're safe.
Going to clubs is another safer bet. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's more or an issue for lone women on here probably but a valid concern for men too. There are a few things you can do to try to protect yourself, meet on neutral ground, meet those with meet verifications, tell a trusted friend where you are and who you're with, text them periodically so they know you're safe.
Going to clubs is another safer bet. Xx"
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I never get the feeling like I'm going to be murdered as I always meet in a public place, a very close friend knows where I am and who I am meeting.
I do always get butterflies, whether it be the first meet or the tenth x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Build trust prior, I get an anxious feeling in advance but its almost exciting. Alot of good meets on here which are spoilt by a few. Most men are absolute gents but I appreciate the risk and feeling |
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Had our first meet on Friday! I was absolutely shockingly nervous - like shaking hands and legs, couldn’t eat for 2 days before kinda vibes. Luckily, as soon as I got the guts to go down to the bar and meet the guy, I was ok! Helped that he was so nice and chilled. Had my husband with me so didn’t think I was going to end up dead lols! x |
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Not that bad for me, but always a bit nervous as I'm quite introverted so meeting new people is always uncomfortable.
Luckily everyone I met through fab has been great - didn't always lead to sex but was always fun. |
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Butterflies describes it nicely. I always feel very nervous before actually meeting but usually it goes away once the action starts. Meeting for a social beforehand helps a lot.
I have only had one really bad meet and that was on a different site ages ago, so thanks, Fab, for all the nice people I've met here. |
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I alway get nerve but once we all settle into a convo it’s fine
Half the issue is , will they turn up , are they like there profile says , will they like me / us depending if we are meeting another couple or a single male /female
Then it’s the wait to see if they want to have a play date or ghost you .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It feels easy for us because we’re a couple seeking single guys.
We have each others backs and we can support each other.
We do go out of our way to put whom we’re meeting at ease though and we thing we’re quite good at that.
It’s also understood that the first meet is a pure social so everyone can relax. |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
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"Hi all. Wondered how everyone feels on a first meet with someone. Is it just me that has a little feeling that I could be murdered? "
Much more likely to be stood up or sent to a fictitious address.
(Bry)
PS ..we've had guys visit us and we've not murdered a single one. |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
Meet in a public place,to help build up your confidence.then take further steps only when you feel comfortable.
Breath retching lust in an intense session can also feel like a murderous scene the adrenaline is unreal
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Any female around Derry want to give me first fun meet a virgin at it brake me in, message me "
No post jumping pal it's rude and forbidden the option to make a post on the forum is available  |
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By *S2004Man
over a year ago
Bromsgrove |
On a first meet
Always message the other half with the address that I am meeting at, profile details etc.
If a home address I always park a little out of the way and don’t take valuables etc with me
Might sound overly cautious but I have heard some horror stories |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You probably aren't the only one though I (owl) just don't have any anxiety about it. I take precautions as I feel folks should to protect themselves and so far I'm still alive as are most of the first time meets I've had. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi all. Wondered how everyone feels on a first meet with someone. Is it just me that has a little feeling that I could be murdered? "
I literally always think that . Helps to stick to verified people. And I’m pretty sure most just want a shag and leave rather than trying to get rid of my dead body |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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First ever meet was a bi couple. I was really nervous, but they were so nice and went out of the way to put me at ease. We all ended having a fantastic time. Now if i ever meet, especially a single lady, it's always somewhere public, just to put her at ease. |
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My first ever meet I was about 22. Arranged to meet in a hotel bar but I couldn't go through with it. Sat in car outside and eventually pulled myself together.
As I walked in a couple walked out face of fizz and clearly not happy. I was sure it was them and the hubby was texting me names for wasting their time.
Lol.... it was the nerves!
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Strangely I do t mind the first date/meet.
There is no pressure and it’s in public.
So I enjoy love to give a warm welcome to whom we are meeting.
We have been stood up more times than I can count. Yet I pride myself to attend any meet I commit too.
You just Never know. They could turn out to be the best you have meet. (Repeat fun dates)
end up being true friends.
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By *inx.x3Woman
over a year ago
Bath |
I get nervous incase they don’t like me but never thought I’d be Murdered…
I always drop my live location to a friend via what’s app for a few hours, just incase though.
Specially as I will sometimes do a first meet at theirs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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First time I met it was a social in a pub and we took it from there
On another occasion I met a lady at her house after lots of chatting and speaking with her hubby
After that I’ve been a lot more adventurous- but always make sure I know how to retreat if it doesn’t work out - only happened once.
For single women I can only think that it must be a lot more difficult and risky as so many pushy guys out there
Take care ladies and do your research well x |
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On our very first meet we were both absolutely bricking it. Couldnt eat dinner. Shaking like shittin dogs. But five minutes in, nerves gone and feeling really hungry! On that occasion the thought of being murdered wasn’t one we had considered.
However, since then, sometimes my wife will ask “ what if they are axe murderers?” Now, we only meet groups of gents so my reply is always “ what, all of em? “ how unlucky would we be to arrange a meet with 4 or 5 axe wielding swingers, all at the same time?”
Mind you, this is a woman who was terrified going to London for a meal because “everyone gets stabbed in London”. The irony was that as we sat in a curry house in brick lane, someone was stabbed right outside! |
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"Hi all. Wondered how everyone feels on a first meet with someone. Is it just me that has a little feeling that I could be murdered? "
Well homicide in men has increased and women decreased, im sure there's some forumla that can work out your odds, some clever dick on here will chim in with it i hope. Given shear number of people that have been a members, number of years fab.com being going surely statistically theres bèen a few? women are more often killed by someone they know whereas in men more likely an acquaintance or stranger or fab.com late night unexpected meet, at hers, why plastic sheets over the furniture!! Good news though single straight guys least likely group on here to get clipped.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Been on and off here for years now I only meet verified people and those people who have verified them also needs to have verifications. Unfortunately lots of users complain about this, “how can I get a verification if nobody will meet me because I’m not verified “. That’s not my problem, I’m here for me and my rules. I also let a lady who I know on here the address I’m going to. |
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"Been on and off here for years now I only meet verified people and those people who have verified them also needs to have verifications. Unfortunately lots of users complain about this, “how can I get a verification if nobody will meet me because I’m not verified “. That’s not my problem, I’m here for me and my rules. I also let a lady who I know on here the address I’m going to. "
When it comes to sex we will asses risk and come up with endless safeguards so we go through with it. All these safeguards, only meèt people with verifications, letting people know where your going, regular text check ups etc will only come to your aid if your held hostage and/or being tortured long enough for anyone to come to where you are. Your dead but due to safeguards your date will be nicked at some point. Im amazed I'm still alive to be honest |
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